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Boy Troubles
Okay I have this guy friend who is one if my best friend's boyfriend and i was talking to her today. She said she wanted to dump him and said she wants to be single again. I know he will be heartbroken. How do I help him through his hard times without completely dumping one of my best girlfriend's?
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You have to let your girlfriend know that if she does break up with him then he will be asking you questions about her. You have to let her know that by talking to him, you will be helping him get over her more quickly and trying to make it easier for both of them for when they both start seeing other people. Help her think of the best way to split up with him without hurting his feelings too much. Don't let her say 'it's not you, it's me' line and just let her tell the truth. Or something along the lines of the fact she now sees him as more of a friend than a boyfriend? Daisy
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just comfort him
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Don't say anything about her. Just be there for him when he needs you. Stay friends with both of them. You can poke fun at each of them (if thats what you normally did, i know i did), but nothing like flat out mean.
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Fuck him.
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Well first of all tell your friend to keep the option of "friends" open between her soon-to-be-ex. boyfriend and her. Also if she does even break up with him, you don't have to dump one of your best girlfriends just to help her ex. through a hard time. You can still be her friend, just make sure you give them equal ammounts of support. When he needs to talk, be available. When she needs to talk, be available also. Just don't get too involved with it, or else you'll be accused of choosing "sides"...and that is NEVER a good thing. Good Luck!!!
-Hope I Helped *Banna*
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Well firstly tell your friend to make the break up as minimal as she can. Some can be absolutely ugly as and it becomes a sticky situation. But it would be better if she does it gently and maybe over time so he might see it coming.
Now if it does turn ugly don't tell either one what one says. Also don't say any of your own. I'm pretty sure your friend won't consider it a betrayal as long as you don't bitch about her or judge her in any way. Just be there for both of them and it will help on both sides. But don't be surprised if the guy turns really bitchy about your friend. Its to be expected if he likes her as much as you say he does.
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There's pretty much nothing you can do, but help the guy out through his hardships. If the girl wants to be single and obviously doesn't love the guy, you can't stop her doing so, unless you do so physically, haha. But if the girl does dump him, just try to reassure him that everything will be fine in time, and that maybe you two can do things (i.e. take him out to a movie) together to help him feel better.
Good Luck - QBillion
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