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self-injury
Hi. I don't know how to start this off, so here goes:
I cut myself. Plain and simple. It's not obvious cuts, it's usually less than 2 inches in length and there is little to no bleeding. When I self-injure, it's usually to just break the skin. It goes away in a few days. I'm still worried though, but more confused if anything. I don't know why I'm doing this, or what even gave me the idea. I'm perfectly content with my life, it's not anything too depressing, just normal stuff. I also punch hard materials like brick or concrete to condition my hands, and I've been doing this for a long time for martial arts (the punching) and only recently started the cutting. Maybe it's because I like pain? Well, I don't like it.
Please help me find out why I'm self-injuring myself or help me cope and deal with this.
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Ask Yourself: Why?
Ask why to everything. Why am i doing it? Why do i like the pain? Why don't you like it? Why did i start? Why should i stop? Why am i doing it? Why, why why why why.
Also...
Set a goal to stop, think of something that could make you stop. Say if you don't cut for a certain amount of time, you will get something.
Maybe..
Do something to get your mind off it. Do a different sport that its frequently everyday or so. Perhaps stop martial arts.
Find a hobby that you are interested in.
Maybe get help.
Do whatever you can to stop.
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You need to talk to a professional!
Maybe you are going through something and you're not expressing your true feelings so instead of talking you are feeling the pain trhough hurting yourself. This sin't goign o help you and its not healthy. Talk to someoe at your school, or maybe in your family. Maybe find a local therapist in your area and speak to them. This si not something that someone can talk you out of its something that you must get professional help for. In the mean time when you feel the urge try and do something else. Maybe drawing, listening to music, or even calling a friend. Good luck!
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Additional: From what you have written I don't believe you have a personality disorder. Personality disorders are not something that are cured but rather the person is given behavioral training to deal with it.
If you are being told you have a personality disorder I would suggest finding a psychiatrist to get a true diagnosis of what is bothering you. As a non doctor it is my belief that is what is bothering you most is depression and related anxiety. But that is just a guess on my part.
Finding a doctor you trust and can work with is the key to recovery. Keep looking until you find that doctor or therapist.
I can't explain why you cut yourself, it is not for pleasure or that you like pain. For the most part I believe it is to relieve anxiety or stress and to a certain extent some depression.
What I can do for now is offer you a safer alternative that many psychologist offer patients that cut themselves. Find the biggest, thickest rubber band you can find. Let this rubber band hang loosely from your wrist. When you feel the urge to cut yourself, snap the rubber band against your wrist instead. It will help you relieve the anxiety you are feeling at the time and the best part is you do not have to run and hide some place to do it. It is something you can do right then, out in the open.
You may be suffering from a form of depression. That is usually the reason people cut. It appears you are not sure why you cut so it would be hard to explain to your parents as to why though you need to tell them you have been cutting yourself.
You need to see a doctor and be screened for teenage depression. Don't get all alarmed over the words. Teenage depression is all to common today. Actually it is just more recognized to day then in the past when it was called a phase children would grow out of. Most of us did, some of us did not.
Today doctors recognize this phase for what it really is and can help teenagers. Lets face it being a teenage today comes with a lot of internal and external stress. The internal stress is brought on by puberty. This alone is enough stress, then we throw at you a demand to act like an adult when you a truly not yet an adult. We want you to excel in school so you can get into college, there is a whole new social order in your life to contend with and other things that need to be dealt with that you may not have had to deal with in the past.
Lets face it, being a teenager is stressful. To much stress can cause all sorts of problems. The most prominent one in teenagers is clinical depression, which is more of a medical problem in that you need more of one or two hormones that help you deal with depression then your body is secreting. Talk therapy to help you prioritize and deal with the stress also helps.
Talk to your parents. Ask to see your doctor. If you are over 14 you can see your doctor in private, meaning mom or dad must wait in the waiting room. Anything you discuss with your doctor and anything you're treated for is private and confidential without your written permission to release that information. This is a federal law called HIPPA.
Ask your doctor to screen you for depression, then follow the doctors advice.
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