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Am I right to want him out?
My husband gave a friend of his -- I'll call him "Fred" -- a place to stay and nursed him back to health after Fred was critically injured while driving an ATV. Fred was drunk at the time.
That was six years ago, and Fred is still here. While he has helped my husband with a few chores, he does not work. My husband provides him with a travel trailer, utilities, food and beer money. Fred is 47 years old and perfectly capable of working. I feel he is being disrespectful, and I want to set some ground rules -- getting a job and staying out of our house when we are not home, for starters.
My husband doesn't seem able to have a discussion with Fred. Am I selfish and un-Christian? This is straining my marriage. Please help.
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Holy cow! Are you being selfish and un-Christian? Absolutely not! This is a ridiculous situation. Your husband is not helping Freddy the Freeloader one iota. What does the bible say about teaching a man to fish? Your husband needs to teach this guy to fish and kick him out ASAP. What does the bible say about marriage? Your husband needs to start paying more attention to his marriage and his wife's needs and cut this bum loose. And, it shouldn't require a long, drawn out discussion with Fred. It's your house and your money and he's overstayed his welcome for about 5 1/2 years. Put your foot down and tell your husband that either he tells Fred to go or you'll do it. Then follow through. Hope this helps! Good luck!
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you have every right to want him out! 6 YEARS?! this man who is your husbands 'friend' is completely takin advantage of yall & has no problem doin it. its ridiculous. yall need him out before he ruins your marriage & sucks you dry. GO FOR IT.
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It's not un-Christian to be bothered by someone invading in your lifestyle. Talk to your husband about it, and confront Fred about the problem you have by nonchalantly pointing out how you feel and offering a way to change things.
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