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How Lovely... yeah right
When women are being married, they usually start showing off their engagement/wedding ring(s). I have very selective taste, and I find many of them to be gaudy or downright ugly. What am I supposed to say when these women are expecting me to tell them, "How lovely"?
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"Congratulations."
I'm a not a musher or fawner over wedding rings personally, but you've got an easy out on this one: Don't comment on the ring, comment on the engagement, ask about the proposal, congratulate and ask about the fiance if you don't know them well.
I doubt anyone will notice if you smile at the ring and then change the subject and ask about the engagement and the partner or any plans they are making.
The ring is just the thing used to start the conversation, you don't really need to pay too much attention to it. Just use it as a jumping off point to offer your congratulations, and ask them the questions you know they are excited to answer.
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A little white lie and some tact goes a long way in this situation. It's okay to simply say someone's ring is lovely or pretty. What would you gain by being honest? Hurt feelings and maybe a strained friendship? When my husband (certainly not a rich man) proposed to me and gave me a ring my sister-in-law took one look at it and said, "oh, how cute". I thought, "cute"?? She may as well have said it was tiny. What did I take away from her comment? That she was a materialistic bitch and it annoys me to this day. So, I think choosing your words carefully is important.
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Say what I say: "It's so beautiful! He's got great taste."
Or, if it's particularly weird-looking, "It's so unique!"
Never, EVER tell them what you actually think. This is a case where lying is the best policy.
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