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i m not getting good marks in studies. My parents scold me every time. I want to die now. Please help me out.???
I was never a good test taker, I'm still not. Some of us are more oral than written. Those of us that are more oral than written do poorly on tests and standardized test though it is not for the lack of knowledge in the subject matter.
If this sounds Ike you then you need to see if the school will help you out by testing you in a different manner. Public schools are Like factories the churn out one type of product. If they need to customize their production for some reason they can get down right stubborn.
There is a test that you can be give to find out if you are someone that is more oral or verbal as it is called. Fortunately it is not a written test. It is a test that is given by a psychologist, one your parents can hire or the school psychologist can test you for.
I would recommend you talk to your parents on the subject of being more oral or verbal than written. You can tell them that you wrote to us and one of the ADULT adviser suggest you be tested. If I am correct and you are more verbal. Your parents face a battle with the school.
There is no reason why if you know the subject matter that you should be penalized for what is known as a learning disorder. Your parents will have to push the school to move out of their comfort zone to accommodate your learning disorder.
i had sex and i dont wannabe pregnant but i had it about 4 weeks ago and lately ive been feeling weak (nothing new) and weird:( does anyone know how i can like feel on my stomach and see if im pregnant? i just got home from a physical and i dnt want it to be a surprise when i get the results:""( help me:"(
If you have not missed a period you are probably not pregnant. Unless your doctor suspected you were pregnant or did an internal exam and saw an enlarged womb there would be no reason to run a lab test for pregnancy unless you requested one.
Enough time has gone by that a home pregnancy test will set your mind at ease. Feeling weird is probably more from the stress of thinking you may be than you actually are pregnant. There is only one true way at this stage and that would be a test to confirm. A home pregnancy test is generally reliable enough. If you want a blood test you can if you want go to a women's clinic at any Planned Parenthood clinic and get one, most likely for free.
well i haven't gotten my period for about a month or 2 . and im kind of scared :/ , i haven't had sex . im still a virgin . but is it possiblee too get pregnant in the shower ; HELP ! ! !
No you cannot get pregnant in the shower. Semen have to enter your vagina in order for you to get pregnant. So unless you have a boy in the shower with you squirting his stuff at your vagina there is no way you can get pregnant in the shower.
There are numerous things that can cause your periods to skip or totally stop for a time. If you are participating in athletics and are in training your periods may stop for a while. Olympic women athletes who have spent most of their lives training do not develop as other girls do and do not get their periods until after they stop training. Stress,changes in diets, some antibiotics you may be taking can cause you to miss a period or two.
No matter if any of the above has or is happening to you, the best person to seek advice from is your mom. You're not pregnant so this is not a question that should cause that type of alarm. This is a medical question that mom needs to know about so she can decide if you need to see a doctor. At the very least she can tell you if this is something normal that will relieve some of the stress you are under.
Mom knows you far better than we do. She knows your diet, your activities, what medications your taking and she should know if you are under any abnormal stress, be it at school or from other things in your life. Mom & Dad are your best resource for information about sex and other things about your body and life. You should not be embarrassed to ask questions of them. This is how you should be learning things, not from strangers like us.
Every time I am in the company of boys my age, 15/16 years old, they never approach me. I am 5ft 9in, have long blonde hair and know that I'm a nice person, and I can say that I am attractive. I don't understand why boys my own age NEVER approach me; I can talk to anyone, whether they're 8 years old or 80 years old. What puzzles me is that boys of 20+ always approach me and chat me up, and I am able to hold a conversation easily. I am not self centred, or stuck up; I am simply confident. It has come to the point where whenever I'm out, or at a party, boys just avoid speaking to me. What do you think is the reason for this? I am so perplexed...
What intimidates boys your own age are girls that are self confident, good looking or who look older than they are. In your own words you hit all three buttons.
The school jocks may approach you if they know your in their class or school because they are more self confident than the average boy. If your not into the jocks then you are going to have to be the one to approach a boy you may want to get to know better. Expect the boy to be tongue tied at first as he will be somewhat awed that you have approached him. You are going to have to find away to put him at ease. You might want to say something like: "Hi I'm Kathy I've seen you around school and have always wanted to get to know you, your Jim correct." Maybe not those exact words but something like that.
Whatever you do don't dumb yourself down just to meet a boy. That would be disrespectful to yourself and the boy you are wanting to meet. Just be yourself. Once you have broken the ice and the boy sees you not as an unapproachable older women you should be able to build a relationship from there.
Ok I need to have this book by tomorrow and it called American Red Cross First Aid/CPR/AED Participants manual and I DON'T want to buy it online i WANT to buy it at a store like a bookstore buy just cant find anywhere around were i live. thanks in advance.
I looked on line to see if this book might be available in any book store, no such luck. I did find it available through the American Red Cross book store for $8.95, link below.
Have you tried calling your local red cross bookstore to see if they have it? If they don't you may try your local fire station to see if they have a copy they will lend to you until the copy you can order arrives. They may not have the participants manual but they may have the instructors manual which should include the participants manual.
http://www.redcrossstore.org/Shopper/Product.aspx?UniqueItemId=592
I'm a girl & 18. My boyfriend and I was on the sofa and we was kissing. I never let him touch me down below (i have strong views)and he kept moving my hands to his private area. He's done this before and Ive said to him I dont want to do anything yet as im not ready. Yesterday in the cinema he pushed my hand under his trousers but above his boxers. Today he did the same but tried it under his boxers and said to me to touch it for 5 seconds. ofc i said no and then he got it out and was saying to me dont you like it, dont you like me, dont you want me and told me to hold it and i just really like him so much like in all other aspects of our realtionship he treats me so well and hes the best boyfriend ive ever had and so i did because i felt almost bad for not wanting to and so this lead to him telling me to give him a hand job. Idk what to think i really like or even love my boyfriend but my best friend says its not right... advice?
First of all anytime someone is forced to preform a sexual act against their will it is rape, even if it is just a hand job. It is a sexual assault which is rape to a lesser degree.
More importantly, since I doubt you will charge your boyfriend with rape. What I'm readying here is your boyfriend is not respecting you. In order for sex to be enjoyable, including handjobs and oral sex, it must be consensual for both participants. You did not consent, you were coerced into giving him a hand job. That is not consent on your part and this shows the lack of respect he has for you.
You have your values, which you are entitled to. He must respect those values regardless of whether he agrees with them. A hand job is just a hand job, masturbation by someone else, but is it sex? The answer is something like the saying; "beauty is in the eye of the beholder."
If you see it as sex then it is sex. You need to make your values perfectly clear to your boyfriend. Giving him a hand job was not right for you and your values. If you feel bad that you did this, then tell him and tell it it won't happen again. Tell him if he keeps pressuring you for sex he needs to find someone else.
Fact is as my mother use to say; "there are more fish in the sea." There is a young man out there who will respect your values who will love you for who you are and not what you can give him. You in turn will love him for respecting you and your values.
Do not ever be pressured into doing something you are not comfortable with; especially sex.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year and a half now and all of a sudden he's been asking me to send him naked pictures of myself. I hate my body and I'm extremely insecure, so I just don't feel comfortable doing it. So I told him that but he just gets mad and keeps asking, and now he's starting to use it against me. Should I send him the pictures to just shut him up? Or what?
DON'T DO IT. It matters not how you feel about your body. Sending nude photo's of any under age person, that would include yourself, is unlawful. It is considered CHILD PORNAGRAPHY AND YOU CAN BE CHARGED WITH DISTRIBUTION OF CHILD PORNOGRAPHY. YOUR BOYFRIEND COULD BE CHARGED WITH RECEIVING AND BEING IN POSSESSION OF CHILD PORNAGRAPHY.
This charge can be both a Federal and State charge. Take me very seriously in what I have said for law enforcement is cracking down on this type of distribution for a variety of reasons.
Another reason not to do this is once you send the photo; you lose all control of the photo. Your present boyfriend can now or in the future resend that picture to whomever and they in turn can redistribute your photo until it goes viral.
Just tell him no. IF he won't take no for an answer he does not have the proper respect for you and you should seriously consider finding another boyfriend.
Sure he will promise you now that the picture is between you and him. That he would never show or share this picture with anyone else. What happens when and if you two break up. Digital pictures do not have negatives. You can never be sure he destroyed your picture(s). Just don't do it.
21 female. Nick 19. This may be kind of long but I will really appreciate any help! :)
Me and Nick have been together for about 4 months. He is the nicest guy I've ever been with I really couldn't ask for a better guy. We've known each other for a long time but just started dating months ago. He pays for me when we go to dinner or get anything to eat. I'll be like "Nooo!" And take out my wallet because I feel bad that he pays for me. But he won't take my money he makes me put my wallet away.
Well last weekend we were going on a double date with my brother and his wife. Nick called his mom for something and she asked what we were doing that night and Nick said going to dinner and his mom asked if he was paying for me and Nick was like well yeah. And she said well do you always pay for her? And he said yeah. And she was like does she ever pay for you? And he said no but she said that she was going to take me to dinner soon. Then she said ..well that's not right and she said it kind of in a mean tone. And she was on speaker phone so I heard everything. Nick was pretty quiet and his mom was like is she right there? And he said yeah, and I walked away. It was so uncomfortable and I was kind of offended.
That night when we were at dinner I took out my wallet again and he said no, put that away and I insisted I at least pay for the tip then and he wasn't even going to let me do that but I forced him to let me.
And just a couple nights before this happened we were talking and I even said I hate that you pay for me I feel bad! And he said no I want to pay for you babe and I said well I'm taking you out some time then! :)
It just bugs me that his mom would say that about me acting like I'm taking advantage of him or something saying "well that's not right, she should pay for you" I couldn't stop thinking about it all night and I was really quiet. Nick could tell something was wrong and he kept asking me if I was mad at him. Finally I said, I know your mom doesn't like me. And he said she likes you babe, you wanna know why she likes you? Because she sees how happy you make me. And I said well it didn't really sound like she liked me too much on the phone and he said well I don't think she said anything bad, what part didn't you like? Obviously he was sticking up for his mom and didn't think anything she said was offensive. I just let it go. But now whenever I see her next I am going to feel really uncomfortable around her. Would you be a little offended if you were me? I don't know what to do!
Plus, he told me way back that he wanted to pay for me & take care of me because I am doing school full time and can't work that much and he is working full time right now before he goes back to school so he knows I don't have a lot of money right now. But it's not like I say, you have to pay for me! No, I'm not like that at all.
I'm not sure what his mothers problem is. When a guy and a gal are dating, it is generally accepted that the guy pays for the date. That's the way things were back before I married and judging by my adult son that is still the way things are.
When my son is dating someone he pays for everything on the date. When they go from strictly dating into a relationship, which he has had several long term ones, things go from him paying to them sharing. Not all the time but when they want to do something that is expensive they will split the cost.
From the standpoint of dating etiquette I don't see what her problem is. The only thing I can see that she might see as a problem is the differences in your ages. She may see you as a cradle robber as her son being 19 is just barely an adult. To this I say that is her problem and I will offer this. My mother in-law was 5 years older than my farther in-law and they were happily married for over 40 years before she passed away.
You two are both adults and are acting in an adult manner. I was lucky in that I had a wonderful mother in-law and a great relationship with her. Not everyone is a lucky as I was. If you can just ignore her, the problem is all hers not anything the two of you have made or done.
So I know about 7 kids that like me and this one kid asked me out and I said no even though i really did want to go out with him. The reason I said no was because i have a twin brother (btw were both 12) and i didnt want him finding out and telling my mom that im dating *his friend*....so this guy is all sad that i rejected him and is SOOOOO nice and his friends r all convincing me 2 go out with him and he txts me a lot... so my question is "How do I go out with this kid without my brother telling my mom?"
You are 12 years old, that is way to young to be dating in the true sense of the word. If this is the reason you don't want mom finding out because she does not want you "dating". Then your brother is right to snitch on you.
What is the hurry to grow up? Why are the girls so boy crazy at such a young age? Have I missed the memo that said girls will be an old maid if they are not married with children by the time they are 16. That would be so 16th century.
Your not even a teenager yet. You're just starting into puberty. You and your body need time to adjust to the changes that are happening. The teenage years are a greatest time of your life and they only come once. There are so many things for you to do and accomplish before you start down the dating highway that dating will take you away from.
If mom is restricting you from dating it is not because she is being mean. She wants you to experience all of life, which will include boys but not exclusive dating. You need to learn what life is all about and that is what you will experience over the next few years. Then you can start to date.
Hi everyone, sorry if this may be alittle gross; I'm just curious as to why.
Ok, 19/f; the past couple of days my vagina has smelled like fish. I take a shower/bath everyday, and I clean with non scented soap. So I know its not my cleaning habits.
I noticed that it does this when me and my boyfriend have sex; like a couple of hours later it'll do it; condoms or not.
When I am sitting down, and I open my legs, I can smell it. It's really strong. It doesn't burn, or itch, and it doesn't last that long;
Any tips?
Thanks!
& I learned a couple of years ago, that when I eat fish; that it makes me smell; so I stopped eating fish; Wednesday&Today I had some crab meat, but idk if that has anything to do with it either;
Is my fishy smell normal?
A vagina should have a slight musky sent not fishy and certainly not strong enough for you to smell. You probably have some type of infection, probably low grade if you are not feeling a burning or itching.
My suggestion is you make an appointment with your GYN ASAP. If it is an infection best to catch and treat in the early stages.
Ok so me and my boyfriend are waiting to have sex but whenever he fingers me I feel like it's coming but it just doesn't get there. I feel like I have to like try to imagine it instead of knowing I'm there. It gets me so close but I don't know what to do. So any advice?
The difference between a guy and a girl is not just physical. A guy can get off with very little stimulation just about anywhere any time.
For a girl sex is more complicated. A girl/women can't just undress and let a guy have at her. She needs to feel secure and comfortable. She needs to be aroused properly and properly stimulated. Most importantly she needs to know her own body. Unlike a guy who only needs to have his penis stimulated. A girl/women can be more clitoral than vaginal.
If you are one of the women who are more clitoral than vaginal. You can be fingered from now until next Tuesday and the big O will hang there. You clitoris is where you are most sensitive and that is where you need to be stimulated.
The problem you face is also two fold. You may need different stimulation than girls he may have been with before you or how he has taught himself to please a girl. You need to teach him how you like to be fingered. This is where the second problem comes in. The male ego is a fragile thing. If you attempt to show him how to please you you could signal him to thinking he is a bad lover. This is not really true. He may be just an inconsiderate lover.
Sex is a wonderful thing between TWO CONSENTING ADULTS. As you grow older and deepen your sex life you will find if you start by asking your lover how he likes to be touched, both orally and manually, then you will have a more pleasant love life. This also opens the door for you to show him how you like to be touched. To show him that you need more clitoral stimulation. That just fingering your vagina doesn't do it for you.
By asking him first then showing him doesn't shatter the male ego. This also leads to a better love life between the two of you. Make sure your lover always wears a condom. While a condom does not protect from all STDs it does protect from some. You should be on birth control as well. This gives you the comfort level you need as the pull out method does not work. Precum has enough semen in it to make you pregnant.
Once you are properly stimulated and have the comfort and security you need to be relaxed the big O your looking for should happen.
I developed oral thrush during pregnancy. I'm applying Daktarin gel on my tongue. Do I have to change my toothbrush to prevent it from coming back while Im having medication or I can change it when oral thrush is gone already? Thanks for the help.
My research tell me the medication you are using is an over the counter medication and not a doctor prescribed medication. Not being sure of the strength I would suggest that you change your toothbrush now during treatment and again after you have completed the course of treatment recommended on the package.
If the thrush returns I would suggest you see a doctor for a stronger medication.
Ok sorry if this is a long question ahah~ I just need a second opinion or whatever.
F/15.
Ok I have a really hard time concentrating both at home and at school. Im like ill get distracted by little tiny things it's unbelievable. My most stupid one was a fly caught in a light and I decided it was a prisoner so I was being daft laughing at it. I sometimes zone out and when i zone back in ill be be like "woah the teacher has been talking" or it's like she/he is talking a totally different language than me. My only good grade is in English where I am on a B and predicted an A. That's because I know what I'm doing. All my other lessons im on D's and under. It's really bad. I've had phone calls home and my 'dad' is really p'eed at me for not getting the grades HE expects me to get. I try and try to tell him im sorry I cant concentrate I really do try but it's like theres a million tv channels going off in my head when I try if you get me? But he really doesnt listen. I can't revise because Ill either get distracted or just wont do it because it doesn't interest me. My 'dad' said it cant be anything to do with a condition or anything because ill happily sit on the laptop as soon as I get home if im not at my friends. But that's only because I like that if I get told to do something I dont want to do Ill try and put it off forever. I've been to the doctors and told them and they said tell your teachers (good doctors yeah?) I told my teachers they ignored me and just said im a typical teen. My friend thinks I should move doctors and go to hers then if they say the same thing leave it. I've got big exams coming up and I really need to get my head down and work but i just cant. When I'm out of school it's pretty much the same. Ill say something and keep continuing it on until my friend gives me the 'stop it' look. But i'm always so hyper and everyone says like Im always loud and I really dont realise it it's well weird. N like they'll say im always hyper. I try and be quite but it doesnt work. Ill also get bored really easily and people will get annoyed at me. Also I get told to stop moving around.
I think that's all I can put. Really sorry it's so long. Any advice or anything you think might be wrong with me will be really helpful :)
I agree with AdviceMistress and while not liking to disagree with someones parent. From what you have written I have to believe you dad is wrong.
Since none of us are doctors we cannot make a diagnoses. That being said it appears to me that you seem to be suffering from either ADD or ADHD. Most likely ADD as ADHD is generally diagnosed at a much earlier age but is possible at your age.
Your 15 years old, old enough that by law that you can seek treatment from a doctor without parental permission. If your father will not take you to the family doctor then make an appointment and go by yourself if possible. You need to ask the doctor to evaluate you or refer you for evaluation and possible treatment for ADD or ADHD. Your doctor will ask why you feel you need this evaluation so be very truthful in your explanation.
While you're being screened you should also be screened for depression. Nothing says you are depressed and I do not see anything in what you have written to say you are depressed. It is just a factor in ADD or ADHD at your age that needs to be ruled out.
The law I spoke of is called HIPPA. It is a Federal law and you can research it on line.
17/f
Lately, my poop has been weird. I feel gross talking about it but at this point, I want to know what's up. Basically, I'll poop once, and I know that I have more and I try to poop again, but it won't come out and I feel like it is still up there. I wipe a LOT to make sure it's clean, but then all day I can just feel like something is up there. I don't know what's wrong! I poop when I wake up, usually, and even then I've been having this problem. I pooped a few times in school, and I had the same problem. It's starting to get extremely annoying. What could it be? Help! I used to poop only once, and it all came out and I would wipe and feel great. But now I feel like it's not all coming out and I don't feel light and good when I poop.
I agree with Zane. Other factors to consider would be any changes in you activities recently. A change in medications or vitamins.
Vitamins with high doseS of zinc can cause slight constipation. Other things could be the taking of antibiotics, pain relievers and any narcotic base medications. Even over the counter cough syrups.
Any changes in our daily routine can throw off our bodies systems. Generally these are only temporary. If it goes on for to long then it is best to consult a doctor.
I suffer from chronic pain as a result of an auto accident. Several of the medications I take Tto help with the pain cause some constipation. Generally in a day or two my body self corrects and I have no need for a laxative.
As I said if you still have trouble after 3 or 4 days I would suggest you advise your parents. DO NOT TAKE A LAXATIVE WITHOUT A PARENTS CONSENT. If this goes on for a week or more then you may need to see a doctor.
I am a twenty one year old m2f transgendered female. I have been living full time as a woman since I turned 18 . I started HRT almost two years ago, had a breast job last year, went thru feminization surgery six months ago and lost my job one month ago due to the current economic climate. I was a full time secretary for the past three years. It was my plan to complete my journey by undergoing sex reassignment surgery in late 2012. As you can imagine this surgery is very expensive and is not covered by health insurance. I've considered my options should I not find a new job soon. It boils down to putting off the surgery for a future date unknown or find other methods to fund it should I remain unemployed. I am considering the sex trade industry as a means of employment. I know I could pull it off working as a topless dancer. You can not tell by looking at me that I am anything other than a female. I am also considering working as call girl. I fully understand the negative aspects of each however to be completely honest, to date I have been with so many different men that it would not bother me at all to do either however I am looking to get some feedback on this.
I won't go into how you are thinking about making a living other to say that I think topless dancing is safer in all ways than being a call girl.
As for the sex reassignment surgery itself. Have you considered having this surgery done outside of this country. I have seen documentaries where this surgery was done in Canada and Bangkok for far less than it costs here in the USA.
I cannot vouch for the medical care or the surgical talents of the doctors in Thailand.It is my understanding they lead the world in this type of surgery.
Just thought I would pass this along.
17/f
I am a senior in high school and in march my boyfriend and I are going to get a place together. He is 23, makes 10.00 and hr. I make 8.00 an hr. The job I have (a local pizza place) well honestly sucks. The manager only make 9.00 an hour so I am pretty sure I don't have enough room to grow there. I do not want my boyfriend to be the one paying all the bills and we do not want to live paycheck-to-paycheck.I want to stay away from fast food jobs and jobs where I stand in one spot(I get dizzy) What can I do to provide an income for us?
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you CANNOT LEAVE HOME AND LIVE WITH THIS MAN. IF YOU DO HE IS LOOKING AT A MINIMUM OF 15 YEARS IN PRISON FOR STATUTORY RAPE.
Lets just say for the sake of argument that your parent's say go, good-by. A nosy neighbor finds out your 17 and that there is an 6 year age difference between you. That is statutory rape even if you are above the age of consent in your state, you are still a minor and there is to large an age difference between you for you two to even be together.
The other scenario that could play out here is that mom and dad don't give you permission to move out. They file a missing child report or runaway child report with the police. The police find you. You are taken into custody as a runaway child. Your boyfriend is still charged with statutory rape and other charges as well, possibly harboring or kidnapping. The 15 years in jail is now life plus 25 years or life without parole. Cross a state line together and he now faces the Federal crime of violating the Mann Act.
Don't believe me? Easy enough to to find out, all of this information can be researched on the Web. The person most in danger here is your boy friend. He is in danger now. Most boys 18 and older know this. When I was your age we all had a saying "15 minutes with her will get you ten years". Meaning if we had sex with an under age girl we faced 10 years in jail. This is still true today. Just the jail time is longer.
I question why a man of 23 is dating a girl of 17. I leave that question for another time. Right now you have to consider the danger your boy friend is in just being with you. The term is called jail bait. Until you are 18 you are jail bait and he can go to jail for a long long time if your parents or anyone else sees fit to report your romance.
Hi. I don't know how to start this off, so here goes:
I cut myself. Plain and simple. It's not obvious cuts, it's usually less than 2 inches in length and there is little to no bleeding. When I self-injure, it's usually to just break the skin. It goes away in a few days. I'm still worried though, but more confused if anything. I don't know why I'm doing this, or what even gave me the idea. I'm perfectly content with my life, it's not anything too depressing, just normal stuff. I also punch hard materials like brick or concrete to condition my hands, and I've been doing this for a long time for martial arts (the punching) and only recently started the cutting. Maybe it's because I like pain? Well, I don't like it.
Please help me find out why I'm self-injuring myself or help me cope and deal with this.
Additional: From what you have written I don't believe you have a personality disorder. Personality disorders are not something that are cured but rather the person is given behavioral training to deal with it.
If you are being told you have a personality disorder I would suggest finding a psychiatrist to get a true diagnosis of what is bothering you. As a non doctor it is my belief that is what is bothering you most is depression and related anxiety. But that is just a guess on my part.
Finding a doctor you trust and can work with is the key to recovery. Keep looking until you find that doctor or therapist.
I can't explain why you cut yourself, it is not for pleasure or that you like pain. For the most part I believe it is to relieve anxiety or stress and to a certain extent some depression.
What I can do for now is offer you a safer alternative that many psychologist offer patients that cut themselves. Find the biggest, thickest rubber band you can find. Let this rubber band hang loosely from your wrist. When you feel the urge to cut yourself, snap the rubber band against your wrist instead. It will help you relieve the anxiety you are feeling at the time and the best part is you do not have to run and hide some place to do it. It is something you can do right then, out in the open.
You may be suffering from a form of depression. That is usually the reason people cut. It appears you are not sure why you cut so it would be hard to explain to your parents as to why though you need to tell them you have been cutting yourself.
You need to see a doctor and be screened for teenage depression. Don't get all alarmed over the words. Teenage depression is all to common today. Actually it is just more recognized to day then in the past when it was called a phase children would grow out of. Most of us did, some of us did not.
Today doctors recognize this phase for what it really is and can help teenagers. Lets face it being a teenage today comes with a lot of internal and external stress. The internal stress is brought on by puberty. This alone is enough stress, then we throw at you a demand to act like an adult when you a truly not yet an adult. We want you to excel in school so you can get into college, there is a whole new social order in your life to contend with and other things that need to be dealt with that you may not have had to deal with in the past.
Lets face it, being a teenager is stressful. To much stress can cause all sorts of problems. The most prominent one in teenagers is clinical depression, which is more of a medical problem in that you need more of one or two hormones that help you deal with depression then your body is secreting. Talk therapy to help you prioritize and deal with the stress also helps.
Talk to your parents. Ask to see your doctor. If you are over 14 you can see your doctor in private, meaning mom or dad must wait in the waiting room. Anything you discuss with your doctor and anything you're treated for is private and confidential without your written permission to release that information. This is a federal law called HIPPA.
Ask your doctor to screen you for depression, then follow the doctors advice.
Well in P.E every Friday we have to run laps outside so one day me and my friend were jogging and this crazy lady was standing at this one end of the field and when we were going past her she said "hey" and we like glanced at her and started walking fast then she said "you guys are so pretty your doing great loo at you yeah go gO GO!!! so we started running then the next Friday we went out there she was there again so when we went buy her she said "hey i remember you guys my old buddies BFFs for ever whoooooooo!!! keep up the pace" and she was there the week after that and that and that so she is really starting to weird us out oh and she looked about 48 years 41 ? i don't know but what do you think we should do next time tell someone???
Just what this woman's intentions are I can't say. If she is causing you concern, setting off you warning bells so to speak, then it is appropriate to inform the PE teacher that this woman is on school property and causing you concern.
The fact that this women is weirding you out is the warning bells I'm talking about. This is your internal warning system telling you something is wrong. You should always pay attention to. This internal warning system as it is almost always right. This woman's intention may be harmless, may be drunk, she may like to watch you girls run. You could even remind her of her own children at your age. Whatever her intentions are you internal warning system has sent out an alarm and you need to heed that alarm. Advise you PE teacher that this woman is out there and that she is causing you concern.
Also talk to your parents about this women being there. School systems today have strict policies about who can be on school property while school is in session. Your parents can take this matter up with the principal as well as you teacher but you must inform the teacher and your school principal yourself, ASAP, as well as your parents for you do not know if this women makes a daily habit of being out their watching other girls run.
Over all my life is pretty good. Yet i will find myself crying over the littlest things like if i get 1 C or if i forget homework. Also i will like yell at my mom i don't mean to it just slips out and she will yell back and get all offended and slam her door and that also leads to crying. Oh and this is not a regular thing this week my mom got a flat screen from her boss and she wanted me to get it out of the back of the car so i tried and it was like stuck so like an idiot i kicked the box and then she just blew up on me saying "you selfish inconsiderate little bitch i will get it" oh and did i forget to mention my friend was there yeah not good. Well that's about it oh and one more thing i will not i repeat i will NOT go into council-ling so if there are any other suggestions oh and no pills for it i hate meds ick .Thanks;)
To a certain extent I am going to agree with Pook. Since you didn't give your age we have to assume that you are at an age that you are entering puberty and the hormonal changes have hit you with a vengeance. We parents call this "THE TEENAGE YEARS", a phase, something you will grow out of. This is true. Your body will use the hormones to make the changes needed to change from a child to an adolescent young women and finally an adult women.
This is all normal and while I understand your not wanting meds'. Understand there are medications that will make this time easier for you. Some children, yes boys and girls, have more trouble with puberty than others. Teenage years put a lot of stress on our children today both in and out of school. This external stress plus the stresses of puberty can be hard to handle causing what you are experiencing.
My question to you is this: If a simple little pill once a day can make life easier for you, allow you to think more clearly and concentrate better both in and out of school; what is the problem? The pill does not put weight on you. It will not cause you to walk around in a fog or like some type of zombie. For the most part in a non medical explanation, it will help your body deal with the hormones that are causing you all these problems and allow you to be happier. To me it is a win/win situation.
Think about it. Go see your doctor and talk to the doctor about it. Ask mom to step out of the exam room so you can talk to the doctor privately and let the doctor explain the different medications that could be offered. Then with the doctor and possibly mom you can decide if you want medication and which one. But make an informed decision don't just reject the idea out of hand.
19/f and my brother is 7.
For Christmas my parents usually spend the same amount on both of us. My parents told me that as long as I'm living under their roof, I'll have a Christmas, which I appreciate greatly; even though Christmas isn't about gifts. It's still good to recieve stuff when you don't have the money to afford it for yourself.
Well anyways; my brother wants junk. Every year he askes for stuff and he either breaks it after a week, or doesn't play with it after a couple of days. They spent $560 dollars on him this Christmas.
Well, for my Christmas, I wanted a Yorkie, A laptop, a Camera, and a stocking (those are my favorite)
and my boyfriend and my parents split the yorkie (150 a piece) and my mom and dad said thats all I'm getting for Christmas. Which is cool, I love my puppy; but I don't see thats fair; or maybe I'm over reacting. I'm a college student, and I don't have my own computer; its my parents and I'm limited to 30 minutes a day; including when I have to do homework; so I'd really like a laptop to help me with school work; so I don't have to rush to write papers, ect. I told my mom, I'd be happy with a 320 dollar laptop from Walmart, and thats it for christmas; and the laptop along with the dog, doesn't even cost more than my brothers. This is something I could use for many years, not just a couple of weeks.
Any suggestions? If I'm over reacting, please let me know.
First, Christmas as I write this is still 18 days away. You can't stuff the puppy in the closet until Christmas so your parents gave him/her to you early or do you normally get your presents this early. Is it possible your parents are just stalling you until it is time to pass out present?
Second, You are correct; Christmas is all about giving and not receiving. Your brother is 7. What you wrote about him and what he does with his gifts is what 7 year olds do, it normal for a 7 year old. It is also normal for parents to splurge some on a 7 year old for the joy they get from receiving and opening Christmas presents generally adds to the holiday feeling. Parents expect a 19 year old to understand this.
Third, as one other has said. Your Yorkie is a present for which until you leave home, and if you take your dog with you, they will keep on giving. To the tune of a $1,000 or more a year in vet bills, food and other needs of your pet.
What does seem unusual to me is the time limit placed on your use of the family computer. I would understand this if you were 10 to say 14 or 15. As a College student the use of a computer is as you said needed to complete class assignments, in some cases even to communicate with and receives assignments from your instructors. I will assume your parents are paying your tuition which would if I were them want me to afford you every opportunity to succeed.
I suggest you sit down with your parents or which ever controls the time on the computer to see if you cannot work out a better schedule of use. I can understand that one of your parents may use the computer to work from home. If so generally the number of hours worked is not as important as the hours worked from or to. What is important is the amount of work done. At least that what my wife's company's looks at on this occasion during the winter when inclement weather she decides to work from home rather than drive to the office.
So talk to whichever parent you need to and try to find away the both of you can use the computer to get what you both need from it. I would wait though until after Santa arrives though for you never know what the Jolly old man may have in his bag for you.
Sorry about that I couldn't resist, but your parents just maybe holding out on you until Christmas day so you too can join you brother in brightening the Holiday.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.