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okay so i'm a 16 YO girl and i masturbate haha. i like doing it, it feels great and i orgasm every time i do but i feel like i'm the only girl that does it... i mean i always read that girls do it a lot to but i feel like if i told my friends they'd be totally grossed out.
so my question is, do guys know girls masturbate? like if i was with a guy and i told him i masturbate would he be grossed out or think i'm weird or desperate or something? anywayss let me know what you think. thanks!

Speaking from a male point of view...


All guys find it hot. So it's encouraged.

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My boyfriend and I were talking about sex the other day. We both want to wait until we have a stronger relationship (we've only been dating a few weeks) and I'm glad we both agreed on that. He said he was interested in seeing my vagina though. He said that there wasn't anything bad about me showing him myself down there but I'm not sure if that's ok?
He told me he'd show me his penis if I wanted to see it and I kind of do want to see it. Obviously we haven't even touched each other sexually yet but I'm kind of thinking that we'll end up doing something if we get naked lol But I don't want to have sex yet...but I do want to make him happy and I am kind of curious about what his penis looks like (but what if it makes me horny or something and we end up having sex?!).

So, I sort-of want to show him but I'm scared. What do you all think? Should I show him my vagina or should I tell him that it's too early in the relationship and I'm too uncomfortable with it? :\ I really want to make the right move here...please help...

You've only been dating a few weeks. Keep your pants on. Especially if you don't have the will power to not have sex once they're off.

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My boyfriend ended up cumming in me yesterday and I was really upset with him because we agreed that he wouldn't do that and risk me getting pregnant. He said he couldn't feel when he was about to cum though. I read on here something about a precum and guys not being able to feel that coming out but...really?

He didn't just precum in me either so I don't know if he's lying or what is going on. I tried to wash it all out of me but there was a lot and he was IN me so I'm kind of scared about getting pregnant now.

ANYWAY...I thought maybe he has some sort of problem down there and his sensations or nerves are messed up. But maybe he's a normal guy in this respect? What do you think? Can guys feel when they're about to cum?

You're possibly pregnant yet you're more worried about your boyfriend not knowing when he's going to cum?


The pull out method doesn't work; as in, even if he were to have pulled out, you can still get pregnant. Wear condoms and shit like this won't happen. And call up your sex-ed teacher and yell at them.

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I don't mean to sound stupid but I'm curious if zombies are actually real to some extent. I'm not talking about the "zombies" you see in movies and on the television though that are after brains (or should I say "brraaainnsss!"). I also don't mean an actual invasion of zombies that tends to be the basis on many movies. I'm just talking about the walking dead, I suppose. Is there a such thing as the walking dead? Are there real incidences of zombies or A zombie? Any proof to back up a zombie theory? Just curious, really...

No.


Thank God you type and write well.

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The idea having sex just grosses me out, it looks disgusting, I was sexually abused b4 nd luckily it did not led to anything else. could this have something to do with it, im a female

Because you were sexually abused when you were young, the abuse has left its imprint on your brain.

Imagine a rose bush growing with a weed growing beside it. The weed combines with the rose and becomes a part of it, and it stays attached to it unless something removes it.

Same applies to you. The abuse is a part of you and has influenced your outlook on sex and relationships. You need treatment (therapy, counseling, etc.) to deal with it and remove the proverbial weed.

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50% of marriages end in divorce.

What do you believe that the reason for this is? I mean, were the people not meant for each other in the first place? Did it just take living together for a while for them to realize that?

OR was what brought down the marriage, well, getting married? Are some couples super happy as boyfriend/girlfriend but the stereotypical expectations of a married couple get in the way? (i.e. the wife has to cook, care for kids, etc.; husband has to work)

i hope i'm making sense.

i just want some opinions on this :)

I don't believe marriages today are any more or less happy than they were 50 years ago; it's just now more socially acceptable to get a divorce, which I actually think is a good thing. If you're in a marriage that makes you unhappy with your life, by all means you should be able to get out of it.

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I just got glasses and I don't want to wear them ALL the time, so I was wandering after I get used to wearing the glasses will I still be able to see without everything being completley blurry?

*sigh*


Staring through glasses is not going to make your vision worse; age is what is going to cause that. Obviously you can't stop aging, so your eyes will progressively get worse until your late teens or early 20s. From there, they'll probably settle down and for the most part stay consistent, until you become older (40s, 50s +) and they begin to deteriorate further.


Your eyes will never be able to see clearly on their own; you will need glasses, contacts, or surgery. But looking through glasses isn't going to make them worse, as stated below.

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I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we haven't had sex yet. We get along GREAT and I'm so happy to be with him. The problem is that when we first met I told him that I was a virgin. I'm sad to say that I cheated on my boyfriend with another guy for about a month and the other guy took my virginity. My boyfriend still has no idea it happened.

I've recently told my boyfriend that I really, really want to have sex and he said that we can start doing it. He told me how excited he was to be with me since we're both virgins. :(

How do I tell him that I'm not a virgin anymore? I really want to tell him so he knows but I don't know how to without really hurting his feelings. I can't just pretend I'm not because I had sex with the other guy A LOT so I know I don't even feel like a virgin any more and I'm not going to bleed. What do I do?

You owe it to him to tell him; you're putting his health and safety at risk due to your serial infidelity.


He'll probably break up with you, but if you love him as much as you think you do, you must tell him.

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Last night I came downstairs really late and saw my dad on the computer. I was walking through the house to go to the kitchen for a drink and saw that he was on some sort of video-chat with another woman. She had her top off though and my dad was typing to her.

Today I sort-of tried to see if my dad would tell me anything about what was going on last night. I said to him, "You were up pretty late last night. Was everything OK?" He said he was up getting some paperwork done for work. I couldn't really do any more confrontation about it but he didn't seem nervous at all.

Over the past month I've noticed my dad coming home late from work and taking private calls in my parents' bedroom sometimes. My mom doesn't seem to think anything is strange but I'm wondering if he is cheating on my mom.

Should I talk to my dad about this and tell him I saw him chatting with a half-naked woman? Should I tell my mom about what I saw? Should I stay out of it completely? I don't want my parents to break up or get a divorce so I want this to be handled properly but I don't know if I should bring it out in the open first. Advice?

For the sake of argument, it could have just been one of those amateur video porn sites, where he doesn't know the girl; he's just telling her what to do for cash.


In which case it depends on your personal definition of cheating. Just food for thought.

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Ok, haha. So, my boyfriend is a total nerd. Ever since he was a little kid, he's wanted the One Ring of Power from Lord of the Rings. Our anniversary is coming up in a few months and I really want to buy him one for a gift. I've looked ALL OVER the place and I can only find ones that are 100% gold and are like $500, or I can find the ones that are gold plated, but are meant to be worn on a chain so they only come in size 10 (my boyfriend's a size 8). If anyone would be willing to find something for me, I'd be ever grateful. Please, this would mean so much to him!

http://www.amazon.com/Lord-Rings-Gollum-Script-Necklace/dp/B002YFZ49Q/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=apparel&qid=1266290951&sr=8-1

That's the best I could find.

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I'm a teenager, and I'm trying to convincemy parents
to get me a cell phone! They never let ne even look at one! Anyone know what I should do???

Why don't you just buy a cheap pay-as-you-go phone? It's not very expensive.

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What are some inspirational/moving on songs that you know?
They can be religious, but I want something along the lines of
"I'm Moving On" - Rascal Flatts.

You Can't Bring Me Down by Suicidal Tendencies.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nxcJW6bs5os


"Tell 'em wussup, Rocky!"

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My daughter is 13. She has been playing soccer since she was 5. We have a tournament this weekend and the last game of the day is at 5:30pm. It will be over at apprx. 7pm. The tournament is about 1 and a half hours away from our home. If she plays the game we won't be home until about 9pm. She has her first school/Valentines dance on Saturday which starts at 7pm until 10pm. She is very good at soccer, attendance is key and her position may be comprimised if she doesn't play. But, this is her first dance and she really wants to go. Her dad says play the game and forget the dance. I say forget the game and go to the dance. What do we do?

Play the game forget the dance.

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what news channels or blogs or websites do you guys watch?

metalsucks.net

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I'm a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend's also 17.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months (4 when we first had sex). We were going to wait to have sex until we were 18 (for practicality but also for privacy reasons), but that didn't work out so well, lol. We had sex once (we were each other's firsts) and were completely safe about it. We both agreed it was amazing and a week later when we were alone again, we had sex for the second time and it was even better. I didn't see him the next week because he went on a family trip so, you know, I missed him a lot! When he got home this past weekend, we started getting really intimate. Right when we were about to have sex, he announced that he didn't want to have sex anymore and that he wanted to wait until we graduated. I thought this was really weird, but he wouldn't say anything more about it. The week has gone on and he's been the same old guy. He's sweet, and thoughtful, and amazing... and guys, I really love him. He just won't talk to me about it. To tell you the truth, I really like sex. I don't want to wait a year. However, he mans a lot to me and I don't want to ruin this. Any advice on why he's doing this or how to get him to talk? Thanks so much!

Probably thinks you guys did it too soon and wants to back off. I'd respect his wishes and stick to oral.

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What bra size do u think I wear? Just wondering. Here are some pictures.

http://i855.photobucket.com/albums/ab114/Mii_Ph0t0z/6332_1103541829459_1254136057_30281.jpg

http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e22/hotsauce_n_spyda_r_fine3/ngfhfgh.jpg

http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e22/hotsauce_n_spyda_r_fine3/maggies108.jpg

http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e22/hotsauce_n_spyda_r_fine3/maggies110.jpg

http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e22/hotsauce_n_spyda_r_fine3/maggies104.jpg

I'd say you're about a 34C/36B.

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im very bad at gifts.. my boyfriend and i have ben going out for a year and a half and his 16th birthday is in a few days then valintines day. idk what to get him for either day? he likes guitars, drums, concerts, metal music, making music, cooking, that type of stuff any ideas?

Band shirts and band posters.


EDIT:

Impossible. No way does he own a shirt/poster for every band he listens to. If the music he listens to is old enough (80s thrash metal, stuff like Metallica, Megadeth, Slayer, etc.), you can get him band patches to put on his backpack or wherever.

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I feel wierd even asking this cause I think I already know the answer but are guys attracted to virgins? I am one and I don't know but I feel like it is a turn off so I want to lose it so a guy will think I have "experience." Has anyone else ever felt like this? Are there any guys here that can answer this too please?

Why would a guy want a virgin instead of a girl that has been with a bunch of guys and knows what she is doing for sex?

I feel stupid. 13/f

You're not stupid; you already type well. You're about two to three years ahead of everyone else already.


Guys are not attracted to virgins, They do not find virgins unattractive. Boys are attracted to vagina. Losing your virginity is about your experience, not the experience of the boy taking it. Don't fuck just to claim some worthless level of "experience."


You want to lose your virginity to a guy you care about, and if the guy really cares how experienced you are, then he's not worth your time anyway.

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14/m

I really want to get my eyebrow pierced but I am worried.

What do you think about a guy who has an eyebrow piercing? Hot? Not? Gross? Nothing? Anything?

Oh and if a guy gets his eyebrow pierced which one should it be? Does it even matter which one?

Thank you ladies!

Don't do it bro. Your credibility as a male will be gone.

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Im a big fan of the show CSI:Miami. I love this new season beacuse of the wicked hot guy named Jesse Cardoza in the show. I think that he should date Miley Cyrus. What do you think? thanks for the help.

That character in real life is 36.


'nuff said.

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