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i want to dye my hair red but my mom wont let me until i move out
Okay so my mom is all old fashion and doesn't let me do anything. But I really want to dye my hair. She says it will damage my hair so I'm like FINE whatever! So then I found out about dying my hair with kool-aid but she still wont give in I'm soooo mad about it. So what should I do I'm 12 I'm not a child anymore!
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Parents are so frustrating sometimes, right?! My mom doesn't let me do anything either (I'm 14) and wants me to be "mainstream" even though I feel inside that I'm more the "cool arty type." My advice is to give it a little time- 12 is young, trust me. Even though it might seem so important to you now, your feelings may change. I persuaded my parents into redoing my room when I was 12, and I already don't like it because I changed a lot in the past 2 years, and you will too!
Or, if you're dead-set on this, I would say to make a deal with her. Say something like, "what about when I'm 13?" that would still be relatively soon,, and try to make it sound reasonable. But there's a strong chance that your desires will change, I'm warning you. You are still very young. And remember, in the grand scheme of things, is dying your hair really that big a deal? Or tell her ridiculous things other girls your age want, to try to make your request sound better. I don't know. Good luck!
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If you were like 15, I would tell you to talk to your mom. But you are 12, and yes, you are kid. Listen to your mother, she knows the best!
Go play with barbie dolls and stuff, to dye your hair and have a boyfriend you are gonna have A LOT of time!
But you can Never get your childhood back. ;)
xoxo
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By law you are not an adult responsible for yourself until you are 18. Your still a child until then and at 12 you are not even a teenager.
These are the true facts of life. If you were to run away from home the cops would find you, take you into protective custody and you could be made a word of the courts placed under court supervision. If you think mom is being tough; try living under court supervision.
There is an old saying that every parent has said and Evey child has sworn they would never say to their child. Yet when you have your own children the time will come when you will say; "As long as you live under my roof, you will live under my rules." My parents said it to me, I have said it to mine and You WILL say it to yours.
The facts are that parents rule until your 18 then when you leave the nest, their house, you can if you wish do as you please to a certain extent. As I said these are the real facts of life. By law your parents are responsible for your health and well being. This includes if you should be allowed to dye your hair.
I know you don't want to be called a child any more and the term young adult does not truly fit either. When my son was your age I coined the phrase "betweener". To young to be called a child and not old enough to be an adult. An age that really sucks and is hard to accept with everything that is going on in your life.
My suggestion is to calm down. Mom will never give in if you act like a child and scream and cry if you don't get you way. You want to dye your hair, then prove her fears wrong. Do the research. Show her their are ways to do so that are not with harsh chemicals that will damage your hair. That there are organic hair dyes on the market that she may not be aware of.
Taking a calm approach to any subject with supporting evidence will make it hard for mom or any adult to say no. Because now you are making a mature reasonable request. Rather than say I'm going to do or I want to do your making a mature reasonable request backed up with a plan to get there.
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Ask your mom to check that website out. It's 100% NATURAL with no chemicals and will make your hair more healthy and shiny. It won't ruin it at all. When you click on the color dye you want, it shows you exactly what was used to make it. I suggest using Caca Rouge for getting really red hair. Also, tell her to read the reviews so she can see what other people have to say about the hair dye.
I used to refuse to dye my hair because I didn't want chemicals to ruin it until I found that hair dye.
Be calm and mature about this. You won't get your way by being bratty to your mom and throwing tantrums. If she says no now, try waiting for a few weeks and ask again in the beginning of January. Constantly nagging her about it will only make her angry, and she'll keep saying no.
She still might stay no. If that happens, you'll just have to wait a couple years and try again when you're older.
Seriously though, that hair dye is fantastic. Hope she agrees to it.
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You're mum's being strict with the matter because hair dye can damage your hair because of the chemicals in it - not to mention the risk of having an allergic reaction.
Talk to her about vegetable dyes (they're natural and don't have chemicals, meaning they're safe) I've used them before and I have to say, I prefered them to all the other hair dyes in the market.. You could always get her to speak to a hair dresser to discuss vegetable dyes, so she can see for herself they are safe.
I wouldn't bother with the kool aid idea - it will last a few days at best and you have to actually sleep with it in your hair. Hassle!
Or perhaps come to an agreement, for example, if you do well in a certain school subject, your reward can be colouring your hair.. or maybe as a birthday/Christmas present.
..However, if she still says no, you're just gonna have to grin and bear it - the more you go on and on about it, the less she will want to let you do it.
Good luck though, sweetie!
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You should listen to what your mom says. You are still a child, you're only 12. Dying your hair with kool aid still isn't good for your hair. Just act a little more grown up by listening to her. If you weren't acting like a child you probably wouldn't be acting immature about the whole idea.
So just wait and then when you're older and still want to dye your hair, then you can. But right now, you're under your moms rules so just go with it.
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"I'm 12 I'm not a child anymore!"
Of course you are! You're 12! You're ATLEAST 6 years from being an adult. When you are a child, you are incapable of making long-term sensible decisions. That is why when you are 18, you are an adult and can make such decisions. Until then, you have to abide by your mothers rules.
If your mother says you can't dye your hair, then don't dye your hair. An adult understand that it is being done for their own best interest. A child complains and moans and gets upset and replies with "FINE whatever!".
Kool-aid doesn't seem like a good idea: its not exactly natural. I say you wait. You're 12: you're not supposed to dye your hair, and it does damage it (kool-aid or not).
I don't suppose this will be the advice you're looking for, but that's reality for you.
Good luck.
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