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break ups
How do I break up with my boyfriend that is in love with me but I dont even like him? Hes 15 and im 14.
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Oh my... memories ( and not positive ones sadly).
I dated a guy for three years and I just broke up with him a month ago. Honestly though, I hadn't "loved" him for about 9-10 months before I broke up with him. The biggest mistake of my senior year in high school was NOT breaking up with him sooner. In fact now I see it ruined a lot for me because I didn't have the guts to do it.
So here is my first piece of advice- and this will be the MOST important so pay close attention :
* DO IT NOW. THIS WEEK. DO NOT WAIT ANY LONGER! *
Okay now that I've got that out of the way I'll tell you how I broke up with my boyfriend of almost three years that I no longer liked, yet he was completely head over heels in love with me.
I called him on the phone (we lived two hours apart and I felt more comfortable behind the phone) and told him that I cared for him, so much. I would always remember how wonderful he is and how much he loved me. However my feelings had changed, I didn't love him like he loved me. While I would always be here if he needed to talk I felt that our relationship was over. I apologized for hurting him and I asked if he had any questions. Of course he was angry- he cried. He had questions. I answer honestly and then ended the call. He called for a few days. I would answer and tell him the same thing I did the first night. Then I quit answering his calls and texts. This is where I moved on.
I found another boyfriend about a month or so later. He's incredible and I truly think I'm in love. Totally different than my ex. I wish I had broke up sooner!!!
But don't waste your time or his by staying in the relationship. When you know it's over.. it's over. Nothing can change that.
Good Luck!
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You break up with him like you would any one else. You should be honest but kind.
Just tell him that you don't want this relationship. Maybe you're only seeing him as a friend. Don't let him beg for you. If he does, just plainly tell him that it's over.
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The best way is to be honest and tell him you are not interested. I don't understand why you agreed to be his girlfriend unless you didn't know you wouldnt like him until you hung out together. Just seeing someone at school is not enough sometimes to tell if you like them. If this is the case for you, tell him you didn't know him enough when you agreed to date to know if there was an attraction to him but you know now that there isn't. Thats all you need to say
But you need to know why you want to break up. Dating as a teen and college age should be about learning what you like and don't like about the opposite sex. If you just switch boyfriends on a whim just because someone looks cuter, that's not a good reason to break up.
Next time someone asks you to date, you might try telling them, I don't know you well enough to know if I'd be attracted to you enough to date you, so lets be friends and hang out and if I do feel that attraction, after a couple times, I'll let you know and we can date. That would be one way to avoid breaking a guys heart.
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