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Can I put my period on hold for a day? I heard vinegar works but how?
That is what is called an"Old wives Tale" and they never work. Once you start your period it has to run its course.
My sister has super bad breath that smells. I don't want to b mean but I want to tell her so that she'll brush more.
It may not be her teeth. It may be her tongue and gums. She should use a mouth wash and watch what she eats. She also need to see her dentist to see what in her mouth is causing her bad breath.
If it is not something in her mouth. I would suggest you suggest she see an internist as it is probably something in her stomach causing the problem.
Ok my and my fiance were making up and we begun to hump with our clothes off we're naked bt we were cautious that I would get pregnant so we did it for 5 minutes until I told him stop because I wasn't ready to be a mother but I'm still paranoid of the situation can you tell me what to think he say he didn't precum but I'm still confused if I felt it or not because I'm a virgin can you help me with ya honest opinion. Can you feel precum? It wasn't any signs of it on the bed or sheets?
Precum is the semen that he emits as a lubricant during intercourse and can be emitted while masturbating or dry humping. He may or may not feel it when he emits his precum during intercourse you will not feel it.
When dry humping you should both fell it when and if he emits any precum for suddenly you will feel some wetness where you were dry just be for he did. As long as he is not humping you near your vaginas' entrance there is little to no chance you will become pregnant.
There is sperm in the precum, enough to make a woman pregnant. It first has to enter the vagina to do so. Then make the long swim to find an egg. To find an egg you have to be ovulating. So knowing where in your cycle you are will help you determine how fertile you are.
Again as long as semen did not come near your vagina, their is little chance a sperm could make the swim to an egg.
I hope this answers your question.
So this guy i know is saying on Facebook that he is going out with me and he didn't even ask! (Even if he did i wouldn't say yes) anyways, i need him to stop!! people are starting to ask, and i don't really know what to say.
PLEASE HELP!
I believe this is something you can have facebook administrators do something about if you report him. It is a form of stalking which is against the rules of facebook. If you report him they can warn him and monitor his account. If he continues they will shut him down.
Everytime my boyfriend fingers me now, it hurts reallly bad ): It never used to hurt up until a couple weeks ago when it hurt so bad that it was a little swollen. I dont know what is causing it to hurt but I want it to stop. It dosen't hurt when we have sex though so thats the confusing part. Anyone know what could be causing this?
The first writer may be on to something but I don't think it is dirty fingers. I think the oils in his fingers, which may not be found in his penis or is protected from you by a condom, may be irritating to your vagina.
This is going to sound silly. One way to find out is the next time your boyfriend fingers you have him wear a latex cooking glove or put a condom over his finger. If the hurting doesn't happen you have your answer. In a sense you could say you are somewhat allergic to your boyfriend or to things he comes in contact during the day which do not wash of with soap and water.
If you still hurt even with his hand protected; then I would suggest seeing your GYN as something else is wrong. Why you hurt only during foreplays mutual masturbation and not during intercourse; I cannot say. I'm not a doctor. It is worth having a doctor check this out for foreplay is a big part of good sex.
hi after several surgeries i was given some great narcotic drugs. well now im out and cANt get more- i cant even get some to taper off. so now im a pill addict! i hAve begun to drink wine AT NIGHT-to cAlm my nerveS AND ANXiety-thiS I Know is wrong, but im Stuck! no one understands... help me plz.
I kind of know where your at with this. I suffer from chronic pain and take a number of different medications. While my daily meds are non-narcotic you can get dependant on anything if you take them long enough. I do have Vicodin that I can use for what is called break through medication when the pain breaks through my daily meds.
My pain doctor counts these pills closely. He also has a computer system that allows him to see if any other doctor I see has prescribed these or any other narcotic pin killers for me. His intent, as well as my other doctors are to make sure I don't abuse or become hooked on these medications.
It appears from what you have written your doctors were not as diligent as mine have been. Now you need help detoxing. While the wine takes the edge off you can also become alcohol dependent on top of the pain pill dependency.
My advice is that before you become dependant on alcohol making you an alcoholic you need to seek treatment for withdrawal from the pain pills. Their is no shame in this. This is more the doctors fault then yours for not properly monitoring you and then cutting you off cold turkey.
You can seek help on your own or I suggest you call your insurance company. They can advise you of the different options they cover and who in your neighborhood you can go to for help.
If you decide to seek help on your own then I suggest you seek the help of a Board Certified Psychiatrist. No your not crazy. Psychiatrist are better trained to deal with issues of dependency than your family doctor is. They can also prescribe medications that will help you come of the narcotics that are causing you pain and anxiety better than your family doctor.
My wife works for the largest substance abuse managed care company in this country. They manage the care for many of the insurance companies subscribers. Their doctors are very good at this and have a high level of success. All you need to do is work with the doctors and therapists to have success.
Be it my wife's company or another that is managing your care. The key to your success is going to be you and your willingness to get better.
Good luck, help is just a matter of asking for it.
Okay so my mom is all old fashion and doesn't let me do anything. But I really want to dye my hair. She says it will damage my hair so I'm like FINE whatever! So then I found out about dying my hair with kool-aid but she still wont give in I'm soooo mad about it. So what should I do I'm 12 I'm not a child anymore!
By law you are not an adult responsible for yourself until you are 18. Your still a child until then and at 12 you are not even a teenager.
These are the true facts of life. If you were to run away from home the cops would find you, take you into protective custody and you could be made a word of the courts placed under court supervision. If you think mom is being tough; try living under court supervision.
There is an old saying that every parent has said and Evey child has sworn they would never say to their child. Yet when you have your own children the time will come when you will say; "As long as you live under my roof, you will live under my rules." My parents said it to me, I have said it to mine and You WILL say it to yours.
The facts are that parents rule until your 18 then when you leave the nest, their house, you can if you wish do as you please to a certain extent. As I said these are the real facts of life. By law your parents are responsible for your health and well being. This includes if you should be allowed to dye your hair.
I know you don't want to be called a child any more and the term young adult does not truly fit either. When my son was your age I coined the phrase "betweener". To young to be called a child and not old enough to be an adult. An age that really sucks and is hard to accept with everything that is going on in your life.
My suggestion is to calm down. Mom will never give in if you act like a child and scream and cry if you don't get you way. You want to dye your hair, then prove her fears wrong. Do the research. Show her their are ways to do so that are not with harsh chemicals that will damage your hair. That there are organic hair dyes on the market that she may not be aware of.
Taking a calm approach to any subject with supporting evidence will make it hard for mom or any adult to say no. Because now you are making a mature reasonable request. Rather than say I'm going to do or I want to do your making a mature reasonable request backed up with a plan to get there.
So I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over two years now... and we've really gotten into a routine. I am SO in love with him and can't imagine my life without him, but at the same time am quite frustrated with the way things are going. He always wants to make out, but for me it's gotten boring. It feels like a chore now... and I don't understand because I used to love it. I would always want to make out with him but now it's not the same. I don't know what's happened. And it isn't just the making out... it's hanging out too. We do the SAME things all the time and it makes me crazy. I've brought this up before and we've done things to make it more interesting and it works for a while but we always end up going back to watching tv for hours. Since we are planning to get married, this really worries me. I know relationships lose the initial spark after a while, but if this is how it is after 2 years Im afraid things wont work in marriage.
In a way, it feels like we are already married. Like when we go out to dinner occasionally we can barely find things to talk about.I dont feel like we are completely in sync with each other. I dont know what to do. We have gone through this before and come through it and I cant imagine myself without him. I never want to break up with him.
Could it be that Im just not feeling attracted to him anymore? How do I get that back? How can we get the spark back?
Thanks(:
P.S. While I dont want to break up with him, I do sometimes catch myself wondering what it's like to have more dating experience etc. Im so lost, please help!
There may be a couple of things at work here. One thing I would have liked to know is how old the two of you are, especially in light of you're saying; "I do sometimes catch myself wondering what it's like to have more dating experience etc."
Lets start with sex. If sex is the foundation of your relationship then you may be right in what your thinking is. You may want a more intellectual plane as well a the sexual side of your relationship. Women also like and need romance in their relationships including marriage. A hug and kiss when coming home, the occasional flowers whrn there not a reason for them is important to women. What do men want? What they have always wanted. A good women who keeps house, cooks the food, cares for and raises the kids and is an absolute whore in the bedroom.
If you look at these wants one wonders how marriages and relationships ever work out. Mariages are called partnerships for a reason. In every relationship there needs to be compromise. You want romance and to be made to feel sexy. He wants sex. There is room for compromise. You want intimacy (which is not just sex) he wants sex and football. he needs to learn to be more intimate.
I've been married for 40+ years and when we go out to dinner we don't always have things to talk about or didn't. We found new things we could share an interest in. During NASCAR season we have plenty to talk about as we have become avid race fans. We each scour the sports pages looking for racing news. I like to cook and I am learning to bake. Something we can both do together.
Relationships need to evolve and to do that you both have to work at it. This is where your desire for a more intellectual plane comes in. You need to fine things of mutual interest. Sports is always a good place to start. Then there are other interest to explore of which there are thousands. The two of you just have to communicate to each other the desire to take your relationship to a higher level than just sex.
Any relationship built on just one mutual interest, be it sex or anything else,the parties will find themselves where your are today. Wanting more to the relationship. Wanting more is a good thing. Communicating that to your partner is important if the relationship is to grow and mature.
Talk to your partner. Tell him how you feel as him to work with you to find mutual interest outside the bedroom. Tell him you need more intimacy in the bedroom. You need to work at growing interested in things he likes as well as finding things of mutual interest.
You are at a normal point in your relationship. what needs to happen is to have honest communication between you two. Find mutual interest above the sexual level. Take interest in what the other wants and is interested in. This is how relationships grow and mature.
Ok so here's the scoop. My husband and I both are in our 20s. He just got back from a year long deployment in October. Lately i've felt like he doesnt want anything to do with me. He's constantly playing his video games. Like literally all the time! He gets mad when i ask him if he will do simply tasks such as the dishes or just picking up the house a little bit. He's currently on unemployment due to just coming back from deployment. I currently work full time and pregnant. He gets irritated when i ask for a little help and says i need to stop nagging him. I feel like nothing will get done if i dont and the reason i've seen that is because thats how it goes. If i dont push him to do something he wont do it. When i get home from work, i'm tired, exhausted and just wanna relax. But the moment i walk in the door he tells me like oh the dogs need to be fed, etc. I'm just like you cant do simple tasks while i'm at work? He literally sits on the couch playing on his xbox or computer. I just cant handle it. He doesnt spend any time with me. I usually go to bed around midnight due to work, and he doesnt come to bed until like 6am or sometimes 8am. I have to like beg him to come to bed and he'll leave sometimes when i fall asleep just to make me happy but of course i wake up in the middle of the night due to being pregnant and having to pee a lot sorry TMI and find him once again on his games. I'm worried that once the baby comes he's going to continue in his ways, granted the baby isnt due until July but still. Any advice or suggestions on what i should do? I do rate and thanks for reading i just had to get this outta my system!
You do not say where your husband was deployed to. If I assume it was to one of the war zones I can make the assumption that your husband is suffering from PTSD. Some of the things you write about are symptomatic of PTSD and need to be treated. Many of our returning soldiers have problems acclimating to civilian life partly due to PTSD.
One question before I go any further. You say your husband is unemployed. Was he employed be for he left? If so his former employer is required by law to give him his job back. If his job was eliminated or if they had to employ someone to do his job his employer must still take him back in a similar, equal or greater capacity. If his employer has refused to take him back contact the military command he was discharged from. Failure to reemploy a returning veteran is a Federal offense with huge fines to the employer who refused to give the veteran their job back.
The Military has programs for returning veterans to help them with PTSD. He needs to contact the Veterans Administration for assistance. I'll be frank, at the moment the red tape here is staggering due to under funding and you may want to enlist the help of your Congressman. If you have health insurance form work this is the better way to get you husband the help he needs. Till you need to go through the Veterans Administration as well.
He will probably fight you on this and tell you he is fine. He is not! He needs help and you are going to have to stand your ground and help him get the help he needs. You need to find doctors that specialize in this type of PTSD.
Your insurance company's mental health benefits may be managed by an outside coordinator. If so call them and ask for doctors in your area that are trained in returning war veterans PTSD treatment.
I realize this is hard on you especially being pregnant. Your husband needs your help, not your anger. If he is suffering from PTSD he is not being lazy and his sleep habits are what they are for a reason. It's hard to explain to someone that has not experienced what may have. He needs help to put the war behind him and to learn how to reenter the world we all live in.
Please help him. He has done much to protect our way of life. Now it is up to you and the country to protect and help him.
Ok i know this is going to souond stupid, but im willing to take that risk. ok how many holes does a girl have in her vagina? Because i looked and there was only 2 (counting your butt hole) but wen i wear a tampon i can still pee. Me and my friend were discussing it (i have NO idea why) so just give me an anwser please!
In the diagram found in the following URL. You will find the answers to your question. You only have two holes; you anus, and your vagina. You pee through your urethra located above your vaginal opening and below your clitoris.
Hope this helps.
http://www.vaginaverite.com/diagram1.html
Ok so I'm 15, underweight, and I'm not the healthiest eater. I get nervous about eating because I don't want to gain weight. My friends and family tell me all the time that Im too skinny. I'm 5"4 & I weigh 100 lbs. Everyone in my house has been sick and they were having stomach pains, headaches, and sore throats. So somehow I managed to catch it and after I eat something I feel naseous and when I wake up on the morning I'm a little naseous too. I'm also very gassy nd my stomach has been gargling a lot. Do you think these Could all just be apart of the flu or whatever I caught? Please let me know! Your help and concern are greatly appreciated!
We are not doctors so we cannot make a diagnoses as to what illness you may have. Since the rest of your family has been ill the likelihood you caught whatever bug they have or had is very possible.
I do need to address your weight issue while I'm here especially based on what you have written. Based on your height your are grossly under weight to the point I would call you a borderline anorexic.
In order for our body's to function properly our body's need fuel. Food is the fuel our body's need. To function at it's very best we should weigh in at a proper weight and eat properly. Being underweight is actually more harmful than being slightly overweight.
Our body's are designed to save themselves, when the body does not have what it needs to function it does what it needs to do to survive. To Survive the body will shut down the least need systems first. In underweight people it may be the immune system first, which may be why underweight people are generally so sickly. The body will continue to do so until only the brain the heart, liver and lungs are left. By this time the person is usually in the hospital on life support. The brain is the organ the body wants to save so in order of importance the body shuts down the other organs I listed until only the heart and brain are left.
Am I scarring you? Good! You are anywhere from 20 to 40 pounds underweight depending on your skeletal size. You need to gain weight and do so under a doctors care and supervision.
It is one thing to be thin and in good physical health. From what you have written you are close to being emaciated and in poor to bad health. Your body is sending you signals. It is time to head those signals before it is to late.
I don't know you and I really have no reason to care but I do. You sound like a nice young lady. You need to take care of yourself so we can enjoy your company for as long as you are intended to be with us.
im bipolar and have lost my job with no money coming in and no hopes of finding a job where I live in this small rural area.My mother-in-law is trying to break up my marriage of 27 years to my wife all over a small piece of land that was promised to my wife by her now dead father.My daughter has a life of her own now and my wife never wants to talk anymore.the mortgage company and electric company is at my door ready to diconnect power and throw me out.If im gone motherinlaw will help my wife so I see no other option.Please pray for them after Im gone
There is no reason to end your life over material things. The mortgage company wants the house back? Give it to them. It will be just one more of hundreds they can't unload and one less thing for you to worry about along with the utility bill. You will find some place else to live, that I'm sure of once you are relieved of the stress of dealing with the bank.
Tell you mother in-law that after 27 years you and your wife are a package deal. If she can't see you are ill and need help then she needs to see a doctor as well. I suggest you tell her that exactly as I wrote it. Don't let her bully you in to killing yourself. She is not worth dying for. Material things are not worth dying for.
Next if you are not seeing a psychiatrist you need to see one. If you are see one you need to be totally honest with him or her if you wish to get well. Tell the doctor you have suicidal thoughts and if you have a plan the the doctor needs to know that as well.
Bipolar disorder is the worst type of depression to suffer from. As you wrote to us you were down. Ten minutes later you could be on an ultra high. If as you are reading this you are still considering suicide stop reading and call 911 for help. Otherwise call your doctor's office and tell them you are in crisis. If you don't have a doctor go to the nearest emergency room or call 911.
You have problems yes. Those problems are not unresolvable to any point. Your mother in-law is an ass you need to stand up to. When you do she will back down. Bully's always do.
Don't worry about the material things. When you get the proper treatment you need and stay compliant with the treatment you can start building your life again and start replacing the material things.
All is not lost. You are just seeing then through the fog of depression. Recognize this and take action that clears up the fog so you can regain your life. I too speak from experience. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You just have to keep walking towards that light.
okay so i've had my period for a little over a year now and my mom makes me use pads because she says tampons arent healthy.
im a cheerleader and i hate the feeling of the blood leaking like how can i tell my mom that i perfer wearing tampons?
Your mom has a valid concern. If not used properly, meaning changed at least every 8 hours or more when possible. Tampons can cause an illness called "Toxic Shock Syndrome. This syndrome has been know to cause serious illness and even death in teenagers.
Mom knowing of the active life you lead is probably concerned you won't change your tampon often enough. I don't know you so I can't comment on this. What I can do is offer you a compromise you can offer your mom. Remember the definition of compromise. A compromise is something no party really likes but all parties can live with.
The compromise I suggest is this. Ask mom that for cheerleading, swimming and going out on a date, if you date, she agrees to you using a tampon. These activities all have a specific beginning and ending times by which she can judge how long the tampon will be in place. The rest of the time you will wear a pad.
I didn't have any girls as children though I did act as surrogate dad to my nieces as my sister divorced her husband. I offered this same compromise to my sister when she had a problem with her girls over this. My sister didn't like my suggestion but she could live with it. My nieces weren't thrilled with it but after I explained it was better to have half a pie then no pie at all they came around and embraced the suggestion as well.
When you turn 18 you can do as you please as you will legally be am adult. Until then your mom and dad are responsible for your well being. Whatever they say is law as long as you live under their roof. It is an old saying and in 10 or 15 years you will hear yourself say this. "This is my house my rules." Sometime those rules will bend if you can come up with a proper reason to bend them and present them in a proper and adult manner.
Try my suggestion on mom. You just may find that mom may just bend a little. Just remember to present what I have suggested calmly and in an adult manner.
I have been living with my boyfriend for over a year now things r not going so good.we argue a lot but usually we get over it pretty fast.in other cases we both flip out and he starts getting really violent. He hits me in my face knees me throws me amd mainly chokes me now.i pretty much have gotten used to the hitting it stops hurting fast now but I'm not sire i can handle the verbal abuse.he says he blacks out i love him a lot but im not sure what to do i have no famiky and I'm onoy 17.i need advice please!!
No one should have to put up with being abuse as you describe you are being abused. You need to leave him. His excuse that he blacks out is NO EXCUSE as he should be seeking medical help for the black outs.
Having no place to go is no excuse for you to stay with him. There are agency's and organizations ready, willing and able to help you. The first is the National Domestic Abuse Hotline: Their Number is: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). The second is an organization called RAINN which stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They too operate a 24/7 hotline you can call for help. That number is 1-800-659-HOPE.
Both organizations will help you find shelters and professionals who can assist you in getting away and keeping him away from you. You may love him but his violent streak may one day cause you great harm or even kill you. You are in an abusive relationship and you need to get out before you are more seriously harmed them you are.
If he hits you again call 911 and let the police handle the matter. Yes he will be taken to jail for the night. This is done to give you the opportunity to get away and to protect yourself. The officers will explain this to you. By going to jail for the evening it will also force him to get help as he will most likely be sentenced by the court to seek anger management help and or medical help for his black outs.
Your safety comes first. You have to put yourself and your safety ahead of everything else. Please call one or both of the numbers I've supplied and if he hits you again before you can safely leave dial 911 for help.
Hi I am a 33 year old man, and I'm currently long distance dating a 21 year old.
We have been dating for over a year. And we text all day an mainly text during the night...
I love her she been there for me threw thick and thin... We have so much in common, we can talk for hours an never get bored...
An a while ago I found out she been talking to her ex via- email, im chat and phone convos... An she was still telling him she loves him, she wants too be with him... etc etc...
So when I confronting her, she told me the truth that she had been talking too him, and having sex with her other ex...
I forgave her...
And 5 months roll by...
And her other ex from Texas came by...
She lied and told me she was seeing the Twlight movie, and she met up with him, and went mia all night...
I found out confronted her...
And she told me she did, and she just kiss him and that was it, but she was gone all night...
I forgave her because I didn't have proof that she went beyond kissing... An 2day she sent a strange text too me like it was meant really for someone else, saying that she could be at some place in twenty minutes, an i asked her who was that text to, an she said her little cousin...
i need help... please give me the best advice about this siuation, im confused. and I don't know if i can continue to trust her...
Ps: I cheated on her, but way in the beginning an i've changed drastic for her...
I see two problems here. First is the 12 year difference in your ages. You are more mature than she is not only by age but by worldly experience. Second, from what you have written she is a very immature 21 year old who has not figured out what she wants or direction her life should take.
She lied to you, she cheats on you and you constantly forgive her. Then she continues to lie and cheat. I don't see a mutual romance here. So my advice would be to leave and find someone who would appreciate you.
In the novel, The Good Earth, the character Wang Lung is illiterate. Give me three examples from the book that display Wang Lung's attitude about education. I need 3 examples for the paper i'm writing in english class.. /: please help me.
I didn't know this book was still required reading in school today. I read this book when I was, I believe in Jr. High School which is some 40+ years ago.
I would have to try and find a copy of the book, on-line, to skim through to give you the answer. I don't think it is right for any of us to do your homework for you. You need to read the book. I remember it was not the most interesting book, at the time, I ever read. Now that I am older I understand the meaning of the book.
I seriously doubt you will find anyone here that will do your homework for you. Best I can offer at this time is to see if there is a Cliff Notes available in a book store for this book. It is a faster read and you should find the answer you are looking for.
I so suggest you find the time to read the book.
Subjects of special study/research, work, or special training/skills
We could really use some more information here. Please provide an area of study or work you want to do. Without this information it is impossible to answer this question.
Why is it that sometimes I feel like being the nicest person that I can be and other times I feel like being bitchy?
Sometimes, I can be inspired by a person in my life to be whole-hearted and caring, but other times, I feel like I want attention and I feel like being bitchy. Why is this?
Not knowing your age I'm going to make a leap of faith here and say your being a typical female teenager. It is all hormonal mostly do to puberty. Many females have a harder time with puberty than males because more changes happen to them then males. There are you could say more hormones their body has to adjust too.
Should you feel that these multiple personalities, as you refer to them, are truly effecting your quality of life. Then I suggest you see either your family doctor or your GYN. There are medications that can be prescribed to help you during this time.
Time itself should soften the effect your hormones are having on you. I would also suggest talking to your mom. Fact is if your having these problems it is a pretty good bet she went through the same type of problems at your age. I would say if mom is not constantly screaming at you over this it is because she understands what you are going through.
Puberty can be tough on some kids. You actually you sound a lot like my youngest niece. She had a horrible time with puberty. Her parents were divorced so I was her surrogate father as well as her uncle. It was a tough time for all of us. My older niece breezed right through puberty. I was in the military when my sister went through puberty so I have no idea how it effected her.
My suggestion though is you talk to mom and if you are really bothered by this see your doctor for help.
I really loved your advice. You made a lot of points.
The two complaints were
1) I would accept a wet coupon
2) I hung up on a lady who was calling about her meal and called her an "Asshole".
1. Charlotte explained this to me, and she was confused, she said "This I know isn't true because I use to get on to you for not having proof of coupon when we did your audit" When people would drive to the Menu Board to place their order, I'd ask if they had any coupons and they will say yes, or no and let me know what they are so I can put it in. Therefore, sometimes people forget, or simply don't have their coupons and I still give it to them for the coupon price. If I was to delete the coupon, once it is entered into the computer, I have to have a Manager card, in order to delete it, and the manager on Duty said she never came up there to swip her card; so that was false.
2) The whole phone thing, Charlotte said wouldn't be true either. Because she was working that night, while I was on drive thru. She remembers me telling her there was someone on the phone, but she got busy and forgot. The woman hung up. Called back again. That week our phone line throughout the city we work in were messed up. So the phones would cut out on there own.
Charlotte also told me that people will do whatever it takes to get FREE food, even if it is filing a complaint on someone just to get a free meal. The customer is always right, so when they try to do this, we cannot agrue back.
I talked to Human Resources after Charlotte told me to fight for it back; and they said the cards were in my favor, but they'd have to talk to John. The lady called me back 2 weeks later and told me my wish for my job was denied.
So I don't know. I'm not real sure about the policy there, but I'm going to look into it. Charlotte said on her break, she will call me and give me all the informatin she has about the new area director, and she will answer any of his questions, and help me out.
Sorry so long, but once again, thank you for your time.
Things do look in your favor. If Charlotte backs you and there is no corporate policy against it you should get your job back. It sounds like you work in a fast food restaurant. Some of these are corporately owned and others are privately owned outside of the name on the sign. Some of the private store owners own more than one store and have their own corporations to operate them.
Here in lies the problem you could face. The private corporation can have a different policy than the franchise corporation. Meaning if you don't get your job back and do decide to fight for it back. Make sure you know which corporation your fighting.
Most importantly these types of jobs do not always have the best types of managers. They feel employees like you are standing in line for your job so they are not going to put themselves out for you. That is probably why John took the action he did.
Once you finish school and move on to full time employment this termination will not hurt your future prospects. As long as you didn't steel anything, showed up for work on time, future employers will overlook something like this. Just be honest with people when they ask.
Good luck and reapply for the job if you want to.
lately i have been dealing with severe drama. i'm 16 years old and i am talking to a guy who is much older than me. but thats not where the drama is. lately ive been being harrassed. and im working on telling someone. but i keep having this awkward feeling on the inside. its like anxiety. how do i just relax and get this feeling to go away?
The anxiety will go away when you deal with whatever the harassment is about or whoever is harassing you. If this is happening in school or school related you tell a teacher or principal about it. If the harassment is sexual in nature it may also involve the schools police resource officer.
Harassment in general and sexual harassment is a zero tolerance item in today's schools as it is a form of bullying. Bullying is also a zero tolerance item. You have a right to attend school without being harassed, hazed or bullied.
You also need to inform your parents so that they can make sure you are properly protected from your harasser. Some forms of harassment the schools or parents just are not capable of handling properly. That is where the police come in.
It may sound scary that the person who is harassing you could be arrested. Understand that society has rules. While whoever is harassing may think he or she is just having fun at your expense, they may also be breaking the law. They may even know what they are doing is unlawful but reason they are under age and will get away with it. Unfortunately for them it is no longer true. But that is not your concern. Your concern is for your own safety and piece of mind.
Tell your parents today. Then if this is a school issue, you and your parents can inform the school authorities tomorrow. However this ends up being handled you are not at fault for anything that happens to him, her or them or has happened to you. They, them, him or her are responsible unto himself or themselves and will have to learn there are consequences for their actions.
You like they have rights. Your rights to live peacefully trumps the rights of anyone that violates your rights and breaks the law in doing so. I say this to you so you do not hesitate any longer in reporting whoever is harassing you.