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hateful words
long story short: my boyfriend and i got into a heated argument last night and things just went a little too far (i was drunk and he was drinking a lot too). i said some things i didn't mean, but he took it to the next level and said some REALLY mean things.... what should i do? my feelings are completely hurt and i feel like i could never forgive him for saying those things... any advice would be great, thanks y'all.
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Whenever I was drunk and there was an argument, I usually didn't care who I hurt, I just wanted to win. I'm guessing that's what your boyfriend was doing...trying to win. Of course after you're sober, you realize that no one wins at that point and there's a big mess to clean up. Tell him that you understand that alcohol was a big part of your argument but you need to find out how much of what he said was true. Because there's usually a little bit of truth hidden when there's alcohol talking. I hope this helps and good luck.
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You need to tell him how much his words hurt you. You also need to apologize for the mean words you said to him as well. You both need to sit down and realize that drinking together may not be the best thing to do together. If he hurt your feelings that bad, the only thing you can do is talk to him about it. Let him know exactly how it makes you feel.
You will have to forgive him one point or another or its just going to make your relationship with him fail, and Im sure you don't want that. You need to also understand that he probably didn't mean the harsh things he said to you, and if he did, than you need to figure that out. Ask him simply, "The other night when we was drunk and got into it, did you mean it when you said, blah blah blah?" and if he says no, tell him it really hurt you, and if he said he does mean it than ask him why does he feel that wayy.
Communication is the number one thing in a relationship, good luck; xoxo*
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Make a pact together and do it together to quit drinking. Then no one will say hurtful words.
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