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i pulled a muscle in my stomach yesterday (or so i think) by doing a back-tuck off of a diving board into a pool. after i threw the tuck it hurt really bad in the side of my stomach so i thought i pulled something. today at cheer/tumbling i couldn't throw tucks or even back-handsprings b/c it hurt so bad and then towards the end i couldn't even do round-offs. so i told the instructor and he let me leave early. is there anything i can do to make it feel better like put heat on it? it's on the left side of my stomach under my ribs... thanks so much (link)
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Since you are active in cheerleading and will be using those muscles a lot, I think a visit to your doctor would be a good idea. You don't want to get active real soon and spend the entire year with muscle strain. A doctor can tell you when you can resume your activities without doing more damage. :)
This site will help you understand and prevent muscle strain.
http://www.ecureme.com/emyhealth/Pediatrics/Muscle_Strain.asp
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Hello again, thanks a lot for your answers. Somehow our pals have stepped aside of our lives and now my most intimate friend lives in the states, some few thousand kilometers away; so much for going to his place and telling him hehe... so I am grateful for finding someone to have his or her opinion.
Okay... big question. You say in your 30 years of marriage you've been in my same position. Have you, really? I mean, have you come to a point where sex between you guys had lost a big part of its appeal? If so, how did you work things out? That's what scares me... Can it actually be restored to a point where the desire for your couple is reborn? If not, what hope is left for a relationship?
You also told me to set aside time each day to talk or just to be together, and man do we do that. We have always spent time together, almost everyday prior to living together (1 and a half years ago), and now even more. We are some of the most, uh... I don't know the english word... it is goofy? -people around, and always very caring and tender to each other. We have talked and talked and talked; maybe I just need to be by myself for a while, but spending a few days with my father is not an appealing sight to behold, so...
These days are being easily the worst for like... 6 years? I'm still confused, but nevertheless taking into account your words. In the interim, I guess I'll try to focus on the things I dislike about the other girl, but this situation is tearing me apart...
Again, thanks for your advice. I will definitely keep you informed. I know this is a big message, but when I start it's hard to finish, and I like writing. (link)
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Understand what you mean about the long writings!
Don't worry about it I do the same. Much easier than talking much of the time.
Yes I have been there. Little different situation maybe...but, well not really. My husband and I got married very early (yes pregnant teen), 16 and 17. He had been prone to going into these...I called them funks, for days at a time. I think a lot of it may have been depression but he refused to talk to me or tell a doctor about what was bothering him. Sex was still okay....just not as often and something definitely missing.
Believe me, there is NOTHING on earth like knowing something is wrong and being unable to help. After a couple of years (or more) of this behavior this past year I had enough. I told him you either tell me what is wrong or you go find your happiness elsewhere... because he was starting to make ME nuts.
We had a long talk. The gist being that he felt he had "missed" something. The being with a lot of different women and all that. He thought he was strange and felt I wouldn't understand and he thought he needed that experience and it was denied him and all that. He wasn't sure he wanted to be with me anymore, but he still loved me, considered me his best friend, didn't want to hurt me and didn't want to give me up. To put it mildly, he was confused. We wrote emails back and forth telling each other what we really meant to each other. Then in my newsletters one day there was the one on infidelity...the one I tried probably badly, to quote from for you. I don't remember where it came from, most likely a health newsletter, but I had never gotten anything like it before. It just showed up at the right time (we are convinced my granny had something to do with it...if you believe in the guardian angel stuff!) I sent it to him.
It made him realize that other women weren't the answer. He had everything he needed and wanted right here at home. Now, we cuddle nightly before he goes to sleep (he has to rise early for work, I am a night owl), and we talk about everything and anything. It has become a habit and the best part of the day. Our sex life is back and better than ever. As a matter of fact, it is surprising that after 30 years that it can continue to be better. But, it is. He knows he can tell me anything he is feeling and I am not going to tell him to get lost. My feelings are occasionally hurt but, I am a sensitive sort! The best part of it all is the depressed funks he was having for days at a time and month after month for the past several years have disappeared completely. I think for him it was just accepting that there are things he didn't do when he was younger and he really doesn't need to. He has something better and something to be proud of. At age 47 he has been married 30 years, has 2 kids who were raised by both parents and are fairly responsible adults. Has 5 grand kids to spoil who think the world of him. And he has a wife who loves him more than anything. When weighed against a quickie for the sake of a few minutes of sex with someone different, the guilt he would feel afterward, well...he decided it wasn't worth the bother because he actually has it all.
OK, that being said...if you are still awake...Yes I think it can indeed be better and restored. It may never be the EXACTLY the same, I mean you know each other and a lot of mystery is no longer there, but it can be better than ever. Knowing someone is there for you and will be no matter what is wonderful. If you can get past all this it will be worth it. If not, well we can talk about that if it happens. I doubt she will toss you out on your ear if she truly loves you. This will definitely be a test. You will know her true feelings for you when all is said and done.
I realize you spend a lot of time together. Try the cuddle talk with the lights turned off and really honestly speak of your feelings...or just be goofy once things are back on track. You will like it. :)
If you do feel the need to get away by yourself then do so. Get a tent and go camping for a couple of days. No TV or distractions, just you and your thoughts.
I understand the worst days feeling. But when it is over....such peace!
About the other girl. You have to realize as my hubby did, that being attracted is not a crime. Men always look and will always be attracted by a pretty girl. I think it is natural (wish I could find that article, I will look for it). It doesn't mean you are bad or don't love your partner. You just don't act on it.
I sure hope things work out for you. Do keep me informed. Hope I didn't bore you to much, and if you need to ask more questions, feel free. Best of luck. :)
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OKAY SO IN LIKE APRIL I HEARD THAT ONE OF MY FRIENDS WAS IN A CAR ACCEIDENT AND DIED EVERONE HAD IT IN THERE PROS AND I WAS GOING TO GO TO THE FURNAL BUT IT GOT CANCLED IT WASNT ON THE NEW OR ANYTHING ALOT OF PEOPLE WERE UPSET ND DIENT UNDERSTAND AND NOW THAT THERE GETTING OVER IT THERE STARTING TO WONDER COULD SHE OF JUST FAKED HER DEATH AND MOVED ? OR SOMETHING ALOT OF PEOPLE THINK SHE MOVED ToO BOSNIA BUT ARNT SHURE
MY QUESGTION IS ARE THERE ANY WEBSITES I CAN GO TO TO SEE LIKE WHEN PEOPLE DIED AND STUFF OR ANY THING I CAN GET ONLINE TO PROVE TO PEOPLE IF SHE REALLY DIED ? OR ANY SUGESTIONS OR TIPS I DO RATE!
PLEASE HELP !
I DIENT REALLY KNOW HER I TALKED TO HER ONLINE.. BUT ALOT OF MY FRIENDS DID..
THANK YOU !
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hi my names kayla and im 14 yrs. old. me and this boy named zach went out like a yr.ago.and we didnt last long.and now me and him are starting to talk again and we are getting along great!me and him were talking about getting to know each other and then mabe hooking up since we havent went out in along time! and me and him agree to make it work this time! and then we started talking about sex! and im kinda scared to! cause i start to think that if the condom breaks then im gunna get pregnant! i dont know what to do! i would get in so much trouble if i got pregnant since im only 14! but i really like him now that we atarted talking again! and i dont want to tell him no cause i want to make our relationship last! please help me on what i should do! and if i use a condom what the percent would be that i could get pregnant!
thanx alot! xoxo im me on xoxokaylaoxox91
always kayla (link)
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You are certainly right to have concerns. I have found some links for you to read and discuss with your boyfriend before you have sex.
http://www.coolnurse.com/sex.htm
http://www.coolnurse.com/birthcontrol.htm
http://teenadvice.about.com/library/blsextest1.htm
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hi my names kayla and im 14 yrs. old. me and this boy named zach went out like a yr.ago.and we didnt last long.and now me and him are starting to talk again and we are getting along great!me and him were talking about getting to know each other and then mabe hooking up since we havent went out in along time! and me and him agree to make it work this time! and then we started talking about sex! and im kinda scared to! cause i start to think that if the condom breaks then im gunna get pregnant! i dont know what to do! i would get in so much trouble if i got pregnant since im only 14! but i really like him now that we atarted talking again! and i dont want to tell him no cause i want to make our relationship last! please help me on what i should do! and if i use a condom what the percent would be that i could get pregnant!
thanx alot! xoxo im me on xoxokaylaoxox91
always kayla (link)
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You are certainly right to have concerns. I have found some links for you to read and discuss with your boyfriend before you have sex.
http://www.coolnurse.com/sex.htm
http://www.coolnurse.com/birthcontrol.htm
http://teenadvice.about.com/library/blsextest1.htm
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OKAY SO IN LIKE APRIL I HEARD THAT ONE OF MY FRIENDS WAS IN A CAR ACCEIDENT AND DIED EVERONE HAD IT IN THERE PROS AND I WAS GOING TO GO TO THE FURNAL BUT IT GOT CANCLED IT WASNT ON THE NEW OR ANYTHING ALOT OF PEOPLE WERE UPSET ND DIENT UNDERSTAND AND NOW THAT THERE GETTING OVER IT THERE STARTING TO WONDER COULD SHE OF JUST FAKED HER DEATH AND MOVED ? OR SOMETHING ALOT OF PEOPLE THINK SHE MOVED ToO BOSNIA BUT ARNT SHURE
MY QUESGTION IS ARE THERE ANY WEBSITES I CAN GO TO TO SEE LIKE WHEN PEOPLE DIED AND STUFF OR ANY THING I CAN GET ONLINE TO PROVE TO PEOPLE IF SHE REALLY DIED ? OR ANY SUGESTIONS OR TIPS I DO RATE!
PLEASE HELP !
I DIENT REALLY KNOW HER I TALKED TO HER ONLINE.. BUT ALOT OF MY FRIENDS DID..
THANK YOU !
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Im into theater and all that stuff but im NOT GAY!!! i also dance for some of the shows. why do people think im gay??? GRRR it makes me so mad!!!! Why do ppl generalize like that? (link)
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To put it bluntly because they are stupid. It is aggravating, but true. Good luck. :)
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i know what an orgasm is. .. but is it safe 2 have 1 when people are in ur house? do u wait 2 have the house empty? how loud iz it? (link)
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Depends on weather or not your dad approves. If he doesn't then no, I doubt it would be a good idea.
The volume depends on the person. Some are loud and some are not. If your partner is inexperienced it probably isn't going to be a problem. :)
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can you get sick from the heat? like throwing up? thanks (link)
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You sure can. You can get heat exhaustion or worse yet heat stroke. Google either one for more info. :)
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Hey,
Im a 14/m and i babysit. Im NOT gay!!! i have a gf (were pretty steady) and everything. But babysitting is fun bc i like to b with lil kids and im getting payd 4 it. its easy money. Do the parnets whos kid im babysitting think im gay? bc ive gotten a lot of ppl who think im gay. (link)
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I wouldn't think you were gay. Some guys are just good with kids. My son stays home and watches all 5 of his because his wife can't handle them. He loves it. Some guys are just good with kids. If you enjoy what you are doing, don't let anyone sway you from babysitting. Introduce them to your girlfriend if you are overly worried about it. :)
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umm... can i practice wearing tampons like putting them in then taking them out 8 hrs later? (link)
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Here is a website that will answer all your questions.
http://www.dr-ann.org/index/results.asp?keyword=Tampons
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what are the risks of getting your belly pierced? does it hurt a lot? (link)
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There are some risks involved with any piercings.
Check out this website and it will tell you all you need to know ( and then some!).
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/body-piercing.html
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do you think i should be scared to use a tampon? I'm 13 and this will be my first time. I'm afraid I'm going to put it in wrong. Will it hurt?I keep telling myself that i can do it but then i back out. (link)
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I have found a website that might help you out. If you could...let me know if it helps. :)
http://www.dr-ann.org/index/results.asp?keyword=Tampons
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Lately i haven't been my self, i've been moody n upset. i have alot of friends that i just don't want to hang out with, a great boyfriend that the more i like him, i get more scared of losing him... i don't kno what to do. I can't talk to my mom, my friends or my boyfriend, because everyone thinks i mad at them. Someone please r there any websites that i could go to¿?¿? (link)
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Here is a website that may just answer some of your questions. Let me know if it is of help. :)
http://www.dr-ann.org/moods/depression/
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im nauseas all the time...does anyone know how to get rid of it?or what to eat? (link)
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If this is something new then eat some crackers and 7-up.
If this is something you have had for a while, see your doctor. A person should not have nausea all the time. :)
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Hi, and first of all thanks for taking the time to answer me before. I have updated my question with additional info, and would be willing to read further comments from you, if any.
(My previous question with the addiotional info is here: http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=362904)
Right now I am between two options. Telling my friend about the hard time I am having, and then telling my girlfriend what happened to me and try to find a cause and a solution. The other option is keeping it all inside, which feels like trying to fool or cheat myself.
Maybe I will just tell the other girl I HAD a thing for her some time ago, and that it was really hard to cope with and really painful, and that she'll eventually find the love of her life. I'm so confused right now... but I definitely have to make a decision before friday, because that'd be the chance to tell or remain silent. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Thanks so much for allowing me to update following your added comments. :)
First thing, tell the girlfriend first. You are probably smart enough to know that already, I add it because you may not be thinking clearly at the moment.
I am really glad that you have decided to try and work things out. So many don't anymore. Divorce/breaking up is sooo much easier and that is unfortunate. Relationships need to be worked on each and every day to stay strong. Somewhere along the way you and your lady got off track. It can be fixed if you both really want to be.
I have been married for 30 years. I have been through what you are feeling with my husband. It is not an uncommon thing. You need to work on your communication with your girlfriend. Set aside time each day just to talk or simply be together.
If it is easier for you (as it is for me) sit down before you talk with your girlfriend and write out everything you are feeling. Everything you want out of your relationship, what about it you like, what you'd want to change, why you think you are feeling the way you are etc. Tell your girlfriend a little about what is going on and tell her you would like her to read about it before you talk further. Then give her what you've written. I used email.
This is easier because you won't get interrupted while trying to explain and get thrown off track...so easy to do. You want to get EVERYTHING out there on the table for discussion.
I hope telling her works out well for you. I think if you want changes, you're right...has to be done. It could very well make your relationship stronger.
As for telling the friend what you have been feeling...up to you. Discuss that with the girlfriend after you talk. You do know she may not want you to have anything more to do with the friend. You will have to be able to accept that if you want things to work out. Personally, I see no need to explain to the friend but I don't know the situation. I suppose she will have to have an explanation as to why you guys won't be hanging around with her anymore.
You know where to find my inbox if you want to ask anything more about the above. I wish you the best of luck. If you have the time and inclination, I would really like to know how it works out for you both. :)
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I'm a 34 DD, 5'4 and size 1 in pants. I'm petite but ...
If i diet (healthy) and start to lose weight, will i begin to lose weight in my boobs? They're not "fat girl" boobs, it's genetics. I really wish i was just smaller .. so i figured losing weight could be a good idea. Do you think it would work?
Does anyone know anything else i could do to make them smaller? (link)
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I'm sorry your boobs are giving you fits but there is really no way ( unless you consider surgery) to make them get smaller. If it is genetics, then you may want to ask mom how she dealt with it when she was your age. I am sure she would be happy to help you out. :)
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i like this gurl for 3 years we almost went out a bunch of time but something always happened i really like this gurl we had a really good last couple of days but she said she doesnt want a boy friend for the summer i dont want her to go to a diff guy i really like her but her cuz and hes my best friend doesnt like us going out so he always tries to breack us up. we made out for the first time the other night . My question is wen do i ask her out and how do i ask her out??? (link)
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You can ask her out anytime. Though if she doesn't want a boyfriend she may not go until school starts. How to ask...Just say would you like to go to a movie (or whatever you have planned). :)
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Ok I have this friend who has to be exact all the time and when I say something and it isnt exact she always corrects me.I know its not a big deal and its probably really mean for me to say this but it just bugs the crap out of me!! Please help!! (link)
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Nobody likes to be made to feel stupid. Talk to her and tell her this is what she is doing to you. It is probably a habit if hers and she may not even realize that it bothers you (and probably others too!). :)
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hiya
recently i feel like ive been loosing my self.
ive beeen moody, snapping at my parents and self harming, ive also been considering suicide because i dont see any reason why i can continue to live. my parents split up about a month ago, im overweight, and i just feel useless. i lost my first love over ago because i realised how much i wanted to be with him after he left. i just dont know what to do any more. im 16/f and i just feel like ive lost my life already. i dream about love falling asleep under the stars with the person i love but i cant find that person to be with.
any ideas why im feeling like this and how i can stop it will get 5's.
thanx
emma
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I have some web sites for you that may answer most of your questions and give you some information on how to handle things. Hope you find them helpful. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/depression.htm
http://www.coolnurse.com/divorce.htm
http://www.coolnurse.com/self-injury.htm
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