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what is the emancipation proclamation in simplest terms?
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Emancipation Proclamation
Henry Louis Stephens, untitled watercolor (c. 1863) of a man reading a newspaper with headline "Presidential Proclamation / Slavery".The Emancipation Proclamation is an executive order issued by United States President Abraham Lincoln on January 1, 1863, during the American Civil War under his war powers. It proclaimed the freedom of 3.1 million of the nation's 4 million slaves, and immediately freed 50,000 of them, with the rest freed as Union armies advanced.[1] On September 22, 1862, Lincoln announced that he would issue a formal emancipation of all slaves in any state of the Confederate States of America that did not return to Union control by January 1, 1863.[2] None did return and the actual order, signed and issued January 1, 1863, took effect except in locations where the Union had already mostly regained control. The Proclamation made abolition a central goal of the war (in addition to reunion), angered many Northern Democrats, energized anti-slavery forces, and weakened forces in Europe that wanted to intervene to help the Confederacy. Total abolition of slavery was finalized by the Thirteenth Amendment of 1865.
More information on this subject can be found by going to the following link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emancipation_Proclamation
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I'm 19 and I've been having unprotected and protected sex with my boyfriend. Well, recently my vaginas been smelling kind of weird and it would never smell before, and we have been having a lot of unprotected sex but he never "finished" inside of me he would always stop, but I heard that precum can get a girl pregnant, so i was wondering if us just having sex like that with him precumming inside of me, if i could be pregnant and if the smell from my vagina is a sign of pregnancy, i'm just really starting to worry that i am, so can anyone help me please?! o and i think it might be a little early for a pregnancy test...
Below is a link to a website I think you should visit. In brief what this website is saying is that a vaginal odor that is unpleasant is not or may not be linked to pregnancy. What it does say is that these odors could be signs of something more serious in need of a doctors attention.
Review this website for yourself and possibly others like it. Then decide if you need to see a doctor; preferably a gynecologist.
My advise would be to see a doctor. Sudden unpleasant odors are not normal and need to be checked out.
http://www.health-science-report.com/vaginal-discharge/dr-joe-glickman/vaginal-discharge-odor.html
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i'm so frustrated and mad..
I honestly have no real friends.. all of them backstab me so many times :'( Its gotten so bad to the point where I just want to run away and leave and go somewhere else.
I don't know what to do anymore.. I feel so alone. I could give you endless examples of how my friends treat me. Here are a few. We are getting ready to go out and party, just as we step out the door, one of them goes "oh sorry Lauren I can only fit 6 people in my car" so I was the one who had to find my ride there... out of all the girls, they picked me to find my own ride. Another example- we are talking about going out to eat lunch and they are trying to figure out which restaurant to go to. They ask me and I suggest Noodles and they said "ew no" then 3 seconds later someone else says Noodles and they go "ya!"... uhhhh what??? i just said that...
there's just been so many times when they backstab me and talk about me and just treat me so badly.. but then other times they are nice and say hi and what not.
I'm just so fed up being treated this way. I cry all the time because I feel so bad about myself. I don't feel pretty at all, I feel like a complete loser because I don't have any real friends.
Ugh what should I do?? I've tried making new friends but with my busy schedule and HUGE school (my high school has 4,000 kids) it takes such a long time to find good friends with someone. There's like 5 weeks left of school. I really just want to get it over with and graduate already (i'm a senior) but at the same time I don't want to end on a bad note.. I'm just so frustrated and confused and I dont know what to do anymore.. I'm so sick of being treated this way. I've tried to stand up for myself but they laugh at me and ignore me.
Oh and I don't have anyone to go to for help.. My mom doesn't live with me and its very hard to communicate with her. My dad wouldn't care at all and doesn't want to get involved. I don't have any siblings. All of my close family is vey very far away and hard to contact them. I don't have any best friends or mentors or counselors to talk to.. :(
I'm going to make a guess that you are probably smarter than they are and get better grades than they do. This is usually one of the underlying factors to the so called friends you have treating you like they do.
Even if you are not smarter or don't get better grades than they do; then there is something you have or experienced that they haven't, that sets you apart from them. The way they treat you is their childish way children show that.
Fortunately childhood friends are just that, childhood friends. Next fall most if not all of them are going to go off in their separate ways to different Colleges or jobs. Hopefully you will be one of the ones going off to college where a whole new world awaits filled with new experience and new friendships to make.
Your high School may have had 4,000 students in it but your day was most likely limited to the same students in most of your classes, which makes it hard to meet and make new friends. College is different as you get to choose which classes you want and for the most part when you want to attend them. Something you had no choice of in High School.
The social life in college is far more exciting and extend than was ever available in high school. You just need to be out going and embrace what is there for the taking.
There are two sayings that I used during all my working life that made me the very successful salesman I was. They are: "The only person I need to be better than is the person I am today" and "The only wasted day is the day I do not learn something".
Sales Mangers always asked if you sold something today. I never worried about selling something today. I was good at what I did and if I didn't sell something today it was mostly by choice. I was more concerned about learning something new. Something about the businesses I sold my products to. If I learned something new then I was a better person when I returned home in the evening then I was when I left in the morning.
These mottos helped me become a better person and a better salesman. I believe they will help you find better friends and be a better friend. You can adopt these mottos if you like.
what should I get my mom for mom's day when she is allergic to practically everything that has perfume scent in it?
Not knowing you or your family makes this a hard question to answer.
My son once came to me with a similar question when he was I think 14 or 15. He didn't have much money and couldn't figure out what to do for his mothers birthday. I had plans to take him and his mother out to dinner to celebrate her birthday.
I suggested that he surprise his mother with a day off. I would help out by taking his mother to the health club for the day, you can substitute someone taking her shopping or something else she would enjoy, while he did all the chores she normally would have done that day, minus cooking diner of course.
It turned out my wife loved her surprise. The laundry was done, the beds were changed, the bathrooms were cleaned and the vacuuming was done plus she had the full beauty and massage treatment at the health club. As a result of my sons' present she ended up with the weekend off as I cooked dinner the next day. This all took place over a weekend as we always celebrate a birthday on the weekend regardless of what day it falls on.
As I said this is something that worked well for my son. It cost him nothing but his time, was non-allergenic and my wife loved it. I'm sure if you decide to do something like this for your mom she will love it too.
Iam a 22 female and sometimes I find my self eating when Iam not hungry. I eat when iam bored and depressed why do I do this is this an eating disorder or am I just a glutton?
You are neither a glutton or do I believe you have an eating disorder. We, for reasons I cannot explain, equate food with comfort or comforting. When we are bored or depressed we eat for comfort. We also use food to reward ourselves for similar reasons.
If you find yourself depressed more often than you are in a good mood you may want to have your family doctor screened you for depression. It is normal for people to feel depressed some of the time but not all of the time.
Sometimes we eat just because we need an oral fixation, just as smokers reasons for smoking. You may want to try some of the things that are recommend to do other than cram junk food. When you feel the need to eat something, make it something with empty or little calories, such as fruits and berries, carrots and celery a bowl of jello works too just try the sugarless type.
Have you ever seen a smoker substituting a carrot or piece of celery for the cigarettes. They hold the it like it was cigarette but chew on it as the vegetable it is. The vegetable is satisfying two cravings; the oral fixation and the something in their hand need.
This substitution method works very well for those people that have the fortitude to stay with it. If you choose healthy alternatives that you like instead of junk food it makes it easy to make the switch. Economically the cost difference between the unhealthy snacks and healthy snacks is nominal.
I work hard,I do what i have to do and its done right if i dont know how to do something i will learn.
I think it is admirable that you have a good work ethic at such a young age. Unfortunately by law, in many states you cannot have a real part-time job until your 16 years old for good reasons.
The Fair Labor Standards Act passed by the U S Congress in 1938 depicts a minor to be someone under the age of 16. In most instances this act and it definition of a minor limits when you work, vote and drink. As I said there are exceptions for farm labor and you may need to check with you state labor laws to see if and how they may apply.
Until you are of age you will have to settle for the more standard things a young person can do to earn money. They would be things such as walking and caring for a neighbors pets, babysitting, washing cars and things of this nature.
I realize that the world today revolves around money. That some parents can't always give their children everything a child may want. As I said I think it is admirable that you are willing to work to earn the money you want to or need. I also think it is important that you take the time to be 13. To play sports, ride bikes,; go fishing or camping. Do things that are meant for young people to
How do I quit eating junk food?
You may find this hard to believe; some scientists, and there is research to support their findings, believe junk food is an addiction, not unlike drug or alcohol addictions.
We have for some time used food as a reward and in some cases punishment, by withholding certain foods. This system of using food, usually junk food, as a reward and punishment has lead and feed our addiction to junk food.
I have seen many different articles on the subject along with many different ways to break the cycle of junk food addiction and who is to blame. Placing blame does not and will not in my estimation break the cycle.
In extreme cases where one cannot break the cycle of addiction on their own therapy with a trained counselor may help. Their are reasons why we reward ourselves with junk food and they are not always good reasons.
Mostly though if you are the type of person who can draw a line in the sand and say it stops here and then have the personal fortitude to stick with it, cold turkey so to speak; it is a matter of substitution. Instead of that fast food burger find something else to take its place that is a healthier choice such as a good salad. Instead of a candy bar try a carrot or celery stick.
Search the web for solutions to this fast food, junk food addiction. There is plenty of advice and information out there on how to break the cycle.
At my school, it's required for seniors to do a senior project. It's done throughout the entire year, so I thought it would be great to do some sort of community service, since it's definitely something that can help with college admissions.
1. Do a clothing drive for kids and teens in Cameroon (my family is Cameroonian, so it really means something to me to help there), and also do the "30 hour famine" ( http://www.30hourfamine.org/ ) to raise money and food supplies for other poor Africans
2. Participate in "Jamie Oliver's food revolution" ( http://www.jamieoliver.com/us/foundation/jamies-food-revolution ) to change lunch in my school district. Nobody likes the food at my school, because it's bland, processed, etc. but we do have healthy sides, like vegetables and fruit, so I'm not sure whether I need to do it. the driving factor for me wanting to do this is so that my younger brother in elementary school can eat good food as he grows up, when he eats school lunch. I don't like the idea of him eating what we have now all the time. Also, school lunch at my school is exorbitantly expensive, so I'd love for the food to be better quality, but at a reasonable price, if possible. and no high fructose corn syrup in chocolate milk and our drink machines!
These are the 2 main ideas I have now. I really want something to have a big community impact, whether it's in my town or someplace else. Usually people pick projects that don't have much of an influence, like learning to play guitar or w/e, but I love to help people out, and understand how much work it's going to take, and seek it. (I'll have all year to do it, anyways)
If you have any other good ideas, please add! When I go to college I want to major in Economics.. but I couldn't think of a senior project relating to that. So if you can, I'd love to hear it! Or anything else! And my dream college is University of Chicago, by the way. If that affects anything!
Thanks so much if you can give your input.
I love your idea of using "Jamie Oliver's food revolution" as your senior project. While this project does not correlate to your intended major it is a project that is well worth the effort. There is nothing wrong with broadening your horizons, which is one of the many things college is all about.
Childhood obesity has become a major epidemic in this country. There is a report on this subject if not nightly, definitely weekly in the DC area I live in. The statistical information on this subject is to blunt horrifying.
Childhood Obesity Statistics
In 2004, there was a research report written about a study that lasted from 1999 to 2002 entitled "Prevalence of overweight and obesity among children and adolescents: United States" conducted by the CDC. According to that report "16 % children (over 9 million) 6-19 year olds' are overweight or obese" this is three times what it was in 1980. In addition, this report brings out the fact that also during this same time period an additional 15% were "at risk of becoming overweight".
Not only has this number tripled, but in the past three decades (according to this same study) obesity has "more than doubled" in both children and adolescents from ages 2-5 and also ages 12-19 while more than tripling in children between the ages of 6-11.
In the past we have taught our children lessons in school that they have gone home and taught their parents. Among the biggest and greatest life saving lesson was and is seat belt usage. Today statistically 84% to 95% of Americans wear their seat belts while riding in their cars. The statistical difference is in the type of roads traveled and type of trip being made. For highway driving 95% of us use their seat belts. This has saved tens of thousands of lives and it was our children who taught their parents to use their seat belts because they learned it in school.
The school lunch programs are a great place to teach and to show children how to eat healthy. Based on personal experience my wife and I have found we are not spending any more at the supermarket as for that which is costing more we have eliminated something else that was and is not good for us. we also found that the healthy choice and Organic foods tasted much better than what we had been accustomed to buying.
While it is now just me and my wife, we have found that for those snacks we eliminate we replace them with healthy snacks we make at home together. This would be a nice family time event had we thought of it when our children were younger and a great learning experience for them as well.
I hope you will choose this as the subject of your project. Children's health and well being is never a bad subject to choose. This is also a subject that needs all the support and attention it can receive.
Good luck and let me know how things are going should you choose this subject.
I am an anarexic i do tell people but they dont do anything. I told my best friend and she acted as if it was nothing. But its not nothing! When my stomach growels i see that as a good thing. But that isnt the problem i need somebody to tell me how to tell my mom. She is already strugglin as a single parent with 9 kids and 2 that droped out of school. And i dont wqnt to cause anymore trouble. So please somebody contact me and give some help i am only 12 years old. Please somebody!
Not knowing you or your family, I'm not sure how the best way for you to tell your mother you are anorexic. I do have a suggestion or two for you to consider trying.
Anorexia is a terrible disease that if left untreated can do serious harm to you and is considered life threatening if left untreated. I am proud of you for realizing you need help, this is the biggest step in recovery from this type of illness.
Since you feel you are anorexic you can tell your doctor, school nurse, any trusted teacher or your school principal. Since you are under the age of 13 you do not have the right to medical privacy which is granted by law to anyone over the age of 13. This allows the school nurse or your doctor to inform you mom of any medical condition they feel your parent needs to know about or you have been treated for.
Also by law if you inform a teacher or school principal of something of this nature they are required by law to make certain notifications, which would include talking with your mother to see if she was aware of your anorexia.
My advise is that you talk to your school nurse and or a trusted teacher.
i'm fully aware that my life could be a lot worse than it is at this point. just a lot of pressure and stress and depression is starting to crash down on me and i'm getting weaker and weaker trying to pretend nothing is wrong. my boyfriend and i broke up and i haven't spoken to him since, and vice versa. since then, i've fallen HARD for this guy at my school. its not just a crush, i'm completely and totally in love with him. but he's got a gf and i know he doesn't like me back. i'm also graduating in a few weeks and i'm failing chemistry. all of this is depressing me like nothing i've experienced since my first break up, and on top of all of that, i can't talk to my friends. sure, they all claim they are there for me. but they really aren't. anytime i'm trying to get advice they either don't listen or start talking about their issues instead. so i've stopped trying.
i started thinking about ending my life a few weeks ago. it was just a passing thought. now its on my mind all the time. i haven't acted on impulse yet because i wanna give things a chance to get better, but they haven't. and i've gotten to the point where i almost don't care anymore. i'm even starting to talk like i'm going to do it. i say things without thinking and then realize that i actually believe i'll be dead soon. things like "i might be gone by then" or "i'm leaving soon". no one has seemed to notice, and really, who would? i don't exactly know what i'm asking for here. but things seem pretty impossible right now, idc how pathetic that sounds. i'm alone and afraid and sad and angry and i can't tell anyone.
Hi, I'm a great deal older than you but I know how you feel, I've been where you are and can tell you there is help out there and you can tell someone.
The scary part of how you feel is feeling all alone and feeling that you can't tell anyone for how they might feel about you.
Right now you have two strangers who want to help you. We know nothing about you other than you are a person in turmoil that needs help. People who know and love you will not only want to help you they will be right there beside you when you need them.
I can tell you from experience that you are probably experiencing some type of depression. This is nothing to be embarrassed about either. One in three people experience symptoms of depression in their lifetime. People experiencing depressive episodes do not see things in their proper perspective. We misinterpret what we see and what is said to us. Realizing this was probably the hardest thing I had to learn about what I was going through. Once I did everything else started to fall in place and I started to feel better.
There are several things you can do right now, today to help yourself. You need to go to the nearest hospital Emergency room. Bring them the note you wrote to us and ask them for help. Don't worry about the cost there are programs to cover the cost and no they cannot call your parents unless you ask them too. If you cannot get to the hospital yourself call 911. Again don't worry about any costs for this service, if any, the same programs that will cover the hospital cover this service as well.
I would really like it if you would tell your parents how you feel and what you are feeling. They do love you, that I am sure of and they will help you.
Hi, i am what i believe to be two weeks pregnant and i have a questionable hypoechoic lesion proposed as a hemorrhagic cyst or follicle. I have done my research and my symptoms are remarkably seeming to match up my period has come on and it is heavy with clots in it and i am having cramps. when i went to the doctor the she prescribed me a pain killer Tylenol cod I am very concerned about what i should do dose this mean i will lose my baby? this is my second day of my period i heard it last for three days. Help
I did some research on Hemorrhagic cysts. From what I read I believe you need to go back to your doctor. Preferably a gynecologist and have this checked out.
One of the worst things any of us can do for ourselves is self-diagnoses. There are a number of reasons for not doing so, the two biggest are: We are not properly trained to do so for one. For the second we are almost always wrong.
The first thing you need to do is find out if you are pregnant. Your gynecologist can do a blood test to find out. Then if the doctor feels there is a cyst an ultrasound can be used to see and identify it.
Will you loose your baby? I'm not a doctor and I really can't make that call. The articles I read say that surgery is not always called for as treatment. Even if you need surgery it does not mean you would lose the baby. This is something you need to discuss with your doctor.
You say you have done your research, which is good. An informed patient is a good patient. As I said I needed to do some research before answering you. The following link is to a website I found very informative. If it is not one you have already viewed maybe you will find it informative as well.
http://www.healthtree.com/articles/ovarian-cysts/types/hemorrhagic/
My advice: Go see a gynecologist and get a definitive answer to your medical condition.
Thank you very much for your response and I realize how that could have a large impact. However, my son is actually the oldest of the second cousins. 6 months older than *AA1 who will be a flower girl and 4 yrs older than *AA2 (the brides godchild). As for my aunt-she actually has two children. A 4yr old who will be the ring bearer and a 2.5yr old. Both of which who were included on the invitation because they are in fact first cousins--even though they are the same age as *AA's children and my son who are second cousins. One day while at my aunts house we were talking about the wedding and she mentioned that she hadnt even opened her invitation yet and proceeded to do so in front of me. She then read aloud from a Post-It note inside that explained the two different meal choices for children. I then said my invitation did not include one of those and that is when her and my Grandmother began to explain to me the second cousin rule and how if the bride-to-be invited my son then she would have to invite all the other second cousins. There are 20+ second cousins on her other side that are not invited; virtually a generation. But on our side only my son is being excluded. I guess my real question then is this~ Is it too much to ask that an exception be made for a 5yr old to attend a wedding with the cousins he plays with at every other family event? Is it asking too much for that exception to be made when such an exclusive circumstance has been created? And why does no other member of my family believe I have the right to take this personally? I am not planning to go as of now because when the pictures for our side of the family are taken--my son will be the only one not there. And not because he couldnt make it but because the rules had to be followed no matter the cost or feelings hurt. Maybe I am being way too sensitive. I guess that is why I came to this site-so I could get as much feedback as possible! Thank You All For Your Time and Honesty!
It is little things that cause big family problems. I understand you are hurt and I would agree you have reason to be; given what you have written. Is there more to this than you are aware or is it simply an over site on the part of the wedding planners? Hard questions to answer.
Do you owe the bride a reason for not attending? NO, not unless you are specifically asked. Should you tell the bride why you are not attending? This is where a rift in the family matrix can grow larger than it may already be. My advise is to let it be. You can be the bigger person here if the bride or wedding planner does not realize they have slighted you by leaving your son out when all of his cousins are attending. My same advise goes for asking why your son was left out.
I come from a very small family and can say that when it comes to hurt feelings things grow out of proportion disproportionately. One member of the family is not talking to another member of the family and if you talk them, then that member won't talk to you and so it grows. For what, all because of something that is usually an oversight or forgotten and the other person takes it to heart.
I would say forget about the oversight, and take it at that. Buy your son something nice to make up for it and go enjoy the wedding with the rest of the family.
Im a guy, 18 years, and ive always wanted to move out of California and move somewhere more peaceful and happy.
AND I KNOW ALL OF YOU SAY, THAT CALIFORNIA IS THE "dream land" but its BS. I've been here all my life, and yeah, the weather is great, the girls, the beaches, sure. whatever.
But.
There is traffic up the ass...
People are rude, rich, obnoxious, stuckup
girls are slutty, unmannered, and have no values
guys are potsmokers and screw-ups
mainly, i just hate the people and the culture.
I've always wanted to move to Toronto. I went there last summer and my experience was great. People were nice, weather was nice and chilly, less traffic, more smiles, people were civilised( although not so friendly) but girls were classy and behaved.
Ive never been to Australia, so idk about that.
But 3 of my friends moved to the Southern Ontario region last year and each one of them tells me they love it.
Should i move there?
To immigrate to another country requires permission of that country. So if you are planning to do anything other than visit you need to contact the Embassy of that Country and acquire the correct Visas and working permits.
That being said, have you ever heard the expression "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence."
What that means is someplace else always looks nicer than where you are, until you get there. Now that is not always true but every place has its own problems. I moved from Long Island, New York to where I presently live. While I would never move back to Long Island it doesn't mean where I live is a garden spot either. I would love to move some place with a more temperate climate and maybe even a slower pace. For medical reason that is not going to be possible. Sure wherever we move will have doctors and hospital, I'm just not willing to give up our present doctors at this time.
What it boils down to is in the detail you don't know. Just because it looks better doesn't mean it is better. Take the time to really find out about what your intended future home has offer versus what you will be giving up. Then decide.
I'm not sure but I'm thinking about having sex with my bf. But i don't want my parents to find out. What if I'm at the doctors and the ask if I'm sexually active and my parents are there for some weird reason. How do I keep them thinking tht I'm a virgin
Hi, I am probably old enough to be your grandfather and hopefully the wisdom of my age will be helpful.
There are two things I am going to advise you on that I feel are important based on what you have written.
First; If you are over the age of 13 by law you have the right to medical privacy. What this means is that you have the right to meet with any doctor, nurse or medical practitioner in private. This means your parents may not be in the exam room or consultation room with you unless you invite them. They cannot receive any medical information about you without your expressed written permission. Any doctor, medical practitioner or their staff faces fines of $10,000 and 5 years in prison if they violate your medical privacy.
The Law is called HIPPA, Health Information Personal Privacy Act. It is designed so that you can be 100% truthful with your doctor, so that your doctor can diagnose and treat you properly. If you are afraid to ask your mom or dad to wait in the waiting room slip a note to the nurse while changing to have the doctor ask them to wait outside while your being examined.
Second: Before you decide to have sex I would like you to look at the website I have attached the URL for. This site deals with "AM I Ready".
Just a short grandpa style lecture as to why I would like you to look at that site: Teenage boys going through puberty are in a sense hard wired to have sex. They need to release the hormones building up in their bodies. While there are other ways of doing this having adult sex gives them bragging rights. One thing teenage boys cannot do is keep their mouths shut when it comes to having sex and who they have had it with. No matter what your boyfriend tells you he will tell someone, probably his best buddy who will tell someone else. The next thing you know you have a reputation. Something to think about. How do I know this? As hard as this may be to believe I was one a teenage boy.
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.
This morning I woke up and my throat felt funny, but it didn't hurt. Throughout the day I felt sicker and sicker. On my way home it felt like a regular cold. Now its almost midnight, I took a long nap. Now my throat feels really really tight. I'm scared to go to sleep. I'm scared that each breath is my last. I looked in the mirror and the food hole looks smaller. Is it possible that my throat can close and I'll stop breathing? I haven't felt my throat this bad in a long long time. What can it possibly be? Can you explain the closing process? If I can suffocate, is it a painful death? If something were to go wrong while sleeping, would I feel it, or would I just not wake up? I'm really scared. I'm M/15, I want to grow to be old and change the world. I had an unusual good day today, a very good day. So I feel sad for a few months and once good things happen, I feel like I won't be alive for these good days. I had a dream of the girl I like too. Thanks if you can explain. :(
Hi, I am probably old enough to be your grandfather and hopefully the wisdom of my age will be helpful.
I agree with the first two advisers. Throat constriction happens as a result of allergic reactions and is a serious life threatening event.
If you cannot get to an Emergency Room then dial 911 or the emergency number for your area and let them send help to you.
Whether you are having an allergic reaction or severe Tonsillitis attack matters not. What matters is that you believe you are having a life threatening event. As a first responder with a fire department rescue squad this is what we are here to help with.
Do not worry about who is going to pay for the service. We supply the service first and worry about payment second. If you don't have insurance there are other programs that cover the cost. The same goes for the hospital. So please either go to the ER yourself or call 911 now.
A itchy rash or disease between your legs that speads when you itch or a disease or a virus what does it look like
Hi, I am probably old enough to be your grandfather and hopefully the wisdom of my age will be helpful.
I will second what DangerNerd has written. These type of questions are best asked of your mom if you are a female or your dad if your a male so that they can look at it and decide if you need to see a doctor or if a home remedy should be tried first.
Some of these rashes are nothing more serious then prickly heat type rashes caused from exercise and not showering soon enough. Other rashes will respond well to over the counter medications such as Jock itch medications. While other rashes may need antibiotic creams.
You should never be embarrashed about telling your parents when something is wrong. For women a yeast infection happens to virgins and non-virgins. Mom can't tell if you are sexually active just by looking at a rash, or the fact that you shave, which is another reason for a rash.
While I'm sure you have heard this before it is a very true statement. We all were once your age. There is nothing new that you can do, that we haven't done or seen. Our primary purpose as a parent is to help you and to see to your well being. You really need not be embarrassed to come to us when something is wrong for there is another very true statement; "We use to change your diapers and frankly you may have gotten bigger, but nothing has changed all that much."
A quick look or a quick conversation in the privacy of your room and we will know what is best. How do we know this? If you ask my wife she will tell you it is because she has her MD, Motherhood Degree. Mostly it is because as I said above we have probably experienced this or know someone that has and learned from it so we have the experience that you have yet to learn.
My advise: Depending on your sex and who you are more comfortable with. Show the rash to mom or dad. Then follow their advice. If they feel a doctor needs to be seen they will tell you and make arrangements with you.
Just a note: Are you aware that cold sores are a herpes virus. If someone has a cold sore and kisses you the can spread that virus to you. You touch that sore and then touch yourself you can spread that virus to wherever you have touched yourself that the virus can grow.
I have never asked for advice before but this is really upseting my entire world. I will try to make this clear. Also, I will try to keep it anonymous by not including the actual wedding date and will use *'s before the made up names to disguise the real people. OK~here goes. I am 33 yrs old and the mother of one extraordinary son! In the month of May, 2011 (nothing like waiting till the last min I know and I apologize) my cousin is getting married, the guest list stops at second cousins due to large families. On our side of the family she(bride-to-be) only has 3 second cousins. Our cousin *AA's 2 children--(*AA1 & *AA2) and then me, *BB ,also her cousin and I have 1 son(*BB1) who is her second cousin. Now, according to the rules no second cousins are invited. However, *AA1 is in the wedding and *AA2 is her Godchild so both of them will be attending. This creates a situation where not only is my son the only child on our side of the family not invited but it just so happens then that he is also the ONLY FAMILY MEMBER on our side not invited. So essentially when our sides family picture is taken~my son would be the only one absent (if I would attend). To make feelings worse-nobody in my family seems to think this is wrong or hurtfull. In fact they have said many times(not to my face) that I should not take this personally. How can I not? I am really hurt! Even more so because not one person bothered to mention all of this to me-not even the bride-to-be. I only found out the second cousin rule by accident because I asked my aunt about a meal selection for my son or if he should just share with me! We all get along and there are no hard feelings or background incidents that need to be mentioned. In fact~we all celebrated Easter together and I was very warm and talkative to my cousin and her fiance hoping that one would explain more to me or at least address it but not one word was mentioned and I couldn't bring myself to ask. How do you suggest is the best way to handle this? Thank you so much! Miserable in MN
I'm not much on the family tree rankings. What I did pick up on was your comment; "I asked my aunt about a meal selection for my son or if he should just share with me." This leads me to believe that your son may be a toddler or much younger child. If so are the other children also younger children or are they much older than your son.
I'm only guessing as the information is missing. While young children can be a pure delight at family events such as picnics and the like. At formal events such as Weddings they can and have ruined the event for the Wedding couple.
The question you need to ask is; was your son excluded because of his age?" It may have been easier, for your Aunt,to apply the cousin rule then to tell you your sons age and possible behavior due to his age were in question and therefore he was excluded.
Lacking more information this is a best guess on my part.
can you get std's if you and your partner lose your virginity to each other?
Hi, I am old enough to be your grandfather and hopefully the wisdom of my age will be helpful.
Did you know that a cold sore on your lip is actual a Herpes Virus. Herpes is an STD; If you or your future partner(s) has had oral sex in the past with a person that had a cold sore this virus can be passed be between you. The virus can lie dormant until the right environment is found and then one or both of you have active Herpes.
The best advise anyone can give you is never, ever have unprotected sex with anyone, even if they are a virgin. Today the word virgin means only that they have never had sexual, penis to vagina, intercourse. The word virgin today does not mean the person is totally sexually inexperienced. If you or your partner has had any type of sexual activity you may have come in contact with someone who could have passed along an STD to you.
The first thing to do when thinking about having sex with any new partner is getting both of you screened for STD and the AIDS virus. Nothing sexy about this, but this is the world we live in today. It is your life you need to protect yourselves. If a future partner say no to this, send him on his way. His only interest is sex and not you or your welfare.
As long as you and your partner are over the age of 13 you can go to any clinic and be screened without the need for parental consent. By law you have medical confidentiality. There are any number of free clinics that will test you; all you need to do is go on-line to find one in your area.
Once you are both cleared and you have been on birth control; your boyfriend has been shown how to properly put on a condom, then you can go ahead and loose your physical virginity to one another.
I'm a straight A student and I got a 72.5 on a science quiz! I've ruined my grade completely!
I also am on the lacrosse team but I have never played before and there are other girls on the team who have been playing since age 4. Help!!!!
Hi, I am old enough to be your grandfather and hopefully the wisdom of my age will be helpful.
One low grade and being new to a sports team is not a reason to call yourself a failure. You are being way to hard on yourself and need to lighten up before you do yourself some real mental and physical harm.
One low grade is not going to ruin your life. You haven't said what grade your in. Unless you are in your Junior or Senior year of high school it will not even reflect on your college transcripts in away that will hurt you. For whatever reason you were just not prepared for a pop quiz.
If you want to improve that grade go to your science teacher and talk with him/her. As a straight A student I'm sure your teacher will realize something was wrong and that this quiz was not up to your usual standards and be willing to help you bring your grade up.
As to the Lacrosse team. I get the feeling you are more of an academic person and not a sports person. The reason in joining a sports team is to look good on a college application or to try for some scholarship money.
Most of scholarship money goes to outstanding players. Unless you have played the sport since you were young it is going to be hard for you to become an outstanding player. There is scholarship money for academic achievement as well. As A straight A student there must be one subject that you enjoy over the others. It could be math, science, History or anything else. If your school has a math club, science club or debating team join one of them. Colleges give scholarship money to students with high academic achievement and interest just as much as they do sports achievement.
Colleges want outstanding students in all areas of endeavor. We hear about their sports achievements because the football and basketball teams bring in the big money. The money they use to award scholarships for academic achievements as well.
While it is just a feeling I am getting. I feel you will be far more comfortable in the academic side of school and trying for academic scholarships then a sports scholarship.
Talk with your parents and she if they don't agree with me.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and we're in love and plan to get married. My problem is that sometimes I feel guilty after he and I have sex. During the sex, I feel great, but afterwards occasionally I have a small feeling of guilt. It doesn't happen often, but it bothers me. We have a wonderful relationship and our sex is completely consensual. In my mind I don't believe there's anything wrong with anything we do during sex. The feeling of guilt passes fairly quick but I'm curious to know if that's a normal feeling? Why would I feel guilty about having sex with someone I'm in love with? It just doesn't make sense to me. It says to put age and gender so, I'm female and I'll be 19 this month.
Hi, I am old enough to be your grandfather and hopefully the wisdom of my age will be helpful.
You are the only one who truly knows the answer to this question. My best guess is that part of you, the subconscious part of you, is not truly consenting to sex or some sex act. To put it a little plainer part of you feels for whatever reasons what you have done is wrong.
You say this does not happen every time you have sex. When you do have sex and you feel guilty, is there anything that you two did differently than you may have done during a time when you didn't feel guilty afterward. If so then whatever that was is something you may not have fully consented too.
For someone my age I am fairly liberal in my views on sex. I feel as long as both parties are consenting and no one is really hurt by anything; then what happens in the privacy of once bedroom is neither weird or wrong. The operative word is CONSETING. There are also rules to sex. No MEANS NO; and stop MEANS STOP. At anytime if either party utters either of those two words you don't do something or you stop, regardless of how far along you are.
Example: Anal Sex; Some Women and men enjoy this. One or both of you consent to trying it. During anal penetration you find it to painful and yell no, stop. That means he just doesn't hold his position. It means he totally withdraws unless you have said differently. It doesn't mean he begs you to hold on he's almost there, he pulls out. The same goes for you if you are penetrating him.
My advise; think about the times you two have had sex and how you have felt afterward. Think about what was different about each time and single out the differences. Then think about how you really feel about what was different. When you single out that one act you may not be truly consenting do, but doing so because your afraid to say no, for whatever reason, you will have found your reason for your guilt.
When you do you need to talk with your boyfriend. Communication is also a very important part of your sex life together. I'm sure you boyfriend will understand.
A short story to finish as an example. I believe my wife has one of the most beautiful noses I have ever seen. While we dating and through our engagement, while we would make love, and I am a devout ass man, I would make love to her nose. Nibbling it and kissing her nose as I made love to her. It wasn't until we wee married that one night when we were making love my wife finally freaked out and told me should couldn't stand it any more and why.
Since that night; I have not touched her nose. On rare occasions and not While making love place, I will a gentle kiss on her nose to show my love for her.
Think about what I have written and you may find your answer. I hope I have helped.