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Bestfriend and boyfriend
Ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now. He treats me really good and we hardly ever fight. Weve gotten in a couple arguments and he gets on my nerves sometimes but who dosent ? The problem is for some reason my Bestfriend is always rolling her eyes or annoyed with him and I don't understand why. I think she thinks he's annoying but I love him and I want her to like him too since she's my Bestfriend. I know if I confront her about it all she will say is that she likes him and not to worry. So I don't know what to do. Should I just let it go or what?
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It's normal for couples to fight. It's whether you or not and you you find a solution.
I have a friend who dates this guy. I'm nto a huge fan of him because he didn't treat her well in the beginning and I still don't think he does. I realized though I need to deal with it because if my friend is happy then I should be happy for her. I get along with the guy for her, after all she's the one dating him.
You can't make your friend like him or even love him because you can't force her to do anything she doesn't want to. Now in a perfect world that would be the case but its not. Don't searching for a problem if there isn't one. As that Beatles song says 'Let It Be'. And the phrase 'If it ain't broke don't fix it'. Just leave it alone and live it the now when a problems arises I'm sure your friend will come and talk to you about it.
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Balancing the relationship between your best friend and boyfriend can sometimes be tricky. While I am sure your best friend does truly like your boyfriend, and is happy for you, I think she is just having a bit of a hard time adjusting. Meaning, she may not like the fact that some of your time is being taken away from her and given to him instead. She may feel like she is losing a friend.
Why don't you try planning as girls day out (with no boys allowed--not even calls!) and go get your nails done, see a movie, out to eat, etc. Just focus on your friendship. That will likely make your best friend see that she is still a focus/priority in your life. It will also likely make her more comfortable with your boyfriend.
Also, when you have your girls day you can try saying something like: "I am so glad we could have a day to ourselves.." and see if that opens up the lines of communication.
Just remember, just because you have a boyfriend doesn't mean you have to forget your friends. Just try to keep a fair balance and you are good to go. :)
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Every couple will fight, and being with someone for that long, they will tend to get on your nerves. So yes thats normal.
How does your boyfriend feel about your bestfriend?
How long have you and this person been bestfriends?
If you have been bestfriend with her longer than you've been with your boyfriend, and she's just now recently started with the eye rolling than thats something you need to confront her with.
Tell her bestfriends are suppose to be honest with each other, and you've noticed the way she reacts to him, (eye rolling, being annoyed, ect) and your just curious why. Tell her that you love them both, and you want them to get along.
If she seems to get offended by you asking, or seems to not give you an answer, or says "I like him, don't worry", than just let it go.
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