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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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I went mountain climbing awhile ago and it wasn't a pleasant experience. To the point: I have these really ugly scars on my leg now...how do I get rid of them? x_x (link)
If they aren't to bad, they will probably fade over time. I'm not sure how long it will take them to fade though. :)


Why dont people on advicenators ask one person, like me, questions, lol, it gets boring, all you people do is ask q's on the "public" question thing. (link)
Like everyone else has said, everybody wants as many possible solutions that they can get.

A reason you may want to answer more questions in the public question thing is this...The ratings you get on inbox questions do not count on your rating, unless you get a one. The fives do not count. :)


Ok so let me explain the situation first: I went out with this guy, Payton, and everything was great, until I was told he made a bet about me and our relationship (not like a bet to ask me out he really did like me). Then we fought a lot and he ended it saying things just weren't working out and he liked someone else more.

After we broke up he continued to flirt with me and tell me we should make out and stuff even though we weren't together anymore and were just "friends". Now today when we went to the movies with a big group he commented to my good friend on how hot i looked today. I always see him staring at me in class and stuff too. I kinda still have feelings for him too..What should i do? Sould i try it with him again or let it go? I am scared that he wants me back just because he has no one right now and things didn't sork out with him for with the other girl. THANKS! (link)
If you both still like each other I see know reason for you not to try again.

This time, just be sure and tell him all bets are off. :)


I was wondering if gatorade or water will make u less thirsty. ON the bottle of gatorade it says "gatorade is a smart choice because it rehydrates, replinshes, and refules in ways that water cant"....im not sur eif thats like jsut an advertisemnt thingy to get u to buy it and it has some catch or if it will help more sooo does ne one know? (link)
Gatorade and other sports drinks are good if you have really sweat a lot and are dehydrated. Like when you play sports. It helps replace electrolytes you lose when you sweat. And you know, it only tastes good then in my opinion. Any other time it really hasn't much flavor to it.

For everyday use. Water is the best thing to drink. :)

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It would work well for that too. :)


what are some healthy ways i can relieve stress? besides eating. I have a habit to eat everything in site when i am stressed. but i dont gain anything. maybe that is why. im 15 and weigh 90 lbs. so, i need a healthier way to relieve stress. what is a good way to relieve stress when i am at school? because i cant eat everything in sight at school. an average lunch i take in 450 calories. Not today! i was under a whole lot of stress and i took in about 900! so yeah. i need a healthy way to relieve stress other than eating! (link)
This site has some good ideas about how to relieve stress. I will let you read them yourself. There is also other things about stress here you might find useful. :)

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/emotions/stress.html


well im 16 and im a gurl and im still a virgin in every way but what i want to know is ,is ok to masterbate and when you have sex for the first time does it hurt also when you masterbate does it feel different when you acually have sex or does the pleasure feel the same please help iam i disuging or normal
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It is perfectly normal to masturbate. I have some websites for you on both subjects. They will probably help you better than I could, and probably have more info than you really want to know! :)

http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa051500b.htm

http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm


Yesterday one of the guys that lives in my appartment complex knocked on my door and asked me out. I told him that I had plans and he didn't look too happy.

First of all, I've always been told to never date a guy that lives in the same building as you because if it didnt work out it would be very awkward. Also, he's about 15 years older than me and I don't find him very attractive, he's bald with glasses and is really nerdy.

I've also heard from other people in the building that he can be a real jerk. One of my friends asked him once if the mail came and he told him to fuck off.

I've always been nice to him because I wanted everyone in the building to like me.
But now I don't know how to act.
I have no interest in him AT ALL.
The worst part is he lives only 3 appartments down the hallway from me, so we will always be running into each other.
What should I do? (link)
Should he ask again just tell him you don't date older guys. 15 years is quite a big difference. It gets you off the hook and yet it isn't just outright telling him you don't want to date him because he is unattractive to you. :)


i know this guy and i think he is hott but he is one of the ones that you might not want a relationship with. But this has turned into a life or death situation. Today in 9th pd. he was all like "shit, ive been turned down way too many times and its pissing me off. I cant wait till i get home so i wont have to live this fuckin' life ne more." those were his exact words. Im sorry if they are a little... how would you say... explict? ne wayz. there was a point not too long ago that i was considering telling him i would go out with him. that feeling passed. but i dont know if i should go out with him or not. We are like bestfriends and i really dont want him to kill himself! I rate hi! (link)
If you think he is really suicidal then you need to tell an adult. He needs help. I will leave you some websites to read at the end of this.

I don't think it would be real smart to start a relationship with this guy. Friends yes. Romance no. If you should decide later it isn't right for you, then you will more than likely be made to feel you have to stay by threats of suicide if you go. Not the best position to be put in. :)

http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa120502a.htm

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/feeling_sad/suicide.html


does in hurt when myou have sex for the first time iam 15 and a girl (link)
Here are some websites for you to check out. They should be able to answer all your questions. :)

http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa051500a.htm

http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/

http://www.coolnurse.com/birthcontrol.htm


ok i know u guys are probelly sick of hearing these qs but i need to know im 14f and my height is 5.5 and my weight is like 116 do i weigh to much for a gurl my age and height.
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No you don't weigh to much. You sound like you are right where you should be. :)


Are u able to buy diet pills if u are under the age of 18 (link)
I don't think so. They probably make you show ID same as they would for buying cigarettes. :)


Hear is my problem I was friends with this girl for two and a half years then all of a sudden we are no longer friends. I mean she didn't tell me anything. I waited to see if I was going to hear from her but nothing no phone calls and she never came over my house again. I wrote her a letter and she never responded. I don't get it the last time I saw her was when she had a boyfriend. I use to work in a retail store and everytime I would see her she would be buying some things for a baby. So did she have a baby or is she just picking some things up for a friend. But if she did have a baby why would she want to stop being friends. I have another friend and she was also friends with her too but they keep in touch. I wish I knew what happen and how come she doesn't want to talk to me. At frist I thought it was because she had a boyfriend and so did my other friend and I was single. But that's no reason she should stop talking to me is it? Please help me we were such good friends and I would like to be again but I dont' know what to do. (link)
Friendship goes both ways. You need to call her!
Just call her and find out how shes been.

The other friend that keeps in contact doesn't know if she has a baby either? You guys have some serious communication problems. Call her and see if you can arrange a get together. It will be awkward at first but it should get easier once you start talking. :)


Is wearing a skirt while you have a period okay? Also, do I necessarily have to wear a tampon or could I wear a pad (bc I hate tampons). Its a white skirt. Or should I just wait till my periods gone ( 4 more days probably ) Thanks for advice! (link)
Sure you can wear a skirt of you want to. I would steer clear of white anything however. If you get blood on it its ruined.

So, skirts are fine but i'd stick to another color. :)


Hi, I'm a really really shy guy, and so like asking people out (which I've only done once) takes like all my energy and like an hour, and I always worry about what if she says no, what if, what if, etc. Are there any good ways to overcome shyness? And saying to just face my fears doesn't exactly help... can someone tell me how to face them instead? Thanks all! (link)
I don't know how to tell you that exactly. I do have a website of info you may get some use out of. If it helps please let me know. :)

http://www.shykids.com/


Is there such a thing as to many orgasms? Can it harm u if u do have one to much? (link)
No. You can safley have as many as you like. :)


how could u like start to flirt with a girl cause like im retarted and like i dono like how to get started doin it. yeah i need help (link)
Ok heres a website that should give you a good start. :)

http://www.links2love.com/dating_flirting2.htm


okay I don't mind if I sound like an idiot. I need an answer.

My computer got a little screwed up, whether it was a virus or I did something either way I had to erase everything. Actually, it didn't do what it was supposed to do since everything is the same except for the fact that everything is huge. like my web browser, font and my all my icons are really big. I know there is a way to make them smaller but I haven't done it for so long I can't figure out how to do it. I'm sure its easy but i'll be damned if I can remember how to do it.

so yeah... anyone know what I'm talking about and care to help me out?

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This may not be what your looking for but its worth a try.

Go to start
control panel
display
appearence
font size

There is also a size option under the accessibility options under the control panel. I hit that one once and my entire screen was filled with huge everything!!

Probably much to simple to be the answer but you never know. :)


me and my ex-boyfriend just started talkin again. i like him again and i think he likes me again but im not sure.he says he wants to have sex with me. he always says it so i went to his house and all we did was watch his brother play a video game for 2 hours then i had to leave. i asked him y he didnt do anything and he said he didnt want to do it while his brothers were sittin right there becuz his room is in his basement and both of his brothers were sittin right there. does he really want to do this with me and does it look like we will ever go out again?? we flirt all the time and before we stop talkin to each other we always say i love u.i really like him so i need sum help. sorry its so long!! (link)
Please wait until you are dating again at least.

He may be the nicest guy on the planet, but at his age they all want the same thing. Don't let him use you. If you do I'm afraid he will be out looking at others the next day and you will be left wondering what happened. It happens all the time. Be careful. :)


Girls can answer, but this is a question I want guys to answer even more (since you know, its about how a guy would react). If you know any guys on this site, could you refer them to this question.

Okay then, last year I noticed this really really hot guy in my school, and told my friends about him and such, and I decided he was the hottest guy in the school and it became this sort of joke but not really a joke between us, just a thing to talk about. Well, one of my friends talks to him a bit now, and the other day (oh yeah, I never had talked to him, he doesnt even know I exist, hes a senior I'm a sophmore but my older sister DID tell him I thought he was the hottest guy in school) my friend was standing with him and said "TIA! This is Josh" ANd I flipped bc she wasnt introducing but making obvious something was up. So I didnt know what to do and so I just walked over and told him he was the hottest guy in the whole school. Do you think I might have freaked him out or flattered him or anything? Because I definatly didnt want to do that it was just a more spur-of-the-moment thing and I cant believe I said it.

Of course, if he wasnt freaked out (aka if it would freak you guys out) then would you think now that I know him it would be okay to sort of try to become friends with him. I dont want a relationship or anything, just friendship. Or would that be ... awkward?

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE HELP. Really, I mean...this means so much. Usually I'm so shy and this was actually a huge milestone for me. Even if he would be freaked out, I still have a gained alot out of it and would never, ever take it away. Oh yeah, in case you were also wondering, we got a picture together to, like I said "Can I get a picture together" he said "yeah" and when I told him that he said "I do now!" (I had said "did you know you're the hottest guy in the school) Well, thats about it. Thanks guys! (link)
LOL, I'm sorry, I would have ran the other way!
You were very brave!

I am not a guy but if he didn't run the other way then I think he would probably talk to you if you wanted to approach him again. I think he was probably very flattered. :)


I got my belly button done and my body rejected it now its really hard is it supposed to be really hard? whats going to happen to it? (link)
It is probably scarred tissue from your piercing. Chances are it will get a little smaller but will there will probably always be kind of a hard spot there. :)




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