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okay so i just started proactive for my face, and does anyone know if it acutally works and how long

Well well, this is my first question since like, last year! xD But anyways, down to business. I tried proactive, and it only made my face worse! Lol, but I suppose it depends on the person. My friend tried it and it worked fine. Just be sure to use it every morning and night with warm water, and it should work.

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I'm 16 and I'd like to try out for the school musical, but I'm really nervous. what should I do to have a good audition?

Just practice in front of a mirror, or in front of someone you won't be afraid to practice in front of. After a while, you should be able to overcome your stage fright. Or you could just not try out, haha. But I don't think you want to, so just practice a lot.
Happy Holidays - QBillion

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ok so, what do you do if you're stuck in this situation:

your dad had an affair for 3 years .. without telling your mom or you or your brothers

sounds bad enough, right?

well .. he's still with the whore and expects me and my brothers to warm up to her... be nice to her .. accept her into the family and what not. oh right, and to add to that: she has a 2 1/2 year old son who is annoying as hell.

she comes with us on vacations, and i know my dad spends the money ...that he needs to 'save' before we're able to buy a BASKETBALL HOOP? ... on her

thats not right.. and i've tried having those long serious chats with him. he thinks i'm just doing what my mother does ... hating her for no reason. she screwed over my whole life, why shouldn't i hate her? ...what should i do? and don't say i should try to like her .. cause thats not happening .. other than that i'm up for any ideas

helllp me

I think you should hate her, after what she's done to your family. Your dad should be ashamed (no offense). That's horrible... I would make her leave by doing bad stuff to her secretly and stuff, but I don't think your mom and dad would get back together even if she did leave, sorry to say. She's a total bitch, agreeing to be with your dad when she knew he had a wife, if she did, I don't know. I would yell at her, or try making them break up, or keep having long chats, I mean, sometimes after a while it gets through to some people.
Happy Holidays - QBillion

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ok im 13/f and my bf always asks me do u wanna make out and hell yea i do but i dont know how how? i mean idk.i really like my bf but i am kinda prude and i wanna atleast make out so this is kinda a stupid question but how do u make out with sum1?
ok i need advice asap bc my bf is starting to get annoyed bc i keep saying not right now not right now...any1 have any ideas? im afraid he may break up with me?

Well, for one thing, if he breaks up with you just because he doesn't get the action he wants, he's a really shallow guy, who could say that you two had sex and pass a rumor around school that you did. I mean, if you two have been going out for some time and stuff, then he probably wouldn't break up with you. But if you really want to know, it comes naturally! The first time I made out with someone I didn't know what to do until we started, haha. It's instinct, basically, you just move your toungue around in their mouth and stuff, but start to take it slow at the beginning, just start kissing on the lips and stuff at first and then move into the main course, if you know what I mean. ;) Except, don't have sexual intercourse (sex). You don't want that quite yet I don't think, if your nervous about making out, haha.
Good Luck - QBillion

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Okay I have this guy friend who is one if my best friend's boyfriend and i was talking to her today. She said she wanted to dump him and said she wants to be single again. I know he will be heartbroken. How do I help him through his hard times without completely dumping one of my best girlfriend's?

There's pretty much nothing you can do, but help the guy out through his hardships. If the girl wants to be single and obviously doesn't love the guy, you can't stop her doing so, unless you do so physically, haha. But if the girl does dump him, just try to reassure him that everything will be fine in time, and that maybe you two can do things (i.e. take him out to a movie) together to help him feel better.
Good Luck - QBillion

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This is a question to all advicenators: What makes you want to give advice to other people?

I give advice because I feel it is right, because you can feel that you may have helped someones life out, and even the smallest answers can feel big sometimes. Some of us do it to pass time, some of us do it for enjoyment, some of us don't even do it at all, those kinds of people just use their advice columns to make fun of people, or they don't give helpful advice at all, but I would assume this could also go under both categories: They feel it is fun or they help the time pass. I enjoy it, and at the end of an answer, you know you did well if you feel you did well, if you are the people who give real advice. It is like voluntary work in a way, you're making the world a better place at no pay.
Good Luck - QBillion

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Ok I've been talking to this guy online through a friend. His name is John. Anyway, he recently sent me a picture and he is not cute AT ALL. After seeing that picture I have lost any desire to talk to him, and he keeps IMing me. I feel like the most SHALLOW person on Earth and I feel so bad. But I can't help how I feel. It is really rude to block him so I don't know what to do!! I really don't want to seem or be shallow.

Well, if you have been talking to him for a long time online, (i.e. like 6 months to a year) you don't just stop talking to someone just because they aren't the cutest guy in the world. But, if you really don't want to talk to him just because he is ugly, just slowly stop talking to him. Just make little convorsation every time you see him, if he likes you then just make it seem like you aren't interested. After you two say "Hi" on IM, say nothing unless asked a question. He should lose intrest in you.
Good Luck - QBillion

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OMG! i dont knoe why..but my teeth are yellow!! i brush 3 times a day..and i dont smoke!!..whats wrong?!

It can sometimes be genetics. You can brush your teeth as much as they want, and they won't get any whiter, in some cases. You may want to consider getting your teeth whitened, or use those Crest Whitening Strips some people are talking about.
Good Luck - QBillion

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Okay....I've liked this guy for almost 3 months, we don't even go out and I had sex with him. I know that's bad but I let all the influence get to me. Well that same day, him and his friends was playin on my cell, and when me and my friend was walkin home, I was looking through my phone and his phone #'s were gone, so I my friend called his cell, and he gave us his "supposed" house number....well my friend called it the other day the number was wrong. I was sooo mad. Plus he told his friends what happened between us now they think they gonna get some from me and their not. It's like he used me for sex but he says he didn't. I like him for the better side of him cause I know it's there. But I'm a good person and most pplz say that he's not worth me, but it's always been hard for me to get a boyfriend. So I don't wether or not I should try to stick with him or not....

Forget him. He sounds like a real asshole. He obviously used you for sex, and he isn't worth your time. Telling what happened between you two? That stuff is private! It's none of his friend's business if you two had sex. Just forget him, and refrain from talking to him and his friends.
Good Luck - QBillion

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i really like this guy and he likes me but i don`t want a boyfriend at the moment cuz of all this drama thats been going on and im just not sure..whats huld i do?

Just tell him the truth. Tell him you really don't want a boyfriend right now, and if he likes you enough, he will wait for you, or just be friends for now, until the drama in your life is over. Just wait it out, sometimes that makes the relationship more meaningful when you two do get together. :)
Good Luck - QBillion

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I went to amifat.com and it says im not fat. but im not as skinny as other girls. i want to lose 15-20 pounds. Does anyone have any tips or success stories?

Do 20-25 sit-ups or crunches every night. Also, eat healthier, such as fruits and vegetables. Avoid fatty foods and sweets, as they will make you larger. Just don't become anorexic, and don't stop eating. Eat 6 small meals a day instead of 3 large ones. Also, eating breakfast can help speed up your metabolism.
Good Luck - QBillion

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hey ok i have a cold sore on my lip from making out and its not rally big yet its just starting and i hate having it on my lip cuz it looks weird does anybody know how i can get rid of it before it gets big? and how long do they take to go awya? help plz!

Use vaseline every night, it should help it heal. If you ever get one on the inside of your mouth from making out, then rinse your mouth out with warm salt water every night.
Good Luck - QBillion

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ok i like hate my name so much .. it's Liana.. and well people sometimes "cant pronounce it" so they just say "Hey you!" or they just pronounce it wrong. Or sometimes their like "um..you.. i forgot your name" .. and well like is there anything i can do to get people to pronounce my name right or call me something diffferent that is easy to pronounce .. (maybe like a nick name)

p.s. sometimes my friends call me Lee for short but not very often

Just either tell them to call you "Lee", or just tell them how to pronounce it if they get it wrong. That's pretty much all you can do, besides changing your name, and I don't think you would be up to that, haha.
Good Luck - QBillion

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this gurl likes me but she goes to a different and i want to ask her out wat do i do

Try talking to her on the phone or on instant messenger. Arrange a place where you two can meet, (just say it's to chill and hang out and stuff) and then just kind of beat around the bush on the topic of dating. After you two hang talked for a little while, ask her out. Even if she turns you down, you should still be proud you had the courage to do it, and not wonder what could have been. Or you could ask her out over the phone or instant messenger, but I think that in person might be a little better.
Good Luck - QBillion

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my best friend is popular and all of these guys like her and shes really pretty and has alot of friends and is really outgoing and is a really good dancer so sometimes i cant help being jealous of her. i want to be more like her but i cant. like i want to be more outgoing and be a better dancer and stuff. what should i do?

Practice saying things in a mirror, to help build up your self confidence, to show how you look when you talk to someone, and work on changing that. Take dancing lessons if you want to get better at dancing (or play DDR, haha), and try to talk to people, make jokes more often, start convorsations. Ask people about their weekends, what they like to do. You can't not talk to people and expect to be popular.
Good Luck - QBillion

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I`m a senior in high school. I`m turning 18 soon but my boyfriend will still be 17. If we have sex after my birthday, will that be illegal?

Depending on what state you live in. Some states let you have sex at age 16, but most states' limit is 18. So if you live in one of those states, then even if your boyfriend's birthday was 1 day off and he was still 17 and you 18, it would be illegal, and technically rape, but you won't go to jail unless he or his parents report you and they have evidents that you slept with him, and if they pressed charges.
Good Luck - QBillion

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I have a crush on my best friend thats a guy! He doesn't know but I don't know how to tell him and I know he doesn't like me like that...But how should I tell him I like him? I RATE HIGH AND GIVE GOOD COMMENTS!

Well, if you have a boyfriend already, don't break up with him, unless he is an abusing jerk who controls you. Then break up with him and go for this guy. But, if you are single, just tell him, or tell him on the phone, or even an instant messenger, whatever makes you feel comfortable. You could get your friends to tell him for you if you wanted. Just go up to him one day and tell him your feelings, but not just like out of the blue, just hint towards the topic when you two are alone, or start talking about dating. Then tell him. Hey, it's worth a shot, even if he says no, if you ask him out. Even if he does say no, he will respect you for being so bold.
Good Luck - QBillion

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can someone please tell me how i can become a model? like im not expericened but i really want to become one! how can i go get pictures to where i can enter in a modeling agency?

Without experience, it's going to be hard. Not many people make it to the modeling business, and they want people who are beautiful and are like a size 2 (if your a woman). They won't lie to you on telling you your ugly, or beautiful, they will be harsh and not care about your feelings, so be prepared... Also, as ACDC sing, "It's a long way, to the top, if you wanna rock and roll..." Although this has nothing to do with rocking and rolling, I just thought it would be a good example, haha.
Good Luck - QBillion

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when a girl says that shes about 2 get the sizors (i spelled it wrong cuz im 2 lazy) and she says snip snip b4 u have sex...wut does that meen?

I think that she means to circumcize you (cutting off the foreskin on the top of your penis that 50% of males usually get cut off when they are born). It wouldn't be to castrate you, (cutting off your penis) because, it would be pretty hard to have sex after she did that now wouldn't it? I don't think it's much to worry about.
Good Luck - QBillion

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my friend is doin some stupid stuff, and i want him to stop. he's always takin crazy chances, like jumpin off roofs into pools and stuff. and then the other day he was burnin himself with a lighter. and on more than one occasion he talks about he wishes he had a knife with him so he could slice his wrists. when i ask him why he does this stuff he answers "no one cares about me, so why should i stop?" how do i tell him that everytime he does something, it kills a part of me. i dont wanna seem mushy or anything, but i cant stand to see him doin this crap. please help me im freakin out, im so afraid for him.
ps-and dont tell me to get an adult to talk to him, cuz if i tell on him, he'd neva speak to me again.

thanks
xXxashliexXx

Ok, think about it this way - what's more important, a friendship, or saving someone's life? If you don't tell someone, he could hit a major artery when cutting himself, and kill himself by bleeding to death. Or he could jump off a roof, and miss the pool, land on his head, and he could do serious brain damage and/or die, or become paralyzed for the rest of his life and be confined to a wheelchair.
Good Luck - QBillion

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