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my best friend is popular and all of these guys like her and shes really pretty and has alot of friends and is really outgoing and is a really good dancer so sometimes i cant help being jealous of her. i want to be more like her but i cant. like i want to be more outgoing and be a better dancer and stuff. what should i do?
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There'll always be someone better at something than ourselves. But the good thing about that is YOU are better than someone at something also. Just find out what you love to do and keep on doing them. You can't be just like her, because you are YOU. Be your own person...I'm sure you're an awesome one. Join some clubs, say hello, learn something new. It'll definitely help. Try not to "be just like her" because that'll only make you compare yourself with her. Try something new that she hasn't done or can't do. That way you won't be able to compare yourself with her.
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yes i know every girl has an idol as thier friend that is more popular or more pretty then u r.Try to just concenrate who u really are and less of being some poser im not trying to be mean or antyhing but u need to think about ur self and who u r and may be get more talanted in things that u wanna do but the most important thing is that if ur not popular it doesnt mean u cant have a good life so just think more about real u and what u wanna do and who u wanna be and u will get what u need may be not what u want though!
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I say... be yourself. Your best friend is unique in the fact that she is herself. There is only one "her" in this world, and likewise, there is only one "you" in this world. Be who you are, and keep your chin up high. Confidence comes with being outgoing, and if you are jealous of your friend and want to be like her, your confidence won't be high. Be proud of who you are, and step right into the action and say 'hello' to people. That's the first step to making friends. Find a hobbie or something that doesn't involve your best friend, that way you will have a separate group who you feel comfortable around. Try not to compare yourself to your best friend. Pick out your own positive assets that your friend does not have. Be proud of yourself.
I hope I helped. Hang in there. Feel free to leave me anymore messages if you need help with anything else. I'm always here to talk to.
<3 Sammypie
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Practice saying things in a mirror, to help build up your self confidence, to show how you look when you talk to someone, and work on changing that. Take dancing lessons if you want to get better at dancing (or play DDR, haha), and try to talk to people, make jokes more often, start convorsations. Ask people about their weekends, what they like to do. You can't not talk to people and expect to be popular.
Good Luck - QBillion
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Take lessons, dance more, be more outgoing. It all sounds simple, but it's nigh impossible when it's not really you. What you really need is to accept who you are. Stop comparing yourself to someone else, you don't want to be a copycat of your friend, that's just annoying to everyone. Be happy with yourself, concentrate a little more on your good qualities and less on your bad ones. We all have them.
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