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I just don't know rather to leave or stay
Hi I am a 33 year old man, and I'm currently long distance dating a 21 year old.
We have been dating for over a year. And we text all day an mainly text during the night...
I love her she been there for me threw thick and thin... We have so much in common, we can talk for hours an never get bored...
An a while ago I found out she been talking to her ex via- email, im chat and phone convos... An she was still telling him she loves him, she wants too be with him... etc etc...
So when I confronting her, she told me the truth that she had been talking too him, and having sex with her other ex...
I forgave her...
And 5 months roll by...
And her other ex from Texas came by...
She lied and told me she was seeing the Twlight movie, and she met up with him, and went mia all night...
I found out confronted her...
And she told me she did, and she just kiss him and that was it, but she was gone all night...
I forgave her because I didn't have proof that she went beyond kissing... An 2day she sent a strange text too me like it was meant really for someone else, saying that she could be at some place in twenty minutes, an i asked her who was that text to, an she said her little cousin...
i need help... please give me the best advice about this siuation, im confused. and I don't know if i can continue to trust her...
Ps: I cheated on her, but way in the beginning an i've changed drastic for her...
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Why are you dating someone who is 21? You're 33 -- she's 21, that says a lot right there.
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She's admitted to having sex with one of her exs and she also admitted to kissing another man after lying to you about where she was. I think this is a very clear sign that you can't trust her. These were only two events you found out about, but there could be other events that you just didn't find out about. I think she has made it clear that she doesn't want to be in a faithful one man relationship from the fact that she keeps doing things like this.
If you think you can forgive her and trust her again then that is your choice and only you can decide that, but I think you have a lot of reasons not to trust her after everything that happened. If I was in your situation I would find it very difficult to trust someone who treated me like that. I hope you come to the right decision and can be happy again
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It sounds like she's not quite ready to let go of the fun and dangerous aspects of her past relationship, and therefore unable to fully commit to you. May be time to take a step back so you can better evaluate the situation. I'm 23 and married to a 30 year old. While we were dating we had different problems, but when he decided to try to remove himself from the situation it brought new insight into our relationship and things improved for us. Maybe yours will, and maybe it won't, but right now, it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.
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Well,I guess you already decided what to do.I know what it's like to keep forgiving the one you love, no matter how much they hurt you,but sometimes people just don't deserve it.She obviously doesn't.And the fact you cheated on her doesn't give her the right to keep doin' it to you.I am 21 and in long distance relationship too,bad thing about them is that you can never be sure if the other person really loves you or is just messin' around with you.And I think age difference doesn't rly matter much if you and the one you love think in the same way and are interested in one and the same thing,which probably in your case is to be together.I hope you'll find someone who'll appreciate you and cherish you,gl :)
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You already know he answer to your question.YOu only asked it here hoping someone would confirm what you already know in your heart. Well let me add to the chorus. She's cheating. Leave. You may be missing someone really great by spending all of your energy on this cheating chick.
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End the relationship
She is cheating on you, She is continuing to cheat on you. I firmly believe that when someone cheats they shouldn't be giving a second chance. You keep forgiving her and because you do, You tell her it's okay to keep on doing so.
The girl is immature, If you want someone who is down to business I would suggest looking for someone else. The women already told you that she still loves her ex and wants to be with him and therefore there is no point in trying to be in a relationship that is no longer one to begin with.
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End the relationship.
This girl isn't 'tripping up' or 'making a mistake'. She has a pattern of seeking attention and sexual activity with others.
You can't cure that. At this point, there is no rational reason to believe she will stop.
So end the relationshup - she isn't really in the relationship with you anyways - you are just one of the several men she appears to be keeping on the line.
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I see two problems here. First is the 12 year difference in your ages. You are more mature than she is not only by age but by worldly experience. Second, from what you have written she is a very immature 21 year old who has not figured out what she wants or direction her life should take.
She lied to you, she cheats on you and you constantly forgive her. Then she continues to lie and cheat. I don't see a mutual romance here. So my advice would be to leave and find someone who would appreciate you.
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