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loosing myself
hiya
recently i feel like ive been loosing my self.
ive beeen moody, snapping at my parents and self harming, ive also been considering suicide because i dont see any reason why i can continue to live. my parents split up about a month ago, im overweight, and i just feel useless. i lost my first love over ago because i realised how much i wanted to be with him after he left. i just dont know what to do any more. im 16/f and i just feel like ive lost my life already. i dream about love falling asleep under the stars with the person i love but i cant find that person to be with.
any ideas why im feeling like this and how i can stop it will get 5's.
thanx
emma
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people work and they dont work. my parents are in the stage of divorcing. i know its a hard time but just know that its not your fault. as for you and yer love. i know that has to be hard. losing someone you truly love. but you still have your whole life ahead of you to find someone. thinking about suicide is not a smart idea. just think about all the poepl that would miss you. although sometimes it might not seem like people care but deep down if you were to kill yourself they would miss you alot. who knows maybe someone likes you right now but they just dont have the courage to tell you? so pleaase think about what your saying. truley think about it. your only 16 you have your whole life. dont waste it. you will get through your hard time. and in the end everything will work out just perfectly.
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Hi Emma.
You have not lost yourself in whole because you know how you feel. If you have some sort of reasoning left then there is hope to your problem. Trust me, I have felt the same way you have before. It's never easy being caught in the middle of a split between your parents. Your parents are supposed to love each other and be there for you, which is something you may feel they aren't doing. But in retrospect they are still there for you whether you notice it or not. Just because they are not together anymore does not stop them from loving you. You are afterall a result of love that they did share for each other, but their split has nothing whatsoever to do with you. Marriage can be a difficult thing and their problem can root back a long time ago before you even came along. Just feeling down and agrivated all the time is understandable within your situation. Your moody and always snapping at your parents because you feel you have no control over the situation. You feel lost and wish there was some way you could bring your parents back together. In reality you can't force them to be together, but it doesn't mean you have to feel you have no control because you do. You have control of your own life. You must be strong and live for yourself and for your parents. You are important no matter how good or bad your life gets. Everyone is here for a reason and just because a few wrong turns in your life have come by doesn't mean you should give up and down yourself all the time it will only lead you into downing yourself more and you will feel miserable all the time. As for the whole situation I think you should take time out for yourself, discover who you really are as a person and get to know yourself, make yourself happy because you deserve it. I know it's not the easiest thing to do to finally appreciate yourself, it took me a long time to find myself and I am still searching. But if you can never love yourself you can't love anyone else. Maybe the reason you snap at your parents is a hidden anger you have because of their split and you can't seem to get over it. The best resolution would be to talk to your parents about how you feel because if you continue to do what your doing youll end up making the situation worse. Just because your parents are apart doesnt mean you should lose respect for them, they only did what was best for them at the time, which doesn't seem fair to you but somehow it is fair. Their split is fair to you in that it saved you a lifetime of hearing them bicker at each other which is something you don't need in your life. I really do hope I have shed some sort of light your way. If you ever need anything else please don't hesitate to contact me.
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well teenage years are really hard. i think wat started it is your boy problems and then it all just snowballed. wat you need to do is try and get this guy back and then you'll feel better and be able to have more fun, lose the weight and have a good relationship with your family. good luck!!! your in my prayers!
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Dear Emma your just going through a phase in life al teens have to go through. It's call identity crisis and it can be really serious sometimes. Try talking to a counsuler or a psycatrist they're there to help and listn. Get a journal. Try mediatating or yoga or a walk.
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Well, you certainly have a lot to deal with - a breakup, your parent's divorce, self-harming, and looking for love. Anyone would feel stressed and possible depressed in that situation, so first of all don't feel alone.
Have you thought about counselling? Having a neutral person to talk to can really help - they don't know you, your family, your ex, and they won't pass judgement on you. It's a place where you get to totally only worry about your own point of view.
It's okay to feel this way. I'm not saying people WANT to feel bad, but it's inevitable that it will happen a few times in the road of life. The true question is not why you feel this way, but what you plan to do about it.
Write in a journal, see a counsellor, spend time with friends, talk to your parents, paint a picture, get a new hobby. You're bound to meet someone new to date - after all, you met your last guy. You've got your whole life ahead of you, and for every bad time there will be twenty good times making up for it.
Best of luck to you.
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You are soo young, and suicide is a permanant problem to a temporary solution. Y
ou're going to find someone. Don't worry. Waiting will just make it worth the wait once you do find that special person.
Please don't throw your life away by suicide, I'm sure you have so much to offer (whether you deny it or not). I self-harm (trying to stop) I know how it is. I've been snapping at my parents and moody lately too. Just so much going on.
Just dont commit suicide. Honestly, it's no way to go. Doing this will just rid you of all your future experiences that are planned for you. You have so much good in the future, you just have to live first to find all this out.
<3 gessyka
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Oh dear. Sorry to hear that.
First off, don't get so low on yourself. Theres got to be something good you can say about yourself.
Just think of how many people will miss you if you attempt to do something as stupid as suicide.
Sure, your moody & can snap at your parents about the most random things..but in the end they will always care about you and always love you. Spend as much time as you can with your parents.
There are many girls who are overweight, and theres absolutely nothing wrong with it. Ever heard a big & beautiful? Try exercising more, not over obsessing, but running or crunches could help.
You will expierience many different guys in your life, hes not the last one you'll find. I promise.
The only way you can stop these feelings your are having, which i can sense is depression, don't be so negative on yourself, do some of your favorite things to relax you, as in music or something of that sort. Always understand there are many people who love you, and the people that are judgemental must have something wrong with themselves. Be optimistic & outgoing and people will understand how wonderful & special you truley are.
If you need anything, just IM me at xsweetlove16x, im here for you.
♥ Alli*
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Suicide will not help nor self harming. I am a former self injurer and it will do nothing but 'cause more problems. Please seek professional help. Since you parents split up, this could be the cause. Seeing a therapist isn't a bad thing. It will actually help you. Just tell your mom or whoever that you are feeling depressed and you need to talk to someone about the split up.
if you need anything else, IM me on AIM: fatalxhaerts
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Suicide is not the answer!You have to wait for the perfect one. Hes not just gonna come up.You have to wait. Alot of people go through this when thier parents split up but you will get over this I promise! I hope I have helped im me if needed Sportychicc9393
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It sounds like you are very depressed and maybe you just need some medication to help you relax. Or maybe you need a therapist to talk to.Because if you are having thoughts about suicide then that's not good. Please do not commit suicide. It would hurt your family so much. It might not seem like your parents love you but I no they do and they would never want to loose you. Stay strong.
~sarah <3
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okay first of all stop those thoughts about suicide !!! your wayy better then that .. second of all have a lonq talk with your parents about how you feel .. maybe they can get you too a counseler .. about the weight problem maybe you could qo jogging or eat some fresh fruits instead of french fries
katie <3
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