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Suicide/dating
i know this guy and i think he is hott but he is one of the ones that you might not want a relationship with. But this has turned into a life or death situation. Today in 9th pd. he was all like "shit, ive been turned down way too many times and its pissing me off. I cant wait till i get home so i wont have to live this fuckin' life ne more." those were his exact words. Im sorry if they are a little... how would you say... explict? ne wayz. there was a point not too long ago that i was considering telling him i would go out with him. that feeling passed. but i dont know if i should go out with him or not. We are like bestfriends and i really dont want him to kill himself! I rate hi!
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i would just keep doing what your doing
dreamist16
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okay if you still like him then go for it, ask him out and see what happens. maybe it will work out with you two and he won't kill himself. maybe he just needs that one person to give him a chance and that will help him with whatever his problems are for wanting to kill himself. If you don't want to go out with him then don't but maybe you can talk to him and tell him that he is a great guy and maybe help him find a gf. good luck.
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He has issues, and they most likely aren't just about being turned down by girls. Suicide is very serious. If you think he might be considering it, talk to him about it, don't date him out of pity. Because if he found out you only are dating him so he won't kill himself that will make it worse. Get with him and try and get the the problem, tell him that he will find someone for him soon. Just be encouraging, that's what he needs from you.
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That is a very tuff situation! I don't think you should ever date someone out of pity@ If you do date him and end up not liking him, and he is really attached to you than you breakin up with him in the long run might make him feel that way. I think you should talk to him about what he said and tell him that he doesn't need someone to be happy. If he still is all like I'm gunna kill myself than you should go to the school counseler, they can't tell him who said anything so your name will be safe but he really does need help! I really hope I helped you
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amber lynn
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Wow. Well, I definitely wouldn't go out with a guy just for that reason. You should talk to him about it since you are good friends and see if he was just saying that. If not, maybe you could just try to really encourage him and show him how much you care without having to attach yourself to him romantically. Maybe once he comes out of the woods with this depression he'll be a new guy, and then a healthy relationship with him could happen.
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First, that was not a suicide threat. He was using life referring to school life. However, he may be a danger to himself.
Call him up, and talk to him, letting him feel good about himself. Let him know that you really do care a lot for him, and it would be terrible if he went. If he does not listen, and still wants suicide, tell him to call a suicide hotline first. www.suicidehotlines.org. If there still is nothing, then call the police. Non-911, but the regular number. Tell them that your friend is a danger to himself, and needs police assistance to get him out.
And yes, you should go out with him. You should not judge a person based on depression. If anything, that should be a factor to dating. For you can easily drag him out of depression, and make him happier being with you. Girlfriends have dragged many boys I know out of depression/suicide. And you do love him, I can tell by the way you care about him so much here.
-Steven
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Woah ... he wants to kill himself because he has been turned down too many times?? If that is the reason then he is just wanting attention and for people to feel sorry for him. If there are other problems you need to talk to him or tell someone, only if it's serious. Do you like him more then a friend? If you really do then go out with him but if you go out with him because you feel sorry for him don't because if he finds out he would be even more upset. I don't think he will have the guts to even try. If it's not serious he is wanting attention, but if something serious is going on, you need to tell someone.
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noo dont go out with him only because you feel sorry..if you truly have feelings for him . .. thats one thing..however..think of the baggage that comes with him. he has depression issues and who knows how he will react when you two break up..
second of all...i think you should call the guidance counselor in school..or personally go down there and request that they call him down to talk because you cant just not do anything about this. This is his cry out for help. Hes screaming on the inside for help..and by him expressing that to you..(what he said to you) Its like his cry out for help...
tell a counselor and they can contact his parents and arrange therapy visits or whatever needs to be done
-meliss
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If you think he is really suicidal then you need to tell an adult. He needs help. I will leave you some websites to read at the end of this.
I don't think it would be real smart to start a relationship with this guy. Friends yes. Romance no. If you should decide later it isn't right for you, then you will more than likely be made to feel you have to stay by threats of suicide if you go. Not the best position to be put in. :)
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