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I tried putting tea tree oil on my acne and found it burns like to the extreme. xD Is that supposed to happen?

Tea Tree Oil does sting slightly when used on spots/rashes etc. However, in some cases, skin can be too sensitive to use it. Try diluting the oil with water and using it. If your skin continues to burn during and after use or shows signs of an allergic reaction (a red, blotchy rash) then I suggest you visit a dermatologist who will be able to determine the problem. He/she will also suggest a range of alternative treatments.

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13/F Okay well I am with this AMAZING guy named "Stuart". He is sooo sweet and before we got together, we were best friends for about 9 months. Pretty much since I met him, we have had an instant connection like no other. I am closer to him than any other guy I have ever been with. He is just different, he makes me feel great. When I think about him or when im with him, I get goosebumps and butterflies and like this heartache runs from my neck all the way down to my feet. We can talk about ANYTHING and we are not afraid to be ourselves, we are practically best friends but just more flirty and stuff =P. Well that's enough talking about him. I am seriously always thinking about him, pretty much 24/7. Every time I think about him, I smile, everytime my phone goes off...I am wishing it's him. I am starting to think I am in love for the first time. But I have never been before so I am not sure what it feels like. Can any one try to explain what it feels like and if maybe I am?

And he already told me he is in love with me, I told him I might be too and kissed him (that was our first kiss together). What would be a cool way to tell him with out verbally saying it? Haha sorry, I have a probably with actually saying that kind of stuff =P

Thanks in advance!!
:D

The fact that you are even questioning whether or not you love him makes me think that you don't.

When you fall in love, you know. There is no questioning your feelings or forcing yourself into it, it just happens.

It's obvious that you have really strong feelings for this guy, no one but you can tell you whether or not it's love. Right now it sounds like things are really good between you so focus on that. Don't keep worrying about whether or not you love him, just enjoy being with him and maybe your feelings will grow and one day you will realise that you are in love with him.

It's normal to get crushes on other people. Crushes are temporary and are based more on lust than deep feelings. It's fine to find other guys attractive, actually having real feelings for them is another matter. Some people are natural flirts but I would tone it down now you have a boyfriend because it can cause all sorts of problems. Try to avoid deliberately flirting with people, especially if you find them attractive as it can lead to bigger things.

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HOw do i PUt eyeliner on my top lid every time i do it , it ends up in the middle of my eyelid. Any tips.

Close your eye (keeping the other one opening so you can see what you're doing) and pull it downwards so it is taut. Hold the pencil/brush in the middle of your eyelid, as close to the lash line as possible and draw outwards. When you have done the outer edge, go from the corner and join the lines. If it makes it easier you might want to do more short lines and join them up.

If using liquid liner, it can be helpful to draw a faint pencil line then go back over it with the liquid.

It is also helpful to have q-tips dipped in make-up remover on hand to quickly and neatly clean up any mistakes.

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okay so my friend
that i talk to almost EVERYDAY on aim
like randomly stoped talking to me.

and i dont know why!
ever since this one day
when my favorite show "the hills"
was on, i put up an away message
and when i came back, he left a message saying
"hii"
so i replyed, and i was about to like
tell a story
and he randomly goes
"i have to go, i cant talk now sorry"
and i was like "oh okay.. well i guess i'll go back to watching tv."
and then usually he goes like
"GOOD NIGHT!!!"
but that night he was like
"uh. gnite"
and freaking signed off!
and the past like 4-5 days
he hasnt IMed me at ALLLLLLLLL.
and i usually dont IM people first.
so it'd be kinda weird to go like hey.



whuuuuuut do i dooo.
and any ideas on why hes not talking to me!?!?!

maybe cuz he has a gf or something
and not alloweed to talk to me??
but Im ONLY his friend
like no lieeeeeeeeeee
i dont like him at alll!

It's impossible for me to be able to tell you exactly why he hasn't IMed you.

What I do know is that your excuse for not IMing him first is ridiculous. Have you considered that he might be thinking exactly the same as you are about him?

IM him and try talking to him like you would have before. If you feel he's being off with you then ask him if everything is alright between you. If there is a problem, the only way you can work this out is if you talk. Not IMing him because 'you usually don't IM people first' is not a valid reason.

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Okayy
so... my birthday is in 3 days.
Everyone keeps asking me what i want, and honestly.... i have no clue
It makes them mad that they don't know what to get, and i don't want to frustrate them
I'm into elctronics and tech stuff
do you guys have any things along those lines that might interest me?
I'm not very picky

I would ask them for vouchers for electronic/computer shops etc. That way you won't have to worry about deciding what you want right away and you will be able to buy something you will really like.

If you find vouchers a bit impersonal then tell them to surprise you and get you something you wouldn't expect. You can get some pretty fun/interesting stuff this way.

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Where do you put eyeliner to make your eyes look bigger? On the bottom lid, top lid or both?

Putting eyeliner on both lids will make your eyes look smaller so it's best to avoid doing both unless that's the look you're going for.

Generally, your eyes will look bigger if you stick to the top lid. You may also want to invest in a white eyeliner. These are applied to your lower lid and in the inner corners to widen your eyes. Although very subtle (you can't actually see white lines), it makes a huge difference.

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So i am 15 and i am going to my friend birthday party in 2 days. At the party there is not going to be alcohol or smoking or anything. But afterwards I am spending the night at her house with a whole bunch of people and there is gonna be drinking and smoking and i already know i don't want to smoke but I am iffy on the drinking. My friend told me I didn't have to but I would feel kind of left out so I kinda want to. Do you think its a bad idea? or should I enjoy my youth?

Stick to your guns on the smoking. Starting smoking was a stupid thing to do and I wouldn't advise anyone to make the same mistake.

Sometimes it is hard when everyone else is doing something and you don't want to feel left out, but I think deep down you know that underage drinking isn't safe. Your friend has already told you that it's okay to say no if you want to and I'm sure that not everyone will be falling around drunk, if any.

Alcohol can be enjoyable if consumed safely and in moderation. If you do want to drink - although I don't advise you to do so just to 'fit in' with your friends - I suggest you set yourself a limit before you go out and stick to that limit. It's easy to get carried away but if you stick to one or two small drinks - not spirits - then you won't be dangerously drunk and putting yourself and others at risk.

Remember, you don't need alcohol to have a good time.

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i have no idea where i'm going..
i'm gonna be a freshman in highschool and we got our scedules at the end of eighth grade but mine was messed up and i couldn't talk to the counselors who came from the highschool because i had drama. i don't even know my homeroom..
the open house thing for my school is the day before i think, could i get my scedule that day? who do i ask?

i'm just like worried becasue i can't really remember where the freshman halways are or anything either. ha any advice?

You may be able to get your schedule on the open house day, if not you will be able to get it on the first day of school (if this is the case, you might want to get there a little early).

I would go to the open house day as you will be able to familiarise yourself with where everything is before school actually starts. It will also give you a chance to ask any questions about the school you have.

Starting a new school is always daunting but you'll be surprised how quickly things become 'normal'. If you do find yourself lost on the first day, then don't be afraid to ask someone.

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http://www.advicenators.com/abuse.php?mode=view&aid=2632

Hey, you answered this abuse report, and you said the rating was changed...but it wasn't?

thanks!
lax

I did change the rating but it looks like the questioner changed it back. I've changed it again, post another abuse report if this happens again.

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does the movie Ali G Indahouse show male nudity or female nudity is it good?

If my memory serves me correctly, there are one, possibly two, joke scenes involving nudity/sex. However, they're just jokes, not hardcore porn. Whether or not it's good is a matter of opinion, I personally think it's funny.

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what exactly is it?
and what does it do to you if you take it like as a drug.

Morphine is a highly addictive painkiller used to treat moderate to severe pain. Morphine can also be used to treat recovering drug addicts. Morphine can relieve pain, relieve fear and anxiety and give a euphoric feeling or a 'high'. However, it can also impair physical and mental performence, decrease your appetite and inhibit the cough reflex. Withdrawal symptoms are similar to those of a Heroin addiction.

It is important you do not take Morphine unless it has been prescribed to YOU by your doctor. You should never take above the prescribed dose. Doing so could be incredibly dangerous.

You can read more here:
http://www.drugs.com/morphine.html

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15/f. I like a guy who is older than me. I like him more than a friend. But I am beginning to think it's just lust and infatuation. Do these feelings go away on their own, or do I have to do something about it? Because I can't help but think about him 24/7 when I know I'm like the LASTTTTTT thing on his mind. Lol. Thanks.

All through your life you will have crushes. Celebrities, the person who sits next to you in class, that one who gets your bus, the computer technician at work, your postman...It's normal. What's more, it's healthy.

You are 15, which means your hormones are going to be all over the place, making your feelings for people feel especially intense. You're feeling this way about him because to you, he's like a celebrity. He's older, which makes him instantly more attractive and a more attractive option. The fact that you don't have him probably adds to your feelings, the thrill of the chase is exciting.

Maybe something will happen between you and you'll end up in a relationship with him, maybe you won't. Whatever happens, you won't be unable to stop thinking about him forever. These feelings of infatuation will fade. The chances are that by this time next year, you'll have found someone completely different and won't be able to stop thinking about them either.

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i have super duper chubby face!
like no lie.
and i LOVE wearing headbands
or pulling my bangs back in a poof.
but it looks HORRIBLE on me
because my face is just so
wa*bam huge!

i really want a slimmer face!
what do i do?
[please, dont tell me i shouldnt care whut other people think or w/e. thats not whut im asking for]
Kthnkkkks!
bye =]

There isn't really a lot you can do to slim down your face without dieting, but this could cause problems for the rest of your body and isn't healthy if your weight is fine as it is.

However, although it isn't ideal, there are simple things you can do with make-up to create the illusion of a slimmer face.

You will need two shades of blusher or bronzer (one lighter and one slightly darker). Suck your cheeks in so that you can see where your cheekbones are and with a blusher brush, apply the darker shade along the underside of the bone in a sweeping motion up to your ear. Then, smile widely so you can see the apples of your cheeks and apply the lighter colour. Make sure everything is well blended, you want a wash of colour, not harsh lines. The darker shade will highlight your cheekbones, making your face seem more sculpted and slimmer. The lighter shade will highlight your cheeks, making them stand out and therefore making your cheekbones more prominent.

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i just noticed a little bump on the inside of my vagina lips, the fleshy part. first it didnt hurt much but now its hurting alot.
could it be just an infection or can it be something serious?
i asked my mom and she said i shouldnt worry but i dont know. could it be an STD?

Your mum is probably right, the chances are that it's nothing. However, a visit to the doctor just to be on the safe side won't hurt and will put your mind at rest.

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Well,I took a pregnancy test and I'm not pregnant but one of my nipples is clearly 3 times the size of the other one and its been hurting a little bit..im very young ,im going to be 15 in a few months so maybe they are growing?
I dont know why one of my boobs is like that and the other one isnt,Ive heard of one boob being bigger but ive never heard of the nipple being larger as well.
Please inform me,dont lecture about my age please :)

I strongly suggest you visit your doctor as he/she is the only one who will be able to tell you for sure what is going on.

It could be nothing but it's better to be on the safe side.

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i want to pierce my belly button after pool season is over, but the thing is in the fall i play field hockey
so i was wondering can i play with a piercing or should i just wait till november or so when fh is over?

I would wait until November.

Belly button piercings take an especially long time to heal and often involve complications/infection due to their awkward position.. It's best to make sure there's no chance of it being damaged. Play hockey when it's healing and you risk it being knocked or ripped out, which could lead to a nasty infection.

No matter when you do get it pierced, make sure you go to a reputable piercing studio which uses sterile equipment and to follow the aftercare instructions properly.

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is there a free program where you can make part of a photo black and white, but make something(for example your shirt) stay in color?

thanks :D

GIMP: http://www.gimp.org/

I personally have never used it, but I know several people who have and they have no problems with it.

Here are a couple of other free photo editing programs I found on Google:
PhotoPlus: http://www.freeserifsoftware.com/software/PhotoPlus/
Paint.Net (not to be confused with MS Paint): http://www.getpaint.net/

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wat is a good easy program to do photo work. ex. black and white pictures with some spots in color. my sister in law has a program where you make the picture black and white and the back picture be color and you "erase" the black and white part that you want color, and the color will show thorugh, understand?? ne'ways i want a good photoshop program please help me out!

I use Photoshop and I think it's the best photo editing software I've used. The range of tools is extensive and with some practice, you can produce some really high quality stuff. While it is brilliant, it is slightly difficult to master at first and it is also very expensive.

Another option is Paint Shop Pro. It's cheaper and slightly simpler than Photoshop but has many of the features people most commonly use, such as only colouring certain parts of a picture. I used PSP before I got Photoshop, which was helpful as they have similar set-ups and it served as a good introduction to photo editing.

If you only want to do some simple editing then I would suggest PSP. However, if you're looking for something more advanced then I highly reccomend Photoshop.

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Well thanks for the advice and also I wanted to know if I can straighten my hair without using any product or something? I hate using a product because it makes my hair oily. I just don't want to hurt my hair or anything. I just got a haircut and the first time I blow dried it, it came out really nice and smooth and then I used a straightener too. Then the next day I blow dried it and it looked really frizzy and stuff and I think it was because I straightened yesterday..I want my hair straight but I don't know what to do.

Without the help of a product, it will be hard to keep it healthy while straightening it.

You can probably skip out any straightening creams and leave in conditioner but a heat protection spray is a must. If you just concentrate on the ends and lengths with the spray and avoid your roots, then your hair won't be oily.

Using a deep conditioning or hot oil treatment every three months will really make a big difference and won't make your hair oily as it all washes out, leaving your hair sleek and smooth.

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I was just wondering, I just got my haircut and highlighted and I straighten my hair after I blow dry it. I noticed that my ends get split when I do that. Is straightening bad for my hair??

I blow dry and straighten my hair (which is also colour treated) on a daily basis. It can cause damage but I use a heat protection spray before drying and then again before straightening, which does help an awful lot. You might also want to use a leave in conditioner or serum as this will keep your hair looking sleek. A straightening cream is also a good option and this will minimise the amount of time your hair is exposed to the heat of the straightening irons.

Once every three months, invest in an intensive conditioning/hot oil treatment (you can buy these fairly cheaply in most places that sell shampoo and conditioner). This will help keep your hair healthier for longer.

If you have fine or thin hair, it's usually best to avoid blow drying and straightening on a daily basis. If this is the case then you may be able to apply straightening cream and heat protection spray before blow drying your hair with a paddle brush. With fine hair, you may not need to use straighteners after this. If you do choose to use them on fine hair, then it is especially important to use heat protection products as otherwise your hair will be damaged quickly.

If you have thick hair, the above technique can also be used to minimise straightening time.

It is also important to have your ends trimmed every few months, especially if they are split, as this will prevent them splitting the whole hair shaft. Regular trims also keep your hair growing at a steady pace.

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