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boy nerves
i have a boyfiend, but we never talk. we dont even say hi in the hall, we just kinda smile at eachother. i like him alot and i no he likes me, so thats not the problem.
he is i guess really shy and im kinda shy too so we both don't really have the courage to go upand talk to eachother. i really want to like after classes and stuff and i try to get myself too but i just can't!
how do i get my self to talk to him and once we say hi what should we talk about? please help!
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Alright, well usually a good relationship is based on having good chemistry. And for the most part, good chemistry consists of being able to talk to each other and be together all the time. And yes I know that since this is a new boyfriend it might be awkward striking up a conversation, so just try and find some things in common so it can lead to all the time convos with the fella. Basically, communication is key with going out with someone, so just try and hang out more to get more comfortable with him and it'll work out.
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Do you have any classes together? It's really easy to say something about school. Even if you're not in the same class period.
You could say "Ugh! The homework for *insert teacher name here* was so hard last night!"
BIG MAJOR ADVICE:(((Only if the homework actually was annoying. Don't be a ditz with that line. For instance, if the homework was just a paragraph about your favorite TV show and you say to him that you thought it was hard, he'll think you're stupid.)))
Once he's caught on that you only talk to him about how annoying homework is, you should be able to move on to deeper and better topics.
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You need to understand that he is as scared of approaching you as you are of him. Both of you are sweating bullets here for no reason. It's obvious you both like eachother but are too shy and scared about being boyfriend/girlfriend as you are both not experienced with relationships.
He might be wondering right now as you are why the hell is she not talking to me or asking me to hang out? I'm supposed to be her boyfriend right? or vice-versa.
What you need to do is really simple. Walk up to him and say "You know it's okay to talk to me silly. I'm not going to bite you." Then hand him a piece of paper with your number, e-mail and IM and tell him "Let's chat online tonight." Once you start chatting invite him to hang out at your place on the weekend or see a movie.
That takes care of it right there. All you have to do is use the one line in person and invite him to chat online later and ask him to come over.
From there you can develop your relationship and learn to loosen up with eachother. You'll have to if you want to be boyfriend/girlfriend because if you cannot interact what's the point? There would be no kissing, cuddling, normal stuff otherwise.
Think of it this way you "want him" but you have to go after him to get this relationship going. When it comes to talking to a guy you like and you feel shy treat it like you were talking to your friend or anyone else. Visualize talking to a friend of yours as you talk and just blurt out the lines above. You'll do fine and the relationship will be right on traget.
As I mean, and to be brutally honest what's the point in being called boyfriend/girlfriend otherwise? You just have to get in there and blurt this stuff out as it's something both of you want. Until you make a move he's not going to either. You can do it!
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I use to be shy like that too so I know where your coming from. All you need is courage! Just one time you say hi and stop to talk then probably the next day you can do it again then it would be an everyday thing! Well the way you can do this is when you come out of class just say hey or something. And then like bring up something that happened in class earlier and then after that talk about what you like if you guys have enough time after class! I know it would be hard to say a single hi but just keep trying and you'll get there. Good Luck!
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