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Why can't I enjoy sex like everyone else does?
okay, ive had sex with my ex and my current boyfriend.. i use to be able to orgasim on top during sex but now i cant even do that ANYMORE. maybe its because i use to be tigether.. i dont understand why everyone else ENJOYS SEX AND I CANT. ive looked on google bllablahblagh excercise does nothing. honestly i dont even feel fit to be a women, i almost comitted suicide because of it. whats the point of being a women if you cant climax from sex? I know it sounds stupid but i wanna enjoy it like everyone else. Everytime me and my boyfriend try of course he loves it but i literally feel something for ten seconds then NOTHING. i hate myself. i hate my body. i just want to enjoy sex like everyone else cause everytime me and my boyfriend try and it doesnt feel good i contemplate suicide.
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The question is here is not why you can't enjoy sex. It's more why are you not letting yourself enjoy sex. You seem to ask too many questions about yourself as feeling you are not good enough or reassuring yourself of who u are. Sometimes we lose our way and it contemplates thoughts in our heads and can distract us during different times even during sex. The question is what made or is currently making u not be yourself and fixing that aspect where everything else will fall into place. Sex is something you appreciate and enjoy because you are celebrating you and your partner. But if you have to think about it or feel distracted because you are not together with yourself then it becomes a distraction. Suicide is just a cowardly way of saying you're not worth anything and for you to think that is absurd. Appreciate yourself more like your boyfriend does and you will feel whole again!
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I think suicide is a little drastic for not enjoying sex. Here is some advice to get back in the swing of things. I think you need to discover your body on your own first before you work on being with your boyfriend. Try to take a few hours and have a "play day". Take a nice relaxing bath and discover ways you enjoy being touched, including where and how hard or soft. Don't rub your clit but everywhere else is fine. Go to your computer and watch a little porn (redtube.com and xhamster.com) and find out what turns you on. Lay on the bed and let your mind go blank. Go slow and tease yourself. Let the orgasm build. the longer you wait, the bigger the O will be. I have my best O's when I've teased myself all day. When you get close to orgasm, break out a vibrator or use your fingers on your clit and hopefully you'll have a nice big O. After you've done that a few different times, you'll be ready to move onto trying with your boyfriend. When your with him, go as slow as possible. Start with slow kisses and let his hands roam over your body but have him stay away from your clit to prolong the teasing. Your mind and body needs to be ready before he moves on to the target area. That should be the last thing he works on. I think you'll know after a good amount of teasing, when your ready to cum. I hope you let me know how things turn out and if you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Hold on, there may not be anything wrong with you, and not enjoying sex is no reason to be committing suicide as there are way to fix this problem.
You maybe one of the many women who are more clitoral than vaginal when it comes to sex. Meaning you need a greater amount of clitoral stimulation during sex. One way to find this out is to masturbate and see if you can bring yourself to climax by stimulating your clitoris. If this works then you know what your problem is.
Rectifying clitoral stimulation during sex is simply a matter of finding positions where you or your partner can stimulate your clit while having intercourse. T your partner good positions are the doggy position (rear entry) or the cow girl position (you on top) On either of these positions you or your partner can stimulate your clit while your partner is enjoying vaginal intercourse.
If clitoral stimulation does not bring you to a climax than visit your gynecologist. Don't be ashamed to tell the doctor what you are experiencing. Trust me on this the doctor has heard this before and after examining you to make sure there is nothing wrong internally will offer suggestions.
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