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i'm so frustrated and mad..
I honestly have no real friends.. all of them backstab me so many times :'( Its gotten so bad to the point where I just want to run away and leave and go somewhere else.
I don't know what to do anymore.. I feel so alone. I could give you endless examples of how my friends treat me. Here are a few. We are getting ready to go out and party, just as we step out the door, one of them goes "oh sorry Lauren I can only fit 6 people in my car" so I was the one who had to find my ride there... out of all the girls, they picked me to find my own ride. Another example- we are talking about going out to eat lunch and they are trying to figure out which restaurant to go to. They ask me and I suggest Noodles and they said "ew no" then 3 seconds later someone else says Noodles and they go "ya!"... uhhhh what??? i just said that...
there's just been so many times when they backstab me and talk about me and just treat me so badly.. but then other times they are nice and say hi and what not.
I'm just so fed up being treated this way. I cry all the time because I feel so bad about myself. I don't feel pretty at all, I feel like a complete loser because I don't have any real friends.
Ugh what should I do?? I've tried making new friends but with my busy schedule and HUGE school (my high school has 4,000 kids) it takes such a long time to find good friends with someone. There's like 5 weeks left of school. I really just want to get it over with and graduate already (i'm a senior) but at the same time I don't want to end on a bad note.. I'm just so frustrated and confused and I dont know what to do anymore.. I'm so sick of being treated this way. I've tried to stand up for myself but they laugh at me and ignore me.
Oh and I don't have anyone to go to for help.. My mom doesn't live with me and its very hard to communicate with her. My dad wouldn't care at all and doesn't want to get involved. I don't have any siblings. All of my close family is vey very far away and hard to contact them. I don't have any best friends or mentors or counselors to talk to.. :(
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When you get older, you are going to find that high school ultimately doesn't matter. Stop seeing the abusers that you call friends and get yourself ready for college, where you will find a much better class of people.
Decide what you want to do with your life, make a plan to ensure it happens and then go for it hammer and tongs. Take control of your life so that you don't end up feeling needy from the teenage emotional trauma and remember that if you always act ethically and kindly you are a good person. Be rational and don't overthink. Good luck.
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I'm going to make a guess that you are probably smarter than they are and get better grades than they do. This is usually one of the underlying factors to the so called friends you have treating you like they do.
Even if you are not smarter or don't get better grades than they do; then there is something you have or experienced that they haven't, that sets you apart from them. The way they treat you is their childish way children show that.
Fortunately childhood friends are just that, childhood friends. Next fall most if not all of them are going to go off in their separate ways to different Colleges or jobs. Hopefully you will be one of the ones going off to college where a whole new world awaits filled with new experience and new friendships to make.
Your high School may have had 4,000 students in it but your day was most likely limited to the same students in most of your classes, which makes it hard to meet and make new friends. College is different as you get to choose which classes you want and for the most part when you want to attend them. Something you had no choice of in High School.
The social life in college is far more exciting and extend than was ever available in high school. You just need to be out going and embrace what is there for the taking.
There are two sayings that I used during all my working life that made me the very successful salesman I was. They are: "The only person I need to be better than is the person I am today" and "The only wasted day is the day I do not learn something".
Sales Mangers always asked if you sold something today. I never worried about selling something today. I was good at what I did and if I didn't sell something today it was mostly by choice. I was more concerned about learning something new. Something about the businesses I sold my products to. If I learned something new then I was a better person when I returned home in the evening then I was when I left in the morning.
These mottos helped me become a better person and a better salesman. I believe they will help you find better friends and be a better friend. You can adopt these mottos if you like.
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Wow. Okay, right away, those people aren't your friends if they're treating you like that. You should definitely just slowly drop them. Drift away because they obviously don't know how to be good friends. It's a good thing that you tried to stand up for yourself. I know making new friends is really hard, but if you really want some new ones, just drift toward a different crowd. And since it's your senior year, to be honest, I'd be focusing on getting the heck outta there so I could go out into the real world. You'll definitely find better friends after school. Friends come and go, it's all apart of how life goes. You just need to make sure you pick the right ones. You don't need to feel bad about yourself, you did nothing wrong. You're not a loser, you're just nice and they're taking advantage of that, which is extremely cruel of them. I kind of know how you feel, but I drifted away from my friends because I was sick of them trying to put me in situations that would get me hurt or using me. Best of luck to you, and if you want to talk more about it, you can email me at nightmarerealm@live.com.
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