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So Ive never had sex with a guy before but I have had boyfriends and we have "fooled around". So its not like Im a prude or something. Ive been a little crazy since I got to college mostly having fun. I have gotten more confident with my body after realizing that it gets me a lot of positive attention. Like Ill wear more revealing clothes and let guys touch me where as before I would not because I lacked confidence. So because of this Ive noticed that guys always ask for sex. But Ive never done it before and I dont want to get pregnant or a disease so I usually just say no. They never really ask me if Im a virgin I guess they assume I just dont want to. But last weekend a guy who I was making out with and doing more stuff with, asked me if I was and I lied and said no because I was embarrassed. He started to pressure me and asked me what I liked in bed and stuff. I couldnt really tell him because I dont know so he told me something he really liked to do that girls like. And Im not sure but I think the tip of his part went inside me. I wasnt drunk. It felt really good and didnt hurt at all. Do you think I should ask him? I sort of stopped him after I realized what was going on and I think he thought it was weird.
This may sound a little crewed but the saying is, "no jacket no service."I'm old enough to be your grandfather, I give advice her so that I can offer straight answers to questions like yours. We see a lot of questions like yours on this site and at the end of what I write to you I will add a website I think you will find helpful.
Two things are very important if you are considering having sexual relations.
First: If you are not already on birth control, visit the schools medical center and have a doctor prescribe birth control pills for you. Most birth control pills require you to be on them for a specific period of time before they are effective. Make sure you follow the manufactures instructions for taking them and how long to wait before they become effective.
Second: Never engage in intercourse without having your partner use a condom. Not only is the condom a second source of birth control, it is a barrier protection against STDs and the AIDs virus. Until you are in a long term monogamous relationship and both of you have been tested, a condom is required.
Sex between two consenting adults is a beautiful thing. For a women, her first sexual intercourse can be a wonderful experience with the right man. Don't be afraid to tell your first partner that you are a virgin. You don't have to be in love with this man, that can come later. He should be someone you trust and feel comfortable with.
Given that you are both in college he should be old enough to understand what you are offering him and want to make sure this is a wonderful experience for you. He should find a place that you feel comfortable and secure in. One where you will not be disturbed by or over heard by a roommate. Once you have found this place and he is the trusting man you hope for he will be gentle and loving; taking his time to make sure you are ready for him to enter you and take your virginity.
As I wrote earlier sex is a beautiful thing between two consenting adults. As long as both parties agree to something it is neither wired or wrong. One of the most beautiful things about sex is exploring your partners body, finding out their likes and dislikes. Communication is essential during the first few times a couple makes love. It is also essential that both parties understand that NO means no and STOP means STOP.
There are a lot of different areas of sex that two consenting adults can explore together. Some you will like and some you will not like. If you can possibly see your way bast any preconceived feelings about any of these areas I would suggest trying something one time before saying that you don't like it. As I said as long as you both agree it is your business only.
Before you have you have your first intercourse look at the following Wedsite:http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.
It is meant for teenagers but you may find it useful.
I have been friends with this girl for 11 years. We're both 17. Her parents are about to lose their house. When they lose it, they'll have to live with someone. Her parents will probably want to live with her Grandma. My friend wants to stay in our school district. Her step-dad is extremely proud and stubborn/childish. Do you think I should offer to have her stay with my family and me or would that be insulting?
I think that would be a very nice thing to do. First you have to clear this invitation with your parents. If they approve of offering your friend a place to stay; which wil allow to stay in the same school district, then both you and your parents should make the offer to her and her parents.
Making this type of offer does two things for your friend. It not only allows her to stay in the sea school district. You are also offering her a safe haven of sorts as she could be living in conditions that could be, very tense and lack the type of privacy a teenage girl needs.
Your friend should also understand that while living in your home she will be subject to the same rules that your parents place on you. Your parents in effect will be her guardians while she is in there home regardless of how close her parents may be living to you.
If all of this is understood and agreed to in advance; your offer to your friend is not only very thoughtful but very adult of you to offer.
I am a 19 year old female from the East Coast. I am from a middle-class family and I attend one of the most prestigous business schools on the coast. I have multiple part time jobs, but have no financial strains.
I have been dreaming about having a child for a year and a half now. Frankly, it's more than dreamining, its yearning. I so badly want to be the mother to my own child. From June 2009-March2010, I was with the same man who shared the same desire for a child. We've since seperated and I've been with another man since October 2010. He and I are very compatible and we are doing very well in our relationship.
My problem: I want a child very badly, but I know that at 19 years old, I should be focusing on my youth. My parents always told me that they would suport me if I were to ever get pregnant, but I fear that due to my young age, I would not be a suitable mother to my child.
My boyfriend always said that he would support myself and the child if I were to ever become pregnant. He is 24 years old. (FYI: There is no way I would ever sabotage our sex life to get pregnant; it would be an agreed decision.)
Please, share your advice and opinions.
Thank you.
First let me tell tell you I'm old enough to be your grandfather. I say this as the advise I will offer is based on the wisdom of age.
You are not the first young lady to write this type of letter. Many young women feel their true destiny is to be a mother and homemaker. There is nothing wrong with this feeling. At 19 you are certainly old enough to become a mother and homemaker. The question is what kind of life will you make for your child being a young parent.
A half century ago a women was expected to marry early, stay at home and raise a family. Today that is not possible for most families. Both adults must work in order to afford a good life for themselves and their children. To afford things like the prestigious business schools you are attending.
I'm fairly certain you have heard this in one form or another from your parents; the better your education, the better life you can lead. I'll modify that to mean you should work at a job you enjoy not just a job that pays well that you do not enjoy. For all the money in the world does not buy happiness. You have to enjoy what you are doing to be happy. If that means collecting the trash then so be it.
My advice: Finish your education, as a good education will open many doors. Then have your family. You will be better able to support your children with a good education as a foundation regardless of how you use that education.
okay, ive had sex with my ex and my current boyfriend.. i use to be able to orgasim on top during sex but now i cant even do that ANYMORE. maybe its because i use to be tigether.. i dont understand why everyone else ENJOYS SEX AND I CANT. ive looked on google bllablahblagh excercise does nothing. honestly i dont even feel fit to be a women, i almost comitted suicide because of it. whats the point of being a women if you cant climax from sex? I know it sounds stupid but i wanna enjoy it like everyone else. Everytime me and my boyfriend try of course he loves it but i literally feel something for ten seconds then NOTHING. i hate myself. i hate my body. i just want to enjoy sex like everyone else cause everytime me and my boyfriend try and it doesnt feel good i contemplate suicide.
Hold on, there may not be anything wrong with you, and not enjoying sex is no reason to be committing suicide as there are way to fix this problem.
You maybe one of the many women who are more clitoral than vaginal when it comes to sex. Meaning you need a greater amount of clitoral stimulation during sex. One way to find this out is to masturbate and see if you can bring yourself to climax by stimulating your clitoris. If this works then you know what your problem is.
Rectifying clitoral stimulation during sex is simply a matter of finding positions where you or your partner can stimulate your clit while having intercourse. T your partner good positions are the doggy position (rear entry) or the cow girl position (you on top) On either of these positions you or your partner can stimulate your clit while your partner is enjoying vaginal intercourse.
If clitoral stimulation does not bring you to a climax than visit your gynecologist. Don't be ashamed to tell the doctor what you are experiencing. Trust me on this the doctor has heard this before and after examining you to make sure there is nothing wrong internally will offer suggestions.
I have talked with my 35 yr old son many times to attend college, and he has not done so as of yet. Is there any thing more I can do to get him to see he needs to attend college to make a better life for himself? He says he going but has not. He is very smart and intelligent and made good grades in school.
I've generally found Peeps advice to be right on target. As a parent of a young man who was never interested in school I know how you feel. It took a tour in the Army to set him on a course to see where he wanted to go and then he did what was required to get here. As the saying goes though you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.
When I look back over the many decades of my life I have seen numerous examples of parents forcing their children to College only to see them come out under a load of dept and be miserable. In the beginning of my own career I saw friends of mine go into the building trades a make more money than I did in my 9 to 5 College Management Training Program. They wore comfortable clothes I had to wear a suit ad tie. I was miserable they were happy.
I also had friends that had jobs that didn't pay a lot of money but they were happy as the job allowed them a lifestyle they where happy with. Some drove trucks. One worked in a fast food restaurant. He made a fool of all us as he now own several of the chains restaurants and I believe he is worth several million dollars. Even so you can still find him behind the grill on occasions because that is what makes him happy.
Your son is 35 years old; the chances of you changing what he is, is minimal at best.If he likes who he is and is happy with what he is doing. Is able to financially care for himself, then stop trying to make him something he does not what to be. All you will be doing is driving a wedge between you and him.
There may come a time when he will see a need for more education. When he does he will go after the education he needs or wants; it will be something he wants, not something you try to force him into. Until then let it go, you have done you job. You have raised him to be a law abiding self-reliant individual. That is all anyone is asked to do as a parent.
im a young female my names sarah, im in middle school. And i have been going to theray for a couple months now..and nothing is changing..and i dont feel anything will ever change. I have literally been AT rock bottom. From being THE MOST funny and social butterfly to being a boring sad depressed girl. Im making some changes, but the cause of my depression and suicide thoughts will always stick with me. I just simply dont care about anyone or anything, and i dont care if i died right now. Dont get mistaken, i am NOT suicial now, i am depressed now, hoping to recover. But i feel like i never will. school, friends, sports, family that used to be a 10 now its a 0. serioulsy, i dont know what to do. those elements in my life have already gone down hill, i feel it would be a miracle if i got to the top again and stayed there, is there any hope at all?
The fact that you are seeing a therapist is good. I have two questions for you. 1) Are you on medication and being monitored by a Psychiatrist. 2) Do you feel comfortable with your Therapist?
First question; if you are on medication and being monitored by a Psychiatrist then ask mom or dad to take you back to the doctor for a med check as you may need a different medication. Should your family doctor be prescribing ask your therapist to suggest to your parents that they take you to a Psychiatrist for medication prescribing.
No you are not crazy your are depressed. Since depression is controlled by chemicals in the brain a psychiatrist is the better doctor to prescribe medication. If you are not on medication you would probably feel better faster if you were on some light form of antidepressant.
Second Question; It is very important that you feel comfortable with your therapist. This is the person you can tell your deepest darkest secrets to in total confidence knowing that they will not be told to your parents. If you are not comfortable with this therapist then you are not getting full benefit of the therapy. You should ask your parents to find you a new therapistfor you.
I know this for like you I suffer from depression. I take medication and I see a therapist I am very comfortable speaking to. Things do not get better right away, but they do get better. How fast they get better depends a lot on you and how much you open up with your therapist. Whatever the problem is he/she needs to find it before he/she can help you with it.
While I am very much older than you it took a very long time to get to the root of my problem but my therapist stuck to it. In The end I finally admitted and came to grips with the fact that as a child I was mentally abused by my father. Quite an awakening of someone my age, but something I was always somewhat aware of but kept buried. I tell you this not that I am proud of what happened but to show you that therapy does work. If you and your therapist work together as I and my therapist did.
You will get better just hang in there and be open with your therapist, he/she is there for you. When he/she meets with your parents it is not to tell them your secrets, he/she/would never do that. Your parents are being told what to do to help you from that time until the next time you meet with him/her.
Im 10 and im allready trying to kill myself. It feels like my life has ended cause i lost everything that matters to me. It feels like my soul is all darknessn now. I changed and i feel that im like evil now and i want to be alone. I want to kno the quickest and least painful way to die (other than old age).Any kind of magic or anything i cant stand my life any more. I wanted to try if witchcraft would work but i dont have wat i need.
Other than the onset of puberty what in you life has changed to make you feel this way. Your melodramatic statement your "soul is in darkness" does not say much. Are you trying to say you have changed from good to evil.
Frankly I don't believe that. We all have some evil in us though for the most part we are good. You are 10 years old; what could you possibly done to make you feel this way?
I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I can tell you there is not much you can have or could not do that we cannot fix or forgive. No matter what you may have done your family will always love you. They may not like you at the moment for what you may or may not have done but there is a difference between like and love.
Suicide hurts the people that love you. No matter what you think you are loved and cared about. I care about you or I wouldn't take the time to write you. The same is true for any other advisor that writes to you. We care about the people we answer.
Go to your parents and tell them what is going on with you and how you feel. Yes, tell them you are trying to hurt yourself. If fro some reason they should tell you to stop being silly then pick up the phone an cal 911.
Tell the call taker what and how you feel. They will take you seriously and send the proper help to your home.
I and the rest of the advisers are always here to help you with advice and answers whenever you need them. Hurting yourself is not the solution getting help is the solution.
About a week ago, I got two of my teeth filled in because I had two cavities. Then ever since then everytime I drink water and the water touches my teeth where they are filled in, it hurts . It feels coldd. Is this normal or should I go to the dentist and ask why this is happening?
P.S. It doesn't hurt when I chew . Just when i drink water hot or cold.
It is probably not normal, but then I'm not a dentist. The best person to ask is your dentist. Give the doctors office a call and explain to them what is happening. They will tell you if the doctor wants to see you or if they feel this is a normal reaction to the type of filling the dentist uses.
If they fell this normal based on the type of filling used and it continues to bother you. Ask the dentist if the filling can be replaced with another type of filling. If the answer is no seek a second opinion from another dentist.
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I don't even know where to start. I was in an abusive relationship with a man I thought I'd marry, until he hurt me. He stopped me from running away from him by grabbing my throat from behind and tossing me in the opposite direction...so I have whiplash, and maybe a disk problem. Now I wake up every day in severe neck and back pain, and sometimes it's just really difficult to convince myself to keep going.
Don't worry, I'm not suicidal. I'm just severely unmotivated, to the point that I forget to eat, have no appetite, want to do nothing but sleep and cuddle my cat, and feel uncomfortable out of my apartment for more than a couple of hours.
I have a job, and I love my job, but the pain is making it so difficult recently...people depend on me, and I find myself not caring, which is wholly unlike me.
I'm seeing a pain management specialist and I've had procedures done, I'm on pain medication and antidepressants, and I just...I don't know.
Anyone have any words of encouragement? I just...need a kind word or two... :(
Thanks to all who respond.
I would like you to contact an organization called RAINN. This stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They operate a website as well as a 24/7 National Hot Line: 1-800-656-Hope or http://www.rainn.org/.
This organization have centers that are generally close to you staffed by professionals who can put you in contact with people in your own town who can help you. These people can be Doctors, Nurses, Lawyers even police contacts who will discuss any criminal complain options that may be open for you to bring. From what you wrote it sounds like you have a criminal assault complaint you could bring which would help bring you some closure.
Hopefully you left this man, if not they will help you get away from him. So please call them or contact them over the web, even if you must do so from work.
my vagina is leaking some almost green ooze. it itches really bad & scabbing is starting to form. im so scared to tell my boyfriend.. or my mom. help! also my vaj lips are getting really saggy.
I totally agree with WingYan's advice, which is good advice. Go see a doctor.
Since you did not include your age and even though you didn't. I'm pretty certain I'm old enough to be your grandfather so I'm going to offer you some advice.
When you have a medical problem such as this the best advice does not from one of us. We are not allowed, not qualified to give medical advice. None of us on this site are doctors. It is also impossible to give proper medical advice over a forum such as this. Your mother, Aunt, grandparent or even your father is the best person to seek advice from when not feeling well or having a problem such as this.
I'm sure you are wondering if the problem you wrote about is an STD. You could still be a virgin but could you get it from being fingered. That's not the question at the moment but if it is one you want answers to I'm sure your doctor will supply the correct answer.
If you are over 13 you are by law entitled to medical confidentiality. The law is called HIPPA. Under this law anyone over 13 must give there doctor(s) written permission to release medical information to anyone, including your parents. The doctor cannot tell your parents anything about your visit without risking going to jail.
This means that you can, if you need to, ask to see the doctor and not have to tell your parents exactly the why or what the doctor said was wrong. All they need to know, if you want to tell them is the doctor prescribed some medication and you'll b fine. I think that is a reasonable thing to tell them if you do not wish to say anything else.
This also means you can ask your doctor questions relating to anything about your body or health and your doctor will give you a straight answer. Some doctors can and will refuse to discus abortion.
So in a nut shell never ignore a physical problem with your body. Go see a doctor. If you need to ask your parents, and you shouldn't if you are over 13, then ask them. Don't be afraid to discuss women things with your mom, you don't have to discuss your sex life but I'm sure you may have other questions. Remember mom was once your age and she has seen everything you are experiencing and can help you navigate the road ahead.
Now go see the doctor
I am the mother of 5 sons. We were always very close. Three years ago, my 2nd born was married to a girl he had been dating for several years. Both were in their mid to late twenties and already well established in their respective careers. It became evident after the engagement, that she did not care for our family very much. At the wedding reception, when the happy couple went around and visited each table after dinner, she decided that she would only visit those tables on her side and not ours. Our son did carry on and visited the rest of the tables despite her snub. After she had danced with her father, and he with her mother, my son came over and asked me to dance. It was so beautiful and I still cherish that time. He came over to his father and asked him to dance with the bride. At the start of the next dance, my husband walked straight across the dance floor to her and asked if she would dance with him. She looked him straight in the eye and said "NO".
In 2009, my dear mom died and I was devastated. My son called me and told me he was sorry for my loss. It was a terrible time. Later, I realized his wife didn't call me or even send a card. I was still emotional but I felt he should know this upset me. I emailed and told him how hurt I was, and felt that she didn't have any respect for me. As his mother, the person that gave birth to him he should give me respect for at least giving birth to him. I could not believe his response! He said I had to earn his respect, and "should the bastard son of a crack whore give her respect just because she gave birth to him?" Those words keep echoing in my mind. I cannot get over the hurt they caused and broke my heart.
I need advice on how I can move on with my life. I especially would welcome advice from other mothers. I don't know if I should talk to him or show him how much he hurt me, give him silence and maybe having my husband standing with me and saying how dare he did this to your mother. He didn't say anything to him back then. I feel all alone. I have no females in my family. Just males, they can't understand a mothers heart. Please help me. I would appreciate your feedback.
BTW - I've never done crack or any other drug. I homeschooled all of my boys through high school and all except my 18 year old have done exceptionally well in college. And my 'baby' will be starting next semester!
Jann (55 Female)
I'm not sure I can explain, in fact I know I can't explain why your son responded as he did. What I might be able to do is give you some insight into the other side of things from the male prospective. I do agree your daughter in-law was quite rude not to dance at her wedding with her husband.
My wife never really cared for my parents and in her defence she had good reason. I on the other hand got the better end of the deal as far as in-laws go. While I was welcomed with open arms and good ethnic cooking. My wife was always kept at a distance. While my family was never religious the fact that my wife and I were of two different religions may have been my mothers reason. On my in-laws side of the family they were very religious and my being of a different religion and background didn't seem to bother them.
It has always been that the son joins the women's family more so then the women joins the mans family. The old saying goes something like; "I didn't lose a daughter I gained a son. The women has been, still is and will most likely continue to be the center and backbone of the family. She bears the children, nurtures them and does just about everything for them regardless of how liberated she may feel she is.
None of this explains why your son is the way he Si or the answer he sent. Mothers can and do over mother their sons at times and maybe your son feel you did this. It could be your daughter in-law is reacting to how and what your son has told her about how he was raised and what he felt he endured. It may be he felt being home schooled caused him to miss out on much of life, or other things.
Before you put all the blame on her remember one thing. She has only recently come into your life. Something must have given her what she feels is just cause to feel this way towards you.
I know this is kind of a harsh answer and not the one you want to hear. What I'm asking or suggesting that before you look to place blame look inward first.
my name is Rachel and iam 21 years ols and I go to a mental health center every day of the week but there's this guy that about 50 years old who goes there and he has rubbed me on the leg, touched me on the shoulder, and played footsie with me after my boyfriend threatned to slap him and I have constantly told him to stop but he still keeps doing it and won't stop. I think he thinks just becouse my boyfriend is in a wheel chair he can't back up what he says he's going to do but he can and he will becouse he is very protective over me and he loves me and he will do any thing to protect me but I don't want kenny my boyfriend to get hurt what should I do?
Being sexually harassed, which this is since he is touching you, is not excused because of mental illness. Report this to the administrators of the health center as well as either your parents or care taker. Let your parents, care taker and the health enter administrators handle this situation. Tell your boyfriend not to touch this other person for mental health issues do not excuse him if he assaults this person.
I would like some outsiders opinoins please... I will be married almost 5 years and we have a great marriage. We love and trust each other very much. We have our good days and bad :) LOL However, there is something that just makes me sick to my stomach and I just cannot get over it and he is not willing to make any change. There is woman that works at his job and he talks with her and gets along with her fine. However, I don't care for her very much. Well, whenever I we bump into each other or I go to his place of employment she will talk to him and treat me as if I am not even there... And he is ok with that! Am I crazy to get upset? Please help! I don't want to ruin our trust but it just seems like he should just respect me enough to say this is my wife! Be respectful... I am not saying you have to like me. You dont even have to talk to me but dont bud into our conversation and start your own like I am not imporatant... Please advise...Thanks :)
This is a hard question to answer as anyway you look at it there are problems to be had.
Should you go to your husband and in anyway shape or form tell him that his friendship with this women has to stop. If you were to ask him to ask her to respect you as his wife when you visit his work place, or both. This brings up the problem of trust between you and your husband which will eat away at your marriage.
You could invite this women out to lunch for a girl/girl conversation and let her know how you feel about how she treats you and the attention she is paying toward your husband. Again that trust issue between you and your husband is going to come between you.
That fact is your husband comes home to you every night and sleeps with you in your bed. That should tell you that there is no reason for you to be concerned over this women.
If you have not already done so you might have a conversation with your husband about her. Something about how rude she breaking into your conversations when you visit. You can understand if it is important business that needs his immediate attention. If not you would feel a lot better if he would say something to the effect; "excuse me I'm talking to my wife at the moment, this can wait until later."
If you approach it from this angle the trust issue is avoided and you are putting rudeness on her when you are trying to have a private moment or conversation with your husband.
please help, i have a lump in my boob and im 10
I'm someone that is old enough to be your grand parent so please read what I have to tell you, as I'm telling it to you straight.
First: As to the lump in your breast. The only way to find out what it is to go to the doctor and have a Mammogram, MRI and if the the doctor thinks it is required a biopsy. None of these test means that the lump is cancerous. These test are the only way for the doctor(s) to actually look at the lump and see it for what it is. Once the doctor knows what the lump is they will know what to do or not do. For know tell your mother you found a lump in you breast. Let her feel where it is and ask her to take you to the doctor. A breast lump is not to be ignored until a doctor tells you to ignore it.
Second: As a parent and a grandparent what I am about to tell you is very important. You are about to enter a stage in your life where changes are going to occur in you body and in you life as well. There are somethings you can talk to friends about but there are somethings you really must trust in your mother to tell her about, when and if something occurs.
Some of the things you would want to discuss with mom are; should you use a tampon or a pad and if so what kind and how to insert it properly. Strange discharges from your vagina, any type of pelvic pain, urinary problems and anything that has to do with your health, sexual health and well being.
Three: In three years, when you're 13 the law says you will have medical confidentiality. This means you can see your doctor and the doctor can not discus you medical condition or problem with your parents without your permission. Your parents will then only be able to make medical decisions for you if you are unable to so for yourself. Until then your parents will and must be told about all medical conditions as they relate to you.
Even though you will have medical confidentiality there will be somethings it will be better to ask mom about then to ask your friends about. Remember mom was once your age and went through everything your going through. She will have good advice on such things as to how to fend boys off.
Remember one thing about boys at your age; they confuse lust for love. Like you they are going through puberty and they are wired to have sex to relief the hormone build up. I know I was once a teenage boy.
Now go see a doctor and get that lump looked at. I'm fairly confident it will turn out to be noting serious.
Okay I'm a seventeen year old (turning eighteen soon) girl who is a virgin that wants twin baby girls.I'm still in High school (ninth grade)and I was just wondering can I find a doctor to inject sperm into me? Or is that illegal in New York?
It is not illegal, it is called artificial insemination. It is used quite often by doctors to aid women who have trouble conceiving naturally or who are using donor sperm because of one reason or another.
Given your age and High School grade level I would not recommend you getting pregnant at this time. You need to complete high school so you can find a good paying job to support your babies.
i am on my out the door to killl myself i have no fear and am in ppain i just wish someone cared
At least 3 people care, the 3 of us who have taken the time to write to you. Suicide is not an answer or a solution
By writing to us you have reached out for help. Please take the next step, pick up the phone and dial 911 or the emergency number for where you live. This well bring people to you that want to help you and take you to the hospital where you can get help. Don't worry about the cost they have to treat you and there are programs in place to cover you if you are uninsured.
Wanting to commit suicide says you are under the dark cloud of depression. As someone who suffers from Chronic depression and fights daily to stay ahead of it; I can tell you that what you think you are seeing or feeling is not whet id happening. Depression skews your objectivity and impressions. Once you get your depression under control; and you will with the proper help, you will see things more clearly.
Please call 911 now or go to a Fire station or the closest hospital emergency room and ask for help.
Hello,
my left and right lung hurt that i'm rarely bieng able to walk because every move i make my both lungs hurt so bad that they produce irresistable pain!
So any ideas for what's the reason for all this pain ??
Thank you ;
If you are having considerable pain which may be causing you to have trouble breathing;This is considered a life threatening situation. Anytime you have trouble breathing for no apparent reason, like a stuffy nose, you need to see a doctor as respiratory arrest can happen.
As someone who is a member of a fire department rescue squad I would suggest you pick up the phone and dial 911. If you do not want to do that call you doctor immediately or go to the nearest hospital emergency room now.
is it okay to have breast pain after losing virginity?how long does it last?
This does not sound normal. One has nothing to do with the other.
You do not say how old you are. As long as you are older that 13 the law gives you medical confidentiality. This means you do not have to share with your parents the fact you are no longer a virgin and your doctor cannot tell them without a written release from you. The penalty for doing so is a long jail term and a substantial fine for anyone, the doctor or anyone in the doctors office to do so.
If you need a parent to make an appointment to see the doctor all you really need to tell them is you are not feeling well. If you want you can tell them your breast hurt and for how long.
What you tell your parents and if you have to tell your parents is not important. What is important is you see the doctor. Here again it may be nothing more than growing pains. Only a doctor can make that determination, so make the appointment. Tell the doctor everything and tell him/her this is confidential and your parents are not to be informed.
18/f
I'm really into this guy I've been talking to for awhile and I want to have sex with him, he's the perfect guy and he's so sweet. He wants to have sex with me too we just haven't picked a time to hangout yet. I'm ready so please no lectures about "finding the right guy". I haven't told him that I'm a virgin, I'm guessing he thinks I'm not because he knows that my last relationship was a year and a half long and probably figures I had sex with my exboyfriend. He's not a virgin. I'm really nervous about what it'll be like, so I have a couple questions: Did it hurt/what'd it feel like? Can you compare it to putting in a tampon? I wear tampons. And should I tell him that I'm a virgin? I don't want him to go like super hard on me because he thinks I'm not.
I am old enough to be your grandfather. I believe in giving straight answers to the questions I chose to answer on this website. The given below is the best information I have or have researched for your question.
I found the website, shown at the end, while answering a very similar question for other young ladies. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than a partner would at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman most always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I should be telling you to wait. I am sure your parents have already given you that advice and it is good advice. It is also hypocritical of most of us as most all of us my age and younger engaged in sex long before we were married. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urges without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is generally apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. At your present ages you can have all the intimacy of sex using these alternatives without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.
A couple months ago, my stomach began growling out of nowhere. I figured I was just hungry, so I kept eating, but even after I ate, my stomach would keep growling.
I had a normal eating schedule every day but ever since then, I've been eating WAY more than I have. My stomach always growls and if it doesn't, then my stomach feels like it's empty. I'm not hungry sometimes but it'll tell me otherwise.
I've been getting a lot more gas since then, too, and it's really embarrassing being around people and being hungry all the time.
Even while I eat, my stomach growls and reacts strongly. It never hurts, it's just always empty or hungry.
I've been a vegetarian (but I eat fish) for 6 years, and nothing has been a problem since a couple weeks ago so I don't think it's the no-meat problem since my body is already used to that.
I'm 16, 5'2", and 105 lbs.
The best advice any of us on this website can give you is to see a doctor. None of us are doctors and should not and cannot be offering medical advice.
For a stomach to growl every once and a while can be perfectly normal. For your stomach to growl and feel empty even after you have eaten does not sound normal and to continue unabated for this long tells me you need to check in with your doctor.
There may or may not be anything wrong, only your doctor can say for sure once he or she has examined you.