about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

i have thick thick THICK hair. you dont even know!! it is soo thick i can't curl it.

i want my hair thinner is there anything i can do to make it thinner???? my mom said something about going to the hairdressers and theres something you can do to make thick hair thin.

i need all ideas possible! please &+ thanks

I agree with your mother. Ask her to take you to hairdresser & ask them to thin your hair. They use these scissors called thinning shears and go through your hair to thin it. Or you could straighten it. Usually that makes your hair look & feel thin.

♥T!NA

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do girls like giving blow jobs, or is it just something that girls do cuz the guy asks them to?

Everyone's different. Some girls like giving them, and some girls don't. Some girls just wanna please their boyfriend. So usually, it's because the guy asks, or just because they want to. Honestly, it all depends on the girl.

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Ok so i told my best friend that if she starts "talking" or going back out with a guy named Jay that i wouldnt talk to her anymore.

And the reason i told her that is because for one, he is rude to me and is an asshole to me.

2nd reason is when jay and my best friend went out they fought almost EVERY day and when i tried to have a conversation with her, ALL SHE WOULD TALK ABOUT WAS THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AGAIN.. about how they fight abt the same thing. and i got sick of it.

Third reason is that he changed her attitude towards me and more importantly her parents.. he would get mad that she couldnt hang out like everyday (because she has strict parents) and so like he would make her go ask her parents then she would just end up gettin in a fight with her parents bcause she wanted to hang out with him. (and this happen almost every day too)

4th reason, they only knew each other like a week or two and he kept tryin to do stuff with her and she wouldnt.. and he WOULD get soo mad and start a fight about it almost every time they hung out bcause she wouldnt ever mess around.

anyways i confronted her about all this and finally i sayd well if you want to go back out with him then DONT TALK ABOUT HIM AROUND ME... and seriously i dont want her goin back out with him because i know its goin to end up the same way.. but i want to know if i am doing the right thing and if i am not.. then what should i do and what should i tell her?

You're honestly not a bad friend. But, I wouldn't stop being friends with her just because the guys a jerk & he's rude to you. Honestly, if going out with this guy makes your friend happy, I'd allow it. If he ends up doing the same thing as last time, don't tell her you told her so, but tell her that she should end it. As her best friend, she needs all the support she can get. And right now, you're not giving her that.

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me and my group of friends with a new girl this year..now shes a part of our group. its been about 5 months since we've been friends, and now she said that she used to cut herself and sometimes gets drunk. im not like that at all. i think thats really bad. i dont want to be peer preasured. i really like her.. whaddo i do?

Peer pressure is always going to be present in a friendship, a group of friends, or an intimate relationship. It never goes away. People are always going to pressure you to do something dumb, but the important thing is that you stand up for yourself & say no.

Your friend said she "used" to do these things. Ask her if she still does them. If she doesn't, and hasn't for a long time, I'd trust her to think that she won't do them again.

Don't do anything you don't wanna do. You shouldn't have to. Everything you do is your decision. Remember: Stand up for what you believe in, even if you're standing alone.

♥T!NA

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15/m

ok so my girlfriend and and i are really really in love, and i know that sounds cheesy but its true.

we've never exactly "made out" . . . we kiss each otehr all the time but yea. . .

anyway, i don't want to sound sleazy or anything, but i've thought about possibly fingering her. . . i keep getting this vibe from her that she wants to go further.

anyway, i guess my question is, is it appropriate for people our age to do so? i mean i've read alot of people who are our age's questions about the topic. . .and i don't know. . .

thanks in advance

Talk to her about it. If she says that she's ready for more, then continue doing what you're doing.

But you're still young, so if sex ends up happening, make sure you use protection.

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I was having sex last month and he promised he would use a condom. I was in the bathroom putting my new outfit on from Victoria Secret: sparkly, short skirt with a lacy see through corsette. He wanted me to make it sexy, so i did. So i went in the room and he said he had put the condom on so we had sex. He entered me and it felt weird. Then he cummed. It felt so good. But then he pulled it out after we were done, it lasted two hours by the way! But, there was no condom! He lied and never put a condom on! He said it feels better without one on.I was supposed ot get my period last week. I havent gotten it at all. My breats are tender and i havent had much of an appitite. PLEASE HELP ME! I'm 18/F

1)Does it feel better without a condom on?
2)Am i pregnant?
3)What should i do?
4)SHould i stay with this guy?

HELP ME I NEED ALL THE ADIVCE POSSIBLE! I WANT ALOT OF ADVICE!

Personally, it does feel better without the condom, but if you're still young [which you are], condoms are highly recommended. There is a chance you could be pregnant, so I would get a pregnancy test. If you are, I definitely would not stay with this guy. He made a promise to use protection, and then he didn't just because "it feels better without one." You can't trust him to protect himself during sex, so why should you trust him to be the father of a kid who might be?

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I was feeling really horny and so i called up my boyfriend to come over.(my parents were out for the night and im an only child) he came over and we talked and watched a movie but i could barely control myself. we made out on the couch and then he felt me up. He asked if we wanted to have sex and i couldnt resist. we went into my bedroom and he put his thing in and it hurt really bad, but when he cummed it felt soo good. we had sex for about an hour. after we were done i gave him a blow job because he asked for one. i had sex the day after my period and five days ago i was supposed to have it but i didnt. im SO scared because im only 13. i threw up all day today and i never want to eat. im SOO scared. please please please help me. i need it badly.

oh and we also did it up the butt. could i still get pregnant from that? we did it both way.

There's quite a chance that you could be pregnant. I would wait a while, or I'd save up some money & buy an ept just to see if you're pregnant or not.

There is no way to change it if you are besides abortion, but I don't suggest it. My outlook on it is that if you can make it, then you can take it.

And you're only 13? You shouldn't even be having sex. You're still a baby, so how do you think that you'd be able to take care of one? Sorry to say, but you really fucked your life up. Next time you have sex, let alone it be unprotected, make sure you're old enough & know the consequences of your actions. Because obviously you don't.

All I can suggest to you is to be an ept. If it's positive, let your boyfriend know. Don't wait until the time is right to tell your parents. There is no right time. They're gonna figure it out soon. See what they can do to help. No doubt they're gonna be furious though. Their only child, who's 13 having unprotected sex.

Wow. I truly am at a loss for words.

♥T!NA

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I didn't mean to make you feel bad. You asked for advice & I gave it to you. I'm not the type to sugarcoat anything, and what I said was no doubt the truth. You're too young to be getting sexual involved. If you're ever horny, use your hand honey.

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My friend was staying with me for the weekend and we were talking about how much it hurt to have sex with a guy, then we were looking at all of the other possibilities. just talking about it made me horny. Then she announced the option of being a lesbian. We looked at eachother in the eyes and she grabbed me and started shoving her toungue in my mouth. i went along with it knowing it would be wierd if i didnt. She ripped off my shirt and pulled off my pants. i liked it. then i did the same with her and pulled off her bra and underwear with my teeth. she was on top of me and we were humping. It felt sooo good. I am very much of a christian and i know gayness is bad. I could never be a lesbian. How can i stop? I'm addicted to my feiend now, she comes over every night!!!

HELP ME BEOCME STRAIGHT AGAIN!

I doubt you are. You're just experimenting and trying new things. But answer these few questions:

[1] Do you find girls attractive? Do you think about what it would be like having sex with them?
[2] Do you still find boys attractive?
[3] Do you think you like both genders?

If you feel the same way towards both genders, you're bisexual. There's nothing wrong with being gay, or bi. Your sexual preferences are different. God is supposed to love everyone. Everyone includes homosexuals, bisexuals & heterosexuals.

♥T!NA

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There's a boy that I started going out with last April, and he's the greatest boyfriend I've ever had. We couldn't of been more happy. But, he ended up breaking up with me 4 months later and he did lie sometimes. He's had 2 girlfriends since then and I've kinda been scared to trust him, but he's made a promise to himself, friends, and family for his new years resolution that he will be more responsible with his relationships. We both have started to like eachother again, but I know a lot of my friends will get mad. One side of me doesn't care, and one does. This time I won't make any promises to him or anyone else, and I know how to deal with things now. Should I date him?

If you both like each other again, I'd go for it. But like you said, don't make any promises to him or anyone else. Besides that, I'd go on a few casual dates to see if he's actually serious, and if he is, then you can take him seriously.

And as for your friends, if they get mad, then that's their problem. Who you date is your choice, not their's & they shouldn't be so concerned with it. It's your life, so you live it your way.

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alright, well I asked this kid out a few days ago. Last night he said yes, so we're sorta "going out" now.

In the beginning of a relationship everyones just all happy, giddy & stupid. But I want this relationship to be a good one. I don't know where to go from here. It's going to be weird just going into school on Monday and seeing him. We're both really shy people. I abosutely HATE talking on the phone, because (no lie) I sound like a 3 year old.

The question is, where do I go from here? how do I get my relationship going? =/

Well, you guys just started dating, so things are going to be weird. Start off simple. Dinner and a movie are too complex right now. Ask him to hang out at the mall, or to grab some pizza with you.

Hang out with him about every other week because attachment is overwhelming, and you both need lives of your own.

I sound young on the phone too, but I still do it. Find out how he likes to communicate. [IM, Phone, Email, etc]

The more you talk to him, the easier it'll be. You already broke the ice by asking him out, so talking to him in person should be easy. =)

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Where I live, every single guy is obsessed with skateboarding.
I dont mean its their hobby.
I mean they are obsessed.
I have never heard a guy say something other than a skateboarding trick, thats all they ever talk about to eachother.
The sad thing is , im not over exaggerating.
I know they like it and stuff
but do they ever think of anything else besides it?
thnx.

Chances are they do talk/think about things other than skateboarding. Maybe they share the same love for it & wonder what other people know how to do. They probably really do just talk about skateboarding and nothing else, or maybe that's what you hear them talk about whenever you happen to walk by. It could be a coincidence.

But, that's boys for you. So complicated.

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There`s this kid and I'm not sure if I should tell him I like him or not. I think he MIGHT like me, at least a little, but I dont know if he'd go out with me. I also dont want to ruin the friendship if he doesnt feel the same. I would seriously be suprised if he didn't feel the same though, because I flirt with him all the time, and he definately flirts back. We have a pretty close bond already I think. I have his number, but have never called him yet. I'm thinking that maybe next weekend I will call him and talk to him about it, but I'm not sure. Could someone please help me out? Thanks.

I would call him now. Don't wait so long to call him. When you do call him, just talk to him like you normally would. You don't have to tell him you like him until you're ready. But I'd tell him soon because there are other girls out there who could just as easily tell him that they like him & then date him. You'd miss out. If he doesn't feel the same, that's fine. It won't ruin the friendship, but it'll be awkward for a while. Make a pact that no matter what happens, you'll always be friends. Also, just call him and ask him to a movie. See how things go through the movie, and after it. If things go well, I'd ask him out. =) Let me know how things turn out.

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I had sex for the first time yesterday. And now I'm really happy. And yesterday night I was with my boyfriend afterwords and I didn't want to let go and I kept telling him I love him.
1. Do you think thats a result of having sex with him? 2. Do you think he hates it and thinks its annoying?
Totally off topic but..
3. Does sex stop hurting after awhile?
4. How protective are condoms?(from pregnency)
5. Where would I get birth control from?
6. And can I get it without my parents?

It's a good thing that you enjoyed your first time, and that it resulted in you loving your boyfriend more, and getting closer with him.

I don't think he hated it. Usually guys love it when you tell them you love them after sex. It's reassuring that you're not just there for the sex. I doubt he finds it annoying.

Sex does eventually stop hurting. It's going to hurt the first couple of times though because you're still tight. It'll more likely hurt for him to get it in, and then it'll feel good once he keeps going.

As far as I know, condoms are 98% effective against pregnancy prevention. It's good to hope you're not in the unlucky 2%.

I believe they have birth control at planned parenthood. I'd find out their number & call them because they'd be able to answer your last 3 questions better than us.

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Hey there.
I'm pretty confused as to what the song
"Welcome to the Black Parade" is supposed
to represent. Someone told me its a religious
song having to do with Hell and sins.
But I'm totally lost as to what its supposed
to mean. Can anyone fill me in?

It's about a guy dying of cancer, and before he dies, his white light is ultimately the black parade. That's the last thing he sees because his memory was his father taking him to a marching band parade when he was a child.

But, the whole CD is about cancer, death & experiences.

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I have this assignment for my English class (related to Cyrano, if you've ever read it) where I have to somehow obtain 9 insults.

I've come up with one:

If Vogue ever does an ugly issue, you'd be on the front cover.

I am having a really hard time with these. If anyone can help, please do!

Oh, and no "your mom" jokes, and no fat jokes.

Please help; I've actually put in hours of sitting in front of a blank page.

Thank you!

Watch a ton of Yo Momma or Family Guy. Stewie insults just about everyone.

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And apparently, the advice you got wasn't what you wanted to hear. Grow up & stop being a pansy ass about it.

They do tell more jokes than just "your mom" on yo momma. You'd know if you actually watched the show.

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alright, so my ex boyfriend. i'm completely over him. well he has a new girlfriend and they've been going out for like, idk 8, 9 months? but in the hallways, when i walk past the, its like they maul eachother and start kissing and it seems like they're trying to make me jealous. i'm not paranoid either. other people have noticed this too. they'll see me coming and just start making out. it's disgusting and i just look right past them. his girlfriend used to be nice to me, but she's the really jealous type. she's such a bitch now. if she walks past me, she'll just look at my blankly but it's like a death stare, then she'll look away. she always talks to people around me, but compeltely ignores me. i mean, it's not like i want attention, but it's obvious that she hates me. she bascially hates any girl that looks at her boyfriend. but it's extremely annoying. why do they act like this? oh and btw- i have a boyfriend and we've been going out longer than them. so it's ont like i'm single and i'm a threat to her. so wtf? Haha, thanks!

They're being childish. Just ignore them or tell them straight up to get a damn life.

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So im the type that always gives all my friends advice and now im the one in need.

My boyfriend and I had a fight 2 days ago.
And he emailed me saying he loved me and he was sorry.
And i dont want to lose him.
But im scared maybe this might be it.

what do i do?
I need him.

It looks to me he still wants to be with you if he emailed you & apologized. I don't think you're going to lose him. You're just scared.

Try not to have anymore fights. They're usually avoidable. =)

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is it normal for part of your tongue to feel numb after getting it pierced? the tip and part of the left side of my tongue have felt slightly numb for about 4 days now.

16/f

It's totally normal. If you feel like this for more than 4 days, I'd see a doctor.

Besides that, don't eat an solid foods for a while because it'll irritate the piercings. Foods like jello, ice cream & soup are good. And drink a ton of beverages. It'll feel good on your piercing.

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14/f

I really want to get in shape. I'm not fat or anything, I'm actually a size 0, and only 88 pounds. But I have alot of body issues. I never feel thin enough and I hate wearing tight clothes, because when I was younger, I used to be a little chubby. I've heard that if you have been on the overweight side once, that you always feel like you're overweight, even when you're not. Well here's my problem, food totally dominates my life. I can't go more than an hour without thinking about it. And sometimes when I'm alone, I totally binge, and eat ever single thing in sight. Or sometimes I will eat one cookie, and I flip out on myself. So I think to myself, "Well I ate one cookie, why not just eat the whole bag?" So I give in and end up eating alot. Then later I beat myself up [emotionally] for it.

People tell me that I should eat and not worry, but I can't. This has got to stop. I eat like a million things within an hour. I think I'm an emotional eater, because I've been really stressed lately. Does anyone have any advice on how to control my emotional eating? (Please don't say "work out" because I already do, about an hour a day.)

Talk to your school counselor about it. Either that, or learn to control your eating habits.

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I'm in 7th grade & I'm taking Algebra1. Do you think this is advanced?

For your age, yeah. I didn't take algebra until freshman year. So, you're ahead of NY by 2 years.

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