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Homewrecker
Okay so me and this kid had both just gotten out of long relationships and we had both been cheated on. im 17 he's 19 We hung out and we soon started to like eachother. a lot. We were inseperable for about 2 months. We did everything together and i had never been so happy in my entire life. I have always said i dont want to get married, im just too free spirited but this kid i would marry in a heartbeat. Every moment is just perfect with him. well then i noticed he had started to back off a little. i was confused but i know how guys are so i just kept acting the same. Then one day we sat down to talk and he told me that he wasnt over his ex girlfriend and he doesnt think that it is fair to me that he is thinking about us both. Soo we called it quits. Then i find out about 2 weeks ago that he is with his ex again. it broke my heart. When this happened i cried and thought more about him than i did when i left my ex of 3 years. Well our group of friends and his group of friends are all friends. So we started hanging out again and he keeps flirting and texting me and last night we were hanging out and he was flirting soo much. He dropped me off at home and texted me 10 minutes later. we talked till one in the morning, i fell asleep and then he texted me this morning. He told me he wanted to kiss me so bad last night and as much as i want to i know its wrong! i dont wanna be a homewrecker so what do i do? im crazy about this kid!!! thanks in advanced
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It's a cliche, but it's true: A guy who will cheat with you, will cheat on you.
What you do is tell this guy straight up that he is not allowed to flirt with you if he is in a relationship, and you don't want to hear anymore immoral, cheating texts from him. Remind him that you have feelings for him but that if he wants to be with you, he owes it to you both to be honest with everyone! And that means being single.
If he can't tone down the flirting, then he can't be your friend.
I know you aren't going to follow my advice. Almost no one ever does when it comes to this kind of thing. But that is the best, honest most ethical thing to do. Tell him to shove it until he is single. If he isn't going to be single, then he needs to respect you enough not to play with your emotions. If he can't manage one of those two things, then he can't be your friend, because you aren't friends with selfish players or cheaters.
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Well if you don't want to be a homewrecker, than you need to back off. I understand you really care about this kid alot, but you have to understand when it came down to you and his ex, he picked her, and not you. That there proves who he really wants. Yes he may like you, and still have feelings for you, but he LOVES his ex; you don't want to come between that. Try to put yourself in his ex's position;
your in love with him; he's your boyfriend; some random girl comes into the picture; your boyfriend likes her too; than you realize your boyfriend wants to kiss another girl; how would you feel? what would you want your boyfriend to do about the other girl?
ask those question to yourself, and then whatever the answer is, do it. Sometimes we get so infacuated by the opposite sex we sometimes forget what we deserve, and what we really need. If him and his ex has already broke up once, likely they will again, and it wont last as long as it did the first time; which mean there could still be hope for yall in the future.
I was in the same situation you are in; I started talkin to this guy after he got out of a year and a half relationship; we was inseperable, we did everything together, and i could tell imade him really happy. he was always smiling and blushing; than he realized he missed his ex; they got back together; i was heartbroken; 4 months later they broke up, now me and him have been together for 6 months, and we haven't had a fight yet, and his ex is OUT of the picture FOR GOOD.
You get second chances, because you wasn't quite ready for the first*
Keep that in mind.
Sorry so long; hope I helped.
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