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swim suit season !
I'm not fat, well everyone says I'm not or I'm a twig but I think my legs are fat, well only when I wear a swimsuit. does anyone have any suggestions to make me look skinnier like any colors that make you look smaller? or any good tips on how to lose weight. mostly on your thighs though? thanks ! please help. (:
by the way I'm a 13 yearold girl. you probably think "she's too young to worry about he weight."
no I'm 13, about 5'2 and around 117 pounds. but my mom weighs one 20. is that not good?
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its probably just genetics..
honestly.. why are you putting so much effort into a SWIMSUIT...?? umm newsflash.. nobody is going to care what color or what style. Yeah you want to look good.. but who are you trying to impress?? you're 13. You shouldn't have to go through all this hassle to find the "perfect" swimsuit.
Let me ask you this. lets say you did a bunch of research and found a swimsuit that would hypothetically make you look better. Would you be happy?? or are you just doing this to make other's happy?
My point is.. get a swimsuit YOU like and that will make YOU happy. Don't try to please other people. I used to be like you too. I was your age once. I went through all this hell, trying to buy the most expensive clothes because it would "make me look good" and because "everyone was wearing that style".. but in all honesty- I was just trying to make other people happy, but I wasn't happy at all. I actually HATED that style of clothing, I was just buying the clothes because I thought other people would like them better on me.
Then I realize, who gives a damn what other people think about me?? I'm going to buy clothes that I like. If other's don't like them on me, then they can turn around and stare in the other direction.
Buy a swimsuit that will make YOU happy. Don't go through all this research and crap just to find something that will make others happy. Its not worth it.. its a frickin swimsuit... nobody will care.
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I'm not going to give you the answer you want.
Not because I want to rant at you or because I don't want to help but because I don't think giving you useless information about how to be skinny will make you any happier.
Do you know what I wish someone had told me when I was 13? That the idea that I'd be happier if my legs were thinner, or I was taller, or my stomach was flatter or my nose was smaller is bullsh*t.
You can't base your self worth on how much you weigh or how much OTHER PEOPLE weigh. So your mum doesn't weigh much more than you, what's the big deal? You're different people. FYI, at 5'2" and 117lbs you're absolutely fine. I'm 5'0" and 147. Am I fat? No, I just have a different build to you. Take a look at this website: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
You enter your weight, height, dress size etc and it shows you pictures of other women who have exactly the same stats as you. I think you'll find it really eye opening, I certainly did. Looking at pictures of women who were the 'same' as me but who I thought had gorgeous figures was certainly a confidence boost.
The thing is, I could give you exercises to make your thighs slimmer or tell you to go on a diet, but what good would it do? If you aren't body confident, you will ALWAYS find something you don't like about yourself.
All through my teenage years I hated my body and for what? Ultimately, unless you are severely over or under weight and need to change it for health reasons, then this is the body you were given and the one that suits you best. I've come to realise that I am who I am. I'm healthy, my body is healthy and as far as I'm concerned, that's all that matters. If there's nothing medically wrong with it then what's the issue? It's a myth that you have to live up to the ideals we see in magazines, of so-called beautiful women with perfect figures and it makes me really angry when I see 'bikini body' articles around this time of year.
When I was bikini shopping this year I spent FOREVER searching for the shapes and styles I thought I should be wearing. I was looking at ones aimed at much older women because I felt my body wasn't good enough for the colourful, exciting ones in my favourite shops. In the end I thought 'I don't care anymore' and I bought two bikinis which I really liked. Who cares if I'm not as skinny as the models who wear them in magazines?
When I hit the beach this Summer I'm going to think 'Damn, my curves look good in this'.
And THAT is what I wish someone had told me to do when I was 13.
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