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Last Update:August 15, 2014
aboutI'm a psych major at a community college, getting my degree before I attend the Make Up Designory school. Makeup is my passion and my biggest inspiration is Kandee Johnson. I'm also addicted to music and kind of in love with Brian Fallon of The Gaslight Anthem :)
So in one of my classes I sit by a girl who's very quiet. She never starts conversations, and other people know her as a mute.
I always start the conversations even when we're told to work in our pairs. So today I tested her just to see if she would actually initiate conversation instead of me. She didn't.
I'm shy myself, but I overcome this to get on with people. I mean she doesn't even TRY-including never answering class and having no friends in the class despite my best efforts to befriend her.
What should I do to get her to talk?!
I'm not sure why you haven't considered that she just doesn't want to talk, and that's ok. Not everybody wants to be social, some people are at school to actually learn. You are assuming that she must want you as a friend, but maybe she is happy the way she is. I would just leave her alone.
13/F (Sorry this is long, but if you answer this then you'll save my life!)
Alright.. So for about 7 months, I've been feeling weird. I've looked up more about it, and it seems it's called "Depersonalization Disorder"... I really am not sure what to do now. My mom has known about it, but I just realized that she thought it went away 4 months ago - And I'VE BEEN FEELING THIS WAY SINCE JUNE 2012!
I feel like I'm not all there. Like.. I'd be doring something, and once I think about this whole thing then this happens again.
I realized that I can't live my life like this anymore. I need help. I don't really want to see a doctor or get medication, but if I have to... What medication what I need and what not? Omg please help me. If you answer you will save my life!
Depersonalization disorder is extremely rare. It is far more likely that you have a form of depression, which can make you feel the same way.
Trying to diagnose yourself the age of thirteen is not a good idea. Go see a counselor or therapist that will be able to help you far more than anyone on an advice website.
My family is in a tough situation.
My mom has been drinking since I was in 8th grade. It was never this bad though. Before, she would always drink and get drunk but it'd only last a few weeks until my dad made her throw it out.
Then eventually she'll start hiding it.
But now, she is drunk all day and all night for about 5 months. I left for college in another state though.
As of right now, she's been living with this other man, cheating on my dad. She's there because that guy will give her all the alcohol she wants. My dad is mad of course, but they've been married for 20 years and he loves her and cares about her and wants to help her. She's a really good lady but it's the drinking that screwed her up.
Whenever she's here, she lies all the time and just picks fights with my dad. She is still living in the past, bringing up things that happened along time ago but is no longer a problem.
Even my aunt came over and my mom was bringing up things when they were kids that bothered her.
So there are many things she has been holding onto.
My younger brother, he's 16, he's in juvi right now for running away, stealing a car, drunk driving, hit and run. She blames him for her drinking. But when things were ok with him, she was still doing it.
So obviously, if she wanted to get help, she would but she doesn't want it. She told us she knows she has a problem but she can fix it herself.
She was looking up videos to stop but she said she doesn't have enough will power.
I'm not going back to college this semester so that I can stay with my dad.
He's planning on moving so that my mom can get away from this guy because right now, that's the only way she can drink and so my brother can get away from the drugs and his friends here. But right now, we're looking to help her.
We've tried an intervention type thing but that didn't work. Some other family members have talked to her too.
She won't go to rehab and she used to go to some AA meetings but that didn't work.
I know she has to want it but there has to be something else we can do.
I can't just be patient because it's been going on for too long. She needs help or she can die.
Someone told me about hypnosis. That would cost about 1,200 if it works. We would just have to convince her to go.
My dad found some CDs online and saw good reviews.
The thing is, she needs real help and me and my dad don't know what can work.
If you know anyone who has been like this and know what helped them please let me know.
I know other people who were alcoholics but they were never this bad. No one I know has ever been in a situation like this.
Thanks for the help!
Here's the thing. You can't help her if she won't help herself. She has to want to stop or all your efforts will be for nothing.
Moving will not help, you cannot hide her from alcohol forever. (and same with your brother, he will just find new friends and continue to use drugs unless he wants to change.) Remember that she has a disease that has changed her brain chemistry.
Don't waste your money on the hypnosis, that kind of treatment mainly works by using the placebo effect- if your mom doesn't think it's going to work it probably won't.
I know it's incredibly hard, but you cannot live her life and make her choices for her.
What can you do? You can tell her how you feel (whether in person or in a letter)- remind her that you love her and are worried and don't want to lose her.
You can do research- there's lots of books, etc out there on treat for alcoholism. There are also lots of books to help family members of alcoholics. I highly suggest checking that out.
One of my favorite authors was an alcoholic for about twenty years and nearly drank himself to death. Here is a long quote from one of his books, 'This Is How':
"What has worked for me is to find something I wanted more than I wanted to drink, which was a f*ck of a lot.
This is less a decision than a discovery. And it's for this reason that not everybody will get sober.
My view that the way to stop drinking is to stop drinking is laughably simplistic on the surface. It's "Just say no."
It's also true. The way to stop drinking is to want sobriety more. And then when you feel a craving, feel the craving until it passes. But don't act on it- any more than you wouldn't kill somebody you feel like killing when they cut you off in traffic.
Just because you want something doesn't mean you have to have it.
...To stop drinking, you stop drinking. You pour it out right now. Everything else- all the books, the therapies, and programs- are merely hand-holding. They all strike to accomplish the same thing: to talk you into not drinking.
I'm saying, if you want to stop, you will. But most do not want to stop enough to actually stop. And until there's a medical fix, alcoholics will die as drunks.
But be successful at not drinking, a person needs to occupy the space in life drinking once filled with something more rewarding than the comfort and escape of alcohol. This is the thing you have to find.
The truth is that people who cannot stop drinking are people who, however guilty they may feel and however dire the consequences, have become so addicted to the drug and the experience that they prefer it to the remainder of their lives. While they may truly want to be sober, they want to drink more.
The myth that alcoholics are powerless and unable in any way to shape the outcome of their addiction is a fatal, deeply untruthful message. No alcoholic should ever feel powerless over alcohol.
Those who die were not powerless. They either chose alcohol or they slid passively into the inevitable outcome of drinking; they made a decision by choosing to take no new action. And it's this choice that results in death.
...You absolutely can stop drinking today, right now.
The question is only, do you want to be sober more than you want to drink?
Very few people can answer this question truthfully and reply, yes.
I hope you're one of them. Maybe you are.
I didn't think I was."
I have employed two live-in combined nanny girls/housemaid girls/domestic worker girls (who do a lot of worktasks, taking care of our 6 years old daughter, cleaning, cooking, dishwashing/washing, serving and such stuff). For ordinary days, they can wear whatever they want, but special events (like weekends, holidays, parties and such if they're on duty then, I make sure to always have at least one girl on duty every day), I require them to wear a white blouse with a black skirt with a belt and some black shoes, short-length white apron is worn over the skirt (I pay for all these clothes, even extra sets), since I think it's important that they dresses nice, and show a good behaviour.
The girls are 16 and 18 years old, and I know both of them dislike it, but as employees, they have to do this. The youngest girl, who has just been in my employment for some months, seems to be very nervous when it comes to this (serving while dressed in a white blouse with a black skirt).
The first time she was serving, she accidentally spilled over her blouse collar. I told her to immediately dry up, and go putting on a new blouse. After doing as I said, and she apologized. I told her everything was OK, but she maybe would need a little bit more training.
The upcoming times, the younger girl seemed very nervous when serving, but I thought it was just at the start. The girl continued to act what I thought was carless, one time spilling on her left blouse pocket. Some weeks later, I told her to sit down for a meeting, and told her that I can accept her doing mistakes as long as she always do her best, but I can't accept her acting careless.
I soon found out that she was still nervous when serving. I told her just to take a breath, calm down and concentrate at the serving. The girl said she disliked being required to wear those clothes, but I said she has to wear them.
She was sad, but I tried to comfort her, and said that she could train away it. I went to our living room, and told her to come out with a tray, starting in her ordinary clothes. She did it everything well. Soon, I told her to put on the blouse and skirt. I made sure she had done all buttons, and put the blouse inside the skirt and that stuff.
I told her to come out with a tray once again, but now she said she was nervous again. After some training, the girl started to cry, and said she couldn't help it. But as she told she tried to do her best, I just said she would need more training. Then I told her every time she had done everything well.
But still, everything was as usual again, so I summoned for her another meeting, where I also summoned the older girl, who I employed earlier, and told her if she could give the younger girl any tips. I can't recall the older girl being that nervous from the start (except just the first times, but not weeks and months later.) The older girl, who also has spilled sometimes, just said there is nothing to be nervous for, just focus.
What can I do to help the younger girl calming down? I have made one thing for sure: As long as these girls work in my house, they will have to wear white blouse and black skirt for serving, and that's nothing they can change. I know they don't like it, but that's not what I want them to do, just accept it (without complaining). But as she seems to try doing her best, I still want to know how to handle this, hoping she will get less nervous.
Why haven't you asked the poor girl why she is so uncomfortable in her serving outfit?
I'm sure she has a reason.
Perhaps she is just not used to having nice clothes and afraid of messing them up.
However, maybe she is self-conscious about her body and is uncomfortable being seen in a skirt. Why can't you just have them wear some nice black pants instead? It's more practical and will still look nice.
It sounds like she is really scared of you- maybe you need to think about why that is. An unhappy employee will not do a good job and may seek out another job. Remember that they are helping you and treating them rudely will not benefit anyone.
So I was bored one day and I know this is immature and lying but me and my friend made up this screen name and instant messaged my boyfriend. Who is 5 years older, (20,25). He is very opened to talk to anyone so I brought me up. I was completely devastated and crushed when I read the things he had to say about me. He said that I was obsessed with him and liked him a lot more than he liked me. He wasnt sure about us because we had nothing in common when he always tells me when we talk he loves how we don't because we still work. He said that I am constantly looking to talk and he hates it. When he breaks up with me i am going to be devastated and he doesn't know how to do it. I told him a lot of personal stuff thats happened and he mocked me about it. He said he's embarrassed of me because I'm immature when he eggs me on to do things like that. I can't even explain how hurt and stupid I feel. I love him so much though and our relationship is serious. If i've ever wanted to break up with him it would be right now. I just don't know how to tell him over what. He would be really mad if he knew the truth. Should I even be mad about this? Ugh I'm so confused! any opinions or advice would be great!
Thanks in advance (:
Yes, of course you have a right to be mad. Even though you did something wrong, so did he- what kind of jerk goes telling a random stranger all their relationship problems and badmouthing their girlfriend?
I wouldn't waste any more time on him. You don't even need to tell him why, just tell him it's over. He's not the last guy you'll ever be in love with, and he isn't worth it, since apparently he's going to dump you anyway.
I have a boyfriend of 3 months, who is the same age. We are both in college, and only get to see each other over the weekends. He is really good about texting me throughout the day, but he never texts me when he wakes up, or that he is going to sleep, or when he is going to do something (like mow the lawn for instance) so I never get a text back for a while. It really bothers me a lot, I feel like he should be telling me when he's going to just stop texting me for long periods of time. Am I right? Or is this just not that big of a deal? Opinions please!
It's not a big deal. He shouldn't have to text you about everything he does every minute of the day, that's how people get bored of each other. For a lot of people, texting is better than talking on the phone because you can reply whenever it's convenient. You should probably just try to get over it.
What can you do to your nail polishes when they start turning sticky ? especially the white ones !
Do you mean when you've had em for a while and they start getting thick and take longer to dry? You can buy nail polish thinner at Ulta or a beauty supply store and it will help a lot. It sounds weird, but putting a few drops of nail polish remover in has the same effect.
well which dating thing is free without paying money can you tell me
okcupid.com is free and the best of the dating sites I've tried.
18/F I'm a greeter at Wal-Mart, so I interact with a loooot of different people on a daily basis. Well this one time later at night, this guy who looked to be about 30 and frankly, like a wannabe gangster pot-smoker, came in. I turned around when I heard the automatic door opening and kindly greeted him. He gave me a slight smile and walked past me, but he turned around and said, "You know, you have REALLY pretty eyes. Just thought I'd tell you that." Stunned, I said "Haha, thank you very much! Have a good night." and he walked away. He comes in about 2 or 3 times a week, and ever since he said that, I'd always smile at him when I walked past him, or greet him all friendly-like when he walked in. I just thought he was a nice guy, and I greeted him just like I greet the old people that come in. WELL, tonight I was returning some garlic bread back to where it belongs, when I saw him. So I smile and give a nod as I walk past. Well, I put the bread back, turn around and there he is. He says "Hey, do you have a number I could have so we could get to know each other?" I've never been asked for my number before, and he was so outright, I didn't know what to do. So I said, "Uuuummm... I don't know... How about YOU give me YOUR number?" So he asked if I had a pen and some paper, I said I didn't, but that we might have some up front. I start walking, and he follows me across the whole store to the front. I give him some paper, he rips it in half, writes his number down, and says "Give me your number too." I panicked. I've never dated anyone, let alone been asked out before. He seemed like the type that would call me a ton. SO, I wrote down my dad's old cell phone number which doesn't work anymore. He then asked me if I liked cage fighting. I said "Uh no, not really." and he goes "Well I'm fighting at the arena downtown next week, maybe you can watch one of my fights." and I said "Um, maybe!" then he asked what time I got out of work, to which I said I didn't know. I DEFINITELY didn't want him seeing the car I drive, or possibly have him following me home. He lives in the area, and comes in all the time, and what's worse is I'm a GREETER, so I'd HAVE to talk to him again. I thought about it, and I feel really bad... I probably shouldn't have done that, but I didn't know what else to do! I couldn't just flat out reject him, I see him all the time. After thinking about it, I feel terrible. So I tried to call the number so I could say something like, "Oh sorry, I accidentally gave you the wrong number! Things are complicated, and I'm really not looking for a relationship right now..." or something like that, but his writing's REALLY messy, I can hardly read the numbers they're so squished together, and when I attempted, I got some lady's voice mail. I really wasn't trying to be mean at all. I don't know what to do, or if what I did is right or not... Please help me! Thank you for your time.
Remember that you are just working and have no obligation to do anything besides greet him. If/when you see him again, just greet him as usual. If he asks why the number doesn't work, asks for your number again, or tries to ask you out, just be honest with him. Something like "I'm sorry, but I don't think that's a good idea." You can make an excuse if need be- that you're too busy or have a boyfriend or something. But really, you don't owe him an explanation.
I work in retail as well (bagger at a grocery store) and I can tell you that older guys will try to do that kinda thing pretty often. They would never approach someone your age in a regular social setting- they are just taking advantage of the fact that you are working and have to be polite to them. Next time, a simple 'no thank you' will do, and if they are persistent, it's ok to ask them to leave you alone. Being too nice can be a bad thing sometimes.
I'm 19 years old and I've been out of a relationship for a while. I met this guy. From the moment we started talking, we hit it off and he told me he is 27 years old. I told him I was 19 and he said that he thought I was older when he met me. He thinks I'm too young to be with him. Do you think that a 27 yr old dating a 19 yr old is wrong?
I don't know about wrong, but I can tell you that it probably wouldn't work out. I dated a guy ten years old than me when I was around your age and it was a disaster.
You're in totally different phases of your life, so you might not have much in common and it can be hard to relate to each other with the generational gap. At his age he might be looking for a more serious relationship and possibly getting ready to settle down, while you might not even know what you want to do with your life yet. His friends may look down at him dating a 'kid'... It's hard to explain, but please trust me, it's not a good idea. If he says you're too young, you need to just respect his wishes and move on.
All of my friends are going to or in college.
It hit me really hard today when I found out the one other girl who I thought was in the same situation as me started taking college classes.
I'm smart enough for college (I graduated with multiple honors classes) but I don't have the money,time or transportation!
I feel totally screwed over and the more I think about it the more it angers me and I just feel like screaming.
I want to be somebody but my parents keep killing all of my chances! My father hasn't even visited me in 4 months and my mom only cares about money money money and to her helping me with college is a waste of time and money.
My brother offered a while ago to help me pay for it she told him not to and she tells him to stop talking about college around me whenever he visits and tries to tell her that I need to go.
Instead she's been demanding I get a job and to forget all about college so I've been looking for a job and I've filled out hundreds of applications but I haven't gotten hired anywhere.
People always say so take out a loan. What do I do when I can't pay back that loan? Loans just put you in thousands of dollars worth of debt.
I can't even get to a college right now. I don't have money to buy myself a car or to pay for car insurance. I live in a small country town that only has two community colleges and I can't even afford those!
My mom sits around with her iPad,macbook pro and her iPhone and it pisses me off...I love her but really she is ruining my life. I can't even date because I have no way to see anybody and I feel embarrassed saying at 18 I don't have a job or a car,I'm not in college or even going soon and I still live with my mom.
I don't know what to do I am so stuck. I sit at home everyday and do chores and look for a job and I'm getting really depressed. People tell me my resume is fantastic and then don't hire me because somebody with a college degree applied too.
I want to learn I want to get out! I don't have anywhere to go though or the money!
I know there's financial assistance too but how do I go about that if I can't get anybody to support me in going to college in the first place?
I have been in your situation- at 18 I had no job, car, and I wasn't going to school. It seemed like there was no way out. Now I'm 21, have a job and car and almost have my degree.
First of all, of course the most important thing is getting a job. Are you just submitting applications and hoping they'll call you? I can tell you from a lot of experience that that DOES not work, you have to follow up- either by calling or stopping in and talking to the manager. It's very important than you make a good first impression and that's a lot easier to do in person.
If the jobs you are applying to want a college degree, maybe you're aiming too high. A basic retail job (clothes store, restaurant, grocery store, etc) isn't the most fun thing ever but it will get you money.
And remember, you CAN work and go to school at the same time.
Save at least half of your paycheck every week. Make sure it's somewhere safe that no one else can get to.
Is there a community/junior college near your town? They can be a lot more affordable than you think. Look into it, and look into alternative methods of transportation- does your town have buses? bikes?
You will probably need to save up for six months to a year before you start, but it is doable, especially if your brother is willing help pay (if you need to go behind your mother's back to have him do that, so be it.) There are financial aid programs you may be eligible for as well- many people do that. A school counselor will be able to help you with that. Even if you just start with one class, it's better than nothing.
Best of luck and if you have any questions feel free to inbox me.
Photos of me: http://imgur.com/a/UtAqm
Obviously the second one is really bad quality but I took it with my iphone.
Today I went to Bealls and saw one of the girls from my old school (I graduated in June) there.
The whole time I was there I couldn't help but think she was so much prettier than me and I'm sick of just being "cute" or "normal" pretty.
She's the girl on the left: http://imgur.com/Rv1Pe
It's inspired me to make myself become more noticeably pretty. I'm deciding I've had enough with my bad habits like biting my fingernails. I'm stopping that once and for all tonight. I want long beautiful fingernails so I'm applying Sally Hansen's Maximum Growth nail polish.
I have sort of white teeth but they are a little yellowish so I picked up some maximum whitening flouride toothpaste and I plan on brushing them at least twice a day! I don't get acne but my skin without makeup is a little blotchy around my cheeks and the bottom of my chin, I also want gorgeous clear skin so I bought an $8 salycic acid maximum cleansing daily face wash and I'm going to start using it twice a day as well.
I'm about 4ft 10 in and 78 pounds so I am very skinny but I want to get rid of that "womens tummy pouch" thing. I've heard people say every woman has it but I know celebrities don't so tomorrow I think I'm going to start doing situps until it's gone.
I want to get tanner as well but I don't know how. I stay inside most of the time and we don't have a beach in my town and I don't have a yard since I live in an apartment. We have a balcony so maybe if I lay out there I can. I'm not going to use any of that fake chemically crap or go to a tanning booth though.
Other things I want to get rid of are:
Wearing sneakers, I think that's a big no-no because they aren't cute or classy they're just like lazy shoes. I really need to buy a pair of flats. Right now I have two pairs of boots (both high heels),two pairs of sneakers that I normally wear out,one pair of sandals and two pairs of heels (one stilletto) and obviously I'm not going to wear heels 24/7. I don't want back problems so I think my only choice is to get a cute pair of flats.
Pants: I AM SO SICK OF WEARING PANTS! I get so mad at myself every time I look in the mirror and my skinny jeans look faded or just bad. They are really starting to drive me crazy! I want to wear skirts and dresses but obviously I don't have a ton of money so I can't go and buy a whole new wardrobe so this one is going to take a lot of time and money to get right.
Makeup: I think I need to start buying more high priced makeup. I used to like my makeup but I hate how my mascara seems to dry out and flake or look kind of clumpy and how my foundation starts fading and looking powdery about 6 hours in. Or when I have to reapply lipstick every hour. I usually spend $7 on mascara,$7 on foundation and $5 on lipstick but it isn't working so I think I need to start saving up to buy the more expensive stuff like Urban Decay or YSL.
I'm also going to regularly dye my hair a reddish brown so it looks vibrant and not so dull like in the second photo.
Does anybody have any other ideas? I don't usually wear my makeup that bright as it is in the photos so that's not a problem.
Honest opinion? I think you're way prettier than that other girl. You have way prettier features and I'm not a fan of the fake blonde with tons of eyeliner look.
Definitely stop biting your nails- maybe even try a vitamin to make them grow faster?
Also, do NOT use that face wash- salicylic acid is extremely harsh, meant for acne-prone skin, so it will just make your blotchiness worse. If you want your skin to glow, try something like Aveeno Positively Radiant with a matching moisturizer. And make sure you exfoliate your face 1-2 times per week.
Here's a really great workout to tone up your abs: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MoeE9VTxvHY (there's a printable version)
Don't worry about being tan, it isn't worth the damage to your skin and being pale looks good on you. You could try a gradual self-tanner lotion- i think Jergens makes one.
Payless has cute flats and I'm pretty sure they're having a buy one get one half off sale right now. It's ok to wear pants sometimes, but dresses and skirts (with tights, too) can be just as comfy. Since you have a small budget, try places like Forever 21 and TJ Maxx.
Makeup: You don't necessarily need to buy a ton of high-end makeup. I'm a freelance makeup artist and I use some really great drugstore stuff sometimes. In particular, there are some great drugstore mascaras- try Maybelline the Falsies or Revlon Photoready 3D Volume. Avoiding clumpiness is all in the application, and make sure you're not putting on too much. (And always curl your lashes first!)
Brown eyeliner/eyeshadow will really make the color of your eyes pop. If you want to invest in some nice makeup, try the Urban Decay Naked palette- tons of gorgeous colors that will compliment your coloring and eyes.
A good primer can make all the difference in your foundation looking nice. I swear by the Too Faced Primed and Poreless- it is a little pricey, but it lasts forever and makes foundation look so much better.
To make your lip color last, start with a liner, then lipstick, then a gloss on top. Or just buy a lipcolor specifically designed to be long wearing.
I learned a lot of what I know about makeup from Youtube tutorials, you might wanna try that.
I want to use a face primer to make my face less shiny and to help keep my makeup from coming off during the day. What is a good face primer to use?
I know a lot of people that swear by the Smashbox oil-free photoready for oily skin.
That being said, I have very oily skin and I refuse to use anything but the Too Faced Primed and Poreless- it makes foundation look so much more smooth and natural and keeps my oil under control decently if I use a good powder (the Maybelline Dream Matte is amazing).
Everyone's different and it may take some trial and error to find the right one for you.
I saw this wrap around towel in a tv show and it looked like it buttoned or velcroed or something to hold it up so it doesn't fall down while you are running around the house in it. Where can you buy a wrap around towel? I called places and they were like: "Well, uh, take a towel and wrap it around you..." I think they thought I was playing a joke on them or something! :(
Did I imagine this or is there really such a thing?
Saw something like that at Bed Bath and Beyond the other day:
So I'm 17 and have been searching for weekend jobs for as long as I can remember.
I have an interview this weekend to be a room attendant. What clothes would anyone suggest I wear seeing as its not like applying to work in a bank or anything? Thanks :)
In general, for interviews, it doesn't matter where you are applying, you need to dress nicely and conservatively. No jeans, t-shirts, flip-flops, sneakers, etc. It's always better to be overdressed than underdressed.
Assuming you're a girl, go with a nice blouse, slacks or a minimum knee-length skirt (possibly with pantyhose), and flats or low heels. Minimal jewelry, hair pulled back, subtle makeup. Nail polish should be light or clear- remember they are looking for someone that looks responsible, mature, and reliable. Not too much color or pattern, not too much skin showing.
Here are some examples:
Hope that helps!
I am 17 years old & I have small breasts. Like, they look like they belong to a 14 yr old...& I was just wondering if there were any ways to make them look any bigger??
Here's some help:
Make sure you have a good bra, too, of course- padded pushups can work wonders :)
Hope that helps.
My boyfriend and I have decided that we would like to start going jogging together in the mornings. For the past year or so, neither of us have done any sort of significant physical exercise, maybe a bike ride once or twice a week.
Are there any experienced runners or joggers out there that could give us a few tips on how to get into running again. Naturally it is not as simple as just going out and running.
Considerig we're quite out of shape in terms of stamina and endurance, what would be the best way to start?
Any information would be much appreciated :)
I used to be where you are...in high school PE, when we had to run the mile, I would just walk it...couldn't even run a quarter of a mile.
Now I run 2-3 miles 3-4 times a week.
And honestly, it is as simple as just going out and running. Just do it...it's hard at first, but it's worth it.
That being said, some tips:
- Start small and set goals. A good starting point is a quarter of a mile. Once you're comfortable with that, half a mile, etc. Once you reach a distance you like, you can also start improving your time.
Another way to start: pick a distance- maybe a mile. Run as much of it as you can and then walk the rest...each time, try to run more until you're running all of it.
If you have a newer ipod, the Nike+ app is really great- tells you how far you've gone, how fast, how many calories you're burning, etc. If not, see if there's a track (often high schools have them) anywhere in your town or just measure out a set distance with your car in your neighborhood.
- Make sure you're well hydrated before you run- I like to drink a huge glass of water as soon as I wake up. Might be personal preference, but I also run better on an empty stomach. When I go more than a mile, I bring a bottle of zico coconut water or activate electrolyte water and drink it while I'm running- I find it really helps my endurance and makes it less painful. (The potassium in the coconut water helps with cramping, too.)
- Stretch before and after you run, no matter how far you're going.
- Having good, comfy shoes is SO important. Worth the investment.
- Music always makes a run go by faster.
- If possible, avoid roads with a lot of traffic- when I run on main roads, it's really hard to breathe because of the exhaust of whatnot.
The first time will be hard, but as your body gets used to it, it gets so much easy, and can even become enjoyable eventually.
But how long will the koolaid stay in? And what color will it turn out to be for different types of hair?
Koolaid can permanently stain your hair, to the point where you'll have to wait for it to grow out for it to be gone. My cousin's (light brown) hair turned a weird green color and it took years to grow out. I don't recommend it, just try a temporary or spray-in hair color or colored clip-in extensions instead.
My stepmother and my father have been married for awhile now. She's the classic evil stepmother. She made it so we hardly see our father, he is wipped. She targeted my sister when she was my older 16 (awhile ago) when we didn't call for Mother's day the first year they were married. It was messed up but we were really polite. She emailed my sister mean messages, my sister was only kind back, she got my father to take her of of his insurance once she was 18 (when it would have been FREE to have her on until she's 26 because of the family plan and she's in college). She yelled at my father's sweet mother, threw a present at her head, is really mean to my whole father's side. There is something wrong with her I think, my mother took her emails to a therapist and she said that she is unstable and dangerous emotionally. Now I'm 18 and about to graduate. My father wants to bring her and stunned I said I would try to get her a ticket. Now she emailed my sister saying she "wants to rebuild their relationship" which has happened with my Grandmother in the past and my Grandma would apologize and then my stepmother would do something outrageous and hurtful again.
So I need to know what to do about this. My idea was to tell my Dad that if she comes she can't speak to my mother, sister, or younger brother (not my Dad's son). And that she also can't email my sister. He will probually think I'm being disrespectful but to condone his and her behavior would be the real disrespectful thing to do. Any suggestions?
Here's the thing. She is a person with free will, and neither you nor your dad can stop her from speaking to whoever she wants. You have no way to enforce that.
I don't usually recommend lying, but you could just say that you were unable to get a ticket for her. Or just tell your dad the truth...that you aren't comfortable with your stepmom coming and would rather it just be him. At worst, he'll just refuse to come...and ya know what, that's his loss, not yours.
You and your sister (and other family members involved) need to stay strong and ignore her attempts to suck you back in- you already know what's gonna happen, so why bother? People like that just don't change (at least without therapy), so just do your best to distance yourself. Maybe even change email addresses so that she can't contact you anymore.
What is your input on tipping at restaraunts? I tip when I eat out but I also feel 'why tip when they are paid by the hour?' I understand that waiters/waitress make little but when one pays for their meal I do get why it is expected.
Example: Why tip a pizza boy when they are paid minimum wage hourly? Why tip a barista?
I am looking for inputs on how people feel, I feel both ways. We shouldnt have to tip... We pay for our food and we pay for good services.
You answered your question yourself- they make hardly any money (in some states, it's legal for them to get paid under minimum wage), and so they are pretty dependent on tips rather than a paycheck. It's also a hard job that requires a lot of patience, I know I couldn't do it (just working in retail is bad enough!). If a waiter is rude and doesn't do a great job, I wouldn't tip very much, but if they do a good job, why not? Being rewarded keeps them motivated to keep working hard, which is good for everyone.
I work at a regular per-hour job, and it can be very frustrating and demotivating knowing that no matter how great or bad I do I still get paid the same. If I was allowed to be tipped (in fact, I can get fired for accepting one) I think it might make a big difference.