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Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?
Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
I'm a diehard SF Giants fan and also enjoy watching the Sharks and Niners. Addicted to music, especially The Gaslight Anthem. Oh, and my name is Krista. :)

advice

which one do you like better?
clinique happy
or
clinique happy heart

I like Happy better. You have to be careful with them though, they can be very overpowering.

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does sloming ( sticking leeches on myself) actually exist? like do any of youu know people who do it or did they make it up for the commerical?

thankssssssss

No, it's used only in the commercial sarcastically. Kind of saying "What's next?" as well as being a warning and parodying today's culture.

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I was wondering if it's a good idea to use movies as examples in the essay, as long as it fits the prompt you're writing about? Or should we stay away from movies and just stick with literary, historical, and personal experiences?

It depends on your teacher. If your teacher is a hard grader and very serious, stay away from it in general.

If it's a serious, appropriate, non-comedic movie that truly fits the themes of your essay, go for it.

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hi thanks for answering but i have a question is my poem deep? if not how do i make it deep? thank you

Your poem is somewhat deep. If a stranger read it, it probably wouldn't emotionally affect them unless they'd had a similar experience recently, however if your friend read it it might affect her.

There's no one way to make poems deeper. Try going more into detail on your reponse: "My throat tightened and tears stung my eyes", or using a more dramatic way of saying things: "She turned around" vs. "She threw her final glance over her shoulder, the last time I'd see her ever." You could also try exploring deeper themes such as why humans have such a negative reaction to change, or just make your poem more generalized about humanity as a whole.

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i dont understand whats so wrong about illegal immigrants. i mean like mexico is right next to us.. and maybe people living in bad conditions move to america but cant afford to get like amnesty. like i watched the news and the people get so mad about it. like they said that americans should get jobs before the illegals and stuff like that. well escuse me but they are people too, and lets not forget that americans one stole the land from the indians. what about that? if you said that those super governmenty people would probably laugh in your face but its true. they dont "own" america. sure they are our government but i think its really unfair how they're so against illegals when its not that easy to get amnesty and stuff. like in different countries, i heard like a long time ago people would move from like some bad place in asia to a better place but they'd get in trouble or something when they did that. what happened to america being the land of the free? i mean i understand that they are trying to not get more terrorists.. but i think they went too far when they made that wall thing. what do you think?

and Cuba like you need permission before going there cause america doesnt like communists? what the hell? why doesnt america love communists. scratch that, why doesnt the government like communists? in china they are communists. how come you dont need "permission to go to China"? like these people on the news were shooting a movie around cuba and didnt get permission before going there and after they went people say they'll get in trouble and stuff when they didnt even know that they needed permission. if they get in trouble that would be really crazy.

and lastly, what do you think about the new paris hilton thing? i saw on tv that jail really helped her be a better person as she says. and shes gonna do all this stuff to help people in need of help, and she appreciates all she has and stuff like that. do you think it will last once shes out? just an opinion.

13/f
thanks for answering! =]]

EDIT:
First of all, it's rude to leave such long feedback, it screws up my column. Next time, please leave it in my inbox. It's not fair to rate me down since you only asked for opinion.

You don't want to research, fine, but you have no business forming opinions without knowing about the issues. I'm not saying you have to know everything. But if you want to talk about Cuba, know why we have problems with them. Even glancing at wikipedia might help. MyHappyShoes said almost the same thing as I did, in a ruder way, and still got a 5. If ratings meant anything to me I'd file an abuse report.

I'm sorry you don't understand. I'll try to summarize.

- ILLEGAL IMMIGRANTS- Way too many of them. Quite literally millions. Not included in national census (population count), which isn't good for government programs. Don't pay taxes. Taxes are the main way that the US gets money for school programs, programs to help the poor, etc. Not all government is against illegal immigration but it's not good for the economy. I still don't know what you mean by "That wall". If you mean the wall that is on the border between Mexico and the US, that's been there a really long time. Finally, key word: ILLEGAL. Breaking the laws of the United states.
- CUBA doesn't want to let Americans in because of some problems our government had in the past. There is actually no country that is truly communist, it's never happened. China is not communist. The people who were shooting the movie should have just applied for permission.



Illegal immigrants don't pay taxes. Taxes are the main way that the government gets money to pay for programs such as food stamps and school music programs. If they really want to be considered people they should apply for citizenship. The NATIVE AMERICANS (not Indians!) have nothing nto do with anything. Your argument is faulty and illogical. Not every person in the government is against illegals, don't generalize. There are quite literally millions of illegals not paying taxes, living here illegally without even bothering to apply for citizenship. I have absolutely no idea what you mean by "that wall thing". If you're referring to the wall at the Mexican border, that's been there for a very long time, before 9/11. Illegals and terrorists are seperate issues. Illegals take jobs for under minimum wage, which isn't good for the economy and evade taxes.

You obviously don't fully understand the issue with Cuba. The Cuban government doesn't want to let Americans in because of some conflicts in the past. Please research things before you go around making blind statements. The United States has a long history of being against communism because we are a capitalist country. Communism is the opposite of capitalism and if the world was communist it would not be good for the US. And, actually, no, China isn't communist. No country truly is communist, but China is very, very far from being communist. If you watched or read the news you'd known that.

Nothing in the world can help Paris Hilton. She's a spoiled brat and is just trying to use jail as good publicity. 23 days, boo-hoo. Normal people can get a life sentence for drunk driving. She's not going to change. She might pretend to for a while but people simply don't change that much.

It seems to me that you are opinionated with no real proof or research. Don't be so quick to form opinions. Research things. You really need to read the news, even if it's just online, because you don't really seem like you know what you're talking about.

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Sorry if this is in the wronge category

But anyways when ever I floss my teeth hurt really bad afterwards.. and they bleed almost like non-stop and I am really protective of my teeth... and the dentist tell's me to floss.. but I tend not to my teeth kill me after I do? is this normal? does everyones bleed? please help!

That used to happen to me, you just need to floss more and it will stop hurting. Try rinsing out your mouth with cold water afterwards to numb it and rinse out the blood.

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please someone whos good at poems correct this poem? im really bad at writing poems but what do you think about this poem please be honest sorry i messed up a lot i was just trying to make it rhyme and stuff.( i know u dont have to make it rhyme but i did =P)and can someone give me an idea for a title? thank you

EX:This poem is about my good close friend moved yesterday...=/ im really sad so i wrote this i need your honest opinion and i want you to correct it thank you so much =]



You told me your moving miles away
I couldn’t say anything, left me speechless Didn’t want to get hurt, so I tried to drift away
I was scared, it was like me trapped in the darkness
She began to notice, and asked me why I’ve been ignoring her
I knew I was avoiding her but I denied and said her “I’m not “
I tried to act so cold like I didn’t care, and avoided her like she was a stranger
But the pain is getting stronger each day and its hurting me like I was shot

Time passes by, it seems like we don’t really talk anymore
But I thought about the good and bad times we had
Like we always talk to each other and talked about deep thoughts…before
But now we don’t, what happened?It was my fault for distancing myself from you I felt bad

So I wrote her a goodbye letter, and gave it her with my teary eyes
Trying not to be sad and pretending I’m okay
Tomorrow is her last day, and my mind was fulled with goodbyes
I couldn’t sleep, my heart was being so fast like I was being chased by a lion in railway


Last time I’m gonna see her, I told myself not to cry and say bye
When the bell rang, my heart was already pounding I couldn’t take it
My teardrops starting to come out and I began to cry
More than I thought, she tried to cheer up but she couldn’t so she quit

She left me behind, I was blaming myself for everything
I didn’t want to cry she turned back one last time
I regret everything I did and I’m still crying
It was like a rain, teardrops wont stop falling in school time
I found myself thinking….
One day, I’ll see my friend again and be happy again someday, sometime…

Your poem is a very honest attempt, but there's a lot of mistakes.
Mostly grammar, clashing tenses and use of "her" and "you" in the same phrase.
Also a bit repetitive.

I tried my best to correct it but I'm warning you it's very different than your version


Corrected Version
You told me you're moving miles away
Left me speechless with nothing to say
Didn’t want to get hurt, so I tried to drift away
I was trapped in the darkness as
You wondered why I was ignoring you
I denied it even as I knew I was
Acting so cold
Acting like I didn't care
Treating you like a stranger on the street
But the pain is getting stronger each day
And it's hurting me like I was shot

Time passes by
We don't talk anymore
But I think about the good and bad times we had
Before, we'd share our deepest thoughts
I can't ask what happened
Knowing it was my fault
For distancing myself when we should have been closer

So I wrote you a goodbye letter
Gave it to you with my teared-up eyes
Trying so hard to pretend I'm okay...
Tomorrow's your last day
And my head's swimming in goodbyes
Insomnia, my heart beating so fast
Something was chasing me further away


Now it's the last time
Telling myself not to cry
My heart pounding as the bell rang
I couldn't take it
Teardrops leaking, I started to cry
A futile attempt to cheer me up failed
Because we both knew nothing would help

You left me behind and I blamed myself for everything
Not wanting to cry until your last glance
The tears started then and they haven't stopped
I regret so much and I'm still crying
Tears' waterfall won't stop falling
In school time, in day time, in night time, for all time
But somehow I found myself thinking...
Someday, I'll see you and be happy again

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hi. i would like to ask. How to ask a gal to a prom? i am kinda bad in asking. I am looking a proper way to ask. I have a gal that i wish to ask. But for the past months. I been asking her out, but she is too busy, and she said i can keep trying to ask her and she can reject.haha. I am really interested in asking her out. We never went out before. But we chat quite a lot. Sometimes on the phone. Sometimes msn. Now i have the chance that there is a prom coming. I would like to seek advice. She is age 16 this year. While i am 19 at college. She is pretty, mature gal (tough job). So i am requesting for your help. Thanks

Honestly, it sounds to me like she doesn't like you and is making excuses. A lot of the time girls will say things like "I'm too busy" instead of flat out saying "I don't want to go out with you". She might consider the age difference to be a problem as well.
Also, since I'm assuming it's her prom, she probably should be the one to ask you.

But if you still want to...
Just wait til you guys are talking and somewhat alone and say "Will you go to prom with me?" She sounds kinda no-frills, so this approach will probably work better.

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here are these to really great girls im trying to find out which one i should date, i cant choose!
i need help sooo bad

okayy #1 is Jessica she is very nice, very outgoing, pretty, loves to cook, loves to paint and express herself. I reallly reallly like her a lot.
here is a pic of #1

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=5zm2kgl



#2 this is Haley, she is nice, kind of outgoing, patient, loves to flirt, and loves to kiss, and hug, and very demanding girl. i like her a lot too.
heres a pic of #2

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=5xhrxuw

which one? i dont know, im having a SUPER hard time

thanks!!

Honestly, if you don't have a preference, don't date them.

But Jessica sounds better. "Demanding" is a very bad thing.

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Buy U A Drank
Makes Me Wonder-Maroon 5
The Way I live
Thanks for the Memories-Fall out boy
What Ive Done- Linkin Park

I like all kinds of music. which one should i choose? and also please give me more ideas too :D

I'd get Makes Me Wonder.

Other ideas:
Summer Love- Justin Timberlake
Bartender- T-Pain
Beautiful Girls- Sean Kingston
Umbrella- Rihanna
Girlfriend remix- Avril Lavigne and little momma
Lipgloss- Little Mama
The Way I Are- Timbaland
Release- Timbaland feat. Justin Timberlake

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I have a small bedroom. Does anyone have any
tips on how I can make it look bigger?

- Painting it a light color

- Having mirrors on the walls (if you have a closet with sliding doors, mirrored doors really do make a huge difference)

- Smaller furniture- no huge desks or beds

- Bright lighting, having the blinds up during the day

- Nothing dark or huge

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In the united states what are the real things that colleges look for i hear so many different stories..

do they look at your final exams?? regents grades?? final grades?? every single test score ?? what is it because im really curious

- Your overall GPA
- GPA for sophomore and junior year
- SAT scores
- Activities you were involved in- clubs, sports, etc.
- Well-rounded person with good grades

They also look for someone who does well on the interview and writes a strong essay.

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what are some good excuses to say i dont want a boyfriend
cuz i like this guy and he asked me out two weeks ago, and i said ask me later, but now he did again this morning.
so what are some nice ways to say no? because i like this guy a LOT, i just really, truly dont want a boyfriend
kaaayyy thanks!

"I don't like you that way, I think we're better as friends"

"I really don't want a boyfriend right now, it's nothing personal"

"I don't have time for a boyfriend right now."

or old reliable:
"I don't want to ruin our friendship"

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right now i have a 4.0 megapixel huge ugly digital camera with the smallest screen EVER. obviously, i really want a new one. i like taking pictures, and i'm looking for one with certain feautres like-
- 7.0 megapixels or up
- different modes such as outside,etc.
- video option with zoom (it's ok if there isn't zoom)
- my friend has a canon powershot, and it has a cool mode where you can swap colors, idk if canon's are the only ones that have that but i really like that feature.
- basically that's it, i mean i keep hearing all these things about how they find the face ya know like the one with your dad isnt a horses butt or something lol but yeah that would also be nice.

i'm really just looking for an upgrade to my old camera, i want a big screen with lots of features, that takes great pictures with different modes. i'm into photography but my current camera sort of prevents me from taking good pictures. also, i don't want a big bulky one. i want a nice shiny small one haha. and under like $300 if that's possible. so if anyone has any ideas, or has a camera that has all or almost all of these features just tell me because i'm getting so sick of my camera!! thank youu

I had the Canon PowerShot for a while, and I liked it, but it was kinda bulky.

Right now I have the Sony CyberShot and I love it!

http://www.bestbuy.com/site/olspage.jsp?skuId=999973200050004&type=product&productCategoryId=pcmcat99100050022&id=pcmprd73100050004

7.2 megapixels, zoom, a large screen considering how small it is, face-detection, autofocus, shoots videos. It doesn't have shutter lag either- it takes pictures quickly.

You can also, using a cord that comes with it, play your pictures and videos on your TV. The software it comes with to upload your pictures to your computer is great and really easy to use.

It also comes with rechargeable batteries and a charger. They charge very quickly and save you the time and expense of constantly buying batteries.

This camera is small and easy to take places, I've had no problems with it. I recommend buying an extra memory card as well.

They also sell a lot of really cute cases for it.

Walmart and Best Buy have it, I recommend Best Buy because you can get help from someone who knows what they're doing and they sell a package with a case and accessories for cheaper than Walmart's price.

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I am going to a really fancy wedding soon. and i need to get a dress for it. It needs to be at least knee length and not as fancy as a prom dress or anything but still pretty close. does anyone know any stores that i might be able to fine in a mall that sells dresses like this. websites or photos would be great. budget is about $100. thanks!

- Macy's has tons of dresses.

- If you have a Blossom store, they also have a lot of really cute dresses.

- Forever 21 and Wet Seal also have a lot of really cute dresses right now.

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are negative calories real? or are they simply a myth?

The first answer is right. It's a bad thing, though, because calories are units of energy. Without them you'd be really tired, etc.

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I have a REALLY important ballet thing coming up THIS MONDAY- and I recently gained 7 pounds, but 2 of them I just gained yesterday. I'm PMSing right now, but I need a way to lose these pounds (or at least 2-5 of them) by monday. Today I'm trying to not eat anything, but It's REALLY hard because i'm starving! If I succeed, how many pounds should that take off? (i weigh myself first thing in the morning)

How much green tea do you have to drink to effectively boost your metabolism? The brand I have is called "legends of china" if that helps.



any advice appreciated.

Don't stop eating, because you'll just get bloated and look bigger.

Eat five small (i do mean small) meals a day. Ex. bowl of cereal with fruit- almonds- turkey sandwich- yogurt- chicken breast. This will keep you full.

Drink tons of water (but not more than a gallon, that can dilute your blood and cause major heart problem).

Exercise as much as possible.

I haven't heard great things about green tea- research it before you start using it.

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Hey. Well, just simply-would you all rather buy a Coach bag or a Marc Jacobs bag?

Here's a Marc Jacobs bag I'm comsidering. What do you think of it?

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2939291/0~2376779~2374605~6007363~6007366~6007371?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6007371&P=1

Thanks

Coach is really versatile, but EVERYONE has them, they're kind of going out.

I don't like the bag you linked to, it looks cheap.

So I'd go out with UNIQUE coach bag.

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ok i want to re-do this question.. if thats ok with you.

I'm currently using Fructis sleek and shine shampoo and conditioner and I don't know why but I don't want to use it anymore. I want a change. Before, I asked you what brands you think are best. Well after reading some of the answers, i did research and changed my minds on some of them.

Pantene IS bad for your hair because they put chemicals in there, and after you use it awhile, your hair starts to turn bad.

Suave is NOT good because it dries out your hair and is cheap

Herbal Essences- Doesn't really do much except make your hair smell nice.


sooo that leaves me hanging by Dove and Sunsilk.

I NEED HELP! if you think that any of the information i've given is wrong, then please explain to me! I don't know why i've become so interested in shampoos but I really want to know what brand is healthy for you and what brands are not.

Any other brands that you want to tell me about that you think work great.

All i'm looking for is something that can make my hair less frizzy, smooth, shiney, soft and great smell.

my hair is straight but sometimes it can be a little wavy, it's allways frizzy.

John Frieda's color lines for brunettes, blonde, and redheads are great.

I think I already told you, but Bath and Body Works is great too.

If it's just down to the brands you've tried, I recommend sunsilk.

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does anyone know of good sites to learn how to drum? (for drummers)

Try searching Youtube, they have tons of instructional videos.

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