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How do I keep them (my parents) from finding out I am having sex?
I'm not sure but I'm thinking about having sex with my bf. But i don't want my parents to find out. What if I'm at the doctors and the ask if I'm sexually active and my parents are there for some weird reason. How do I keep them thinking tht I'm a virgin
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Tell the doctor no, you aren't sexually active. There is no law that says you have to be truthful to your physician (though I don't recommend anyone ever lying to their doctor for obvious reasons). If you need a test for pregnancy or std's or birth control you can always go to Planned Parenthood.
Also, medical records are at least supposed to be private, but the amount of confidentiality available to patients, especially minors, varies by state.
As for whether you will have sex with your boyfriend, just remember that your life is your own and you shouldn't live it to please anyone other than yourself. That is because everyone's sensibility is different and so what makes one happy will likely differ from the person next to you. Also make sure that you act so as to keep all your life options intact, which means using BOTH birth control and condoms, in this case. Don't be bulldozed or emotionally blackmailed into something that may lead to disaster or you don't want to do. Sex is great, but not if it will result in negative consequences. Like all things in life, it has to be managed properly so as to ensure that no ill will arise from it.
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erm well iv had sex and iv NEVER told my parents until my mum found out and im 17 , i lost my virginity at 14 yes it sounds wrong but like you get over it cause i dont regret it ever!
You dont need to go doctors sweetie , when the time comes for your parents to know you had sex well they would have to accept it , yes they would be dissapointed but at the end of thre day if you lose your virginity you cant take that back .. if your sexually active thats cool but also be sure who your having sex with dont have sex just cause you want fun and your horny. Do it because your in love and you trust that person 100% if not then there is something wrong with you. If your parents are strict with you and your mother decides to take you doctors shes excited LOL because i know she cares for you but there aint no need for that once its gone its gone and no one can do anything about it. Im glad its your boyfriend and not just any random guy :) GOOD LUCK BABE X
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Hi, I am probably old enough to be your grandfather and hopefully the wisdom of my age will be helpful.
There are two things I am going to advise you on that I feel are important based on what you have written.
First; If you are over the age of 13 by law you have the right to medical privacy. What this means is that you have the right to meet with any doctor, nurse or medical practitioner in private. This means your parents may not be in the exam room or consultation room with you unless you invite them. They cannot receive any medical information about you without your expressed written permission. Any doctor, medical practitioner or their staff faces fines of $10,000 and 5 years in prison if they violate your medical privacy.
The Law is called HIPPA, Health Information Personal Privacy Act. It is designed so that you can be 100% truthful with your doctor, so that your doctor can diagnose and treat you properly. If you are afraid to ask your mom or dad to wait in the waiting room slip a note to the nurse while changing to have the doctor ask them to wait outside while your being examined.
Second: Before you decide to have sex I would like you to look at the website I have attached the URL for. This site deals with "AM I Ready".
Just a short grandpa style lecture as to why I would like you to look at that site: Teenage boys going through puberty are in a sense hard wired to have sex. They need to release the hormones building up in their bodies. While there are other ways of doing this having adult sex gives them bragging rights. One thing teenage boys cannot do is keep their mouths shut when it comes to having sex and who they have had it with. No matter what your boyfriend tells you he will tell someone, probably his best buddy who will tell someone else. The next thing you know you have a reputation. Something to think about. How do I know this? As hard as this may be to believe I was one a teenage boy.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location).
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First of all, to be brutally honest, if you're "not sure" about having sex, then you're not ready. It's a HUGE thing to do, and you need to be completely ready for it, and when you are you'll know. Second, you don't need to lie to your parents, just don't mention anything about it. However! That being said, if you ever think you might be pregnant or may have gotten an STD, then I suggest you tell them right away. Parents are great supports for things like that because they've been there and know through experience. They may be a little upset at first, but parents are usually very understanding. But I do still think you should wait untill you're absolutely sure you're ready for that and realize all the different things that can happen because of having sex. Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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Do you really want to lie to your parents, and then when you end up pregnant and with a sex related disease, you have to tell them all this at once?
Parents can be helpful. Here is a tip or two you probably didn't know: Condoms don't stop herpes, they don't stop HPV/genital warts/cervical cancer.
Having sex means being able to go to the doctor any time you need testing and any time something just doesn't seem right down there. You can't do this if you are hiding things from your parents.
The short answer is that you can't keep it from them forever, and if you lie to them about it, they will never trust you for the rest of your life. You will NEVER get that trust back.
Please think twice about doing this in secret. It is a bad idea, even though it doesn't seem like it now.
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