One big question that I have not enough good answers that I'm getting told ! Soo if someone can please answer it for me!? Me and my boyfriend are trying to concieve a baby' and well lately I've been very nauseas and I sleep way too much more than I usually do sleep, I'm very very moddy I have alot of new phases occurring that I've never had before but the thing is I startd my menstrual cycle a week late but I'm still feeling the same way I just meantioned except that before my menstrual cycle came I absolutely couldn't sleep on my stomach and yet still can't! Soo me and my sister are wondering could there still be a chance that I'm pregnant??
If your period came then the likelihood is you're not pregnant.
The trouble is that a lot of PMS symptoms are similar to those of early pregnancy. Mood swings, tiredness and cramps can all be attributed to your period.
Take a test to make sure.
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can i get pregnant if my boyfriend fuck me from back side ?not to my front hole?
Nope, but you can get an STI so make sure he's wearing a condom before you let him put it in ANY of your holes.
Also, I should probably tell you that if he ejaculates inside or near your anus then there is a small chance of semen running into your vagina. In which case there is a chance you could get pregnant. But as you'll be using a condom, that shouldn't be an issue!
As a side note: please watch the language in future. There are a lot of young teenagers around here.
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Hello, I'm from England and just finished with my college life (6th form). I am waiting for my results to come back in august and then I can hopefully be setting off for university! the thing is I am so scared, it's such a big change for me, I've always had my family with me and we've always had money but my dad has recently abandoned us for another woman and taken almost all the money.
So most of my worries are money wise, since my mother has been a house-wife and is now struggling with money while the divorce is going through and I'll be quite far away by my standards (down in Luton). I'm more than willing to get a job once I get there but my cousin who is all ready at uni said there's no time between having fun and school
Which leads me to the next concern, Socialising. I would rather work and study than be getting drunk but I'm a shy person and don't make good friends easily so I'm worried people will see me and think I'm just strange and ignore me :/.
The final concern I have is about the workload, I don't know what to expect at all and if anyone (particularly those who have done Psychology) could tell me how difficult the shift is from A level to university and how much I am expected to be doing in a given week would be much appreciated.
I guess what I'm asking for is a sort of guide of tips or own knowledge that will help me relax, I'm the only member of my immediate family to get into university so they really aren't much help and besides that, were all falling apart at the seams lol. thank you :)
I've just finished my first year of university in the UK so hopefully I can be of some help to you.
Money is a struggle at uni and it would be a good idea to get a job. Ignore your cousin, you will have plenty of time to fit in a part-job, especially in your first year. If you can, try and get yourself a job on campus because they are usually more flexible and accommodating to your schedule. Most high street stores are very good when it comes to employing students and offer part-time contracts, working evenings and/or weekends.
What you must remember about starting uni is that everyone is in the same boat. Freshers' Week isn't just about getting drunk, it's about meeting people and making friends. You will not be the only shy person there and you will not be the only person who doesn't drink much. You will have to make some effort. If you sit in your room all the time and don't get out and get to know people then it will be harder to make friends later on. I suggest you really take advantage of Freshers' and any 'get to know you' type sessions your course runs because this will be where you make the most friends. In reality, you probably won't end up being lifelong friends with the people you meet during Freshers' Week but it gives you a jumping off point.
The step from sixth form to uni is a big one, in terms of workload and course content. One of the biggest differences is that you are expected to do a lot more independent work. The best piece of advice I could give you is to keep up with your reading. Your lecturers will expect you to do extra recommended reading for each topic and you will find it a lot easier come exam time when you've actually done it and don't have a last minute panic not being able to find the book in the library.
It varies from university to university but in general, Psychology courses have a lot of contact time. This means you will have several hours of lectures/seminars a week. In terms of content, I get the impression that there isn't too big a jump between sixth form and university Psychology. Try looking on your university's website as usually they will have information on course modules, contact time, reading etc.
Take advantage of seminars (or tutorials/labs, whatever your university calls them) as they are your opportunities to ask questions and clarify anything you don't understand. And remember your tutors will be happy to discuss any problems you're having with the course or university life in general.
Believe me, everyone is nervous before they start uni and those who aren't are either lying or the ones who have a meltdown before Christmas.
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I'm not racist by any means, but the area we live in is very much a white place. My daughter, 18, has begun to see a young man who I believe is in his early 20's. He seem's nice enough, he works and treats her well but he is an immigrant from the Caribbean, and we all have heard the stories about these types of men, I don't mind her being friends with him but I think she should not be seeing him on an intimate level, how can I tell her to not be with him without her resenting me? I am currently the only person she has told within the family about their relationship and if others find out I'm afraid they will disown her.
I've heard some pretty bad things about white men too, strangely enough.
You have absolutely no legitimate reason for being against your daughter's boyfriend. You said yourself he is nice and treats her well, so where's the issue? I can name thousands and thousands of men of ALL RACES who I've heard 'stories' about. I'm sure as hell not going to write off an entire race based on the actions of a minority of individuals.
Seeing as you don't consider yourself racist, it shouldn't be an issue for you to ignore the bigoted opinions of your family and neighbours should it?
Incidentally, I dated a black guy of Caribbean descent for a year and he was by far the most caring, kind and intelligent boyfriend I have had.
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I dont know what to do. Im only 14 and ive been in a relationship with this boy for a year, on and off now, and he's been talking about us having a child. Ive been really thinking about this and I really feel like Im ready for something like this. I know its not exactly a walk in the park bringing up a child and that it isnt something i can just forget about if i get fed up of the responsibilities. I do want to have a child with him now but honestly im not sure if I should. I saw what you said to some girls question and just thought youd be able to help. Please reply, Im not sure who else to ask.
Thanks:) x
Speaking as someone who's sister got pregnant at 15, I'm going to have to agree with the other answers you have received. This is an absolutely terrible idea.
My sister got pregnant quite deliberately. She thought it was what she wanted and that she'd be a great mother and have someone to love and everything would be great. She also thought her and the father of her baby would be together forever and it'd be one big perfect happy ever after.
Did it work out that way? Of course not.
My nephew is now 14 months old and being brought up by my parents, who having already raised two children of their own aren't exactly thrilled at the prospect of spending the next 17 or so years raising another one. Babydaddy was out of the picture by the time my sister was 6 months pregnant and has barely been heard from since. And my sister? She didn't finish school, has no qualifications, no job and spends most of her time at her new boyfriend's house, doing absolutely nothing.
At 14 you have absolutely no perception of the real world. At 14 you can't even get a job much better than a paper round, let alone one that's going to provide for you and your child. Who's going to look after your baby while you work or study? How do you think you're going to be able to afford all the things a baby needs? Do you know the average cost of a baby's FIRST YEAR is? Almost $10,000!
Let's think of it another way. Do you honestly think, that in 7 years time when you are 21 and all your friends are out partying, you won't regret the fact that you have to stay home and look after your 7-year-old?
I think you know this a completely unrealistic idea.
Wait until you are in a situation where you can support yourself and a child. That means having a job, or having a partner who has a high enough paying job that he/she can support all of you.
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why does my boyfriend of 1 and half years always calls me,''dear''? he just rarely calls me my name probably because he's older than me. he's 45 and i'm 31. or is it just a terms of endearment? thank you guys.
Most people in long-term relationships end up using some form of pet name or term of endearment, it's a sign of how comfortable the parties have become with one another. I highly doubt you have anything to worry about, if anything it's a positive thing. If you have a particular aversion to being called 'dear' then tell your boyfriend you'd rather he didn't use it.
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I've never sold things on ebay before, but I just did yesterday. So my item sold and I go $13.99 for it. However, this amount did not show up as added to my balance on my debit card. It does say PayPal balance - $13.99. So does this mean that the money doesn't get sent to me? It just stays on PayPal? Please help, I'm so confused! haha
You need to withdraw funds from PayPal in order for it to go to your bank account.
Click 'withdraw' at the top of the page, then 'withdraw funds to bank account'. It usually takes around 2-3 business days to complete the transaction. I'm not 100% sure but I think if your account has been newly opened then you have to wait something like 21 days before you can withdraw any funds.
Obviously you need to have linked up your bank account with PayPal so that you can accept funds.
The PayPal 'help' section is pretty useful and clear and they'll probably be able to explain things better than I have: https://www.paypal.com/uk/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_help&nav=5.
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is my xgirlfriend wanting to work things out with me
Damn, my crystal ball's at the cleaners today!
I guess you'll have to ask her yourself.
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Id like to hear yalls opinions about tongue rings on girls 18+. Ive always wanted one because I loveee piercings/tattoos, I like the way they look, and I always like to have something in my mouth like straws, pens, cigarettes (i really want to quit). I wouldn be that girl whos always showing it off and would want it far back enough where its not terribly noticable.
Do you think its trashy when a girl has a tongue ring? (Like i said, not showing if off but if you just noticed when she was lauging or something)
Thanks!
It's your body and you can do what you want with it. As with any body modification, there will be people who love it and there will also be those who don't like it or consider it 'trashy'. The most important opinion is your own.
However, at the risk of sounding like a killjoy here, you do need to consider the impact a tongue piercing could have on your current, or any future job you may have. The beauty of piercings is that usually they can be taken out easily when necessary but oral piercings tend to heal very quickly and it will not be as easy and simply slipping it in and out when you need to.
Whatever you do, make sure you read up on the potential complications this kind of piercing can cause so that you are fully aware of any consequences. http://www.bme.com/ is a good website for information on body modifications. It's also really important that you go to a reputable piercer. You can find out how to find a good piercing studio here: http://www.wikihow.com/Find-a-Good-Piercer.
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What birth control pills do you use.
I took Microgynon 30 for three years and never had a single problem with it. I also know of several of my friends who are on it. In the UK, Microgynon is usually the first brand doctors will prescribe to teenage/young girls as it has minimal side effects and is 'safe'. The only reason I stopped taking it was because I didn't need to be on it.
Your doctor will prescribe the best Pill for you and will look at several factors, such as your blood pressure, lifestyle and reason for taking it (birth control, acne, periods etc).
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my boyfriend is a meth user.. i am not.. i am 12 weeks pregnant will having sex with him hurt the fetus
As LM said, if he was using meth when you conceived (assuming he is the father) then there is a chance the foetus could be damaged as a result.
Regardless, why the Hell are you putting your unborn child at risk by staying with a drug user? Prolonged use of Methamphetamine can cause severe psychological and physical harm, which doesn't create an ideal environment for a baby.
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im 16 and scared to death to open my mouth that i cut myself about 3 different times .. i still hav cuts on my wristbut there not that bad ... do i still have to tell them i havent did it in like 2 mouths but i think about it sometimes.. i still cry myself to sleep .. i took pills to try to goto sleep forever but they didnt work ... do i tell them or not .. i think im ok now tho
I think it's important you tell SOMEONE.
I can understand why you would find it difficult to tell your grandma but you do need to talk about this with someone so you can get some support.
Is there a teacher at school you have a good relationship with? Or another adult in your life that you trust? These would be good people to go to. Alternatively, you could see your school councillor, who will be well equipped to deal with this kind of situation. They may also be able to help you tell your grandma if you chose to.
If you don't feel able to tell your grandma face to face then consider writing her a letter. It may be easier to get all your feelings out on paper.
I know it's scary telling someone what's going on but whatever you do, please don't feel you have to deal with this alone. You need someone to talk to and support you.
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can i peirce the skin above my clitorious? its small and very thin and its not on the clitorios.. its about half an inch above it?
Yes you can, it's called a clitoral hood piercing.
The most common hood piercings are the VCH (vertical clitoral hood) and HCH (horizontal clitoral hood). These are not piercings that can be performed on everyone because there needs to be enough skin. A reputable piercer will be able to tell you whether or not your anatomy is suitable for piercing. You can read more about clitoral hood piercings here: http://wiki.bmezine.com/index.php/Hood_Piercing
http://tattoo.about.com/cs/beginners/a/vertclithood.htm
Please ensure you go to a reputable piercer. This is NOT an area of your body you want to mess around with. You can read about how to find a good piercer here: http://www.wikihow.com/Find-a-Good-Piercer.
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Yesterday me my bf and his friends were hanging out..
then we all went to his friends place and there me and my bf were having a long chat in the bedroom...
but then suddenly he came close to me and started kissing me in my cheeks and finally we ended up smooching and he sucked my breast and thats it...
we had a great time and i felt safe with him..
but then after we came home he dint even messaged or called me once and its like everytime ...
do you guys think is it that he is just interested in my body and not in me?
i really love him...
but i want him to love me and not my body...
whenever we are together he is good to me bt as the day starts he changes ...
please help!!!!!!!
Stop letting him do that stuff and if he stops calling, then you'll know he was only after your body.
And don't get upset if it does turn out that way because it means he's a jerk and you shouldn't be wasting your time with him anyway.
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ok so i have dry skin and i want to wear makeup but also keep my skin moisturized at the same time. my aunt says that i should use Mac for makeup. any ideas?
MAC do brilliant skin make-up so it's definitely worth checking them out. If you go to their counter and tell them want to find the best make-up for your skin type they will try out some different products on you to find the best match for your skin.
However, MAC is expensive and depending on how many products you buy, it's probably going to set you back a fair bit. Personally, I like to buy a high-quality foundation and concealer as these are the base of your make-up and the most important. It's okay to spend a less on blush, powder and eye make-up.
A good alternative is to buy a tinted moisturiser. These are similar to a foundation and will give you colour but also keep your skin moisturised. Another advantage is that they're lighter than foundation, which is more comfortable and better for your skin.
Most make-up brands have tinted moisturisers in their ranges, including the less expensive ones. It's worth going to a drug store or somewhere that sells make-up and trying out different products to find one you like best. Use the testers on the inside of your wrist as the skin here is closest in tone to your face. You want to find a colour that is as close to your natural tone as possible to avoid looking orange or too pale.
Always remember that a good skin regime is the key to your skin looking good. Cleanse and moisturise morning and night and always remember to fully remove your make-up before you go to bed. I like to invest in a high quality moisturiser because I think it makes all the difference. Clinique do a good skincare range but I love Liz Earle (http://uk.lizearle.com/?cmp=google_brand&kw=liz+earle+e). Again, it's important to choose products that are right for your skin type. Most good skincare brands sell products for dry skin.
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why would you vote for a women president?
Because you agree with her beliefs, values, what she stands for and her plans for the country?
Gender should be irrelevant here. You should vote for who you think stands for what you believe in and will do the best job of leading the country.
I'm a young woman with strong feminist beliefs and I'm very interested in issues concerning women. But if given the choice between two candidates, one male, one female, I would vote for the one who I most aligned myself with politically, regardless of gender.
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I'm 13, 114, 5'3 and my legs are kinda fat, how should I lose weight without dieting?
And if my parents find out they would kill me
I answered a very similar question to this yesterday. Rather than typing out something similar again, I'll refer you to that answer here: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=595728.
I will add though that at 5'3" and 114lbs, you do not need to lose weight.
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I'm not fat, well everyone says I'm not or I'm a twig but I think my legs are fat, well only when I wear a swimsuit. does anyone have any suggestions to make me look skinnier like any colors that make you look smaller? or any good tips on how to lose weight. mostly on your thighs though? thanks ! please help. (:
by the way I'm a 13 yearold girl. you probably think "she's too young to worry about he weight."
no I'm 13, about 5'2 and around 117 pounds. but my mom weighs one 20. is that not good?
I'm not going to give you the answer you want.
Not because I want to rant at you or because I don't want to help but because I don't think giving you useless information about how to be skinny will make you any happier.
Do you know what I wish someone had told me when I was 13? That the idea that I'd be happier if my legs were thinner, or I was taller, or my stomach was flatter or my nose was smaller is bullsh*t.
You can't base your self worth on how much you weigh or how much OTHER PEOPLE weigh. So your mum doesn't weigh much more than you, what's the big deal? You're different people. FYI, at 5'2" and 117lbs you're absolutely fine. I'm 5'0" and 147. Am I fat? No, I just have a different build to you. Take a look at this website: http://www.mybodygallery.com/index.html
You enter your weight, height, dress size etc and it shows you pictures of other women who have exactly the same stats as you. I think you'll find it really eye opening, I certainly did. Looking at pictures of women who were the 'same' as me but who I thought had gorgeous figures was certainly a confidence boost.
The thing is, I could give you exercises to make your thighs slimmer or tell you to go on a diet, but what good would it do? If you aren't body confident, you will ALWAYS find something you don't like about yourself.
All through my teenage years I hated my body and for what? Ultimately, unless you are severely over or under weight and need to change it for health reasons, then this is the body you were given and the one that suits you best. I've come to realise that I am who I am. I'm healthy, my body is healthy and as far as I'm concerned, that's all that matters. If there's nothing medically wrong with it then what's the issue? It's a myth that you have to live up to the ideals we see in magazines, of so-called beautiful women with perfect figures and it makes me really angry when I see 'bikini body' articles around this time of year.
When I was bikini shopping this year I spent FOREVER searching for the shapes and styles I thought I should be wearing. I was looking at ones aimed at much older women because I felt my body wasn't good enough for the colourful, exciting ones in my favourite shops. In the end I thought 'I don't care anymore' and I bought two bikinis which I really liked. Who cares if I'm not as skinny as the models who wear them in magazines?
When I hit the beach this Summer I'm going to think 'Damn, my curves look good in this'.
And THAT is what I wish someone had told me to do when I was 13.
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at my daughters school next year,(9th grade) in PE there will be a swim unit and boys and girls have it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable. Wouldn't boys use this opportunity to harass or humilate girls? Also, why are boys allowed to be shirtless in the presence of girls? Why is no sense of modesty maintained
I find it interesting that you are only concerned with how GIRLS might feel uncomfortable in this situation.
What about the boys?
What makes you think that a boy wouldn't be just as embarrassed and uncomfortable as a girl in this situation?
Males and females of all ages swim together outside of schools. Would you stop your daughter from swimming at a public pool because boys will be around? Or stop her from wearing a bathing suit at the beach?
Do you know what I think would encourage males and females to feel uncomfortable about their bodies around each other? Keeping them separate all the time. If children are brought up thinking that it's wrong to see each other's bodies unless they are fully clothed at all times then they're going to feel a lot more uncomfortable in the long run.
As for boys with their shirts off, that's hardly anything new. There is nothing 'dirty' or 'rude' about a bare male chest. They don't have breasts in the same sense as females and I'd argue that a bare chest is no more inappropriate than bare legs. I'm sure very few girls will feel uncomfortable because boys have their shirts off.
Looking at the other questions you've asked, I don't think you're asking this question out of genuine parental concern but I thought I may as well put my two cents in.
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Hi.I'm a 24 year old female, I stopped going for my injection last year november,is it possible for me to fall pregnant?
Uh, yes?
The Depo shot (which is the most common and therefore the one I will assume you were on) lasts for 12 weeks. You don't need to be a mathematician to work out that last November is more than 12 weeks ago.
Some women do find that it can take up to a year for their fertility to return to normal after discontinuing the injection but unless you are trying to conceive you need to be using some other form of contraception.
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