Member Since: February 11, 2011
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Last Update: February 16, 2011
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Alright so basically I'm just going to go straight to the point.. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 24. We live together. We've been together for a year, a bit more, 14 or 15 months perhaps. About a month and a half ago, I had a miscarriage. I between 10-12 weeks pregnant and had known for about a month of that. Anyways it was a difficult pregnancy and stuff, I dunno, definately a test in our relationship but it brought us together and I saw a side of him I loved. He proposed but I wasn't ready. since then, when we have sex, he doesn't want to put a condom on. I don't think he would ever ejaculate inside me but it's still obviousy risky behavior, and I HAVE pointed this out him. One day I said straight up 'put on a condom, I'm going to get pregnant' to which he responded 'been there, done that'. I tried bringing it up a couple times afterwards and trying to get a feel of whether he's TRYING to have a child or whether he's just really being that reckless, and he just changed the subject completely.. To be honest, I love kids and have always been of the mind that if only I could afford them, I'd be happy to get pregnant. This doesn't mean I didn't take preventative measures - until my pregnancy I have always used birth control, (I'm sick of the side effects and would really like it if just for a bit he took over the birth control aspect even if it's just for a couple months) and ultimately I want my kids to have everything and that means waiting for the opportune time financially and in every other way. But that doesn't change that a huge part of me was really happy and excited to be pregnant. I know he's the right man to raise kids with, although we've been together for a short time I have a profound amount of respect for him and know that he's the kind of man to always live up to his responsibilities. He co-owns a business (a coffee shop). He has always talked about how dreams about being that cool dad with all the 'toys', snowmachines, dirtbikes, quads ect. That's how a grew up so I love the idea. He's getting a truck in the spring (necessary to haul around all the above toys lol) and I know a snow machine is somewhere in his budjet for the next year. During my pregnancy, he obviously reworked his budjet, and while everything would have to be pushed back we could STILL, by the time our child was old enough, afford to raise him in the lifestyle we've been hoping. While it's not the BEST timing, and I do feel young to be a mother, my maternal instincts are obviously pretty strong right now and I can't help but hope that it happens. To be honest the thing that bugs me the most about it would just be explaining to everyone else. "weren't you just pregnant? do you NOT use birth control?" are questions that I would be pretty uncomfortable with and it seems bound to come up with someone lol.. I don't know. I mean I also wouldn't mind being married to the father of my children. I just wonder, if you aren't ready to marry someone, is it even possible for you to be ready to have children with them? Do I sound too young? Honest opinions are greatly appreciated. (link)
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you dont sound too young. if it is meant to be it will happen again....hopefully. i would find out the source to your miscarriage and make sure you are in fact able to carry a child. it sounds like he does want kids since he does not feel the need to strap up. i think you need to let him read this, it was such a touching thing to read and then you two can discuss together your future options. just be blunt and tell him you want to wait until your financially stable to try to have a kid again and tell him you are sick of your birthcontrol's side effects and MAKE HIM use a condom or else no nookie. thats my advice good luck to both of you!
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I'm not sure what to do here.......2 great guys that I really like and are good friends that I can't live without. Guy A and I can have conversations and we have a lot in common. He makes me laugh and feel really happy whenever I'm around him - he is one of my best friends. Guy B and I can have conversations as well, along with teasing and laughter as well.
The problem I have is that I don't know who to choose, as well as which of them like me. Both of them flirt a little bit with me, but I think they are just messing around. Help?! (link)
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they sound like the same guy haha umm maybe see if they want to out sometime (seperatlyw with you of course) like to a movie or lunch or something or maybe a party and see which one connects more on a dating level. maybe the boy will wind up choosing you instead ;)
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my friends dont even talk to me . i feel really left out. i am kinda shy can u giv me any advice!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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find better friends! or at least find out why they are acting so strange, sometimes people change i have lost ffiends the same ways in the fact that they were acting weird twords me and i didnt do anything 'wrong'.....chances are its them not you but dont let it get to you i mean this may be just to see how strong of a person you are and how confident you can be on your own.
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I'm really into this guy I've been talking to for awhile and I want to have sex with him, he's the perfect guy and he's so sweet. He wants to have sex with me too we just haven't picked a time to hangout yet. I'm ready so please no lectures about "finding the right guy". I haven't told him that I'm a virgin, I'm guessing he thinks I'm not because he knows that my last relationship was a year and a half long and probably figures I had sex with my exboyfriend. He's not a virgin. I'm really nervous about what it'll be like, so I have a couple questions: Did it hurt/what'd it feel like? Can you compare it to putting in a tampon? I wear tampons. And should I tell him that I'm a virgin? I don't want him to go like super hard on me because he thinks I'm not. (link)
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did you ever follow up on it? did you have sex with him? i lost it to my best guy friends because i knew we would remian friends for a long time and i can say i gave to someone i cared about and cared about me. :)
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I need help...I guess i feel like i have just been really down latley. I honestly like say i hate the world way to much and i don't feel lik ei do but then again i do. I can't explain. Anyways lately i just have not been happy and stuff. I had a thing with this guy for about 3 months and i guess we kinda ended because we stopped tallking and i think we accually liked eachother and stuff but I was really lame and never hung out with him because I was very i guess just i dont know i never wanted to hang out with anyone and stuff and I don't even know. Ok so well now he has a thing with this other girl and i hear no one really like her nbd. aha ok so anyways latley i've been trying to like put cute outfits and stuff together not only to make my self feel better i guess you could say but to like attract the guy and well i think it's worked but u dont think the outfits are the only reason. I don't know at school i always see him looking at me still and today he just stared at me and stuff and i have been hving dreams about him and i just feel lonely. I know it's totally my fault I never hung out with him and i wish i could do everything over :( i also go to thereapy just to feel better and it's been working i feel somewhat happier but i guess I just want to know what to do to feel happier and what do you think about the guy cuz i really miss him and my friend is always saying you should talk to him becuase there was really no claification that you guys like ended your thing :(( hellp! (link)
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nothing wrong with making yourself feel good about youself sweetheart. you rock those cute outfits and do up your hair and nails and makeup and whatever boosts your confidence (i myself got rid of all my 'ugly' and 'fat' clothes so im forced to look good all the time haha but it worked now i never walk out with an outfit that i regret wearing for 'comfort' but anyway as for this boy you need to act like you dont have time for his foolish games. you put your confident foot forward and look at him, give me a slight smile, and continue walking. give other boys a chance too, you may find someone you really like. as for things to boost your mood, eating healthy always helps, drinking lots of water for your skin and weight and working out makes you feel and look good. now get hime girlfriend! say things to yourself everyday that you like about yourself and be your own best friend. things will be better always be optimistic its sexy too :)
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So, my boyfriend & I broke up in August. We'd been dating for 11 months. Hes a junior, Im a freshman. We were in love, but i guess i got too clingy or something and he just didnt feel the same love as before. Its now February, and for about a month I've been talking to this senior. He's super nice, but I think he still likes this chick he had a thing with a few months ago. I dunno how she feels about him but whatever. So yeah I kinda like this senior. DONT tell me Im too young, because at my school this happens all the time. My ex and I still talk, but he's such a flirt sometimes I dont know if its genuine. Recently he seems to like talking to me again. Obviously I still have feelings for him, I always will. But I kinda do wanna give this senior thing a try, & he's also nice and we have things in common already. Even after typing this all out, I'm thinking to give the senior thing a go, but I'd like a little bit more experienced advice please. Thanks very much! :) (link)
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take it from me! i made theee mistake of ditching a new boy for my ex-moral of the story-GO WITH THE NEW BOY TRY SOMETHING NEW because all the same problems were there with my ex once time started unfolding. i still regret taking him back and not fully giving the new boy a chance...seeing as i wound up dumping my ex and havent been able to get the new boy back :(
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17/f Me & my bf have been in a relationship for about 3 years. My bf has cheated like 3 times since we have actually gotten together (june 10) this next newest time : Since my boyfriend went to go hang out with his ex and not tell me we've been having problems. I told him some really mean things so then he stoped feeling bad about what he did and started being an asshole saying he was going to move back to texas where he's from so I stoped being mad about what he did so we could just be happy. weve just been having problems now & today bc I wouldn't just "suck his dick" hes mad and needs to smoke so I write him a check to go get money to smoke & hes still being mean & hes like he can't wait to leave, im sucha lame bitch , that he hates me, fuck me, & I just sit there cause idk what to say, i say I don't deserve that but it just hurts & i start to cry so I go upstairs & hes like thanks for doing NOTHING, but I just don't know what to do , I don't wanna not be together & him leave, but I know that he keeps hurting me and I don't deserve that, I just don't want to make the wrong choice & i know only I can make the right one . I just need some unbiased advice ?! (link)
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i read in cosmo that if a guy cheats more than twice (and especially if no alcohol or drugs were involved) that he will is a serial cheater and will continue to cheat. he seems to treat you with disrespect and having had the same problem with my now ex boyfriend of 3 years i have dumped his sorry ass and started having respect for MYSELF and havent been this happy since beofre i met him :) honey you seem like a smart girl i know you will do the same....would you want to marry someone like that? have his babies and commit YOUR life to a skeez like this and have him just take advantage? no way sista, dont settle for second best!
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what should i get my boyfriend for valentines day? I know he loves basketball, loves singing, loves dancing. He also loves romantic dates. He deserves something other than a card so what should I give him? (link)
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tickets to a basketball game he loves, or maybe be sappy and leave rose petals and candles in his room/house and cook him his fave dinner (or get takeout if you cant cook lol) or take him to a strip club for some fun together and give him a private show after!
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