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I have it, and I have had it for a couple of months now. I have the device where you can plug it into your computer, and sync music from your library onto your phone. But the thing is, no matter how many times I try it, it won't work. Can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong? And I don't have any other options because it's too much to pay for individual songs from Verizon.


Thanks in advance. (link)
hi, i have the chocolate to so i think i might be able to help. well obviousely you have the USB lead. ok so you connect the phone to you USB port using the lead. next you go to my computer and find the device if the computer doesnt allready detect it. now you just copy and paste the music/multimedia you want into the correct folder (music/videos/photos). are you doing this? if not then all you can do is take it back to the shop and tell them. they might be able to help. Oh and when removing the phone from your pc allways click on the "safely remove hardware" button on the bottom right hand side of the coomputer screen next to the time. and are you cheking for the music in the right folder? slide it up, touch ok, touch right to multimedia, and then ok, then go down to MP3 or option 4, and there will be your playlist. hope i helped, good luck.


I got a new cat in March of 2006. My other cat before her was an outside cat more than an inside one. But one night she got hit by a car, and we had to put her to sleep.

When I got my new cat, my family and I decided to make it an indoor one, so the same thing wouldn't happen to her. We live on a very busy street so I felt it was OK to make her an indoor cat. But I feel horrible every day that she can't go outside. We already declawed her, so we can't just make her an outdoor cat. And yeah, I feel a little bad for declawing her because I feel it's inhumane, but she was ripping stuff up, and tearing carpets and furniture up.

When I see her every day, looking at the window, she just looks and sounds like she is sad, and I keep feeling I should of made her an outside cat, but I don't want the same thing to happen to her, as to what happened to my other cat. She just always looks depressed. I seriously don't know, but how can I tell how she is feeling?

Also, am I doing what is right for my cat? I mean if I was stuck indoors all my life I would be pretty depressed, yet I don't want my cat to feel the same way. What can I do?

Thanks for reading and anything is greatly appreciated! (link)
well i don know about cats much, but cant you just take your cat into your back garden/yard. im not sure if thats ok because ive never had a cat, but you could let her out to roam around and just play with her outside. hope i helped


I've always wanted a cat. Unfortunately, my mom has always put her foot down on that, despite the fact that she always had a cat when she was growing up, and I know she loves cats. Still, she has permitted me and my sisters to have small animals, so we've had an array of gerbils, fish, and hamsters. My two gerbils recently died =[ but it's been long enough that it's time to start looking for a new pet. I really want to convince my mom that we should get a cat. I've narrowed it down to the cat that I want, too: a Siamese-I think they are beautiful, and they are short-haired, which I hope will appeal to my neat-freak mother. I have some problems though: she's been saying no to me and my sisters for so long, I'm afraid she won't even listen to me. Also, I'm afraid that even if she does listen to me, she will say no because she will think it's unfair that she said no to my sisters (they are both living away from home now) but she would say yes to me (even though they both have their own homes now, with their own cats). My question is, what are some good points that I can use when I'm trying to win her over? Anything that you can think of that would help a very smart, somewhat neat-freak person be sold on having a kitten, please tell me!! Thank you so much =] and I'm sorry this is so long. (link)
i had the same problem but with dogs. i guess you can ask her what you can do to convince her. you'll need to know WHY she says no. does she not trust you? or does she think you wont be able to handle the responsibility of having a big pet? sounds like thats the reason, and she might just be right. you can always say that you have looked after enough small animals, so you're sure you can look after a cat. otherwise you cant do anything. hope i helped


My 3 year old labrador retriever always gets awful ear infections. They smell terrible and she's constantly itching and shaking her head. I've taken her to the vet many times and recieved medication, but the infection keeps coming back. How can I clear them up without having to go to a vet every time she gets one and how can I prevent them? (link)
well the cause of ear infections in pets is always down to ear mites, foreign bodies like grass seed, bacterial and fungal infections. unfortunately, all you can do is go to your vet, he/she could give you stronger anti-biotics or stronger anti-inflammatory. are you completing the suscribed course? because if you dont then the bacteria will become more and more resistant untill it cant be cured. even if your dog feels better, amke sure you complete the prescribed course. hope i helped :)


So my cat won't eat her wetfood. She eats her dry food perfectly fine, and I have tried every suggestion my Vet told me, but nothing worked. Yet I heard (from a friend) that if cats don't eat their wetfood they'll die or something? I do find it somewhat ridiculous but it worries me. Is that true? If so, what can I do? If not, any suggestions to help my cat eat her food?

thanks (link)
sounds like your cat just doesnt like the taste of we food, like how we dont like some food. maybe you could mix wet and dry food together. gradually put more and more wet food in and it might start to like it. hope i helped, and good luck with 'em


How do you know if dogs are mating? Because i have a girl and boy dog and they are not brother and sister. Thanks. (link)
well um, the mal will get on top of the female and start to humo (thrusting his hips back and forth). good luck with 'em :)


i have two female conures (birds)(little parrots) and i caught them havin sex then a while later they had two nests and two groups of eggs on oppasite sides of the cage.they both had two eggs.and were sittin on their own pile.we have never had a male bird nobody else i no has them either so theres two female birds tht both laid 2 eggs the size of their heads.and trust me one of them didnot lay all four thatd be bigger than they are.its kinda desturbing~two females havin sexand both layin eggs~so is there somthing wrong w/ them or what (link)
theres nothing wrong, birds can lay unfertalised eggs, but they wont have a chick in them as there wasnt a male bird around. sound to me you have a pair of lesbian birds on your hand.


It's a known fact that guys don't go out with girls who aren't skinny, gorgeous, and flawless which is really unfair because i happen to be none of the above. Basically, I NEEEED a boyfriend, like its beyond just wanting to be with somebody it's a need to have that special somebody. Sure, there's friends and whatnot and they're important too (don't get me wrong) but sometimes you want somebody that can be more than just a friend to you. It's frustrating because some girls can get a boyfriend in a split second without even having to blink. people like me on the other hand have to sit back and watch these people and envy them while they work their charm. So what can I do to be more like them? To be glamorous and amazing so that guys will want me as much as they want those other girls? PLEASE HELP. (link)
Darlin', okay so I definitely would have agreed with you about a year ago when I was at my all time lowpoint with insecurities. I used to think that I would neverget someone to stick around for the fact that I wasn't some perfect model that was stick skinny. But then I found my boyfriend now. Better yet, he found me and my whole feelings changed about it. He is a complete cutie and a bunch of girls love him ,and so I am so lucky to have him. Yet in the back of my mind I wonder why he'd choose me over them. then I realize it was because of me personally, not what I looked like. So just find someone you can connect with, and have things in common with. Trust me, once you stop searching for a boy,the sooner you will snag one.


i just started dating this guy about 6 days ago and i dont like him anymore. the truth is i dont like him because hes like really fat and ugly. plus we never get to see eachother beacuse he lives about 45 minutes away from me. i want to break up with him but im not a mean person at all (although it does seem like it cus of the reason i sont like him) i dont know why i went out with him in the 1at place. ive only seem him once and i dont know when im gonna see him again. but i just need good reasons to break up with him without being mean. i need more than just we dont get to see eachother much but... i do feel bad by saying that so please dont make comments that are mean to me.. im not a mean person at all. (link)
Basically the first reason you gave is really shallow, I'm not gonna lie. But I guess if you don't find him attractive and that really matters to you then you should end it of course because it wouldn't be fair to him. I would say to be honest about the distance thing, but don't bring up the physical problems because that is all you need to do, give the kid a complex about himself! No, that wouldn't be nice at all.


i have a boyfiend, but we never talk. we dont even say hi in the hall, we just kinda smile at eachother. i like him alot and i no he likes me, so thats not the problem.
he is i guess really shy and im kinda shy too so we both don't really have the courage to go upand talk to eachother. i really want to like after classes and stuff and i try to get myself too but i just can't!
how do i get my self to talk to him and once we say hi what should we talk about? please help! (link)
Alright, well usually a good relationship is based on having good chemistry. And for the most part, good chemistry consists of being able to talk to each other and be together all the time. And yes I know that since this is a new boyfriend it might be awkward striking up a conversation, so just try and find some things in common so it can lead to all the time convos with the fella. Basically, communication is key with going out with someone, so just try and hang out more to get more comfortable with him and it'll work out.


So this guy hes a friend he asked me to give him an "elbow job" (he was kidding=]...) anyways so today i was checking his wall on facebook and someone called him an "elbow eater?" wat do either of those mean? (link)
Sometimes the truth is hiding behind a joke.
Maybe this guy actually does have a thing with elbows.
All people got their crazy kinky fantasies.


23 Male

I got a phone call tonight. Old friend I used to talk to a few years ago. He wanted to talk to me about a friend he has; in particular, his own girlfriend. I like to help out my friends, so I said I would help.

He mentions a name to me. It rings a bell, because it happens to be the same name of my girlfriend, but I don't tell him that. A few minutes into the conversation I find out it is the same exact person we are talking about. I keep my big mouth shut.

They've been dating for a few months. I feel a deep hurt on the inside: we've been dating a few years. I find out the problem he is having and do the best I can to help him as a friend. I act as if I know her just as a friend and nothing more. This leads him to tell me more and more about them. I'm not reeling it out of him, he's just letting it all out. Should I confront her about this? She avoids the topic when I ask about him and my friend asks about their future. What is going on here, why does she avoid things, and do I need to tell her and possibly break things off? (link)
Possibly break things off? You are unbelivable. Of course brakes things off. You should toss her in the worst possible way. Do you wanna know what a real man would do?
He d take her out to eat in a really expensive restaurant. Order the most expensive stuff on the menu, lobster and shrimps and clams and salats. Order an expensive bottle of wine, or champaign. After all order some desert, like a strawberry chocolate fondu. Then he d excuse himself to the bathroom or answer an emergency phone call and...vanish. After 15 minutes of waiting the girl calls, and he d have her blocked, so this faceless message would apear on her cellphone. She d have to pay for the dinner and ride home alone. That d teach her not to fuck with peoples hearts.
But if the world is full of people that give you space, then people are going to take advantage of the space that is given to them. You sould like a person who gives space to her.
Break things off...
well...
DUH!!!


Background:-
My party on Saturday. 40 people. All my good friends were allowed to bring people as long as they were responsible for them (this was very clear).
Aime: My friend
Jane: My friend
Ashley: Known her since June. Is at school but came to visit. Brought Mary.
Aaron: Friends with all of us for a year or two. Has been in California since September. Mom is in Seattle and knows that he is here. Dad and stepmom don’t know (he hates them). Has been staying with a friend. He claims to be a thug. Doesn’t have any friends left in town, don’t know why. Brought Katie.
Story at 1:00 AM:-
Aaron: Mary took Jane’s beer from the fridge so he made Mary give him five dollars. Mary was crying. Ashley came up to him raging drunk and flipped. Ashley got into a fight with Katie and Aaron pushed her a little to get her to back off. She was so drunk that she fell over.
Ashley: Aaron took money from Mary by force so she asked him to give it back. Aaron got violent and pushed her. She fell, hit her head and was unconscious.
Everyone else: Not sure but they heard an argument and saw Aaron push Ashley and she passed out. Asked him to leave.
1:15 AM:
I came down and heard what happened. I cut through the forest to find them. I started yelling at Aaron and telling him he was in trouble. I told him to call Ashley and apologize. He said no because Katie was his friend and he brought her to the party so he had to protect her. Katie kept cutting in and saying it wasn’t his fault and stuff. She then named her cousin Justin who who I had heard of vaguely and I informed her that I was not impressed. She told me that she could protect herself and she could hit me if she wanted. I ignored her for the most part but I told her that she should try … and she did. She tackled me to the ground and I was pulling at her hair but she was mostly hitting me and kicking me till I got a nose bleed. Aaron pulled us apart. He told her to run. I dragged him back to my house with me and he tried to take his shirt off to soak up my blood but I refused it.
We got back and Aimie was on the phone talking to Aaron’s stepmom so he peaced it.
3:00:
Aaron’s stepmom and Ashley’s mom showed up at my house. Ashley’s mom took Ashley and left. So did everyone else. Next morning we found Ashley’s wallet empty (it contained credit cards and her Social Security Card) on the side of the road where we fought. Aaron left to California but told a mutual friend that I had started the fight by mouthing off to Katie, then Ashley had come outside to hit Katie and then he pushed her.
So… I have my blood soaked clothes and his blood soaked t-shirt with Katie’s hair on it too (from where I yanked it out) in my bathroom. Either one of them could have taken the wallet. I’m not sure whether I want revenge, I don’t really care. We just need Ashley’s ID back. We found out where Katie lives and her home number.
a) What should we do now?
b) My face has lots of scrapes, how can I prevent them from turning into scars? (link)
Well, If I was you, I d definatelly call the police. This people aint your friends and you should not feel sorry for them.
Once, a "friend" of mine was searching though my stuff and stole 900 dollars. I had a small party at the time with about 14 guests. I called the police and found him.
Thugs dont hit wimen by the way. And thugs dont fight over 5 dollars. And Aaron is a really gay name for a thug, reminds me of Aaron Karter.
If you call the cops, they will open a file for this guys, Aaron and his girl. Nothing will happen against them unless you or someone involved decides to do so. In case something happens again in the future you can use this foldier. Cops will also take pictures of your scars and stuff. If you were a man, I d tell you not do anything cause boys fight all the time and its ok. But when a girl gets attacked, thats a different story.


Okay this is probably the grossest thing but. When i do #2 in the bathroom i seriously feel like i am having a sexual experience. It reel's good for some reason. Anyway am i weird and does this mean that i would like it if i had sex in the toosh? (link)
wow that's ummm interesting. guess it seems like the nerve endings in your anus are very receptive, and you'd prolly be a fan of buttsex.


does google leave footprints on your Xanga? its creeping me out

what does that even mean?? (link)
Click where it says it, and it will explain it to you.


I'm 14/m and my best friend (also 14) and I have been j/o together since we were like 11... we just think its fun but my MOM caught us 2 days ago and now she's convinced that I'm gay. So she doesn't want us to like EVER talk to each other again and she's maybe going to call his mom about it. I mean, is it so freaking awful - is it so terrible that we shouldnt be allowed to hang out ever anymore - or is my mom just homophobic?? I'm not even gay but she doesn't believe me. (link)
Your mother is just going through a stage. Parents sometimes are afraid if their child is sexually active when they are soo young or being gay. I wouldn't consider you gay. If you masterbate him with your own hands and he does it to you, it's just a feeling. Every person has a sexual feeling and can't control it. You will be gay if you are attracted to men and want to do it with men all the time, I will consider you gay. Maybe you consider it as playing with your friend. You might be bisexual. Just let your mother go crazy..yes it is annoying. Or tell her a long speech that makes her guilty.


when i get sexually aroused, i feel this weird feeling inside of me. it's kind of like a heartbeat. i know i'm not alone because i've talked to my best friend about it before. why does that happen? and what is it that's making it happen? (link)
When you are sexually aroused, you might get a werid feeling. It's normal. Many people have it. Sorry I didn't say much! But there isn't much to say...YOUR NORMAL!!! Don't worry about it. It's your adrenaline rush which increases your heart beat.


HI! Last night my boyfriend fingered me. I have been fingered before but after last night it really hurts. He was very aggresive, I like that but my private still hurts. It looked like I might have bleed a little bit, what does this mean? (link)
It's possible he did it a little farther, and you couldn't take anymore. Your hymen could be breaking a little more, which can be painful. It takes time until it actually doesn't hurt. If your asking, it's normal. Your just bleeding a little, nothing to worry about!


my parents were married in late may and my sister was born in mid december. my sister was born right on time. did my parents have sex before they were married? (link)
You say that your parents married in Late May and your sister was born in mid december. It takes 9 months for a baby to grow. Yes, they did have sex before they were married because between May and December, it is only about 7 months apart. Don't worry, it's normal for parents to have sex before they were married...it might have been a mistake. But don't take that as an insult. Mistakes sometimes lead to happy days!


ok so sometimes when i get my period it's brown-ish colored with a few drops of red every couple days then the next period is all red & healthy looking but then in between periods milky-white slippery stuff comes out...which means i'm healthy
is this healthy???
i'm confused....
13/f (link)
Colors vary all the time during a women's period. Each women is different with shape and size. I'm about your age and I get that sometimes. The brown-ish colored is just telling you your going to have your period soon...prepare! And getting your period can be a good sign because that means your not pregnant! Only if you DON'T want to be pregnant and I'm sure you don't want to be because your only 13. Between periods the milky-white slippery stuff means your acroused. Everyone experiences this when they get older. It's normal! It's just like when a guy is aroused but a little different. Your normal and 100% healthy! Have a happy period!




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