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Tinder in Argentina. I match with lots of girls but none reply back, is it broken? why would they click like if they wont chat with matches?

I'm just using "hi" (and other synonims like hello) and I don't keep sending messages if they don't reply to the first one, so nothing creepy or disgusting.

Is the app broken and doesn't send/receive messages?
or why would they push like if they wont chat with matches?
is it normal? girls just push like because they are stupid and dont know what Tinder is about?


Haha it's not just you. My friends and I talk about this frequently. Nothing you can do about it.


Hi all,

I've been working out consistently for a month now and would now like to incorporate more weight lifting into my routine, rather than just cardio.

As a beginner, I feel that using the weight machines would be a better start in terms of doing the right movement and so on. A more controlled situation, should I say.
However, I'm not really sure what my "plan" should be or how to make one.
My gym does offer fitness consultants but they are very pricy and I can't afford to make a fitness plan with one right now.

So I was wondering if anyone with weight lifting experience would be kind enough to tell me the kind of sets/reps I should have and what order I might want to do things in. I'm looking for an overall tone-up of my body whilst I'm losing weight and of course gaining strength.

My gym offers machines for any kind of muscle work out so there's no problem there.

Right now, on a bicep curl machine I can lift 20kgs 10 times until I feel totally exhausted if that's of any use.

Overall, I would majorly appreciate any input as to how to get this weight training thing going and the kind of routine I should have :)

Generally four sets with 10 or 12 reps is the standard.


I was just curious about this as it came up in conversation briefly with a few friends but didn't think to ask about it at the time.

Say someone is going to college online and they do their work quick and graduate a year or two early and in the middle of the year. What happens? Do they get their diploma then? Do they wait til the end of the year? Do they go to graduation with their classmates or are they not allowed to participate in the official ceremony?

I graduated from college a semester early back in January. I got my diploma in the mail a couple weeks later, and then in May I did the whole graduation thing -- it's an option though, whether you want to do it. They actually gave me another diploma at my graduation too, so if you wanna skip college and just buy my extra diploma LET ME KNOW!!!


I always fear all type of insects


Problem solved.


Ok do today the boy I am partners with in math that I like walked with me to lunch. But while we were at lunch his friends turned around right I scratched the tip of my nose and moved a piece of hair from my eyes unattractively. Should I freak out???? Do I still have a chance?

Wow dude chill out. I don't think there's a way to move a piece of hair from your eyes attractively or unattractively. Just chilllllllllllllllllll


Hi, sorry if this is weird, but well whatever.
I was just looking at ur channel. You seem cool. And I noticed you answered a million questions on here. My question to you is, why and how does a (yeah, seemingly) quite cool guy spend a seemingly large amount of time answering questions on a site like this here one?
Just a hobby maybe?
Sometimes I'm just curious about what brings what people to sites like this.
Thank ya (;

Seemingly is the operative word.

I joined this site when I was 13 years old, I just never really saw much of a reason to leave. For now, I put very little time or effort into it, but I keep chugging along.


So, I am a HUGE fan of Lady Gaga. I love to listen to her. The other day, my mom pulled me aside and told me she might ban me from listening to her because I am "obsessing" over her. I have tried to convince her she is good, but she says that she is evil and a horrible person. I respect Lady Gaga so much, and it hurts me to hear what she says about her. I am 14 and really want some help. I just want my mom to accept that I really like Lady Gaga.

Lol your mom sounds old and stodgy, there's not really anything you can do about it. Rock Lady Gaga in secret.


i'm a christian... can anyone tell me if masturbation is wrong, or considered a sin? thanks

Jesus loves masturbation.


Hello, I'm an eighteen-year-old female that just recently graduated from high school. I'm not employed or going to any other schools, but this annoys my family, so my mother signed me up for a therapist because she thinks it's making me depressed.

I don't feel depressed. I very content with what I spend most of my days doing, but I'm going to give it a try. However, I've never had a therapist before. What exactly am I supposed to talk to this person about if I'm not depressed or miserable or anything?

Whaaattteeevvveeeeerrrrr youuuu wwaaannnttttt. It's awesome. You don't need to be depressed to reep benefits from therapy. I rep that shit ten thousand percent.


What is a position that wikl have a man dick hurting

If you're on top and he slips out and you slam down. Like jamming a finger, only your life flashes before your eyes.


Do you know there's such a thing as a Gothic Metalhead? I myself am a GOTHMETAL HEADBANGER. That's another subculture in the Goth lifestyle. What do you think of Gothmetal heads and y?


Follow their lead.


sex makes your boobs grow bigger

No stop lying to me ARE YOU TRYING TO GET ME PREGGERS????


How do you make a fake penis



Hello. I am 18 years old and have 2 month old twins, the father of my twins left while i was pregnant with them. recently he told me he wants to get back into me and his babies life and wants us to be a family. we are not together but working on it. but on top of this i have recently slept with another boy and could possibly be pregnant by him. i really want to be with my twins father and we have even talked about our wedding but i know if he finds out about this other bot he is going to leave me. i honestly do not know what to do, HELP PLEASE!

Abort, then stop dating for ten years.



I just had the biggest job interview of my life. I would just like some of your feedback on some things I remember:

1. I made some jokes. Like, when they asked my biggest weakness, I said "The temptation is to say that I work just too hard!" and they both laughed and said "We hate them answers!". I also replied "getting the coffee" when asked what task I would least enjoy. I wasn't trying to be funny, I was just nervous!

2. I kept noticing that they kept smiling at each other. I don't know if it was because they thought I was impressive, or because I was rambling on. When I'm nervous, I ramble!

3. My interview was supposed to start at 12, but didn't start until 12.40ish. So I assume the persons before me (or someones along the line) over ran. I can't quite remember how long mine lasted, but it felt much shorter. Was this because they realised I wasn't right for it straight away, or because they got everything they needed to know?

Saying all that, I do feel I impressed them (at some points), whilst whipping out my knowledge of monetary policy ideas, and international relations.

So what do you all thing? Did it go well? Badly? I know there's nothing I can do about it now, but I can't get it out of my head.

There's really no right answer I suppose, but what do you think?

Thanks! :)

Haha, your biggest weakness answer was a good one and I think it went over pretty well. Sounds like a good interview to me.


Hey I'm 17 and I was wondering if I could get a hookers number or something I'm not a virgin but need sex please help

Let your hand be your hooker. God wanted it that way.


I'm Gay., is this a gay website?

Only if you want it to be. ;)


shaggy, medium-length brown hair, too. I rarely like guys with short hair. what's up with me? it just makes me instantly swoon

You were a brown hair green eyed boy in a past life.


I have been with my wife for 4 years. coming into this relationship I knew her bestfriend was her ex. That should of been a red flag for me, but as the years gone by I got to know her bestfriend and the more I got to know her the more I hated her. she seems to always have to top everything I do, from cooking, to baking, to decorating to the way we dress(just so you understand I'm a girl shes a girl we are all girls)the way we raise the kids everything is a compotition. Plus she always talks about herself and what shes doing and how she gets to go out and do this and that know we have young children and we can't do those thing almost like she rubbing it in our faces. The hard part is shes a huge part of my wife's family the sisters look at like a sister and the in-laws love her as a daughter and call her daughter their gran. see i'm the actual wife and I gave 2 grandchildren but i get treated like the outsider. she comes over almost everyday and doesn't know when to leave, she sleeps in my bed uses my shower. but when i try to say anything to my wife she lets me know how wrong i am and that she doesnt understand why i have such a problem with her and that i'm trying to put her in the middle and she won't choose. like today i packed a picnic to take to my wifes work so the kids and i can eat lunch with her but guess whose been there since early in the morning her bestie so now i have to make extra to feed her to. I just feel liek everywhere i go or anything i do her bestie has to be apart of it. they go and have lunch they talk on the phone for hours they tell each other eveything. my wife and i never go out and have lunch just the 2 of us, and she never opens up to me like that. not only that but she would never let me hang out with her at work like that. I don't know what to do. I don't think they are messing around but I want to be the one to be close to my wife not her. any advise?

Tell your wife you would like to go to marriage counseling. If she refuses to go, go on your own.


Four years ago, I met this guy through a friend and we started going out. Three months later he cheated on me, but by that time we already had so many of the same friends it was impossible not to run into each other. Over the years we have become the best of friends. There is no one in the entire world that means more to me than this person, and he says he feels the same as I do.
Over the course of our friendship it has become increasingly clear that he's a manic depressive. It has also become clear to me over the last year and a half that I still have romantic feelings for him. Because we share everything, and I needed to know if there was a chance for us, I told him how I felt about a year ago. We continued our friendship, but things got way more intense until I told him I needed some sort of commitment. At a bonfire, he took me aside and told me that I meant too much to him to lose, and he thought we should try to be together. Then he kissed me. That was however, on an upswing of his depression, and with every down cycle he acted like nothing had happened and we were just best friends. I was weak, and I didn't want to lose him, so I just went with whatever mood he was in in the moment, from adoring partner to buddy buddy. I loved him so much, I thought if I could show him that I loved him no matter what, maybe he could love himself just enough to get help. That's when the awkward spending the night started. He started sleeping over, holding me, caressing me more, telling me all the things I knew he felt, just cuddling on the couch watching our favorite movies and being together, but whenever it got too sexual, he would either make an excuse to leave or (and I'm positive this is what he was doing) go to the bathroom and masturbate, leaving me high and dry as he drifted off to sleep satisfied. I finally had enough and told him I needed, wanted, deserved the title of girlfriend. He told me he just wasn't mentally stable enough to give that to me, and that he didn't want to hurt me because I mean so much to him. Things continued as they had. I didn't know what else to do. He blamed all of his issues on his ex girlfriend who cheated on him constantly and eventually left him for a woman, but he started having casual sex with other girls and hiding it from me, which I equated to the pain of cheating but he rationalized as fine because we didn't have a title and weren't having sex. I fully believe he was doing this as a way to fulfill himself sexually while trying and avoid the pain losing me would cause if we tried at a relationship and failed. Then, I was leaving for a week for a graduate residency, and came home to find him sitting outside my house. He took me upstairs and told me everything I'd been wanting to hear, that he felt the same way I felt about him, that he was afraid of hurting me with his depression, and that he wanted to try. Then, he kissed me like I always wanted him to kiss me, like he was present, like he was in the moment with me, and it broke my heart to have to leave for the week, but he promised he'd come down the last day for the giant banquet we have, and I was pretty much walking on the moon. This lasted for three days. Then, he didn't show up for the banquet, and when I brought up everything he said to me the day he was waiting at my house, he literally said he didn't remember any of it or the three days that followed. I was crushed. I'm still crushed, but I thought he was just scared, that if he could have that moment of clarity once, he could have it again if we worked on his mental health together. Things went back to the friends with conditional benefits thing, but every time he left me, I started to feel this frantic need to be with him, to somehow tie him to me with some permanence, even though I knew he'd gone back to having casual sex with other girls. I felt like he was slipping away more and more, but at the same time we had never been closer. The girls were the same as the booze and the weed he'd been self medicating with for years, I knew they were a quick high and i meant something more to him, but I wanted him to take me of the pedestal he put me on and just be with me in the real world, not some world where I was a perfect relationship he couldn't have while he was sick. Last month, I finally got up the courage to have another talk about what I need out of whatever we have, and he told me he still wasn't ready for a relationship (even though, despite the lack of sex, that's exactly what we've been in), but that he sometimes felt about me the same way I felt about him, "that we were made for each other, that we belong together". I tried to take it all with a grain of salt. He really is sick, and he really does care about me, and I can understand why he wouldn't want to hurt me. We made plans to go to the fourth of July fireworks three days later, and the entire day he acted strange. We were supposed to drink and watch movies in bed for the rest of the night, but he said he had somewhere else he needed to be. I was absolutely livid when I saw the bite mark he tried to hide on his neck, and told him to take me home. I'd had enough. After he dropped me off, he sent me a text that simply said, "I've met someone". I asked him to come back to my house so we could talk about it, and he said no. I told him he better get to a phone then, because I needed to talk to him. I called him and asked him how he could do this to me after everything we were to each other, and he told me nothing would change between us. I told him there was no way I could be with him if he were giving himself emotionally to someone else, and he told me I was being selfish, that what we had was too important to throw away over someone he was probably only going to date for a month or two. I told him there was no way I could stay with him and he hung up on me. A few days later, he sent me a msg saying that he understood, and if being apart was what I needed he would try to respect it because of how much I meant to him. I few days later, my room mate noticed him driving past our house. I've seen him doing it a few times since then too, and it just tears me apart. After a month of no contact, he sent me a msg saying we needed to talk. I didn't want to. Nothing had changed, and that's what I msg'd back. He started cursing at me and told me I was being selfish, and that I was a horrible person to leave him alone like that, and that no one had ever hurt him as much as me. I don't understand this. He is the one who didn't want me. All I ever wanted was to be with him, to have some sort of recognition that I mattered, that I was as important to him as he said I was. Yesterday, I finally said we could have that talk, and he came over. I told him everything I said here and how it had made me feel, why I had to have space for a while, why I still need space. He told me I don't love him, that I'm obsessed with him, and any feelings he had for me are gone, but he still wants me in his life, that I'm still his best friend. I am completely lost. I don't know what to do. I'm not obsessed with him, I'm trying to figure out why someone who so clearly loves me would be afraid enough to risk losing me over being honest. He still denies that he came over and told me he loved me, he has completely switched from rationalizing that he can't love me because of his ex to he never loved me and I'm the one with the problem, and the worst thing is, he's so damn considerate about it all, it makes me feel like I'm the one who's lost touch with reality, but I'm not the one with missing bits of time, with blocked memories, who breaks down every time we're alone and tells me he thinks he's lost his mind, that I deserve better. He is my best friend. I want to see him well, but how can I continue to help him with his mental issues, if he's going to lie and change his perception of our reality whenever it's convenient? Now, especially because he says he's in love with this girl the way he was in love with me, that he doesn't know if he should be with her because she deserves better. To hear him say exactly what he always said to me about someone else is like a knife in my chest, and even more so because he was able to commit to her three days after he told me he thought he and I might belong together but he couldn't commit to me. I'm completely broken. As much as I am his rock, he is mine. He is the person who knows everything about me, who knows exactly what I need when I'm hurting, exactly what to say to make me smile, exactly I'm thinking at any given moment in the day, but is that worth always being held at arms length? Is it worth always feeling like I'm being lied to about my own relationship? The girl he's with now reminds me of me when we first met. Is our friendship worth watching him make the same mistakes with her he made with me because he won't get help? Or, even worse, what if he doesn't make mistakes with her? What if she's just enough for him to finally be happy? Could I stand watching that either? He is my family. I feel like I've been served divorce papers for a marriage that never happened. Someone help me figure this out. Please.

I don't doubt that this guy is mentally ill and that's playing a large role in all these problems, but I also do not doubt that this guy is a legitimate asshole, and that's a character flaw that is separate from the manic depression.

Until he actually makes the effort to get better by seeing a psychologist/psychiatrist, this crap is just going to repeat itself over and over. give him the ultimatum and then cut your losses.

Additionally, you yourself would probably find great value in therapy to figure out why your self-value is low enough that you'd tolerate this for so long. It would give you a refreshing perspective on this situation and your life as a whole.


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