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So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I honestly can't cope with the way my parents tell me to live, I feel like I am trapped in my home and I can't do anything!
They have these rules that I cannot go on my iPad/phone until 8pm every night, even at weekends I'm not aloud to use them. They say I'm to antisocial and I need to get out more, I go almost everywhere with them! I do go to town with friends aswell. They won't let me out of my town, I live in Barnstaple, devon and I'm not even aloud to Exeter or Bristol to go on a shopping trip with friends which is only about 2 hours away. Also I'm not aloud to be friends with a few people I know, one of them because there is a rumour going around that her mum is a prostitute and the other one who is my best friend and I still hang out with her secretly because she said something rude on Facebook like 2 years ago! It annoys me how I can't be friends with who I want to be friends with. My parents won't let me go out after school and I always have to be back home at 4pm if I go anywhere, which means I can't go out in the evening or at night and have a laugh :(
They also won't let me use social networks other than Facebook and Twitter, I want to be able to use snapchat, Instagram and tumblr but I'm not aloud to have it on my phone, another thing is that my dad still reads my texts and my messages with friends online!!! I'm 14 and I literally have no privacy! It's really annoying I want to just tell him "no, I won't give you my phone" or just not tell him the lock to my phone but he always makes me! :(
This is really annoying me now how I feel like I am stuck with nothing to do and no privacy at all :(
Anyone know what I could do? (link)
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My parents acted very similar when I was in my teens. Caught my mom talking to my friends online pretending to be me, she demanded that I give her passwords to my email, I almost never went out with friends and when I did I had to bring back receipts or movie tickets to prove that I was where I said I was. Insanity.
A lot of these things are outside of your control. It\'s a frustrating and sometimes demoralizing part of being 14. The first step to resolving something like this is always communication. To be honest, it is likely that it won\'t work, but you need to be mature and do your best to take that responsible step. If they want to hear your ideas on how to make the situation better, don\'t try to put them in their place and explain how grown up you are, as a parent, it makes your child sound even more childish.
Be willing to meet in the middle. Would they be more comfortable if you checked in every hour on the damn hour? What if they got to speak to friends\' parents before you start going on outings with them? Please understand that they aren\'t this way to ruin your life. Parents can mess up, and horribly...My parents did, and have acknowledged that. But right now, they really are trying to protect their \"little girl\", their young woman who they fear for and want everything good in the world for. You need to acknowledge the concern that they have for you and at the same time express your need to explore a gradually increasing level of independence in order to mature into a capable, level-headed adult.
Now, talking doesn\'t always work. And if you decide not to take that road, there are ways to attempt to take back your \"freedom\". But, be aware that it can, and often does make things worse. Typically, these types of responses give you that personal achievement of angst for pissing of your parents and refusing to play along, but it does very little to encourage actual progress.
Don\'t use the phone. Can\'t have a single text conversation without your parents demanding that you tell them everything that was said or let them read it? Fuck it. Don\'t use the phone. If possible, pay for your own.
Second,don\'t use the home computer if they require your passwords. Can\'t do homework because the won\'t let you on until your passwords are in their hands? Guess school\'s fucked then, huh?
I started taking that road with my parents and guess what? I was able to use the computer, but I still had to deal with the sneaking behind my back and complete lack of respect. It caused more damage overall, but as a fed-up young woman, it felt awesome for a while.
I really hope that this helps you deal with these final years as a \"child\". It certainly isn\'t easy, but you\'re probably going to find yourself looking back with more fond memories than you\'d expect.
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So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL! (link)
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Baby shower registries have become very common. I\'d be willing to say that just about any chain store that you go to would have a scanner option where you manually scan the items you want on your registry, if not the online options that let you put things on your list from a computer either at home or in their store.
The easiest way to let people know that you have a registry is to include a small note in the invitation. Such as: \"Registered at Target.com\" or whatever.
Congrats on the baby :D
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Hi I am a 33 year old man, and I'm currently long distance dating a 21 year old.
We have been dating for over a year. And we text all day an mainly text during the night...
I love her she been there for me threw thick and thin... We have so much in common, we can talk for hours an never get bored...
An a while ago I found out she been talking to her ex via- email, im chat and phone convos... An she was still telling him she loves him, she wants too be with him... etc etc...
So when I confronting her, she told me the truth that she had been talking too him, and having sex with her other ex...
I forgave her...
And 5 months roll by...
And her other ex from Texas came by...
She lied and told me she was seeing the Twlight movie, and she met up with him, and went mia all night...
I found out confronted her...
And she told me she did, and she just kiss him and that was it, but she was gone all night...
I forgave her because I didn't have proof that she went beyond kissing... An 2day she sent a strange text too me like it was meant really for someone else, saying that she could be at some place in twenty minutes, an i asked her who was that text to, an she said her little cousin...
i need help... please give me the best advice about this siuation, im confused. and I don't know if i can continue to trust her...
Ps: I cheated on her, but way in the beginning an i've changed drastic for her...
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It sounds like she's not quite ready to let go of the fun and dangerous aspects of her past relationship, and therefore unable to fully commit to you. May be time to take a step back so you can better evaluate the situation. I'm 23 and married to a 30 year old. While we were dating we had different problems, but when he decided to try to remove himself from the situation it brought new insight into our relationship and things improved for us. Maybe yours will, and maybe it won't, but right now, it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.
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I've been seeing this guy for over a month now. We get along great, we like the same things and we hang out basically every weekend. He is one of the few guys I can be completely myself around, even being the sensible or crazy me lol and he told me that's exactly how he feels.
Just the other weekend we were kissing and making-out when he paused and said "I like you... Really really like you... You are the one." When he said this I was a little suprised and kissed him again. Now he's got me thinking if he really meant that cuz he did have a few beer in him. I am cautious about who I give my heart too, but I just want to know what you think. When a guy says this is he actually thinking 'long term'? (link)
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Looking at this from the outside, you did say he had a beer and so maybe he wasn't quite thinking clearly. I would be careful not to read too much into it; the two of you have only been together a month or so. If I were you, I would try to think of it in terms of, "He really, really likes me, so maybe what he meant was that he's ready to take our relationship to the next level."
You didn't say whether or not the two of you are exclusive yet, but give him some time to show you what he things and means instead of jumping to conclusions. Just enjoy the ride :D
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i was wondering if it is ok for me to grab my boobs so often? i mean is there a point when it just stops or what can i do? HELP!!!! (link)
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How exactly do you mean? Like, you get excited or scared and grab your boobs or something?
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okay so i've had my period for a little over a year now and my mom makes me use pads because she says tampons arent healthy.
im a cheerleader and i hate the feeling of the blood leaking like how can i tell my mom that i perfer wearing tampons? (link)
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Has she said why she thinks they are unhealthy?
Tampons are definitely more convenient and comfortable. In the end this really is your choice, but trying to have a discussion about it before you just have at it may help show her that while you may not always agree with her opinion, you respect her enough to talk about it.
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Ok so here's the scoop. My husband and I both are in our 20s. He just got back from a year long deployment in October. Lately i've felt like he doesnt want anything to do with me. He's constantly playing his video games. Like literally all the time! He gets mad when i ask him if he will do simply tasks such as the dishes or just picking up the house a little bit. He's currently on unemployment due to just coming back from deployment. I currently work full time and pregnant. He gets irritated when i ask for a little help and says i need to stop nagging him. I feel like nothing will get done if i dont and the reason i've seen that is because thats how it goes. If i dont push him to do something he wont do it. When i get home from work, i'm tired, exhausted and just wanna relax. But the moment i walk in the door he tells me like oh the dogs need to be fed, etc. I'm just like you cant do simple tasks while i'm at work? He literally sits on the couch playing on his xbox or computer. I just cant handle it. He doesnt spend any time with me. I usually go to bed around midnight due to work, and he doesnt come to bed until like 6am or sometimes 8am. I have to like beg him to come to bed and he'll leave sometimes when i fall asleep just to make me happy but of course i wake up in the middle of the night due to being pregnant and having to pee a lot sorry TMI and find him once again on his games. I'm worried that once the baby comes he's going to continue in his ways, granted the baby isnt due until July but still. Any advice or suggestions on what i should do? I do rate and thanks for reading i just had to get this outta my system! (link)
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There are a few people I know who have these kinds of issues with their men, and some of them just aren't very good at being grown-ups, some don't think it's necessarily a responsibility to shoulder the weight. I do think that your situation may be a little more unique however, at least to the people I know. I have a number of good friends that spent time over-sea's, in fact I almost signed up myself.
When soldiers return their families and friends all want to spend time with them and have things be like they were before, but think about what kind of atmosphere your husband was living in for the past year. He was an entire world away from you and his home, the thing he grew to know was doing what must be done, surviving, and having the (forgive the word, for lack of a better term) luxury of having things be more simple. Do your job, follow orders, survive. I am not saying that our soldiers that are fighting for us have it easy by any means, but to suddenly be thrust back into "normal life" is huge! Maybe he needs some time out with some buddies he served with, if that is possible.
Your husband still hasn't been back very long, try to be understanding of the transition he's trying to make. I know that you need help and understanding right now too. I've been pregnant, and it ain't no picnic. This will take a lot of time, and even more patience and understanding on your part.
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I am thinking about committing suicide. I've made some really bad decisions and feel that it would be best for everyone if I were gone. My family would get insurance money and would be taken care of financially. (link)
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I just wanted to throw a couple of thoughts out there. First off, most if not all insurance companies have little loop-holes in their contracts to prevent this very thing. With this loop-hole, if there is outstanding evidence that you killed yourself, your family would actually receive nothing in the event of your death, and would have to pay for your funeral expenses out-of-pocket. Second, I may not know you, but I am a mother of 3 boys, and no matter what kind of financial corner we may end up being in, I'm going to be of more help to them alive.
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ok so i dont like my friend Alexis but i told her i liked her so she wouldnt get mad what should i do (link)
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You can tell someone that you really don't like them very much without being a dick. Telling her the truth about how she gets on her nerves, that is okay. I would just advise you to not go throwing it in her face.
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19/f and my brother is 7.
For Christmas my parents usually spend the same amount on both of us. My parents told me that as long as I'm living under their roof, I'll have a Christmas, which I appreciate greatly; even though Christmas isn't about gifts. It's still good to recieve stuff when you don't have the money to afford it for yourself.
Well anyways; my brother wants junk. Every year he askes for stuff and he either breaks it after a week, or doesn't play with it after a couple of days. They spent $560 dollars on him this Christmas.
Well, for my Christmas, I wanted a Yorkie, A laptop, a Camera, and a stocking (those are my favorite)
and my boyfriend and my parents split the yorkie (150 a piece) and my mom and dad said thats all I'm getting for Christmas. Which is cool, I love my puppy; but I don't see thats fair; or maybe I'm over reacting. I'm a college student, and I don't have my own computer; its my parents and I'm limited to 30 minutes a day; including when I have to do homework; so I'd really like a laptop to help me with school work; so I don't have to rush to write papers, ect. I told my mom, I'd be happy with a 320 dollar laptop from Walmart, and thats it for christmas; and the laptop along with the dog, doesn't even cost more than my brothers. This is something I could use for many years, not just a couple of weeks.
Any suggestions? If I'm over reacting, please let me know. (link)
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At this point you need to start asking yourself why you're upset? Are you really upset because it's not fair? Or is it because now it's his turn to be the only kid in the house? You are 19 years old. If you want something, you should be saving up your money to get it for yourself. It seems like it's not their priority to shower you with everything you want at Christmas anymore, and it shouldn't be. You are not a child, are you? It's time to be appreciative of what you DO get and have, instead of comparing it to a 7 year old kid and feeling wronged because they didn't give you enough. If you want something, work to get it yourself.
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