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Fingering... Hurts HELP
HI! Last night my boyfriend fingered me. I have been fingered before but after last night it really hurts. He was very aggresive, I like that but my private still hurts. It looked like I might have bleed a little bit, what does this mean?
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It's possible he did it a little farther, and you couldn't take anymore. Your hymen could be breaking a little more, which can be painful. It takes time until it actually doesn't hurt. If your asking, it's normal. Your just bleeding a little, nothing to worry about!
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he could have tore some skin. but don't worry it will be fine. but tell him not to be so rough next time.
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normal :]
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Youch! If you are bleeding, feeling sore or hurting after a fingering and it was supposed to be pleasurable than something clearly isn't right and he is is being far too rough here.
You have to learn how to communicate directly to him what you want him to do, how fast, how rough etc versus what you don't want him to do as he is performing this activity with you.
He's a guy and trust me at his age he doesn't have much experience with touching females in a sexual way nor does he know what is too soft, hard or rough.
You have to tell or show him exactly what you like, how rough is too rough and where to touch before he begins fingering you. You also have to develop an understanding here that if you say "ouch, stop, quit, or that hurts that he stops completely.
You also have to tell him that your vulva and clitorial area is ultra sensitive much unlike his penis is and that if he's touching you in a sexual manner that he has to be very gentle around that area.
As far as rough stuff goes and liking that sometimes too much of something like that will eventually lead to soreness and maybe bleeding as you have to establish here how rough is too rough or you're going to continue to inflict pain in that area.
The bottom line is you have to educate him about all of this before you try this activity again or you're going to wind up bleeding and feeling hurt again. I take it that he has no clue he hurt you at this point unless you told him recently.
Communication before, during and after such activity is crucial so both parties can enjoy a sexual experience and not wind up sore, bleeding or hurt as that's not pleasurable is it? After all what is the point of doing this activity?
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It's normal. Since he did it more aggressively than normal (I assume), it might just hurt for a day or two. And bleeding is normal, as well. Some times a little spotting will occur after some sexual activity. No big deal. =]
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its nothing wrong with you. your boyfriend just did it a little bit too hard this time.
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