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Hello, and formally welcome to my page. Please ask me anything {within standards}! I am from Jersey and I love giving advice to other girls, or family and friends so I'll treat you just like a person should be, and keep everything on the DL.


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so me and my boyfriend have only been together a few days, and yeah i expected the first time we went out just us to it was going to be awkward but it was't really that bad we just talked about our familys and stuff and got to know each other abit better, but now its kinda awkward because theres noting left to say, any ideas on what to say ? pleaseee!

Talk about things you have in common like sports. Another great topic is music! That one can last atleast an hour, and movies, books, what you wanna do with your future. In a couple more dates you won't have to think about it anymore it'll just come to you. (if it doesn't then something is wrong)

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I am going to be giving away my laptop pretty soon and all the social network sites have my e-mail and password stored. does that make sense? like when i want to log on to facebook, i just have to click on the e-mail space and it will show my e-mail and when i click on it it automatically types in my password. is there anyway i can delete all that so the next users won't hack my accounts?

Hey I am going to tell you how to do it with the newest Internet Explorer ( IDK firefox)


Click on the internet and open launcher, click on tools and go down to Delete Browsing History.
Then it'll bring up a box and at the bottom it says DELETE ALL click that and bam it's all gone. Check just to make sure

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hi, i'll keep this really short

i'm moving to a new city, and the humidity there is worse than it is where i live now. i straighten my hair and it curls in less than 15 minutes of being outside.

Any products or suggestions that will keep it smooth and manageable (even curly, doesn't matter) rather than frizzy and poufy?

Alright... I have a couple suggestions:

1.) Fix your hair at night wash dry and straighten ( if you do) wrap it in a silk bandana or scarf or anything ( not a pony tail leaves crease) and it'll also keep the oil from your face and pillow off your hair. It works for me.. try it .. I don't know how it does it, but it works.

2.) The new panteen hairspray for medium thick hair.. frizzy to smooth. That hairspray is amazing. Before you head out spray your hair all over ONE time. Take a brush and after you have been outside for awhile .. in a bathroom or car just brush your hair one time. It makes it silky and smooth.


3.) Pony Tails hide it all, just put some mouse in your hair and scrunch it and pull it up. spray with hairspray and your good to go. I do this when I don't have much time

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I am 15, girl. I am having my birthday this month and I had a few plans with certain friends that weekend before my party and it was all set, we knew exactly what we were gonna do.. and my best friend (boy) bailed. So, I asked if he would be able to come to my party still and he said yea why not and then he said he doesn't know when he is going to come home from where he was going to be that weekend and I got so mad. Naturally, when I get mad at someone, I freeze them out. I am a happy person who is nice all the time but when you do something to me, you could die of frost bite. So, I told him that it was funny because everyone said he wasn't going to come and I was just saying all of this stuff to him, I don't regret it but I just really want him to come. So my question is, if he comes, what should I do and say? If he doesn't show up, what should I say to him and how should I handle it?

Thanks!

haha, I would just like to say I was also once a master of freezing people who hurt me out. From my experiences with that I would like to conclude "DO NOT... EVER DO THAT" It's the worst thing possible because it'll end up hurting you. You will miss this guy because as you said he was/ is your best friend. Do you know how hard it is to get someone back after freezing them out? Very hard, and you don't want that. In this life you need to have friends.. and I know it feels like he is being a complete JERK. But I agree. Maybe you could arrange a movie or somehting small after he gets back.. or just be like "if you wanna come, come I would love for you to be there" and if he shows great be happy its YOUR b-day don't let him ruin it. If he Doesn't show.. well that's bad, lol there isn't any other way around it and it'll hurt your feelings. You can tell him you wished he was there, he missed out. But don't freeze him out. Losing someone is one of the worst things, and you realize that a little bit as your doing it but a couple years from now you will REALLY notice-- promise.

CD

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thanks for the previous advice,it helped,yes I really like him and I asked,like you said but he avoided to answer and the conversation continued like nothing had happend...what do you think about that?

Editor's note: Please always provide links to your previous questions since nobody but the site admin can look them up. Here is the link to the previous question:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=584619

If he is avoiding the question... he doesn't like you. I am sorry. I know it's very Cliche' but you will KNOW when it's the right guy, and if it's awkward and everything and he is avoiding a serious question then move on.. establish a friendship and leave it at that.

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Hi I'm Alexandra and 13 years, I'm from Romania. I like a boy in my class, but he knows, in July has a birthday and I was also invited, but I told him that like him, I just sent a message on messenger, and do not know if you read the message. I want to tell him that you like, but do not know how to tell. Please help me
P.S. I have not had until now a boyfriend

Alrighty ... I am just going to give you some advice from some of my past experiences.

I used to be "in love" with this guy in my grade and I talked to him on msn messanger as often as I could.. even when he didn't talk to me. I sent him a message and told him I liked him. I know he read it because things got weird and we don't talk anymore.. But now looking back I realize that he wasn't my true love anyways.

In life you "live and learn" and if you want to find out if this guy likes you your going to have to get brave... ask him. It'll be hard, but more then likley he got the message and he just doesn't like you the same way... I am sorry but that's just how it usually happens. When you find the right guy you KNOW and he does too. Don't worry though even though right now you feel mature and everything you will change alot in the next couple years, and will more then likley date many, many boys. This guy or not.


Good luck,

CD
(sorry if I have any mispellings- I am sure I do :)

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17/f

Do you guys think that it's worth it to spend $110 on a watch that you're in love with and will most likely wear every day? I will be spending my own money on this.

Thanks :)

Yes, it's alright to splurge every now and then. Also you have to think of its purpose. You'll wear it every day, and keep track of time. Well worth the money although I wouldn't splurge over $150

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18/Female

I am a freshman at my local community college, and in my second semester. Right now I am just taking my general education reqirements, so picking a major hasn't been that big of a deal. Now however, I have to pick a major before my next semester. I have no idea what I want to do or what I want to major in! It's driving me crazy, and the pressure is really starting to get to me. It's all so confusing; normally when I give advice I always tell confused students to see an advisor, but I don't even know who to see or what to ask. There are general ed. advisors, transfer advisors, course advisors, etc. I feel completely lost. I don't even know what school I am going to transfer to, or if I am even going to transfer.

I have been back and forth between going to law school, elementary teaching, counceling, ultrasound/radiology technician, journalism/writing, opening a business, and plenty more! I have no idea what I am going to do, and I am terrified I am going to make the wrong choice.

Some general information:

- I live in a small town, so I don't know if opening a business would be a good choice. I have no intentions on moving to far away.

- I am shy. It sucks as far as getting a job goes, but it is what it is.

- Making a good amount of money is important, but so is enjoying what I do. That's what makes the choice the most difficult.

- I have a boyfriend that I have been seeing for five years, so I want to start a family sooner rather than later. Going to school for ten years is not something I would particulary want to do.

- I love children

- I love giving advice and helping people.

I guess I am just looking for some guidance, options, advice? I don't know. HELP!!

Hi,
You have alot of key points, which in my opinion (with not really knowing you) I would eliminate a few of your choices above. for example a ultrasound/ radiology technician would involve not only the standard colloge but also aprox. 3-4 years of med. school, not ideal for family starting! Also opening a buisness would be somthing you would probabley have to either move to a good location, or dish out alot of money to beging,then hope you would get that back in a smaller location.
Elementary teaching sound good, and the money isn't the best in the begging, but after college you can do online classes to get your masters if you want to earn more money.
Journalism, i don't know much on that career, sorry.
Bust I just wanted to tell you to follow your heart, not the money and not the boyfriend!
Okay maybey the boyfriend, if your really serious and thinking or settleing down in the next 10 years. Don't let money stear you into something you dont want to do, its a horrible mistake, and not one you can always get out of!

Good Luck, and best wihes

-aml

p.s. if you descided to be a teacher your get summer breaks, spring breaks, christmas, and so on! just thought you should keep that in mind!

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on facebook the chat thing at the bottom wont let me enter text. like it shows the people and their convos but wont let me enter anything i type. how can i fix it i cant figure it out?

Alot of times if you have a slow connection it won't work, or if you don't have the latest internet

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Should you thank every individual person that wishes you a happy birthday on Facebook?

No, It would be easier to just update your status with a message like:
Thanks to all my friends who took the time to wish me a happy birthday! I appreciate it very much.


You can, ofcourse, change it up add something more personal or whatever

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Does anyone know how to tell when you are going to get your period? I am 13 and I haven't got my period yet. :( ALL my friends have their periods and I am the only one who doesn't? Why me??

Are you overweight, eat alot, stressed, or depressed? Those can all lead to delayed periods.

Most girls get theres around middle school. Just keep waiting by 15-16 though if you still havn't consult with an adult or doctor!

I know what it is like to weight, i got mine when i was 12, though. It isn't fun once you do!
Just remember to stay active, and exercise. Also eat healthy, and don't smoke or drink or anything. Try to live a stress, and depress free life!

Good Luck
C.D.

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does anyone have any ideas at all for what i could do with my hair. it is over halfway to my elbows and with kind of alot of layers and my bangs are pretty much blended now and my hair has a special wave haha not straight not wavy just weird so i pretty much straighten it every day. its now naturally back to many shades of browns n tinted red i guess? i cant curl it to save my life and dont like ponytails or headbands or hairspray bc im kinda wild haha. i usually wear just the bang area to the side clipped up in a bow or down, what else is there to do?

You could maybey try doing a bump, {like the bump it on televison} just pinch some of your hair, or you bangs if they are long enough and pin it back.
Try parting it mostly on the right side, it is a simple change but makes a big difference.
C.D.

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There's this cute guy I like. The thing is, we're not that close yet. Do you think I should add him on Facebook already or just wait for him to do it or until we're close?



xoxo

Add him for sure! BUT DON'T post abunch of annoying crap on there to impress him! like don't update your status just because you think it will catch his attention. Also don't make comments or push the like button on everything he posts! He will think your annoying and block you. Be cool!

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So I was in this amazing relationship back in July-August and I loved every minute of it. He was an amazing guy that made me happy and I made him happy and everything was perfect in our relationship. Except for the fact that his parents did not like me (mainly his father because he thought I was just using him because I was "too pretty) and his brother who hates me because he thinks I'm a slut. Oh yeah and our classmates don't like us together either. They constantly gossip about me and call me horrible names (mainly girls) because I was dating him. Why did our amazing relationship end you ask? Well because I had enough of the drama and stress that came from our relationship and I ended it and I regretted it ever since. Like to this day I still get butterflies when I pass him in the hallway, in class, etc. I don't know why though :/ I can't stop thinking him either which is weird. I'm zoning out in class because he pops into my head frequently which is crazy right? I'm usually an A student with all AP Classes but lately I've been just out of it :/ So anyone wanna help me out here/give me tips/advice?

LOVE.

u still love him

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is it true that lotion dries out skin the more you use it? because your body thinks it is getting enough moisture that it doesn't need to make any "oil" anymore?

Yes! Only use it when your skin IS dry, not when it is unnessary.

THis is simular to chapstick and lips. Only use it when your lips are dry or they will crack!

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I need to know how much I will lose if I don't eat for a week? I researched it, and most people say 21lbs...I know that it is a dangerous thing but I tend to drink water a lot anyways and maybe eat a K bar ever once and awhile. I'm also trying to fast. is there anything I should know?

Are you crazy? What ignorant jerk told you to loose wait so bad you want to starve yourself?

Starving yourself for a week, even a day is stupid! It throughs your whole system off whack. Makes you irratable, and cranky.

Say good bye to healthy skin! Not to mention oily hair. Stomach pains out the wazoo!

The lack of sugar to your brain causes you to be slow inatentive, and makes it hard to focus! Also you will get serious head aches

YOU WILL LOOSE WEIGHT! But after the 7 days when you do eat again your body won't disgard anything usless for the food you intake! Instead it will be in hibernation preperation. It will store EVERYTHING incase you descide to go for another week without eating.


So if you wanna "starve" yourself because you think you have to, then you already have emotional drama that needs fixing!
I suggest exercise, fruits and veggies.


You could eat Fruits and Veggies only for a week! Garunteed to help you loose weight without lack of nutrition!

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hey , i was wondering if you can help me write an essay on shoplifiting.

--on why shoplifting is not good at all
and second how to make better decisions .
can you please tell me an idea on how to start .thanks

Well one thing you can include is shoplifting jacks up the prices of everything else! Also if it is a small store with few employees, the merchandise stolen can be deducted out of the employees paycheck, and somtimes those people need every penny!

To start out with I would do one of two things, {depending on your personal choice} .

I would either a)put 'shoplifting-' in italics and bold print, then after in just italics the definition of shoplifting.

OR

B) State a shocking fact: FOR EXAMPLE: (not true by the way) 6 out of every 8 shoplifters are sentenced to 20+ years in prison.
Its not only interesting but gets the readers attention.

You could also start out with a question, and end with the answer, i havn't ever done that but it is pretty neat too!

ORGANIZING:
Introduction: Opening statement, grabs the readers attention, gives alittle insight to what is to come in the essay.
Body: Consisting of several paragraphs 3 or more about topics on shoplifting. Each paragraphing a different point to the article.
Conclusion or closing: Ending, restating main idea and making sure topic is stated.

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Im 14 and a guy, i have had 1 gf but i didn't kiss her or anything but hug and i was wondering if first kisses are suppose to be awkwardish?

And is it normal to not kno what to do?

Of course, your not supposed to just auto matically know how to kiss someone! The girl is probley nervous to. In the future you will just look back and laugh about it! It isn't a big deal everyone gets like that !!!

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ok look you guys,,, i really REALLY like this guy but he is 19 yrs old and we just broke up cause of our age differnce and i didnt want to get him in any trouble. But me and him still have a unbreakalbe connection, he still kisses me and everything, and he told his best friend and his best friend told me that he still wants to be with me!! but we both know we cant be 2gether, but we want to know if we should start dating again or not... so if you guys could pleazzz help me out

how old are you?

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hello advicenators.

first of all i havent been on this site in 3 years. and must i say its great to be back.

so i wont get into details because i'm just wondering this in general, what happens when someone you love, as in a best friend, hurts you. they didnt mean to, and you understand that, but what they did hurt you and you start to realize they werent the person you thought they were. i want things to go back to normal but i can't forget what she did to me.

any experiences with a simliar situation? advice?

If they arn't who you thought they were, they can't go back to normal. Because that was never there normal. Look into the future, can you picture your life better, or worse with out that person?

Worse- Forgive them but move on without them
better- Stay friends, forgive and forget, we all have to.



I have had a simular situation! My bff turns out to be hatfull, and judgmental of others. I hate that about her but I can't change it really! I have told her that I am sorry but I can't be friends with a jerk.
She quit. Now though I can always tell when she is judging someone. I hate that! But I live with it beause I don't want to loose her.


:)
C.D.

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