Helllo (:
My name is Kaci && Im 18 years old. I know I am young, but I have been through somethings that have made me seem as if I am a lot more older than what I am. I love to help people. At my school, I am the person people come too regardless if they know me or not. Advice is what I do best. My strengths are relationships. Im always right when it comes to those, just not when it comes to my own, hahah. I may be young, but I promise you I will help anyone the best I can and I will not let you go through it alone. Im the type of person that likes to know what happens after I gave the advice, so don't be a stranger; Need Answers? Ask questions! *xoxo
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Have recently been dumped by my 50 year old girl friend and she will not tell me the truth why. Naturally I am devastated.
She had accepted my ring, money to save her home etc etc. We never ever met but I was completely honest as she was ? And had been for over 8 months. She still writes, says she wants and needs me in her life but it is very difficult. She is married but very unhappy. I am deeply in love with her and was prepared to buy us outright a home put it in her name and care for her all my life. I am 8 years older than her, retired and well off never having to worry over money. Have I over dine it? Sent too much Money $ 25000 or what. She was my last chance of true happiness. Please no talk of loads more out there. It took me 25 years to find her. (link)
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Wow, this is sad. I'm sorry this has happened to you. I sincerly apologise.
The truth is always hard to handle. Its bittersweet. Wouldn't you agree?
Now, I understand that you love her and that you were relieved when you found her because you thought your search for love was over until she came along.
But, you have to understand, and try not to be blinded by love that if she really wanted to be with you she would. If she loved you as much as she loved you, she would have left her husband. I know it hurts to hear this, because it isn't what you want to hear, but sweetie, she used you. She took advantage of your great, big heart, and demolished it.
You need to let her go. She can't give you the things you need from her. She's in it for all the wrong reasons. Would you rather be with part of her, with no physical comfort, and be used,
or be independent, and not have to worry about someone taking advantage of the amazing things you can give a real woman?
Once again, I'm so sorry.
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This is going to be SUPER long, but i'm need of some serious help. i'm 17/F and my bf is 21. ive been with him for 1 year, and its literally been the best year of my life. he has made me happy in so many ways i didnt even know were possible. along with that, he's also brought me down to my lowest. the thought of losing him seriously gives me suicidal thoughts, i have cried for 7 hours during arguements and yesterday it even got physical. it got so bad i started punching him and telling him he was an ass****, i attempted jumping out of his car, he put me in a chokehold and called me a slut. i seriously lose myself when i fight with him, like i black out and i dont see anything but pain. on top of me and him having horrible fights, i have this extreme jealousy towards his ex of 4 years, because they were super serious and she is still crazy in love with him. i'm terrified he'll leave me and get back with her, or that she'll convince him to cheat on me with her. i dont know if i would be more miserable with him or without him. i feel like he's my only choice, i live in a small town and i know i will NEVER find anyone like him. i'm just too crazy in love with him. i want to learn how to fix this without me being so crazy about everything, and maybe stop caring less? PLEASE HELP. (link)
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This may sound harsh, but in order to be happy with someone, you have to be happy with yourself.
The anger you have when you guys fight isn't normal. It's outragious.
You and him are doomed. There is no fixing it. I'm sorry. You must controll your jealousy and realize that if he wanted to be with his ex, he would be. He wouldn't waste his time in being with you if he really wanted her. Do you get what I'm saying? Obviously he doesn't want her, if he's with you. Ya know? Being jealous over an ex, is ridiculous. She's an ex for a reason. She's in the past, and if you don't fix yourself, you will be in the past too.
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well im 14 almost 15/f and he just turned 16 for a while now ive noticed he is really sweet to me sometimes i only see him on sundays at church then we eat lunch at my grandmas and sometimes play hide and seek with my cousins well yesterday at her house he was trying to be with just me and when we were about to leave my grandmas to go to church me and him just hung out outside we sat on the swings well he kinda like carved his name into the wooden swingset then he said he was gonna carve mine too i was like no dont do mine then he wanted me to come sit on the 2 person swing with him then he wanted me to come sit in the back of the truck with him then in the car on the way to church he wanted to draw a smiley face on my hand and he held my hand for a few seconds after he finished. anyways i dont see him at school cuz we go to different schools so i dont really know how he acts around other girls i was just wondering if you thought he might like me (link)
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You know what Missy! (since I don't know your name!) I think he may just like you! (:
Now if you are really wanting to be sure, how about you ask him? Next time you see him, whenever your alone, ask him straight forward if he likes you!
Best of luck!
need anymore advice, inbox me girl!
xoxo*
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My boyfriend is my best friend! We've been dating for almost two months but we have been good friends for about six months. We're inseperable and have a strong trust and chemistry with each other. I've only had sex twice, and so has he, but we both feel ready to go to the next step. My boyfriend has always been very patient with me and he is so sweet. I have never felt more comfortable with anyone like I do with him. I'm not very experienced with sex and I'm a little nervous. We're planning to do this on Friday, and we will use protection. I'm just scared I won't be satisfying. I never enjoyed giving oral and I'm very sensitive, and pretty tight... So I don't know if I will please him like I want to. I am so in love with him, as he is with me, and I just want to have an enjoyable, passionate sexual experience with him without being nervous... Any advice? (link)
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I know exactly what your going through. My boyfriend was my bestfriend, except he was a virgin and I had 2 sex partners before him. Being a virgin was very complicated because he had it set in his mind how "amazing" sex would be, so of course I was nervous that I wouldnt meet up to his expectations.
I gaurentee your boyfriend is probably just as nervous as you are. Boys don't communicate with how they feel or let there emotions get the best of them. Thats just how it is.
If your boyfriend loves you as much as he says he does than no need to be worried. Just relax. (easier said than done, I know!) but the more you let your nervousness get the best of you, the less you'll be able to enjoy it. Your boyfriend is going to love everything you do. Before Friday, ask him some questions, so you know what things you can do to "blow his mind" (:
for example:
1. What is something you've always wanted a girl to do to you sexually?
2. What's your biggest turn in during sex?
ect.
finding out the answers to these questions or any others you have in mind, will not only please him, but make him thrilled to know you remember and your doing what makes him feel great.
You can also be honest with him, tell him "You know this may sound silly, but I'm kind of nervous. I want to do everything just right for you to show you how much I love you"
than explain to him what your nervous about, and than he will be aware and you guys can have an intimate experience;
*The best kind of experience I ever had was when my boyfriend kinda of directed me in the things he wanted done. He would simply tell me "Like that", "Faster" "slower", ect.
and I would do the same. Communication is the best at reaching your passionate, enjoyable, sexual experience!
Anymore question, you can inbox me. I hope I helped!
xoxo*
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Ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now. He treats me really good and we hardly ever fight. Weve gotten in a couple arguments and he gets on my nerves sometimes but who dosent ? The problem is for some reason my Bestfriend is always rolling her eyes or annoyed with him and I don't understand why. I think she thinks he's annoying but I love him and I want her to like him too since she's my Bestfriend. I know if I confront her about it all she will say is that she likes him and not to worry. So I don't know what to do. Should I just let it go or what? (link)
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Every couple will fight, and being with someone for that long, they will tend to get on your nerves. So yes thats normal.
How does your boyfriend feel about your bestfriend?
How long have you and this person been bestfriends?
If you have been bestfriend with her longer than you've been with your boyfriend, and she's just now recently started with the eye rolling than thats something you need to confront her with.
Tell her bestfriends are suppose to be honest with each other, and you've noticed the way she reacts to him, (eye rolling, being annoyed, ect) and your just curious why. Tell her that you love them both, and you want them to get along.
If she seems to get offended by you asking, or seems to not give you an answer, or says "I like him, don't worry", than just let it go.
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I dated the perfect guy a while back but had to let him go cause i'm not ready for a serious relationship. Of course he did what he had to do and moved on, so now he has a girlfriend. For some reason, we started hanging out again "as friends" but lately I felt like we both still have feelings for each other. We'd see each other 3 times a week, hang out at his apt alone, take me to dinner and flirt non stop. This has been going on for three months now. He asked me if he should break up with his girlfriend.. I told him no, because I know i'm still not ready so he is better off with her. Now he won't talk to me!! :( What the heck did I do? Why did he stop talking to me? Did I make the right decision of telling him to stay with her because i'm not ready, even though i know deep inside I wanna be with him? What should I do? And technically, we didn't cheat did we? cuz we aren't hooking up with each other!!
Thanks guys! (link)
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If you really believe in your heart that you are not ready, than you did the right thing. I can't give you perfect advice because I'm not sure how old you are, or how old he is.
If you guys didn't kiss, have sex, fool around, ect than no you did not cheat. Maybe the reason why he isn't talking to you is because he may have felt like he read your signals wrong. He hung out with you hoping for you guys to get back together and when he was open about it, you shot him down. You should try to talk to him, explain to him you wasn't trying to hurt him or lead him on. Tell him you would like to be with him but your afraid you'll hurt him and thats something you don't want to do.
How do you know your not ready? Are you sure its that, or are you scared of committment?
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Ok I know a lot of people think this after a break up but I really feel that I won't. I'm the kind of girl who is a lot different to my friends, like my friends will go in and out of relationships and it doesn't mean the same thing to them. I rarely meet a guy I really like/love so when I find love it's even more amazing to me.
I'm not really the type of girl who will strike up a conversation with a guy, mainly because I'm too shy. I have confidence in myself and I know I'm a great girl. But since my boyfriend broke up with me 6 months ago I have felt down. I feel like nobody will make me feel how he did. It's a real shame to me because neither of us really wanted the break up but he felt it was right to end it (maybe it is for the best) he's started seeing a new girl recently and it hurts because although I am happy for him (because she seems so nice and good for him) I still hurt thinking I wish that was me.
What can I do to make myself feel better? :-( (link)
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Its been six months, and if the pain hasn't went down than you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You need to realize that its not meant to be, and the more you stay grieving in the past, the longer it will take for the pain to go away and you to move on. Obviously, your ex doesn't really care about your break up as much as you do, because he has moved on. You need to pick yourself back up, and learn that he is just a stepping stone leading you to your perfect mate. You will fall in love again, in time, but you won't if you continue to act pathetic, and not pick yourself up. You have the strength and courage to pick yourself back up, so do it. I know its hard, but it gets a lot easier as soon as you help yourself.
There are a few things you could do to make your self feel better.
1. Go out with friends, keep your mind off of the situation.
2. When you see your ex with his new girlfriend, you need to realize that she is with him now, and how LUCKY you are for that. You know how much he hurt you, therefore you don't need him.
3. Find a new guy. It doesn't have to be anything serious. It can be someone just for "fun". Someone that will give you something else to think about.
For instants, "The only way to get over a man, is to get under another". This statement is practically true. We never really move on, we just find someone else to think and worry about. If the feelings aren't real than they will soon disappear, but if the feelings are real, they will remain to be there deep in your heart, but only remind you of what you and your lover had, to remind you of what you deserve && need in a man.
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Okay, lol I feel like I'm being so unfair to my boyfriend. I know its a ONCE a year thing. But I don't like football. So he is having his big superbowl party and everything and I feel left out.. is this wrong. I won't say anything, just need to know if anyone else feels like this. Ps. Its my birthday (link)
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Boys will be boys; You have to stop being selfish, and do things that he likes to do, REGARDLESS if you can't stand it. Im sure your boyfriend does things that he really could careless for, but he does it anyways because he cares about you. Super bowl only comes ONCE a year, you could have went to his party and tried to enjoy it, or atleast act like you did. Have him teach you things about football, to make you seem interested. My boyfriend is a major basketball fan, I DISPISE BASKETBALL SO MUCH! But I try to stick it out for him; I try to seem interested, so do the same.
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long story short: my boyfriend and i got into a heated argument last night and things just went a little too far (i was drunk and he was drinking a lot too). i said some things i didn't mean, but he took it to the next level and said some REALLY mean things.... what should i do? my feelings are completely hurt and i feel like i could never forgive him for saying those things... any advice would be great, thanks y'all. (link)
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You need to tell him how much his words hurt you. You also need to apologize for the mean words you said to him as well. You both need to sit down and realize that drinking together may not be the best thing to do together. If he hurt your feelings that bad, the only thing you can do is talk to him about it. Let him know exactly how it makes you feel.
You will have to forgive him one point or another or its just going to make your relationship with him fail, and Im sure you don't want that. You need to also understand that he probably didn't mean the harsh things he said to you, and if he did, than you need to figure that out. Ask him simply, "The other night when we was drunk and got into it, did you mean it when you said, blah blah blah?" and if he says no, tell him it really hurt you, and if he said he does mean it than ask him why does he feel that wayy.
Communication is the number one thing in a relationship, good luck; xoxo*
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18/f
I need some ideas to surprise my boyfriend (17 years old) for valentines day/weekend.
starting on saturday morning until sunday night.
saturday night we are going to a dance so that night is taken care of. but I wanted to do something extra special with him so he will always remember it.
I was thinking about saturday morning take him out to breakfast? then to this place where you can play laser tag and bumper cars and bowling. then go to the dance.
then sunday i need a little help. Im thinking about telling him we are going to the mall or something but instead drive somewhere with a great view and then watch the sunset (but we will be in the car since its cold where i live). then i for sure want to take him out to a nice romantic dinner. but i'm not sure what to do that first half of sunday.
any ideas? what have you (boy or girl) done for your significant other on valentines day that they thought was adorable?
it doesnt have to be like a place you went.. but like what did you do? did you buy them a gift? make them something? say something? anything that surprised them?
please and thank you :)
PS: nothing erotic or naughty.. keep it clean. (link)
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Im in the same boat you are in; Im 18 and my boyfriend is 17. I want to do something that will always be something he will remember. So what I have planned is I'm going to blind fold my boyfriend; drive him to a hotel; when I open the door; and he takes off his blind fold, theres going to be rose petals all over the floor, and on the wall its going to say "I Love You" in post-it notes with the reasons why I love him on there. Than I'll have a hot bath waiting for him wtih bubbles&&rose petals; and we are going to take a bath together; than I have a basket filled up with all his favorite candy bars; chips; soda's; ect. Than he's going to get a body massage; than total love makingg;; Than I have a mixed Cd with an instructional guide thing; for example: when your mad listen to number 4; when you miss me listen to number 16; when your sad listen to number 7; ect. Than I wrote him a really long poem; and a long love letter; along with a photo book from our very first picture to our very last.
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So Ive never had sex with a guy before but I have had boyfriends and we have "fooled around". So its not like Im a prude or something. Ive been a little crazy since I got to college mostly having fun. I have gotten more confident with my body after realizing that it gets me a lot of positive attention. Like Ill wear more revealing clothes and let guys touch me where as before I would not because I lacked confidence. So because of this Ive noticed that guys always ask for sex. But Ive never done it before and I dont want to get pregnant or a disease so I usually just say no. They never really ask me if Im a virgin I guess they assume I just dont want to. But last weekend a guy who I was making out with and doing more stuff with, asked me if I was and I lied and said no because I was embarrassed. He started to pressure me and asked me what I liked in bed and stuff. I couldnt really tell him because I dont know so he told me something he really liked to do that girls like. And Im not sure but I think the tip of his part went inside me. I wasnt drunk. It felt really good and didnt hurt at all. Do you think I should ask him? I sort of stopped him after I realized what was going on and I think he thought it was weird. (link)
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Your not a virgin anymore. Congratulations. You lost your virginity to some guy who didn't even love you. I'm not trying to sound mean, but by the way you are talking, you have no respect for yourself. You go out and lead guys on and than turn them down. Your going to get the reputation of being "Easy" and no guy will want a relationship with you, all they will want is some sex, and stuff. Now you need to make sure you use condoms. All it takes is one time and you could get pregnant, and Im sure you don't want that. Next time be more wise, and chose the guys you have sex with more carefully.
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For a long time I've been struggling with the idea of a "soul mate". I don't buy it. How can there be one person in this world who you're destined to be with? I know so many people who've had broken relationships and marriages. If my sould mate does exist, why is he so impossible to find?
I used to decide relationship status based on the people that I felt I NEEDED in my life. But honestly, do you really NEED any ONE person? Everybody you come across is going to leave at some point, even if it's just by death. That's reality. And the world isn't go to stop functioning and neither am I. I'll be sad, sure. But it won't physically kill me. I'm starting to believe that God allows us to choose who we WANT to be with rather than showing us who we NEED.
With that said, what happens when the person you WANT isn't what you NEED? (link)
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If your question is what's at the very bottom, than obviously if its not someone you need; than you need to move on. You are contradicting yourself in every aspect of your question. If you don't believe in "soul mates" or just the fact that there is someone made for you, than that is your opinion. Everyone has different ones. If the person you want, isn't what you need, than you obviously shouldn't be with them, especailly when you already know you don't need them. It's a simple question that your giving too much thought into, which will leave you alone and lonely.
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how long do it take for a hickey take to go away (link)
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About 4-6 days depending on the size, and color of the hickey, and the place it was left at.
If you are trying to get rid of it, try using tooth paste.
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if a boy you are dating calls you "boo" what EXACTLY dose it mean....i mean....cant guys come up with a better nickname then that ! ... you dont call your girlfriend a word people use to scare people on halloween ! lol ...my point is....what if i think it is acward for him to call me boo and i dont know really what he means , should i say "dont call me that please" and affend him ...or just go along with it...WOULD I PLEASE GET A LIL GIRL HELP ! lol :) (link)
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Girll! I hate being called boo too. This is the way I did it.
I simply asked my ex boyfriend what was his favorite name for a girl to call him, (pet name wise), and he told me. Than I asked him what his least favorite name for someone to call him was, and he would tell me. He asked me the same questions, and I simply told him being called "boo" gave me NO feeling whatsoever, and I just thought it was akaward. From than on, he NEVER called me that again, lol.
I think you should do it like that; therefore your not really hurting his feelings; and your actually satisfing your own. If he doesn't ask you the same question in return, than when he gives you the answer to his least favorite name, be like "why" and when he answers be like "I know what you mean, thats how I feel when a guy calls me boo, its just akward!" and he will catch on from there.
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I just get so nervous to hangout with guys. Ok so this guy wants to hangout tomorrow but then id have to tell my parents and i know they would be teasing me and some shit idk but I dont know what to do!! And then my nerves get the best of me and I've never kissed a guy...he's 16 im 15 helpppp its tomorrow! (link)
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Getting nervous around the opposite sex is very common. Some people get it more than most. Some guys even think its cute sometimes when a girl is nervous around them, but some guys like confidence.
You just have to stay positive in this situation. Kissing a guy for the first time can be very nerve racking, but its nothing to even worry about. Its all instinct. Your lips will know exactly what to do as soon as they meet his. The more you over think the situation, the more nervous you will be, and the more sloppy your kiss will turn out. Just stay relaxed. If you want to do something to surprise him, try sucking on his bottom lip or tongue. If he sticks his tongue in your mouth, stick yours in his and just go in circular motions with each others tongues, or maybe even move it up and down.
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i have 2 bestfriends and we were really close untill 1 of them got a boyfriend and she slowly driffted away, i mean were still friends just dont see each other much anymore, and now my other best friend has a boyfriend and is starting to do the same and i never see her anymore, i dont know what to do to get them back? (link)
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You need to talk to them. Tell them how much you cherish their friendship and how you feel as if they are drifting apart from you. Ask them ahead of time if yall could have a girls night out, and just catch up on things that yall have missed out on. Having a boyfriend is a very tough thing, because your friends might feel as if thye will lose them if they don't hang with them twenty four seven. You need to tell them, that you miss them, and how you really want to patch things up in the areas where things are dented. If they are your real friends, they will be all for it, and they will realize they miss you too,
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Theres this guy "Z", well he has been a really good friend of mine for a while- He has had a gf for like over a year, so i didnt even think bout anythin 'with' him. But they broke up resently. He is a flirt, and happens to like alot of girls, and ive always been the one girl he talks to about them. Well he knows i like him now, and he says he likes me to. He use to say, yha were "just friends" alot, so i said it back to him and he said "yha for now" and now we always joke around about it. He doesnt talk to me about the other girls as much but i ask about them sometimes, so he knows im OK with being just friends... well yesterday he said somthing about kissing me on sunday when he comes over, ive never kissed a guy so im nervous, advice? also he says he doesnt want a relationship because he is supose to be moving in a few months and doesnt want to disapoint me. and then he turns around and says stuff like "yha, just friends FOR NOW" what should i think about this? I really like him, and really want to be with him, advide for how to win him over? and my first kiss? (link)
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You need to listen to him. He's trying to protect you and your feelings. As of your first kiss, its nothing to be nervous about. Its all instinct. Your body knows exactly what to do. Let him lead the way, and all you do is just go along with it. If he sticks his tongue in your mouth, than simply do the same. Now one things most guys love, is when a girl sucks on their bottom lips. Try that, or even try to suck on his tongue. Its something different, that will make him think you know what your doing.
If the boy is moving, than there isn't a real point in trying to be with him. You failed to mention how far away he's moving, minutes or hours wise. That could be helpful. If its not out of state. You also need to realize that he just got out of a long relationship. Maybe he wants to have fun with other people, since he was tied down to his ex. Let him get all the sexual gitters out, along with the flirtatiousness. If he really likes you as much as he claims he does, than give the boy time. He will come to you as soon as he is ready. All you can do is be there for him, and let him know how you really feel for him. Just prepare yourself for the rejection ahead, incase their is one. Don't get your hopes up either. I know easier said than done, but just try to think a little negative, so your hopes aren't completely trashed if things dont go in your direction. Guys are full of mysterious things, so make sure you know exactly where he is planning on going with the two of you. Like you said he is a big flirt, so when he makes comments like "we are friends just for now" try not to think too much into it. YOu never know what he's saying to those other girls.
Need more help, than you can message my inbox, feel free to give me more details. Thankss *xoxoxo.
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So there was this guy that I have liked for almost 4 years now he bad news he had been with my bestfriends and people i hate I shouldn't like him but i do and i recently just got a new boyfriend to possibly get over him but i can't because he was my first for everything as in EVERYTHING! But i really like my other boyfriend but i can't do anything with him like i dont allow my self too and its not that im self consious with my body its just that I can't seem to be able to get over him and it bothers me. honestly i need help and advice quick so this doesn't keep happening to me I just wanna live a life with out him in it. (link)
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Well it isn't fair that your new boyfriend is getting the bad end of the stick. Everyone says that in order to get over someone you have to find someone else; THATS A LIE. The "rebound" doesn't deserve to go through the bagges you are bringing towards him. I understand you really like your new boyfriend, but you said so yourself that you can't give him 100% because your still hung on your past crush. You need to be single, and be happy with yourself first. You have to believe and realize that what you and your past crush had is completely over with. Maybe you need closure? You need to think about the things this guy has put you through and realize that you don't deserve that. YOu deserve to be treated like a queen, and not a pheasant. Its not fair to your new boyfriend either. Before you can be happy with him, you need to be a 100% over your ex crush. There is nothing I can do to help you get over him, its all on you. You have to stop being blind, and see what your friends see. You need to fully understand the situation and how come it will never work between the two of you.
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me and my boyfriend have had rough times but anyways... Were trying to start over but my problems is im so obsessively in love with him, and hes sort of just really realxed with us at the moment. Like i want to always hold him kiss him love him you know, and he really doesnt like making out with me like we use too. Things are just different. I'm trying to relax my feelings and just "chill" but its hard when their so strong you know. We broke up like three weeks ago because he said he just wanted to be friends, he said he wanted to go out and have fun. So i stopped texting him, exc. like completely eliminated him from my life. But then he called me and i actually answered.. we talked and he said he couldnt stand the pain of not being with me. advice? anything whose been in this situaution before would really help. (link)
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I was/am in the same situation as you are; my ex boyfriend broke up with me last Thursday and Saturday he tried to get me back. I feel the same way about my ex but when it come to him loving me, he is similar to yours; relaxed, which mine shows more affection physically, just not verbally. This is why I told him me and him would take it slow;
If you and the boy are still broken up, than I suggest you take things super slow with him; you know you love him, and he loves you; so there shouldn't be a problem. Try to not talk to each other every single day, and when you do talk to him, let it be for 10-15 minutes max; dont answer his phone calls on the first ring; ignore it; after the second call, than you can decide to answer it or not. Same for hanging out; Don't spend every day together (I know its hard, but its well worth it; trust me on this one) Try maybe three times a week?
Making him take things slow will make him cherish you and the love you give him more (IF HIS FEELINGS ARE REAL) This will also help test his emotions to see if he loves you the way you love him. Maybe the space apart, will make him realize how much he appreciates you, and the little things you tend to do without him noticing.
You need to tell him that "Look, you know I love you more than anyone or anything in this entire world, and I want more than anything to be with you; but you leaving me really hurt me. Im afraid when things get rough again, you will just up and leave, and I can't take that pain anymore than you can handle the pain of being without me. If you really care about me than you should consider taking things slow with me to help make our relatinship stronger in the end. It will help us BOTH appreciate each other more, and help you see what you have been blinded with for so long"
If "taking it slow" is something you would like to consider, just send me a message to my inbox, and I'll help you through it. I know its tough; Im in the process of it as well; just stay strong and positive.
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Okay so me and this kid had both just gotten out of long relationships and we had both been cheated on. im 17 he's 19 We hung out and we soon started to like eachother. a lot. We were inseperable for about 2 months. We did everything together and i had never been so happy in my entire life. I have always said i dont want to get married, im just too free spirited but this kid i would marry in a heartbeat. Every moment is just perfect with him. well then i noticed he had started to back off a little. i was confused but i know how guys are so i just kept acting the same. Then one day we sat down to talk and he told me that he wasnt over his ex girlfriend and he doesnt think that it is fair to me that he is thinking about us both. Soo we called it quits. Then i find out about 2 weeks ago that he is with his ex again. it broke my heart. When this happened i cried and thought more about him than i did when i left my ex of 3 years. Well our group of friends and his group of friends are all friends. So we started hanging out again and he keeps flirting and texting me and last night we were hanging out and he was flirting soo much. He dropped me off at home and texted me 10 minutes later. we talked till one in the morning, i fell asleep and then he texted me this morning. He told me he wanted to kiss me so bad last night and as much as i want to i know its wrong! i dont wanna be a homewrecker so what do i do? im crazy about this kid!!! thanks in advanced (link)
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Well if you don't want to be a homewrecker, than you need to back off. I understand you really care about this kid alot, but you have to understand when it came down to you and his ex, he picked her, and not you. That there proves who he really wants. Yes he may like you, and still have feelings for you, but he LOVES his ex; you don't want to come between that. Try to put yourself in his ex's position;
your in love with him; he's your boyfriend; some random girl comes into the picture; your boyfriend likes her too; than you realize your boyfriend wants to kiss another girl; how would you feel? what would you want your boyfriend to do about the other girl?
ask those question to yourself, and then whatever the answer is, do it. Sometimes we get so infacuated by the opposite sex we sometimes forget what we deserve, and what we really need. If him and his ex has already broke up once, likely they will again, and it wont last as long as it did the first time; which mean there could still be hope for yall in the future.
I was in the same situation you are in; I started talkin to this guy after he got out of a year and a half relationship; we was inseperable, we did everything together, and i could tell imade him really happy. he was always smiling and blushing; than he realized he missed his ex; they got back together; i was heartbroken; 4 months later they broke up, now me and him have been together for 6 months, and we haven't had a fight yet, and his ex is OUT of the picture FOR GOOD.
You get second chances, because you wasn't quite ready for the first*
Keep that in mind.
Sorry so long; hope I helped.
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