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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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Ok so i want to know what are the grades called from 9th to 12th I know that 9th is a freshman but what`s 10th, 11th, & 12th? Answer it like it is down below ok thnx!

10th -
11th -
12th -

9th is a freshman
10th is a sophomore
11th is a junior
12th is a senior

If you ever here the term "freshmore" it's a sophomore who takes mostly freshman classes due to failing or moving...

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Can I ask a stupid question? Why do people cut themselves?

There is no such thing as a stupid question, only stupid people.
But to answer your question, they cut themselves to relieve pain. It may not make sense to you, but it does to the people who do it. It doesn't help, it only makes matters worse. It becomes addicting and can wind up killing you. But, they start to experiment, it in a way relieves their pain but after a while it just becomes a sick addiction. It's a real mystery the way the mind works huh?

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Okay, well, this July, I'm babysitting a 10-11 year old girl named Maggie. She's a cute kid, but there is one problem. She's completely hyper all the time. She gets nervous alot and really easily.
I just wanted to know if ya'll had any ideas for fun, quiet, easy-clean up games that will keep her situated for a while.
This is a FULL day job, twice a week, $50 a day. I know that seems a lot, but trust me, she's worth it.

ANYTHING that would help me with this will help me because I really need the money.

Thanks a ton in advance.

Are there any parks or pools nearby that you could take her to? Or any basketball courts or baseball fields. On the baseball fields you could play just about any game, kickball, baseball, spud, and more. Most of these things would be a lot more fun with more kids which is why I asked if there are any kids around her age nearby. Start off the day doing the outside activities so you can tire her out, then you can go inside and play some board games or watch a movie or tv. When I babysit my mothers best friend's kids, she has two out of control boys, they listen to me. What they like to do with me is cook. It's really weird but they promise me they will behave if I let them help me cook something crazy. Of course I am the only one allowed to use the oven, but they like to help me mix stuff and, of course, be the taste testers. Or you can do arts and crafts, outside if you're afraid it will be messy.

If she has chalk then you can play hopscotch or snail. Or you could just draw. IF she has clay or play dough then you can play with that. Those are some fun, simple things.

I hope this helps some. If you want any more babysitting ideas I could probably think up some stuff that I do when I babysit. I've been doing it for years, so it must work somehow.

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One of my guy friends is doing drugs. I found out by accident. Today we were going home and I saw crack and stuff come out of his locker. He shoved it back in and I turned away as if I didn't see anything. I called him later and told him what I saw. He said that he doesn't care what I think. What do i do?

There really isn't much you cand do. This is my opinion and it's a bad opinion, but if your friend is doing that, well, it's their choice. Honestly, I have friends that do that, I've given up on trying to help them. But you shouldn't. If you can help your friend, that is GREAT. And the first step to helping your friend is by telling their parents or gaurdians. It is NOT possible for only you to help them. As much as they're your friends and you probably want to help without getting adults into it, that just won't happen. Trust me on that. So the only two options you have are tell an adult, or ignore it. Hopefully that isn't too tough of a choice for you, that is, if you two are really good friends. If you're just friends, it may be harder. But to help out a friend, you have to do what you have to do.

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A friend of mine has been cutting themselves and me and my other friends don't know what to do? What should I try to do for her to stop?

Have you talked to your friend yet? This is a very serious thing. I used to cut, I know. It gets very addictive and it's hard to stop without any help. If you have talked to your friend and they still won't stop then I suggest telling someone. Today is the last day of school for most of my friends (my last day was yesterday), so I'm not sure if you're still in school, but if so I would tell a guidance councilor about your friend, or a trusted teacher or something. If not then you will have to go to the parents. Don't let this slide, cutting your wrist is already a bad thing, but it can lead to even worse things. You're a good friend, a lot of friends seem to care about their friends, but you're willing to do something, that's an awesome characteristic in any person.

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So lately my vagina has been kind of itchy lately and i have no idea why. So whats wrong and is it anything serious?

It could be anything. It could just be that you aren't washing it enough, or that you're washing it with a type of soap that irritates you in that specific area. It could also be something such as a yeast infection. But there are other symptoms of a yeast infection. If that is what it is then don't worry, it isn't too serious. You can get some cream from the doctor to make it all better. There really is no way of telling unless you see a doctor, or at least ask your parent/gaurdian about it.

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i was reading your thing and i saw that you were anorexic. i was just wondering if you could tell me about it. like i know that its when you dont eat but i dont see how people can go so long without getting hungry & giving in. please explain it to mee. thankss.

Honestly, it's much more of a mental thing. Like once you start the hunger just doesn't matter. It's kind of hard to explain.

There's this lifetime movie about this girl named Nancy. We had to watch it in our foods one class. I totally recommend you watching it. It's called Saving Nancy and Tracee Gold plays the main character. (Tracee Gold is Carol Seaver from... ugh, now I can't think of the name, but you know her "siblings" Ben and Mike... )

Anyway, it's actually easy to go that long without being hungry. Your body gets used to it. Eventually things get bad and you lose so much weight that you could die. Luckily for me I got help before that point. But it's hard to start eating again. You literally feel like you're choking on your food each time and it's physically hard to swallow. It's mainly due to the mental anxiety though. Eventually anorexia stops becoming a physical disease and starts becoming a mental one. No matter how thin you are each time you look into a mirror, you're obese. Eventually you have to learn to trust the people around you and not the mirror. It's hard, but it helps.

But that movie is amazing the way it portrays an anorexic person. The actress who plays Nancy, Tracee Gold, she was anorexic in real life. Anorexia is a very serious, very tough thing to go through. But if you watch that movie it may become a lot more clear.

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How do you effectively find someone's screen name? I read what your answer was to a previous person, but when I submit all the info I've got, it tells me there's too broad of an answer. I then hit the "Finish" button and it disappears, I want it to come back! HELP!!

That's the best you can do then. You'll have to ask the person what their screen name is, or if you don't want to ask them, ask a mutual friend or one of your friends that knows it.

Do you know their e-mail? If so you could use that. Or do you know some of their common interests that they may have used, you can search that. If not, then I assume you searched them by name and address.
Most likely you know their first and last name. That usually cuts out a lot of people. Your friend must have a common last name. You would obviously know their city and state, most likely it's the same as yours. So you entered that right? Zip code too? And country (same as yours I would guess) The only thing you didn't enter was nicknames, you never know what they're going to put, unless of course you do. And make sure that whatever you know them by is their real first name and not their middle name or nickname.

If that still doesn't work, all I can say is that you'll have to ask them or someone else who would know.

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hey how can i loose 10 ilbs fast? thanks. [like in 1-20 days]

I'm going to tell you what just about any (sane) person on this site would say. Eath healthy and excercise. I suggest 30 minutes of any type of excercise each day, plus if you're a love of junk food, replace at least one or two unhealthy things you eat daily with something healthy. Now that it's summer time (well in 3 days for me) it will be easier to lose that weight because you'll be more active.

You've got to be willing to work to lose weight. But eating healthier and excercise - no matter what kind - will help you shed some poundage.

Running is one of the best types of excercise, but if you aren't a good runner or just can't do it, walk one or two miles a day. It's actually really simple to walk that much, I do it at least once a week without even realizing it, so think about how easily it can be. Or if you have a memebership to a Y, then use the workout room do two or three machines for 15 minutes each (do at LEAST a half hour of excercise a day but don't overdo it or wear(not sure proper spelling for this case of the word) yourself out.

Also don't expect too much of yourself. You probably won't lose more than 2-3lbs a week and that is okay.

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I hate using pads, they are useless. I was wondering if you could help me on how to use a tampon. The thought of it is scary i am 14 and i wear pads. i tried putting in a tampon but i cant find the hole. where do i put it? help me please thank you x

Okay, well most boxes have the directions on them, so I would definitly use those. Honestly,I have yet to use a tampon (at least not on a regular basis, I use them occasionally). I've bought them, but I haven't gotten my period since buying them - crazy, I know. But yeah, don't get the cardboard ones, they totally SUCK! They're really uncomfortable to insert. I do suggest tampax pearl, I've tried tampons in the past and I like those the best. Pretty much all I can tell you is find the whole, it shouldn't be too hard, it's where you bleed from and where the discharge comes from. Once you find it (it's in the middle of your pee hole and butt hole) you slide it in facing it back a little bit until the you reach about half way (you'll notice the part when you get there) then you push the rest of it in from the bottom until only the string is left sticking out. If it feels uncomfortable when it's in, wait a few seconds and if it's still uncomfortable then take it out by gently pulling the string and try again.

I reread your question and you are pretty much just asking me where the whole is. Well feel around, or if you really want to, just use a mirror. I've never done that, but it makes sense haha.

Anyway, my instructions may be a little confusing, but if you get the tampons they should come with instructions on or inside the box. Those instrucions will most likely be easier to follow.

Hope I helped :)

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We are doing an end of the year project and I choose to do an advice column byt I don't know were to start. what should i do?

Well if you don't have a column already on this website, start one. You can always use this website as your project (as long as it's your own personal account) To start, just register and then look for questions you know how to answer. Don't copy anyone else's answer or answer questions that you have nothing to add to. Don't repeat what some other columnists say and just throw in a few things, nobody wants answers like that. If you have something original to add to a question, answer it. Eventually this site will help you learn and grow as a person, and you will be helping others in the process.

Start of slow, answer two or three questions a day, only the one's that you know the answer to, or type what you think you would do in that type of situation. Just go for it. Don't be rude, sarcastic, idiotic, and DO NOT threaten anyone. First, it's just bad manners and second it WILL get you kicked off the website and it makes for a bad columnist. Don't tell people what they want to hear if it's not the truth. Be honest but tactful. Respect their feelings. If a girl gets back with her ex after he sleeps with 3 of her different friends and this is the third time he's cheated on her that she knows of, don't tell her she's stupid and idiotic and is a complete moron. Be nice about it. Tell her she's head over heels for the wrong guy. That it's great to give someone a second chance, but that the old saying "hurt me once, shame on you, hurt me twice, shame on me" is about a million percent true!! And that he doesn't deserve someone who's willing to forgive that easily. He needs to know what it's like to respect a woman before sleeping with her friends.

See how simple that was. Honest, yet polite.

Start of slow and work your way up. Maybe one day you'll even make it to moderating a website for advice, or, doing what Spacefem did... Take charge and create your own!

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I had a friend over and we put on our 2 piece bakinis. well when we went outside to ask my dad a question, he just looked at us. It was kinnda scary, because it looked like he was looking at our breast part areas. Well I noticed it cause I saw his eyes moving, and I know it takes my dad a while to answer a question, but he didn't need to look at that part of our bodies. Well he did finally answer, but I went inside to tell my mom what happened, she got mad saying that he wouldn't ever do that. But it really looked like he was looking. My friend said she doesn't think he is like that, but I can't stop but thinking about what he did. Do you think my dad is perverted like that? and what can I do to stop worrying about it? My dad has never been like this before, and I know he wasn't sexually abused when he was little. What should I do?

Well because neither your friend who was there or your mother who wasn't noticed or thought badly about this, you could probably let this one slide. But if you ever again feel like he has violated you, then I suggest you talk to someone again. If your mother still refuses to believe maybe you could bring it up with a guidance councilor or friends parent. Tell them that you could just be paranoid, but that you're worried.

Has your father ever in ANY way violated you? Is this the first time that something like this has happened? If so, then I suggest talking to a guidance councilor before school is out for summer (I only have about 5 days left, that's why I say before school's out) If you've ever felt violated in any way by your father and this is not the first time, then I do suggest talking to someone other than your mother who could possibly be in denial.

But if this is the first time and you're the only one who noticed something strange or felt bothered by it, it may not be that big of a deal. If you are feeling strongly about it then I do suggest you talk to another adult.

If you're not too scared or uncomfortable with talking to your dad about it, then maybe bring it up with him. Also, if your father or any other person violates you in any way or makes you feel uncomfortable in any way (such as you feel as if they're looking at you unappropriately or they've touched you unappropriately) then you NEED to do something about it ASAP. The longer you go without telling someone, the better chance they have getting away with it.

One of my friends was (in a way) sexually harrassed by a teacher, moreso verbally harrassed, (he said inappropraite sexual things to her such as blow me ... as in suck his member, stuff like that) but because she was so nervous and took so long to tell her mother, there wasn't much anyone could do. Just for the rest of high school she can not get that teacher and will get switched if she ends up in his class.

Sorry this is long, but to sum up my point -

It's a GOOD thing you told your mother, it's important that you did that, whether or not she thinks it's true. If this is the first time, don't completely ignore it, but don't make too big a fuss, just because you're the only one who thinks something happened doesn't mean that it did and doesn't mean that he didn't. Don't be paranoid, but be on the lookout, make sure that he really was (or wasn't) doing something inappropriate before taking any serious action. And if something inappropriate was occuring, try going to your mother again. If that doesn't work you can either confide in a friend's parent or go directly to authorities such as the police or even child protection agencies.

I'm not trying to say just ignore it, NEVER ignore anything that bothers you like this.

I'm sorry if I wasn't of that much help. Someone I absolutely think could help you with this is the columnist YoungGrandma - she's amazing and would probably be perfect to answer this question.

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ok, i get tanned VERY easily. I literally just have to stand outside for about 10 minutes on a warm&sunny day and my skin becomes noticably darker. The thing is, I hate this. When I become tan, my skin looks oily and dirty, even though its not. Is there any way I can prevent myself from getting so tan? BESIDES staying indoors because im a very active person and that is almost impossible for me.

♥

If you wear sunscreen with a REALLY high SPF then it'll be harder for you to tan. Such as SPF 45, 55, or (I think there's one) 65.

Also, they should have oil free, just read the label.

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Does anyone know how to pronounce the name of the rapper Talib Kweli? I've tried searching it on Google and even the Advicenators database, and I couldn't find anything.

Thanks in advance :)

http://forum.teamxbox.com/showthread.php?t=320450

That link has some people's opinions on how to pronounce his name

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i have a wart on my leg. i have heard that putting duct tape on it helps or something. is this true? by the way, i am 15/f and i already have a doctor's appointment for this so don't tell me to go to the doctor.

I definitly do NOT suggest duct tape. It just isn't logical.
I had a wart once, I went to the doctor and she froze it off. It was the strangest thing I'd ever felt. But yeah, I think the duct tape thing is just plain silly.

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im gonna be 14 this summer and wondered if there are any places that hie at 14.

examples: handels, DQ, dunkin donuts.

not a pape route.


please. i'll rate a 5 to anyone that tries

Coldstone Creamery does

Not sure if you have one of those near you, but they hire as early as 14

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Edit - It's an icecream place
Oh, and when someone puts money in the tip jar, everyone has to sing

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does anyone have any good workout songs? that are like upbeat and fun.. thanks for the help. if you name 5 or more then an automatic 5.

Here are a bunch of great workout songs. They're upbeat and they will really get you in the mood to move.

Stupid Girls - Pink
Run It - Chris Brown
Dont Cha - Pussycat Dolls
Yeah! - Usher
Lose Yourself - Eminem
1,2 Step : Ciara
Oh Mickey [ your so fine ] : Blondie
Let's Get It Started- Black Eyed Peas
Miss New Booty - Bubba Sparks
My Humps - Black Eyed Peas
SOS: Rhianna
Hips Don't Lie - Shakira
walk away: kelly clarkson
Pump It - Black Eyed Peas
Dance, Dance - Fall Out Boy







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I'm 14 years old and I want to find a summer job. Any suggestions?

The only actual "job" I know of that hires that young is an ice cream place called Cold Stone Creamary. I'm not sure if you have one of those near you, but those, and some gas stations will hire that young.
Other than that, babysitting, yardwork, petsitting, those are the types of jobs that you could get. If you're close to 15 then Chik-Fil-A will usually hire you. I'm also not sure if you have one of those where you live, but if you do, they hire at 15 or if you're really close.

You could also get a job such as tutoring a younger student. Maybe an elementary or middle school student, in a subject that you excel in. You could also get a job at your local YMCA if they'll hire you. I know the one up the street from me will start hiring people to "babysit". I put that in quotes because it's not what I would consider babysitting, it's more of a camp councilor type of thing (which you could also work as)

It's great that you're looking for a job early on, but I'm 15 and in less than 2 weeks, I'll end my sophmore year in high school. Most places still won't hire me. I won't be 16 until November, so it's really difficult for me to get a job. It's very tough to get a "real" job other than babysitting/petsitting/dog walking/yardwork. Those are really the only paying things you can consider jobs due to the child labor laws. At your age, for any job you wish to apply for, you'll most likely need a working permit anyway (which you get from school).

Well, I do hope I was of some help, if you need any information on how to go about getting some of these jobs, feel free to post a question to my inbox.

~S_C

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is a bmw the same thing as a beamer?

Yes, they're the same.

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ok well my friend sent me a e-mail and this is what she put at the end: ilusfm! thx for being there for me ILUSFM (more than the last time i said it lol)

well just incase you didn't know, ilusfm means I love you so freaken much. we say things like that as friends, but I thought it was kind of mean to say that she said it meant more the second time than it did the first. I know I might be reading too much into it, but is she mad or am I reading it the wrong way? Thanks.

Honestly, I'm not too sure, mainly because I don't actually know either of you. I'm sure that she didn't mean it in a mean way, she probably just meant it the way she said it. (oh, and I knew what it meant hahaha.) You're probably reading too much into it, but if it's still bothering you, just ask her what she meant by it.

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