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How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm NOT a virgin?
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we haven't had sex yet. We get along GREAT and I'm so happy to be with him. The problem is that when we first met I told him that I was a virgin. I'm sad to say that I cheated on my boyfriend with another guy for about a month and the other guy took my virginity. My boyfriend still has no idea it happened.
I've recently told my boyfriend that I really, really want to have sex and he said that we can start doing it. He told me how excited he was to be with me since we're both virgins. :(
How do I tell him that I'm not a virgin anymore? I really want to tell him so he knows but I don't know how to without really hurting his feelings. I can't just pretend I'm not because I had sex with the other guy A LOT so I know I don't even feel like a virgin any more and I'm not going to bleed. What do I do?
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When I read this is was totally and completely shocked. Believe it or not I went through the same situation. So right off the bat you should know that I am not judging you. And I know what you must be going through. Cause even though you cheated I'm sure that you most definitely still have feelings for your boyfriend. I wish I could tell you that he wont be upset but, that would be a lie. He's going to be furious, he might cry, definitely scream. The best you can do is tell the complete truth. Don't leave anything out. Better to tell the whole truth than to sugar coat it. It will only make things worse. Make sure no matter what if he asks you questions, answer all of them truthfully. When telling your partner you cheated honesty works best. One final thing If he decides he wants to still be with you then you should be very thankful, and after then, if and when you sleep with him, simply tell him that even though this wasn't your first time having sex, this is your first time having sex with someone you love. That should make him feel much better about himself and the stability of your relationship. - sorry for writing so much- (; goodluck hon.
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If youu love him as muchh as you say you do then you'll tell him. Askk him if you guys can hang out thenn sit him down and tell him how much you love him and tell him you NEVER wanted to hurt him and just tell him EXACTLY how youu feel about it. Andd if he loves youu he'll stayy withh youu! I've cheated on guys before withh an exx boyfriend of mine that I still really love! Everytime I cheated on a guy I toldd them! Theyy were upset for a while, but got over it because they were too in love. Only once when I cheated the guy broke up with me but we got back together. Andd when youu cheated it was longgg ago. It's in the past, evenn thoughh youu should have toldd him whenn it happenedd, he'll probablyy be okayy(:
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You owe it to him to tell him; you're putting his health and safety at risk due to your serial infidelity.
He'll probably break up with you, but if you love him as much as you think you do, you must tell him.
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I think you gave up the chance of not hurting him a long time ago when you cheated on him. Either way the truth has to come out, especially if you want to stay with him. But odds are he's going to be broken hearted for 2 reasons. 1) You're not a virgin anymore 2) that you lost your virginity while you were cheating on him.
Just sit him down and tell him the truth. But be prepared for the worst. It's hard to hear, but you DID cheat on him. You must've known that it would have had to come out eventually. Just tell him how much you love him and instead of focusing on sex, focus on making your relationship stronger.
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you need to tell him flat out. there's a good chance of him dumping you but you owe him that much. if you don't tell him you're just going to dig yourself deeper and deeper into a huge lie.
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