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I am doing research into the teenage mind of dating and relationships and was wondering how old are you?
If you are aged between 13-23 then could you please answer me how you feel around people you like? what do you feel like you want to do when you're in a relationship? do you know if you like someone or not? if yes please specify how? I am a female aged anon (link)
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I am a 16 year old girl. I know when I really like a guy because I will feel a physical attraction and an emotional attraction toward them. I've had crushes where I think a guy is hot but then I realize I don't actually like him. My biggest crushes have come from when I initially think a guy is cute, then I become friends with him and start to like his personality, then I think he's really cute and all of a sudden he's all I can think about. Right now I'm in a relationship and have been for six months, I still get butterflies every time we hang out and I think that's because I had developed a huge crush on him overtime prior to dating, so the relationship still excites me.
With the way that technology is nowadays, a lot of teens really get to know each other through texting (late night texting convos can really bring people together) but I often overreact if my boyfriend doesn't reply to a text or doesn't post pictures of us on Facebook, etc. Technology can be very helpful in fueling teen relationships in the beginning because you are more comfortable saying something behind a screen to someone you like than in person. And you can contact them at any time. But it can also be detrimental to relationships because one person may text too much and feel that the other person isn't doing enough or the other way around. My main point is that technology plays a huge point in teen relationships.
As far as what I want to do in relationships, it totally depends on the guy I'm dating. Since I am only sixteen, I will not have sex with my boyfriend. Other teens don't think the same way as I do, but the thought of having to tell my parents I am pregnant totally crushes any desire I would have to have sex with him. Since we've been dating for six months, we've gone as far as oral sex but I won't go any further until it's been at least a year, we are using protection, and I feel that I really love him. I don't think that I've ever truly LOVED a boyfriend I've had, only really liked them. I don't love my current boyfriend, I don't think he loves me, even though we've said that we do. I'm too young for love. But I still feel heart wrenching pain when someone I really like hurts my feelings.
This was a long answer, sorry. I hope I was helpful.
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I'm 13 years old and really thinking about getting my belly button pierced, should I?? I'm only holding back because they might think I'm a s**t or too young but my mum approves but I don't know bout school?? Plz help;) (link)
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I really think you should wait a few years, cuz even though you may feel certain you want that now, your mind might change. Getting a belly button piercing is a PERMANENT change to your body, so I would really think about whether you want that for the rest of your life. I would say hold off for at least two or three years. And yes, it may send an odd message to your peers, but who cares what other people think? This is about you and your body.
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Ok, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a few months now and we really like each other and he has lately been asking if he could touch/feel them, what should I tell him, oh and I am 12 and he is 13, Thanks. (link)
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Ask yourself, are you comfortable with that? If you think you would be comfortable then go ahead, but if you have doubts I would wait. I let my ex do that to me and I wish I didn't... it was just kind of weird and awkward. You're really young, but it's totally up to you. Do what YOU are comfortable with, and if you aren't sure, then don't do it. Make sure you don't go any farther than you want to. Good luck! :)
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I am a 15 year old girl. I cheated on my boyfriend, told him, he broke up with me. i am still in love with him, and its been 2 months all i want is to get him back. I have no clue what to do or say, everything fall apart he left. Don't me tell i should move on cause i'm young, and i have my whole life ahead of me because i'm of hearing that, it doesn't fix anything. (link)
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Just tell him that you're really sorry, which I'm sure you are. Say that you're young, you made a mistake, but you really love him and you still want to be with him. Tell him that you care about him a ton and promise to never cheat again. If he still turns you down, then you should move on. But tell him how you feel and that you are truly sorry. Good luck, hope everything works out :)
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I am 13 and a female.
We have been going out for about a month and a half and we still havent kissed. we have talked about it but then i was nervous so i didnt and he said that we would do it when we saw eachother...but it never happend obviously. So can soneone help me? Should I make the first move? Oh yeah im not sure if this will help but two weeks ago he broke his femur bone or something like that. will it make my chances of getting a kiss slimmer? PLEASE HELP!!!!! (link)
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If I were you, I would just go for it. Just lean in and do it, or if you want you can ask him before. What I did for my first kiss was I said my boyfriend's name and he looked up at me, then I just gently went in and kissed him. I was VERY nervous, but it really isn't that big of a deal. If you guys have been dating for a month and a half, he likes you enough to kiss you. After you've done the first kiss, the rest won't be a big deal. So you could just lean in when the time feels right, or you could ask him about it when you're with him- you could be like "do you wanna kiss now" or something. Go for it, you'll be fine :)
Good luck!! Hope I helped!
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15/f
so me and this guy have known each other for a while, and have been friends for around 4 years. hes diffidently my best guy friend. so anyways every year i feel like were becoming closer and closer. and this year i kinda started to fall for him. recently, i noticed that whenever we talk, especially when i look him in the eye and talk to him, he smiles and blushes, and occasionally looks away for a moment. and when other people talk to him he doesnt do that. atleast not that i know of. no one knows i like him tho. hes really funny, we get along great. we know how to make each other laugh and i like that a lot. but sometimes i just feel like i text him too much about pointless stuff that he doesnt care about and i want to talk to him so badly but i just dont want to seem like annoying, you know?
so anyways, sometimes he can be a bit of a jerk with some of the things he says, but its lessened a lot and he is usually joking around.
but this weekend im going to his sweet 16 birthday party and im excited but i dont know what to expect.
how can i really tell if he likes me or not? its so hard to tell with guys, whether they're into you, just being nice, or flirting is just how they act, or if they're even flirting at all (link)
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I'm in a very similar situation right now. I think your best bet is to flirt a lot and show him that you are interested. Try complimenting him and trying to talk to him even more. Smile and laugh when he talks to you. It sounds like he may like you from what you said, but then again, it's hard to tell with guys :) If you feel comfortable telling him that you like him, you could try that also (that's what I did) but if not, I would suggest flirting a lot. As for texting him a lot, I struggle with the same thing! I want to talk to him but I don't want to annoy him. I think texting him in moderation is good. You know, you can text him sometimes but I would try not to do it every day (unless he texts you first). But I'd say your chances of him liking you are pretty good- best friends seem to fall for each other a lot. Wear something cute to his party and keep flirting ;)
Good luck! Hope everything works out!
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Ok so yesterday, me and my boyfriend hung out in town. We have only been dating for about 2 weeks. Im 13/f and he's 14. We hug and occasionally kiss (mouth closed) and so we were cuddling and he kissed me and I kissed him back and he tried to make out with me but a few days ago I told him I wasnt ready. We were walking together last night and while he was walking me home, he stopped beside the abandon bowling alley and I went over and asked what he was doing and he said it was warming against the wall of the building. We stood there and out of no where, he said "I know you havent made out with anyone before but just do what I do" I said ok and so we started making out. Apparently Im good at it. He was pulling me closer and had his hands on my butt. I didnt know what to do. Is that a signal for something? He says that someday he wants to marry me. Adice? Opinions? (link)
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Hey, I'm fourteen/f and I recently dumped a guy who sounds quite similar to your boyfriend. We made out on the first day of dating, which is sooo unlike me, but he asked me and I felt dumb saying no. We made out a lot for the three weeks we dated, and he even talked me into giving him a handjob and he felt me up and all that, and I truly regret it. I dumped him because I didn't want to be in a relationship like that; he was using me- and I sensed it was just a matter of time before he dumped me. The guy you're dating sounds like he really just wants you for sex and kissing, and if you feel uncomfortable with the relationship, END IT. Trust me. Before you guys end up going too far like my ex and I did. If you don't like the feeling of what you're doing and you don't want to do that stuff, you don't have to. If your boyfriend is a good boyfriend, he will understand that you may be uncomfortable with making out and all that. If he gets angry that you don't want to do that stuff or keeps pressuring you to do stuff with him that he knows you don't want to do, you should dump him. Good luck, hope everything works out!!!
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I need a fast/painless way to commit suicide. I've already made up my mind so please don't tell me not to do it. (link)
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I know a ten year old girl who battled with cancer for three years, trying desparately to live, but she died. My grandma died very recently and I was so sad. Death makes people sad. Suicide is a SELFISH action. Please, you have value. People care about you, even if you feel that they don't. Do not take your own life, please. Call the suicide hotline or go to a hospital if you really cannot bring yourself out of this state. You are not alone. You are a wonderful, unique individual and you shouldn't cheat yourself out of life when there will be so much more in your future. There is no painless way to commit suicide, and the pain you will cause in the people that love you if you do it will be damaging beyond repair. You are a beautiful individual.
Xoxo hope everything works out well for you
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12/F Ok well I've asked a question about this before about me not wanting to have sex with my boyfriend and well I kinda took the advise until a few weeks ago:(it was his birthday and we were at his house in his bedroom and then we were playing truth or dare I got dared to have sex with him...infront of everyone!so well I said no at first but then everyone got mad so I said yes and well we did! And now I have missed my period and I'm gettin symptoms of pregnancy and I don't know what to do! Help please! I hate myself for doing it!I feel like such a slut! (link)
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Hey, I would take the advice that others have written here for the possible pregnancy part, but I just want you to know that you are not a slut. Sluts are girls who offer themselves up for sex, who dress really revealingly because they want guys to hook up with them. You are someone who was pressured into having sex, you weren't out there trying to get it. You aren't a slut and feeling down on yourself will only make things worse. You realize your mistake and that's what counts. But yeah, your friends sound pretty bad for pressuring you to do something like that. I'm sorry about the whole situation, I hope everything works out okay!!!
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Sorry for the length. Thanks in advance for all answers.
All my life, I've always been that fat girl that always eats. 2 years ago, it got the best of me, and I started skipping breakfast and eating only a little for lunch. Then, I would eat a ton at home. It went on for a few months until I realized it wasn't doing me any good. Then last year, a started doing it again except I would completely stop eating lunch because I had honor society stuff to do. And it didn't help that I was really self conscious around my bf and two of my best friends at the time did the same as me. It was so hard to stop. After my bf and I broke up and I drifted away from my friends, I started hanging out with a different group that basically forced me eat. At the beginning of this school year, I started high school and joined marching band. We practiced at least 8 hrs a week so I didn't have too much time to eat. But now that it's all over, I don't really have any exercise anymore. I started soccer again this season (I had quit for band), but it definitely isn't enough exercise to cover for the amount of food I eat. And I can't help the amount I eat. I'll just be sitting there, a few hours after I eat a meal, and I'll just go eat. I eat when I'm bored. I eat when I'm alone. Basically I eat whenever I get the chance. And I know its not healthy because I take the big bags of candy and eat it in about 2 weeks and cartons of cookies and eat them in a few days and a few bags of chips a day. And I have no self control. I can't talk to my parents about this because my mom would think that I'm weak and stupid and just yell at me (like she always does in these types of situations) and my dad just eats and eats and eats too. I know we both have problems but I feel like I can't tell anybody. Is there any way that I can stop all this and gain back my confidence? (link)
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I have no discipline when it comes to food either, so the key for me is to not have the stuff in my house. Can't control myself around cookies? I don't buy cookies. Then I can't eat them. Wolf down a bunch of chips? Don't buy chips. Then you won't be constantly tempted. Eat full meals- but they should be healthy. If everyday for lunch you eat a nice sandwich (ham/turkey, lettuce, tomato, etc) with a glass of milk or water, you will feel full and be healthy. Eat healthy meals and drink a ton of water. Water really helps weight loss. Also, cut out the chips. Chips are KILLER. They have so much salt and grease that they literally absorb your body's water and make you visibly bloated. Once you break the habit of eating chips (to do this, simply do NOT buy ANY chips) you will no longer crave them.
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All my friends have a facebook. I really want one, but my mom, dad, and step dad say that I can't have one. How can I have one secretly (they all have facebooks) without them knowing?
fanks;)
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Hey, I had a Facebook without my parents permission for a year and a half without them knowing about it until they finally let me get one. My parents are super overprotective over me, but fortunately neither one had a facebook or was very good with computers so they never knew I had one. What I did was make my facebook name a variation of my real name- in case my parents decided to look me up for whatever reason- as a protective measure. The entire time I had it without permission though, I was terribly afraid they would find out and I would be in HUGE trouble. Fortunately, they still don't know that I had one before they let me. But honestly, Facebook is a ton of fun at first , and then it becomes a time waster. Major time waster. If you have a cell phone, communicate with peers through texting until you can get a Facebook. Try to negotiate an age where you can get one. Otherwise, you can just make one and not tell them an hope that they don't find out! Good luck and I hope I was somewhat helpful!
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Hi instead of self harming myself I've been writing poetry :) would you mind reading some if my work and giving me feedback? I have a lot but here are my three favorite ones :)
This one is called " useless lies "
Today is the day
That I'll give up on trying
Today is the end
Of all the useless lying
Not wasting my tears
If they won't stop the bleeding
Today is the day that my heart will stop beating
My palms are sweaty my vision is blurred
I let out a scream that no one even heard
I blink back the tears I choke back a cry
Today is the end if all the useless lies
"Call me crazy"
some people call me crazy
Some think I'm just sic
I think I'm just lazy
I need something short and quick
Something simple to take away my pain
Something easy to help me live through the day
As my world gets destroyed I'm destroying
myself
Fill the ache in my heart
That can't be filled by anything else
I'm done with crying
My blood is my tears
It's time to let go
Time to face my fears
Some think I'm crazy
Some think I'm sick
I think I'm just lazy
I need something short and quick
" forgotten "
Left alone
Forgotten
Nobody else cares
Left alone forgotten
No one else is there
I can't escape to scared to try
I still feel alone inside
My world crashing
All around me
Raining sorrow
Someone see me
See me for who I am inside
No one cares
No one even tries
Done believing
All your lies (link)
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Wow, it's great you found a constructive outlet for your depression. Those are actually really good poems- there are a few lines in them that are seriously great. Keep it up- its so impressive that you turned to this rather than self-harm, what a creative and smart individual you are! Keep it up and good luck with everything :)
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I need to know the least painful way ic ould kill myself. I've thought about this for 16 years now. I dont want help. Just..please tell me how to kill myself in a painless way. (link)
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Hey, as the person before me said "you only live once." That's the title to one of my favorite songs, and I find it inspirational. You are worth something. Think of everyone who cares about you- even if you don't realize that they do, I am sure there are people out there who would be affected by your death. Don't do it. It won't solve anything. If you see a therapist or call a help center, things WILL get better. Please, don't kill yourself. That's just not right. Please, don't do it. You only live once- make the most out of your life, don't throw it away- because things will get better. Think, there are some people out there who are battling against cancer and other terminal illnesses- they are fighting so hard to live. And you're willing to just throw away your life? You are a great person, but suicide is selfish. Please don't do it. Good luck, and remember, you aren't alone. ❤
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Hey Steamboat815, its me again. The person who has been going through the exact same things with the boyfriend and other guy crushing on me.
Ok so now, on Facebook, the other guy posted _____is my bestest friend. (the ____ (link)
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Hey! Wow, your boyfriend is really understanding! I think it's fine if you hug the bgf, especially since you want to and your boyfriend is okay with you guys being friends. I hug other guys sometimes- not in a romantic way, but still. So yeah if you want to hug him, I would say go ahead. No problem! Haha hey Brielle, I'm Anna.
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Ok so I have a bf atm and we have been dating since November 4th. He is really sweet and amazing. I love him very much. But, this other guy started talking to me on MSN and Im kinda falling for him. The other guy confesses to me all the time that he loves me and wants to make out with me. My Bf and the other guy dont really get along. And my Bf doesnt know that the other guy talks to me. The other guy asked me that if he kissed me if i would kiss him back and i was weak with all the things he was saying to me like (hey babe, sup beautiful...) and sadly said yes. I feel bad about saying i would and cant come to tell my Bf about what i said. I want to be honest but I dont want him to break up with me, he's my first bf. Im scared and dont know what to do, I told the other guy today that if he kissed me i would slap him and he said "kissing you would be worth the slap". Problem is, i want to kiss him, I dont wanna cheat on my Bf at all! I dont wanna hurt my bf either. And another thing is that I dream about the other guy 24/7 :( I feel bad about the whole thing and wish i could just end my horrible life and this mess. Plz help me bc i love my bf but also like this other guy and kinda wanna kiss him, HELPP!! if no one does, chances are I'll be dead in a week. :'( (link)
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Hey! Wow, I'm in the EXACT same situation! I'm just sorta going along with my boyfriend who is sweet and lovely, and also flirting with this guy who has a crush on me... I don't know what to do either. I think if the feelings for the new guy develope further for you, you should go for him, because it isn't fair to your boyfriend otherwise. I don't agree with others who have said you're a bad person or anything-because I'm in the same situation and I know how it feels. We can't help our feelings. But weigh your options. Is your current boyfriend always there for you? Which guy do you trust more? Try not to make a rash decision or act too soon. Good luck! This is happening to me too right now haha!
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How do you get a boy to like you im 13 /: (link)
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Hi! I'm fourteen and of course want guys to like me also. Here is my best advice: Talk to him. He's not gonna like you if you don't talk to him. When you do talk to him, be nice. Just being kind can make you stand out in a guy's mind. Be super helpful and be yourself. Laugh at what he says, and compliment him. Say you like his shirt, his hat, or anything. You can compliment his taste in music, movies, whatever. You can even say something like "you're really cool" and act chill about it. Once you get to know him better, you can try flirting even more, and he should start to like you. Good luck and hope I helped!!!
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Hey :D 13/F. I think my mom is over protective coz I am 13 I may not 1.have a BF. 2.Sleep at my friends house. 3.Go to the mall with my friends. 4.wear high heels. 5.go to a party. I know I should enjoy her but she is making me nuts. And I don't want to tell her. Plz help (link)
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Oh my god, my mom is super overprotective too! I'm 14 and am allowed to have a boyfriend- but I can only meet at a coffee shop with him or at one of our houses and stay in ONE place- we can't walk around or she will get mad. I'm also allowed to sleep at friends' houses, but I'm not allowed to go to the mall with my friends either! She never lets me do anything that involves freedom. I can't walk around anywhere with my friends or by myself. I can't see movies with friends. It feels like I can't do anything my friends do. It drives me nuts too because I feel like I should have the right to do these things. The best advice I can give is to talk to her- I know you don't want to, but how will anything get accomplished otherwise?- and hope that she changes her mind. Don't push for too much at one time. It sucks having overprotective parents, I know from experience. But hey, we'll be independent in a few years, do try to have as much fun within your mother's limits as you can. Sorry I can't help to much with this issue- it just stuck out to me because I feel the same way. Good luck!!!
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I still like my ex.. i've told him and he wont take me back what should i do? (link)
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Unfortunately you are gonna have to move on. I know it's hard when you still like someone, but you can't force your ex to take you back if he doesn't want to. When I broke up with my last boyfriend, he tried to get me back but I didn't have feelings for him anymore. It just made things worse for us because I had to separate myself from him to get him to stop bothering me. We aren't even friends anymore. So my advice is to not bother him. I know it's hard, but if he's made his decision that he doesn't want to be with you romantically, there is nothing you can do about it. Pleading won't help. It sucks, I know. But time heals all wounds. Just try to get over him, it'll take time. Good luck!!!! Hope I helped! I'm sorry!
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I'm a relatively healthy young lady. 21/f. not overweight. not underweight. no serious health issues. lately, i'm just SO tired. when i'm driving in the car, i just feel extremely tired and one of my eyes keeps twitching. it's SO weird! It's every day, and especially at night, when I'm starting to get tired. It happens to me when I'm working on my schoolwork. That's another thing. At school, I'm SUPER tired. I never feel like I have ENERGY to do things. To read and analyze handouts or readings in the textbook is another way of telling me to go to sleep. If I were to have to put up things or decorate something of some sort, I would FALL ASLEEP. i'm just REALLY, REALLY tired! I try to complete my homework and projects and it's like the clock is ticking at a certain time because of how tired I start to get at some point in the day. it is interesting to me and I want to study, but I'm so tired, that it becomes like a task. So, it's more of an impairement from what I'm doing than an excuse not to do it. Has this ever happened to anyone? and if so, what can I do about it? thanks! (link)
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So I really do not have much good medical advice to give, but I've heard that the disease Mono causes chronic tiredness. That is a major symptom- you are tired all the time. I believe Mono is spread through saliva- have you kissed anyone lately? Or taken a sip from another's water bottle? Again, I am not a doctor. I recommend you see one, as you need medication for this. I hope you feel better!
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so ive had my braces on for 4 years and now there getting ready to come off i am extremely nervous just because of the possibility of white marks on my teeth. i usually brush my teeth twice a day once in the morning the whole time im in the shower and then at night for 5 min. i don't really floss but when i do i dont have any food in between my gums. i had a baby during my process of braces and due to lack of sleep i didn't brush as good (twice a day for a few min.) but that only lasted like 2 months is it possible to have white marks just because of that? HELP I AM SO NERVOUS!!!! ( oh and I got my braces off at 14 so for like the first like 2 weeks I didn't brush that good either) (link)
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I was nervous about that too! You'll be fine if you brush a decent amount. I think you would only get white marks from REAL neglect of your teeth. You won't have them. Congrats on getting your braces off! Your teeth will look amazing!
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