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Q: Does anyone know the halloween series with michael myers? I was wondering theres the original halloween halloween 2 3 4 5 6 h20 and resurection..then theres the new one and two out. I want to buy the complete collection but i was wondering..are the new one and two a remake of the whole series compressed into two movies or is it just a remake of the 1st and second movie of the originals? thankss!
The remakes are completely separate from the originals. Rob Zombie interpreted Michael Myers' family issues as the cause of his insanity. While in the originals, it was based on some crazy outside possessive force haha. So no, the series isn't compressed into the remakes unfortunately. I hope this helps you, fellow Halloween fan.

Q: i'm 17/f and he's 19/m
so the other night i hooked up with a guy i've kinda been crushing on for like years. he goes to school an hour and a half away so i kinda rushed things more than i would if he was to live closer to me. we did everything except sex, which i'm glad we didn't. but i'm just wondering if i ruined my chances with him. he's a really nice guy and after we hooked up he told me to text him when i got home to make sure i got home safe and he held my hand while i was..ya know haha. we text a bit but i feel like i'm always the first one to text him but he shows signs of interest for me and sends me alot of smileys and winky faces haha. so my questions are, what goes through a guy's mind after a hookup? what are the chances of him coming back?
I've been in your same position. Chances are, you did blow it. However, it's not your fault! You both went into it rushing. He may be a nice guy, but if he's not showing any more signs of interest after the hookup, then you should get out of this relationship while you haven't formed any deeper feelings for him.

Q: Are there any classes available online for high school students, especially in art? I don't need any kind of credit for them, I just need extra classes
Art isn't really a course you could take online. However, art history maybe... possibly. You'd have better luck with finding something in that area.

Q: Whatever happened to Monogamy? I broke up with this guy 7 months ago because he was still receiving calls from numerous women. Now 7 months later he has contacted me..I made the wrong mistake that he wanted a true relationship, but I recently got the nerve and asked him was he sleeping with other women. He said he was not sleeping with anyone else, but he stated that there was still the possibility that he would sleep with someone else. I eventually walked away this week and asked him to just leave me alone. I dont know what to think or what he wanted. Now wondering whether he cared for me at all? I am 42 he is 51.
If he knows there's a possibility that he might sleep with other women, then that means he doesn't want to commit and have a serious relationship. You did the right thing by telling him to leave you alone. If he really wants you, he'll put more effort into coming after you. If not, then he's just like every other silly boy experimenting with polygamy and he does not deserve your time.

Q: how do i get a shy guy to like me! im pretty outgoing what can i do? i dont wanna make uncomfortable!
If you're outgoing, you can do almost anything! Drop a lot of hints such as compliments and any kind of flirtation really. Initiate conversations, and find out what you have in common to make them flow. After you get to know him a little better, ask him to hang out as friends. When he starts to like you back, you will feel it and know. But be careful, if you're the one putting all the effort into this, he's not worth it.

Q: if you're using a condom does the guy have to stop and pull out before he cums or can he just cum while he's inside a girl?
He can definitely cum while he's inside a girl. That's why condoms are a genius invention :)

Q: At a recent anniversary celebration for my parents, a well-meaning but thoughtless in-law sent them a gift from my deceased sister, with a card signed with her name. She died of cancer two years ago.

Her loss has been difficult and heartbreaking for all of us, especially my parents. I am furious at this guest for giving such a "gift." My parents were visibly shocked, but thanked the person anyway.

I knew the in-law was planning something like this, and I asked that it not be done at the party. I wish I had just said, "No! Don't do it!" I'm not sure whether I am madder at the gift giver or myself. I feel like the work we have done to recover from the loss has been set back. I could use some good advice.
Personally, I'd be offended and take it as if they were joking about a loss. They don't understand your situation and to them, their gift seemed thoughtful and creative. It's best to avoid it and keep recovering.

Q: My husband gave a friend of his -- I'll call him "Fred" -- a place to stay and nursed him back to health after Fred was critically injured while driving an ATV. Fred was drunk at the time.
That was six years ago, and Fred is still here. While he has helped my husband with a few chores, he does not work. My husband provides him with a travel trailer, utilities, food and beer money. Fred is 47 years old and perfectly capable of working. I feel he is being disrespectful, and I want to set some ground rules -- getting a job and staying out of our house when we are not home, for starters.

My husband doesn't seem able to have a discussion with Fred. Am I selfish and un-Christian? This is straining my marriage. Please help.
It's not un-Christian to be bothered by someone invading in your lifestyle. Talk to your husband about it, and confront Fred about the problem you have by nonchalantly pointing out how you feel and offering a way to change things.

Q: so i'm a teenager in desperate need of money.. i mean its not desperate like i absolutely need money, but i would just like to earn a few buck so i can buy some things for myself like a nice dress for a dance.

I'm not really sure how to raise money without getting a job. I can't get a job because i'm already so busy, i wouldn't have the time. Babysitting is out of the question because where i live, there are no kids. and my parent's don't like the idea. i was thinking about selling some things on ebay? (things i don't use anymore like playstation or movies or books) but i have no idea how to sell anything on ebay. can someone please tell me how? or give me other ideas how to raise money? please no soliciting either. thank you!

18 years old girl.
Everyone here is right as far as how Ebay works and that it's a pain in the bum.
I am also 18, and I've sold so much of my old/barely worn clothes, shoes, etc. Honestly, I've made over $1000 from Ebay. It was worth the shitty shipping & handling and monthly fees. Just be a really savvy seller, check up every other day on what you're selling (if you decide to do so). Make sure what you are selling is at least somewhat new or still in decent condition. It helps if it's brand name as well. Good luck on your endeavor!

Q: My hips are pretty wide and I have kind of a big butt. Are there any ways to shrink my hips and reduce my butt that are safe and not dangerous like going for plastic surgery? Like exercises to do to reduce hip size or foods that I can eat that will make my butt smaller? I mean, I don't want NO hips but just...smaller. I look weird because my bottom half is a couple of sizes bigger than my top half, chest and boobs. So, does anyone know a way to get a better hourglass shape then? Thank you.
The only way you'll change the size of your hips is if you're looking through a distorted mirror while at a carnival.
However, working on your abs will do the trick to making you look thinner. I suggest doing this exercise about 1-2 times a day for however long you please:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWxM995gDDA

If you do these exercises long enough, you'll end up with the perfect hourglass shape. I've done it for over a year in and out and it honestly works.
Good luck :)

Q: Me and this guy I know have know each other for a couple of years, and we started dating a couple of months ago (about 8), but two weeks ago I lost my virginity to him. I didn't regret it and it was one of the best moments of my life, and he didn't push me or anything. The thing is (yes I know I'm going to get bashed a lot now) is he's 19 and I'm 15. I know you are going to say it was wrong but it felt right to us. The real problem is I told my best friend about me losing my virginity to him and she totally flipped. When me and him started dating, she was really wary and told me it wasn't a good Idea and he was only using me, but now 8 months on we're still together and he never pressured me once. He,obviously being a boy was ready, but we only had sex after I told him I was ready. Anyway after I told my friend about losing my virginity, she basically shouted at me for about 20mins straight calling me a b**** and some other charming words, and then said that if I ever get pregnant or if my boyfriend dumps me, she wants nothing to do with it, and she will only say I told you so.

I don't know what to do now I feel like a worthless piece of crap after what she said, and know that if anything was to happen, my own best friend wouldn't help me?

What should I do? I don't want to lose wither of them.
To give you a short answer, if you didn't have any doubt about what you did, you will have no regrets about what you did. And as for your friend, I've learned to not take my friends' advice about anything because it's never what YOU really want and they will never know how you really feel about a situation. It was not wrong of you to lose your viginity. Let's face it, it would've happened anyway, right? So why take shit from your friend when the same thing is going to happen to her someday. You're not going to loser your friend. A true, loving friend is an understanding one. If not, your friend doesn't really love you for who you are no matter what. Cheesy, I know. Life is full of cheese.

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