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Does marriage ruin relationships?
50% of marriages end in divorce.
What do you believe that the reason for this is? I mean, were the people not meant for each other in the first place? Did it just take living together for a while for them to realize that?
OR was what brought down the marriage, well, getting married? Are some couples super happy as boyfriend/girlfriend but the stereotypical expectations of a married couple get in the way? (i.e. the wife has to cook, care for kids, etc.; husband has to work)
i hope i'm making sense.
i just want some opinions on this :)
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I think that divorce is fairly prevalent for many reasons. However, I really don't support divorce unless it's a case of abuse or repeated adultery. I'm one of those hopeless romantics who thinks that marriage isn't something to be rushed into, and that it should be forever. Divorce with no better cause than "we don't particularly care for each other" cheapens marriage, in my opinion.
- People tend to get married without having spent enough time together. Before anyone gets married, they should deal with big fights, morning breath and getting bored with each other. It's overcoming these things that makes marriage successful, not avoiding them!
- Getting married too young. If you get married at 18, chances are by 25 you'll have grown up and apart. People change a lot in their early years, and it's difficult to make sure those changes happen in step with your partner's. Now, I don't mean to be judgmental by saying this. I was engaged at 19, but I'm still not married at 22, because I wanted to wait until I was older.
- Marriage means a lifetime commitment. Sometimes that scares people. They rush into it because it's all oh so romantic, and then they look in the mirror 5, 10, 20 years later and realize it's going to be an eternity of flossing next to the other person. Not so romantic.
- Getting bored can be an issue. People fall into ruts all the time. It's hard work to keep a relationship from getting into a rut. Think about spending all your time with the same person for 40 years. It's easy to get bored! That's why you need someone who can keep you on your toes :)
- Even as recently as 20-30 years ago, it was still expected for women to get married. They didn't have the same opportunities that women today have. Women today can be anything and support themselves, because we're approximately equal earners and can go into whatever field we want. Women were to be wives first, workers MAYBE second. That's all changed, and women don't feel a need to validate themselves by getting married or staying married.
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I don't believe marriages today are any more or less happy than they were 50 years ago; it's just now more socially acceptable to get a divorce, which I actually think is a good thing. If you're in a marriage that makes you unhappy with your life, by all means you should be able to get out of it.
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lol i love opinion questions.
I think alot of divorces have to do with cheating.
Cheating is the new thing now, not only are the men cheating, now the women are sneaking around too =]
Also people just change and you want the person you fell in love with, not the new person they seem to have become. It depends on the two people, but there can be a lot of fighting just for no reason, or stress about bills, and what if the man has a gambling problem, that can seriously put a deep hole in the marriage. Any kind of addiction/problem within the relationship has high potential for divorce.
I personally dont want to get married, I am 100% for divorce but why have to go through that, if you guys love eachother and want to spend the rest of your lives together than go ahead [even buy eachother rings], and if anything happens that makes one or both change their mind than they wont have to file for divorce or split the accounts and all that crap. It'll just be a heartache and not a pain in the ass as well.
Also people can just get boring, I dont see myself wanting to be with that same person forever, seriously forever sounds like a long time, and they will probably become physically unattractive to me within time, and new is always exciting. But I've never experienced true love, so thats probably why I think people get "boring" but I still dont think I will change my mind =]
Well hope what i said was interesting.
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