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Am I a virgin?
So Ive never had sex with a guy before but I have had boyfriends and we have "fooled around". So its not like Im a prude or something. Ive been a little crazy since I got to college mostly having fun. I have gotten more confident with my body after realizing that it gets me a lot of positive attention. Like Ill wear more revealing clothes and let guys touch me where as before I would not because I lacked confidence. So because of this Ive noticed that guys always ask for sex. But Ive never done it before and I dont want to get pregnant or a disease so I usually just say no. They never really ask me if Im a virgin I guess they assume I just dont want to. But last weekend a guy who I was making out with and doing more stuff with, asked me if I was and I lied and said no because I was embarrassed. He started to pressure me and asked me what I liked in bed and stuff. I couldnt really tell him because I dont know so he told me something he really liked to do that girls like. And Im not sure but I think the tip of his part went inside me. I wasnt drunk. It felt really good and didnt hurt at all. Do you think I should ask him? I sort of stopped him after I realized what was going on and I think he thought it was weird.
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Your not a virgin anymore. Congratulations. You lost your virginity to some guy who didn't even love you. I'm not trying to sound mean, but by the way you are talking, you have no respect for yourself. You go out and lead guys on and than turn them down. Your going to get the reputation of being "Easy" and no guy will want a relationship with you, all they will want is some sex, and stuff. Now you need to make sure you use condoms. All it takes is one time and you could get pregnant, and Im sure you don't want that. Next time be more wise, and chose the guys you have sex with more carefully.
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This may sound a little crewed but the saying is, "no jacket no service."I'm old enough to be your grandfather, I give advice her so that I can offer straight answers to questions like yours. We see a lot of questions like yours on this site and at the end of what I write to you I will add a website I think you will find helpful.
Two things are very important if you are considering having sexual relations.
First: If you are not already on birth control, visit the schools medical center and have a doctor prescribe birth control pills for you. Most birth control pills require you to be on them for a specific period of time before they are effective. Make sure you follow the manufactures instructions for taking them and how long to wait before they become effective.
Second: Never engage in intercourse without having your partner use a condom. Not only is the condom a second source of birth control, it is a barrier protection against STDs and the AIDs virus. Until you are in a long term monogamous relationship and both of you have been tested, a condom is required.
Sex between two consenting adults is a beautiful thing. For a women, her first sexual intercourse can be a wonderful experience with the right man. Don't be afraid to tell your first partner that you are a virgin. You don't have to be in love with this man, that can come later. He should be someone you trust and feel comfortable with.
Given that you are both in college he should be old enough to understand what you are offering him and want to make sure this is a wonderful experience for you. He should find a place that you feel comfortable and secure in. One where you will not be disturbed by or over heard by a roommate. Once you have found this place and he is the trusting man you hope for he will be gentle and loving; taking his time to make sure you are ready for him to enter you and take your virginity.
As I wrote earlier sex is a beautiful thing between two consenting adults. As long as both parties agree to something it is neither wired or wrong. One of the most beautiful things about sex is exploring your partners body, finding out their likes and dislikes. Communication is essential during the first few times a couple makes love. It is also essential that both parties understand that NO means no and STOP means STOP.
There are a lot of different areas of sex that two consenting adults can explore together. Some you will like and some you will not like. If you can possibly see your way bast any preconceived feelings about any of these areas I would suggest trying something one time before saying that you don't like it. As I said as long as you both agree it is your business only.
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I agree with others. You should respect yourself more. You're going to get the reputation of being easy and the kind of men that sleep with eay girls dont respect them. This guy was pressuring you and thats not okay.
Take the time to find someone who actually cares about you and be honest with them. If you have to stop due to pain, if you bleed, he cant go all the way in etc then he's going to figure out that you havent had sex.
Also, if you havent had penetrative sex then youre technically a virgin.
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In my opinion you are going to have to be careful. Chances are you aren't pregnant but freak occurances are possible so just make sure you get your period and everything. I wouldn't be conserned. HOWEVER you could still get an STD even though nothing really happened. I would, for my own peice of mind, get tested. FROM NOW ON though you're going to have to watch what is goin on or you will have to actually be worried about pregnancy or an STD. As far as being a virgin... to me it is a conscious decision. If you feel you are then you are... I think you are but that is just me. Many religions would say no. But its you who really decides that. If he had went all the way then you wouldn't be.
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