|
I'm a little nervous about our first time...
My boyfriend is my best friend! We've been dating for almost two months but we have been good friends for about six months. We're inseperable and have a strong trust and chemistry with each other. I've only had sex twice, and so has he, but we both feel ready to go to the next step. My boyfriend has always been very patient with me and he is so sweet. I have never felt more comfortable with anyone like I do with him. I'm not very experienced with sex and I'm a little nervous. We're planning to do this on Friday, and we will use protection. I'm just scared I won't be satisfying. I never enjoyed giving oral and I'm very sensitive, and pretty tight... So I don't know if I will please him like I want to. I am so in love with him, as he is with me, and I just want to have an enjoyable, passionate sexual experience with him without being nervous... Any advice?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Virginity?
I know exactly what your going through. My boyfriend was my bestfriend, except he was a virgin and I had 2 sex partners before him. Being a virgin was very complicated because he had it set in his mind how "amazing" sex would be, so of course I was nervous that I wouldnt meet up to his expectations.
I gaurentee your boyfriend is probably just as nervous as you are. Boys don't communicate with how they feel or let there emotions get the best of them. Thats just how it is.
If your boyfriend loves you as much as he says he does than no need to be worried. Just relax. (easier said than done, I know!) but the more you let your nervousness get the best of you, the less you'll be able to enjoy it. Your boyfriend is going to love everything you do. Before Friday, ask him some questions, so you know what things you can do to "blow his mind" (:
for example:
1. What is something you've always wanted a girl to do to you sexually?
2. What's your biggest turn in during sex?
ect.
finding out the answers to these questions or any others you have in mind, will not only please him, but make him thrilled to know you remember and your doing what makes him feel great.
You can also be honest with him, tell him "You know this may sound silly, but I'm kind of nervous. I want to do everything just right for you to show you how much I love you"
than explain to him what your nervous about, and than he will be aware and you guys can have an intimate experience;
*The best kind of experience I ever had was when my boyfriend kinda of directed me in the things he wanted done. He would simply tell me "Like that", "Faster" "slower", ect.
and I would do the same. Communication is the best at reaching your passionate, enjoyable, sexual experience!
Anymore question, you can inbox me. I hope I helped!
xoxo*
]
I think that every girl is nervous about her first time after being sexually inexperienced, which you mentioned you are because you only have had sex twice, so I would suggest that you relax. Gr8Fruit's right about telling him that you're nervous about your first sexual experience together. The two of you have a special chemistry together and want to share something special. You should keep that mind when you're getting nervous about this.
He's probably not expecting for you to be "amazing" in bed either, you mention that he's only had sex twice. I'm not going to tell you that your first time together is going to be amazing. Unless the two of you are experienced with sex, it's going to take a while to learn what you like.
Remember if your first time isn't mind-blowing you just have to learn what the two of you both like. Communication is number one in a sexual relationship, including with matters about sex.
Just be careful, which I see that you are being, and enjoy your first sexual experience with him :).
]
You dont have to be nervous for sex... just say that you want him to lead the sex so you dont have to do ANYTHING but let you get taken... (ofcource kiss him sometimes and hug etc.)
]
Hey,
By the sounds of your question, you two seem really close and so I think you should just take a deep breath. I know you might be thinking 'that's it?'. Well you mentioned that you've both have had sex before so its nothing too new.. If you are nervous, I would reccommend talking to your bf. Talking will be the best thing to ease your mind. Say how much you love him and then that you want to make the best out of Friday. Then, On Friday before you have sex you could mention how you've waited for this and you would love for him to lead a bit during the sex. By telling him this directly, you are letting him know he is free to help, without you sounding like you're too nervous (nothing wrong with that). He might even be more turned on by that thought :)
As for being satisfying, there is very little you could do to not be that. Your bf will love that you are there and be happy you are sharing yourself with him. Talk to him beforehand tho and most importantly, plan for lots of foreplay. This will help you get in the mood and help to relax you. If you are tight, it will also help make it easier; Remind him to take it slow. Communicating and working together will really work to your advantage. Oral is fairly easy too when the guy directs you along the way; just go with the flow. You will know he is enjoying it if he is smiling and moaning. And if he does say otherwise, don't be afraid to take some pointers from him. Remember that he won't ever think you are doing something wrong, he will only be glad you tried <3
]
More Questions: |