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me and my group of friends with a new girl this year..now shes a part of our group. its been about 5 months since we've been friends, and now she said that she used to cut herself and sometimes gets drunk. im not like that at all. i think thats really bad. i dont want to be peer preasured. i really like her.. whaddo i do?
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She might just be saying these things to impress you. Some people try to do that for the "shock" factor. It definitely worked - youre shocked..but not in a good way. Be honest with her and tell her youre not going to judge her about ANYTHING she does, but you and your friends dont happen to want to do it. It doesnt sound like she's peer pressuring you from what you said. So, dont worry about being peer pressured until the time actually comes.
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Peer pressure is always going to be present in a friendship, a group of friends, or an intimate relationship. It never goes away. People are always going to pressure you to do something dumb, but the important thing is that you stand up for yourself & say no.
Your friend said she "used" to do these things. Ask her if she still does them. If she doesn't, and hasn't for a long time, I'd trust her to think that she won't do them again.
Don't do anything you don't wanna do. You shouldn't have to. Everything you do is your decision. Remember: Stand up for what you believe in, even if you're standing alone.
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She did say she "used" to do these things. However, I would talk to her about how you feel. And see what she has to say, and if she's going to pressure you.
A lot of my friends drink and do things I would never do, but they don't pressure me or even talk about things like that around me because they know I don't do them. I've talked to them about it, and they are good enough friends not to even try to pressure me into something.
So I think you should give her the benifit of the doubt, and talk to her about this. Good luck, I'm sure everything will work out for you!
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She said she used to do that not that she still does. If she does and shes your friend then you should help her get better. your not going to get peer pressured you know who you are and who your not. usually people who do that kind of thing dont do it to be bad they do it because bad things have happened. im not condoninng it or saying thats the answer to problems but somepeople get lost.maybe shes over it if not then help her get over it. shes your friend and you care about her right? as far as the getting drunk part well if she refuses to quit then you cant change her. but just because she drinks doesnt mean you have to drink or be in that atmosphere and if she doesnt accept that your not like that or trys to force you in to anything then shes not a friend and you can make new ones.
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Well. she said "used" to cut and get drunk.
So I don't think you have anything to worry about.
If she suddenly starts up again, worry about her.. not that you'll do it.
If you don't want to do it then don't. All that stuff hurts you.
You can try talking to her and tell her you care about her.. You don't want her to get hurt.
but I think it's all in the past..
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Okay this is what you do, just confront her about it. tell her that you really care about her and you dont want her to get hurt. she will hopefully understand. ive gone through that situation and i confronted her and it worked.
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