I love my boyfriend. We've been together for 2 years, but he's my first boyfriend.
He wants to marry me eventually. He's positive about it. He tells me all the time. And I love him so much and he's my best friend...
But I feel like... we're not right for the long run. I feel like we're perfect for each other at this point in our lives though.
But I know I'd never be sure about marriage with him since I've never dated anyone else.
I'm happy, but I feel like I'm still not sure what I want in a relationship because I haven't had experience with other guys...
But, is it okay to date someone you don't want to marry as long as you're both happy at the time?
Am I being unfair by staying in the relationship when he wants marriage? Is it okay to date someone you love but don't think you'll marry?
We're both happy and we both love each other... but looking to the future... I feel like he's not the one. Though I always want him to be my best friend.
My first boyfriend was "THE ONE" ... or so I thought. For three years. I dated him and I did love him. It was new and exciting and we had no idea what we were doing. And I really loved it and my time with him. But before long he started talking about how we would get married and start a family. I had this feeling. Not of joy or hopefulness but of just uncertainty.
I knew that it wasn't what I should be feeling whenever the guy you love is talking about marrying you. You SHOULD feel bliss and pure happiness. Well I ignored my gut feeling for the whole three years we dated. By the end of our relationship I realized that in my heart I didn't love him the way he loved me. YES I did love him, I cared for him, he was my best friend. But I didn't have plans to be with him forever and I couldn't continue acting like I did. I dated him for 9 months knowing that he wasn't "the one". I mean that was my first relationship I didn't know if that's how everything was supposed to "feel". When you kiss someone you're supposed to have that "feeling" but I'd only ever kissed him. So I would always wonder.
Finally after 9 months I got up the courage to tell him that we were over. It devastated him, and maybe me a little too.
It was hard for a month or two. Breakups always are. But then I moved on. Started dating a new boy from my church. Let me tell you. The two relationships and guys are worlds apart in difference! I hadn't truly kissed till I kissed the church boy.
So long story short. You're not doing anything wrong. Dating is what people do. However when you have different ideals about where the relationship is going things get rocky. Eventually you will either tell him the truth about your feelings (which might lead to a breakup or not. I'm not saying that he isn't the one. I just think everyone should experience other relationships) OR you will lie to him and make him believe you feel just like he does. I hope that you don't stay in the relationship though because he is safe and he loves you. You need to know for a fact that you love him too. Sometimes dating others helps.
If you continue with that gut feeling that you're not meant to be together forever I think you should tell him. I wish I had broke up with my ex sooner whenever I felt like you did. It's my biggest regret for last year.
Good Luck.
Remember there are no rules in love and life. Just follow your heart.
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How do I break up with my boyfriend that is in love with me but I dont even like him? Hes 15 and im 14.
Oh my... memories ( and not positive ones sadly).
I dated a guy for three years and I just broke up with him a month ago. Honestly though, I hadn't "loved" him for about 9-10 months before I broke up with him. The biggest mistake of my senior year in high school was NOT breaking up with him sooner. In fact now I see it ruined a lot for me because I didn't have the guts to do it.
So here is my first piece of advice- and this will be the MOST important so pay close attention :
* DO IT NOW. THIS WEEK. DO NOT WAIT ANY LONGER! *
Okay now that I've got that out of the way I'll tell you how I broke up with my boyfriend of almost three years that I no longer liked, yet he was completely head over heels in love with me.
I called him on the phone (we lived two hours apart and I felt more comfortable behind the phone) and told him that I cared for him, so much. I would always remember how wonderful he is and how much he loved me. However my feelings had changed, I didn't love him like he loved me. While I would always be here if he needed to talk I felt that our relationship was over. I apologized for hurting him and I asked if he had any questions. Of course he was angry- he cried. He had questions. I answer honestly and then ended the call. He called for a few days. I would answer and tell him the same thing I did the first night. Then I quit answering his calls and texts. This is where I moved on.
I found another boyfriend about a month or so later. He's incredible and I truly think I'm in love. Totally different than my ex. I wish I had broke up sooner!!!
But don't waste your time or his by staying in the relationship. When you know it's over.. it's over. Nothing can change that.
Good Luck!
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So I feel that I am losing my bestfriend to her boyfriend. She spends most of her time with him & we are only 14. Is this wrong? Like everytime I try to hangout with her, she's always with him or has plans or the next busy with him. I feel that she is way too involved with him at this age. Like 14 years old you should be having fun with your friends, not making your boyfriend your life & priority. At this age is it wrong to be hanging out with your boyfriend more then your friends?
I experience the same thing with my best friend about a year ago. We would even make plans and she would suddenly cancel because her boyfriend wanted to do something. Of course I was hurt, just like you are. Feeling rejected in any situation sucks. After awhile I got used to it. I hate to tell you that there is really nothing you can do about it.
Your friendship will continue like this until one of two things happen:
A) She breaks up with him or vise versa. In which case she will need your support like never before.
B) You get a boyfriend and realize that it's normal.
You see, I thought my friend just didn't want to spend time with me anymore and that she was wrapped to tightly around her boyfriend. Until about 7 months into their relationship I got a boyfriend. All of a sudden I understood and I asked her for advice.
Whenever you get a boyfriend things change in your friendships. No matter how much you try to avoid it, it WILL happen.
Now I do see that your friend is young, which is why I feel that the relationship will NOT last forever. Or at the very least she will develop a schedule with him. (Takes about 4-5 months) before she starts making time for you again.
In any case, I suggest passing the time with other friends and family. Know that one day you will understand. Even though it's a terrible feeling, she really doesn't mean to hurt you. She just doesn't know she's hurting you- and if you tell her she won't know how to fix it.
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Okay, so this guy I am absolutely in love with is going to college soon and he loves me too. We want to be together for as long as we can, but its going to be hard when he goes to college. Plus I'm only a junior in high school. So, its not like I can drive to go see him. We will barely see each other and I can't stand to be away from him. How can I make this work with us?
Alright, you've got a long road ahead of you. I am currenlty in a long distance relationship and have been for over a year, and I only see my boyfrined twice a year. It's one of the hardest things in the ENTIRE world. I won't lie to you about that. It's worth it though, it'll only be a few years and you guys can be together. That's how you have to look at it.
Now to make your relationship work the main thing is COMMUNICATION and TRUST. Your boyfriend is in college, so he will have a busy schedule that will differ from your schedule. So it will be hard to find times to talk. Don't get mad if he misses a chat with you, just stay positive. Also I suggest skype where you can video call, or facetime if you have iphones. Trust is probably one of the most important things because you will have to trust in your love for each other. I know you think that'll be easy. But it isn't. There will be times where he has to work with a girl on a project, or he adds girls on his facebook and you will be jealous. Even though you know he isn't cheating, and never would. You will be jealous. It's natural just don't let it get in the way of your relationship.
One this my boyfriend says that I do too much is complain about the lack of time we get to talk to each other, apparently that bugs guys. SO I suggest you just stay positive. Try to see each other certain times a year, or holidays if you can. Even though I only see my boyfriend twice a year it is a WONDERFUL time when we do actually see each other. Also, this will make your relationship stronger in the long run.
GOOD LUCK , from one Long distance girlfriend to another :)
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16/f
I am a very petite person, a little shorter than 5 ft and about 110 lbs. I don't consider myself fat, or skinny. I have a decent size bum, but it seems my midsection has more weight than i would like! I want wider hips and a bigger butt, I am very tiny so many outfits I try on, are not very flattering and usually swallow my small figure. I would like to lose some weight, as well as gain muscle! Any ideas? :) Thanks!
I used to hate my arms because there was no shape... I didn't want ugly arms so I started small by lifting 3lb. weights in the morning and at night. Since it was a small amount it helped tone my arms ( not TOO MUCH muscle just the right amount for me to feel better about them)
So I would just start small like I did. Squats and lunges will help your thighs, and then if you do the weights like I did it also helps to shape your boobs ( sounds stupid I know but it REALLY does help a ton!)
Something I've never tried because I don't have the patience for it is Yoga. Alot of women reccomend it for not only helping you relieve stress but for shapeing up your body as well. You might consider trying that if you want. I do know that it helps clear your skin though, because it get's the blood flowing throughout your body ( I watched a special, that's when I tried yoga)
Best of Luck,
CD
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I'm 19 years old and I'm planning on moving to Kentucky with my boyfriend at the end of this summer. I live in rhode island now and have lived here my whole life. We're moving because my boyfriend and his dad received a really great job offer down there.
So, my question is what is it like to live in Kentucky? I'm ire I'm going to be in for a huge culture shock once i get there so I just want to know what the people are like, their life style, etc.
Thank you! :)
The weather in Kentucky is constantly changing from month to month. There are really hot summers when it's fun to go swimming or to the lake to cool down. The winters are cold, and usually there is a lot of snow fall. There is also Spring which is extremely windy here, and this year it rained a lot. Then Fall which is beautiful because of the leaves.
The people here are really nice, Kentucky isn't in the south or the north completely but there is definitely the southern hospitality. Now I don't know if you all are moving to a city such as Lexington, Winchester, Mt.Sterling, etc. but there's lots of shopping and restraunts in those places, especially Louisville. Also Horse races ( what we are famous for)and they're a lot of fun.
If you plan on moving into a county on the outskirts in Eastern KY there are a lot of "bible belts" as we call them where there is a church on every corner.
I think you will like it, it's different every state you go to but KY is friendly, and there is plenty to do here.
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So, I got my hair cut a lot shorter than it has been in a long time, and now I want it to grow back out. I am a 19/M, not sure if that really changes anything. I have biotin pills, but is there anything else that I can do to help my hair to grow more quickly? I am also going to start brushing/combing my hair more to see if that helps any. I am desperate for it to grow back out! I miss my long hair so much. Thanks in advance!
Main 'n Tail shampoo ( yes it's weird because it is designed for animals too) but everyone says it helps hair grow faster, it's a HUGE bottle, and it doesn't smell bad at all. You can get it at walmart for sure , I'm not sure about other places.
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How do you know if your in love?
When you don't have to question it. When you love this person with all the faults in them, when you can't imagine life without them and would do anything for them.
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Hi, I'm a 15 year old guy and have had some family issues over the past year which have caused massive tension within my family. As a result of this, my mother has sort of lost it and it angry at me all the time. I am a straight A studet at school, and have practically no free time because I do so many other activities that she has urged me to do. However, whenever I do something other than study or clean she yells at me. Our house is always extremely messy and she has made everything my job. I have to do hours worth of dishes (we have no dishwasher), clean the bathroom which is filthy within days of cleaning it, and feed all the pets. If I don't do this because I have no free time, she yells at me and prevents me from seeing my friends or girlfriend. I feel like I never have any time to relax or be with my friends, and Mum has unrealistic expectations of me. The family arguing has gotten to the point where the only thing I look forward to in life is moving out in a few years. What do I do?
There isn't much you can do in a situtation like this. Mom's I have come to learn all have their own ideas on Parenting. Some how I think they think by treating you like a slave, it will make you more involved with "the family" instead of your girlfriend ( who she probably doesn't like) and your friends. Which is true because it feels like all you ever do is what your mom wants. I have had this situtation happen to someone I love and there is absolutely NOTHING you can do. I know that sucks, and I know you are looking for answers here but all I can really offer is support. I think, just off the wall opinion here, but your mother loves you ( yeah that seems crazy considering she is making your life miserable), and that she is ... scared... of losing you in the future, say when you turn 18. Someone all this pressure to be perfect will make you WANT to stay home.
What these mom's don't understand is that it is doing quite the opposite. Not only is it turning you against your own family, it is making you feel like you are never good enough for them. I know you can deny it but I have seen what that kind of pressure does to someone and it is heartbreaking. It is/ and will continue to try and destroy your relationship with your girlfriend and friends. The key though is to make plans, talk about the future when you get out of there. Do you best to keep your relationships strong, and it can't hurt to apologize on your moms behalf.
Always watch what you say because your mom can make things bad if you " disrespect or backtalk" her. Know that you only have a few years left and while that seems like an eternity... you'll make it.
CD
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Hi I'm 15 f and last summer2010 I fell for this guyAlomost17 but hes16and he fell for me but the whole summer we hung out but after things just randomly were not the same. I wanna go back all the time and restart things hence kiss him. What bugs me we both didn't tell each other and my guy friends told me. But anyways it's the first day of my summer and just now I balled my eyes out and it's been so long it's normal for me to cry like that. Basically Ive been on here asking the same thing nothing is working I've tried liking other guys and just keeping busy but nothing works. I want to tell him but itd be so awkwrd bc I haven't spoken to him since march. What's wrong with me how do I deal with this. I'm crazy:((((((
This is just me but I think that LOVE is what we live for. Love is one of the greatest and most precious things there is. Regret though has got to be the worst. Regret will always leave you wondering, and wishing of what COULD have been had you done something differently.
Now time for a sad little example that I hope will help: I have a friend who is in her late sixties and lives about 20 minutes away. She is in contact with a man she has known since highschool ( he is 70) who now lives across the country. They dated back in highschool and things got weird and she walked away. They truly loved each other and to this day they have NEVER got over what COULD have happened if they had just told one another how they felt. The man went on to marry and have 3 kids, shortly after he was divorced and that is when they became freinds again. To this day he asks himself WHAT IF I had just told her... maybe things would be different.
Now some people believe in fate, that if it's ment to happen it will. Well this is partially true I guess but you don't need the regret of wondering how things might've turned out. Not saying you guys will even get married, but you just never know.
SO now that my example is out of the way I just want to leave you and tell you that you should talk to him. Do it when no one else is hanging around and tell him how you feel... if it helps tell him how awkward it is ( it does help believe it or not, and you don't sound stupid. I am speaking from experience). I wish you the best.
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My boyfriend says that we haven't been together long enough to be married and I don't understand. He and i met each other when i was 16 and he was 17. He always told me that once we graduated from college that we could get married. We were in programs in college that didn't allow us to get married or we'd get kicked out. Now that I'm 23 and he's 24. He still hasn't proposed after 7 years.After all of the family christmases, sex and 'i love you's'... It hurts. Do you think we haven't been together long enough?
Yes, For you I think you've been together plenty long enough. Men are a different story. Sometimes I think my boyfriend is... well... clueless. But we still love our men through all the crap they do.
Now as for your boyfriend I would just keep quiet, let him make his move. BUT give him a time frame ( don't tell him this though). Let's say by the time he you are 25-26 if he hasn't proposed you should start giving him not so subtle hints, or boldly tell him. Now I don't know if you are willing to wait that long but sometimes men are slow and , idk.... its like they have to take certain things slower or they will mess up. Sort of like how we have a plan of our future, husband, house, job, kids... all that is planned out. But for men... they know that they want or don't want those things but they really don't have any sort of plan or order for it. So they don't have a plan of when things will happen but that they will just know. I know this sounds really complicated and I did just drink a large black coffee... but I hope that makes sense. Give him a little more time, THEN hint if he is still being slow. Also some men want to be stable before they bring marriage into the picture, with a job and a way to financially support them as well as their wife. So maybe that's the case, I don't know, but you do. Be patient, this will not be the last time that he is dragging his feet on something. I wish you the best of luck.
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I had a uti last weekend and I had a high fever Sunday and Monday. Monday I went to the dr's and the dr said that i had a sinus infection on top of it. she told me that my uti medication will take care of all infection. So i kept taking my uti medicine, it worked for my uti but not my sinus infection. i woke up wednesday morning with big puffy eyes. my mom thought it was an allergic reaction to my medicine, so we swicthed to augmentum ( real sinus antibiotic). nothing has gone away and it is now tuesday. almost a week later. my forehead is sore and my eyes are constantly swollen. is this a bad sign? how do i get rid of it? m parents are convinced that its allergies but i am 16 years old and i've lived through 16 allergy season's and not ONCE has this happened to me. I'm tired ALL the time and my throat hurts very badly. I have phlegm in my throat constantly and my gums are red. my lower back hurts randomly and i have constant vaginal discharge. I have no fever, though. Does anyone know what's going on? What does it look like to you? Do you think I will be ok?
OH! BTW! Can somebody pleaaaase find me a way to stop my eyes from welling when i wake up. I always look awful for school and my prom is this weekend!/:
I can't give you any medical advice about your allergies but I think I might be able to help you out as far as your yes. When you wake up get an ice pack and a damp wash cloth and wrap it in it. Then place it on each eye for five to ten minutes. That should help the puffyness go down. Also add another pillow when you sleep to el at your head more and that should help!
CD
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Hey. 13/f. So I went to a school dance and many guys were being kinda rude to me.(ok fat guys grinding the hell outta meand my friend.) I met a guy who took me away from those guys and like saved me. he told me i was really pretty, we should text, and he couldnt wait to see me again some other time. Weve been texting alot and hes really great. he says the same bout me and how good i look. we r going to c a movie soon and he wants to kiss me. from this info, is this relationship gunna work out? THANKS
Of course there is no way to know 100% unfortunately, but it sounds like it definitely has the possibility of working. He likes you, you've got a date, he isn't a jerk ( since he saved you). He sounds really sincere so I say that yes it can work out.
CD
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I am female, 16 and have my permit. I want my licence so bad, I want to go out and do things without my parents. Now, I'm not afraid to drive as much as I'm afraid that I'll get hurt or worse, hurt someone else. I don't know why, but I think about that and I feel like I never want to get my licence. But I want to be able to drive on my own I just have a big fear holding me back and I don't know how to get rid of it! Any ideas to help me get over this fear and just go do it, just go out and drive? Thanks
I turned sixteen this year and at first I felt the same way you were. I hated driving because it wasn't a precise thing. Also the other drivers on the road I have learned aren't very... focused.
What I have to keep in my head every time I drive is that there is nothing I can do more than to just keep on my side of the road and break when I see another car. Now this works for me because I live out in the country and since then ( a couple months of driving now) I have really improved, I no longer look in my mirror to see the yellow line, I do the speed limit and I rarely stop when I meet another car.
The thing is you can't do anything more then your best. Always keep to your side of the road. That's my main advice, with practice you'll learn its not that hard and will increasingly become more confident with your driving.
As for parents, they are there, whether we want them to or not. At first my dad and mom would have to tell me exactly what to do ( got on my last nerve) but they DO know more about driving then me. But now they hardly say anything now that I have learned how and in a few more months I'll get my license, just like you will. For now put up with your parents and just try to take their advice.
CD
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There is this guy I see around just about everyday. I like him but I didnt think he liked me so I never did anything about it. But the other day when I passed by him I saw him looking at me so I looked back and smiled and he said hi and asked me how I was feeling today. Does this mean anything or was he just being nice?
Well it means he was being nice. And that is good. Because he made it a point to talk to you and to be nice. SO I think that if you still like him ( which you do or you wouldn't have asked this of course) then you need to say something to him. Maybe eat lunch near him and say hey, .. small talk at first. See where things go from there. ;) Have Fun most of all. Don't get all stressed out or you won't know what to say.
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recently i asked a question about this boy i had an major crush, Kyle. i really like him and still do to this day . well yesterday he didn't go to skater city and it was crazy boring , so i Texted last night said ' you should be happy you didn't come ' he said ' why ' i was like ' it crazy boring ' he said ' haha ' and i was like ' hahaa , thats not nice' and that was the end of our conversation he still doesn't noe i like hi
but i just don't want to tell him , and then he will probably think im a creep . this always happen to me i Have a crush on a boy and realize why are you trying your ugly . so i just feel like i should give up on love because i feel Gur never going to work . people call me pretty etc still i don't see when it comes to boys . its like if im not ugly than why cant i be happy in love .
Just because you're pretty doesn't mean you're gonna find a guy. Sure guy's love pretty girls, at first. But in order to fall in love you have to find that one guy who loves every part of you, flaws and all.
So, before you start thinking about telling a boy you like him, or dating him I would get to know him. Make sure he gives you crazy butterflies whenever you accidentally brush against his hand... you will KNOW when he likes you. You just do. I know that sounds crazy but I know that you will find that out soon. This Kyle ... I'm not so sure he is the one. Now he could be. I'd invite him out to the movies or bowling, if that is more casual. Do a small group of friends if you want. Hang out with him. Give a week then see if you want to tell him how you feel.
I'm sure you're not ugly. You just haven't found the guy that will think you're the love of his life ... yet. ( be optimistic and don't ever doubt yourself)
CD
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How does a developing friendship online compare with a developing friendship face-to-face?
Yes, I agree face-to-face is better in the long run. But there is absolutely nothing wrong with on-line friendships. I met my Boyfriend online, and while the distance is hard at times I wouldn't trade it for anything.
The key to on-line friendships is just to be yourself. Don't hold back. If you would say it to their face then say it on-line. That way they know the real you. Another tough part is you can't hang out much if its a long distance, so you don't have memories together which sometimes leads to conversations where you run out of things to talk about.
Try playing online games together... that's fun to and you can see their competitive side if they have one. ( pogo is great, you can still chat. I suggest scrabble, and monopoly)
If you do decide for a friend ship with someone online you can always skype with webcams or just head sets so you can see or hear each other.
idk if you are talking about a possible love relationship or just like a best friend but my final advice:
LOVE relationship: Yeah it starts out like friends.. you learn all there is to know about each other. Tell all your stories, find that you do like this person. I suggest talking to their friend, casually. Just to make sure everything is checking out and he is like you think ( if that makes sense) Be patient, because the distance and not being able to be online is hard most of the time.
STRICTLY FRIENDSHIP: Everyone needs someone to talk to. Best part about on-line you can say what you want, they don't know who you're talking about, they are only there for support and advice. They won't judge... it really is a cool way to make friends. Again, like any relationship not being able to see your friend does suck... but as I said before.. webcam ( skype or oovoo) and a nice phone call everynow and then will help.
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Ok so me and my boyfriend broke up last year, and like most break ups it was a horrible time for me. I missed him so much etc. I feel worse because I initiated the break up but by the time I realised (the day later) what i'd lost, he wasn't interested.
From then onwards i've felt so down. I've tried meeting new guys but it's just not working out for me. I meet so many guys and I get to know them but I feel like they aren't "for me" It's not that i'm holding onto my ex, because i'm not. But after the great relationship I had with him, I want to better that in my next. Is it normal to feel this way? It's getting me really down.
Your ex showed you what its like to have a really good relationship. Even though things ended you wouldnt want to date someone you feel would be , how do I put this... "lower" then your ex. So its only natural you are looking for someone to make you just, and more, happy in the relationship. The only problems that will occur will be the ones you've already discovered. There are few guys in the world that are absolutely AMAZING, so it takes a while to find them. Keep looking. Don't settle.
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Okay so this is crazy. I started my birth control like 9 months ago or not yet 9 months and I do not get periods. I went to my doctor today and had a pregnancy test, it was neg. But I look pregnant, I feel pregnant, I have been nauses, pain in my sides, tired, frequant urnitation, I have even felt/ seen my stumoch move , crazy huh? My doctor did blood work, urine test and is schuduling for a ultra sound, not the one on your belly but i think to check for cycsts. I just have this strong feeling that im pregnant. I dont want to be like those girls on the tv show that have their baby in a toliet.
Get a second opinion from a different doctor. You don't have to switch, but I highly suggest you see what someone else thinks. Make sure to explain what you are feeling and noticing because even just listening to them it sounds likes something is going on in there. Good Luck,
CD
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if valentines day is monday, when should i send my package so it arrives pefectly on time? i live in ny and hes in boston. its just a small package. how many days will it take to get there
It takes three days , but since it is a holiday I'd send it four days in advance, excluding sunday of course.
CD
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