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losing virginity.
18/f
I'm really into this guy I've been talking to for awhile and I want to have sex with him, he's the perfect guy and he's so sweet. He wants to have sex with me too we just haven't picked a time to hangout yet. I'm ready so please no lectures about "finding the right guy". I haven't told him that I'm a virgin, I'm guessing he thinks I'm not because he knows that my last relationship was a year and a half long and probably figures I had sex with my exboyfriend. He's not a virgin. I'm really nervous about what it'll be like, so I have a couple questions: Did it hurt/what'd it feel like? Can you compare it to putting in a tampon? I wear tampons. And should I tell him that I'm a virgin? I don't want him to go like super hard on me because he thinks I'm not.
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did you ever follow up on it? did you have sex with him? i lost it to my best guy friends because i knew we would remian friends for a long time and i can say i gave to someone i cared about and cared about me. :)
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This varies from different girls. As long as you relax yourself and your comfortable you should be fine. And its kinda in a way like wearing tampons depends on the guy. It does not hurt that bad and if it does only for a few secs..just breath. And def tell him your a virgin.
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defiantly tell him your a virgin! because more than likely he'll pop your cherry and it'll be kinda awkward when he's like wait you weren't a virgin? haha :)
also it depends on the guy but for me my first time was SO terribly painful. the only thing that hurt was it going in, then after that the pain is gone and it feels great.
guys don't really care about you being a virgin or not, at least a good guy doesn't! so tell him, who knows he might find that totally sexy ha ;D
just take things naturally and don't worry about it. just make sure he wears a condom and I promise that after it's all the way in, it will be like.. awesome hahah
good luck girl!
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well all i can say is using tampons are really bad if you a virgin if you can use tampons then a guys you know what should be no problem. and tell the guy the truth he will be gentle with you
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I am old enough to be your grandfather. I believe in giving straight answers to the questions I chose to answer on this website. The given below is the best information I have or have researched for your question.
I found the website, shown at the end, while answering a very similar question for other young ladies. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. At your age sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than a partner would at the same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman most always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always use a condom.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I should be telling you to wait. I am sure your parents have already given you that advice and it is good advice. It is also hypocritical of most of us as most all of us my age and younger engaged in sex long before we were married. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urges without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is generally apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. At your present ages you can have all the intimacy of sex using these alternatives without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
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It differs from girl to girl. For many it hurts - with varying degrees of pain - and for others they dont feel anything at all or a slight discomfort. Remember you're stretching your hymen and it may take a few times until your body finally feels comfortable accomodating something as large as a penis. Tampons are significantly smaller therefore they prove painless upon insertion unless youre significantly tight.
Some girls bleed as well (reiterating the stretching of your hymen) from a little to a little more than a little.
Its also very common that first timers dont feel pleasure from penetration and this can take many attempts and experimentation to achieve this.
I think it would be best to be honest so that he knows to be slow and gentle.
Regardless of the obstacles, theres much you can do to make it as problem and pain free as possible. Arousal is key in preparation for penetration as the more aroused you are the better your cervix lifts making more room for a penis. Your vagina can also stretch if it needs to. So spend plenty of time on foreplay.
Use a lot of lubrication and go slowly. Stop if it hurts too much and take your time. Missionary position is good because you are just relaxing while he does the work and it will prevent you from tensing up as much. Or perhaps being ontop so you have full control of how far he goes into you, the speed at which youre going etc.
So just relax and experiment, try to enjoy it as much as possible. And remember to use protection!
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