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Trying to start over but I am obsessed with him
me and my boyfriend have had rough times but anyways... Were trying to start over but my problems is im so obsessively in love with him, and hes sort of just really realxed with us at the moment. Like i want to always hold him kiss him love him you know, and he really doesnt like making out with me like we use too. Things are just different. I'm trying to relax my feelings and just "chill" but its hard when their so strong you know. We broke up like three weeks ago because he said he just wanted to be friends, he said he wanted to go out and have fun. So i stopped texting him, exc. like completely eliminated him from my life. But then he called me and i actually answered.. we talked and he said he couldnt stand the pain of not being with me. advice? anything whose been in this situaution before would really help.
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I was/am in the same situation as you are; my ex boyfriend broke up with me last Thursday and Saturday he tried to get me back. I feel the same way about my ex but when it come to him loving me, he is similar to yours; relaxed, which mine shows more affection physically, just not verbally. This is why I told him me and him would take it slow;
If you and the boy are still broken up, than I suggest you take things super slow with him; you know you love him, and he loves you; so there shouldn't be a problem. Try to not talk to each other every single day, and when you do talk to him, let it be for 10-15 minutes max; dont answer his phone calls on the first ring; ignore it; after the second call, than you can decide to answer it or not. Same for hanging out; Don't spend every day together (I know its hard, but its well worth it; trust me on this one) Try maybe three times a week?
Making him take things slow will make him cherish you and the love you give him more (IF HIS FEELINGS ARE REAL) This will also help test his emotions to see if he loves you the way you love him. Maybe the space apart, will make him realize how much he appreciates you, and the little things you tend to do without him noticing.
You need to tell him that "Look, you know I love you more than anyone or anything in this entire world, and I want more than anything to be with you; but you leaving me really hurt me. Im afraid when things get rough again, you will just up and leave, and I can't take that pain anymore than you can handle the pain of being without me. If you really care about me than you should consider taking things slow with me to help make our relatinship stronger in the end. It will help us BOTH appreciate each other more, and help you see what you have been blinded with for so long"
If "taking it slow" is something you would like to consider, just send me a message to my inbox, and I'll help you through it. I know its tough; Im in the process of it as well; just stay strong and positive.<333
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