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how do i tell my mom that i perfer wearing tampons?
okay so i've had my period for a little over a year now and my mom makes me use pads because she says tampons arent healthy.
im a cheerleader and i hate the feeling of the blood leaking like how can i tell my mom that i perfer wearing tampons?
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Tampons aren't unhealthy, they are perfectly safe to use as long as you change them every few hours. I understand it is an awkward conversation to have with your mum and even if you do have the conversation with your mum and she still insists on you using pads, there is nothing stopping you from buying the tampons yourself and using them. You can still take the pads from your mum and when you're not cheerleading or active you could use them too. You are more than entitled to use what you like :)
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My mom hates tampons too! She told me that they're unhealthy because if you leave them in too long they can poison you. But I play tennis and also hate the feeling of the blood coming out when I'm active. So I just told her (it was awkward) that I was uncomfortable wearing pads when doing athletics and I think tampons would work better. I said I'd make sure to change them frequently. And she agreed. Tell her that they are only unhealthy if you forget to change them. Good luck an hope I helped'
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Just tell her D:
I'm sure she'll understand!
Maybe she says that because you're a virgin, and if you are you need to use small tampons. Well, if you tell her and explain it to her she will understand you 100%. :-)
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Has she said why she thinks they are unhealthy?
Tampons are definitely more convenient and comfortable. In the end this really is your choice, but trying to have a discussion about it before you just have at it may help show her that while you may not always agree with her opinion, you respect her enough to talk about it.
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Some parents get worried about their kids wearing tampons because of toxic shock syndrome, which you get from leaving in a tampon for too long. Tampons should be worn for 8 hours at the MOST. I would thing that since you've had your period for over a year you should let her know that you're aware of the risk, and you'll take care of yourself and change it when necessary. Especially if you're doing sports. She should understand.
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This must be hard for you :/
I'd talk to the school nurse about this-she could send a letter home explaining-or even go to a doctors appointment so they can outline the risks/beinfits of wearing a tampon.
Your mums obviously concerned about you which is good, but if she's so concerned about this then surely she'd be concerned that her daughter feels uncomfortable wearing pads soemtimes?
Borrow some off a friend also,untill your 18 so your an adult and can do your own thing. Hope this helps :)
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Your mom has a valid concern. If not used properly, meaning changed at least every 8 hours or more when possible. Tampons can cause an illness called "Toxic Shock Syndrome. This syndrome has been know to cause serious illness and even death in teenagers.
Mom knowing of the active life you lead is probably concerned you won't change your tampon often enough. I don't know you so I can't comment on this. What I can do is offer you a compromise you can offer your mom. Remember the definition of compromise. A compromise is something no party really likes but all parties can live with.
The compromise I suggest is this. Ask mom that for cheerleading, swimming and going out on a date, if you date, she agrees to you using a tampon. These activities all have a specific beginning and ending times by which she can judge how long the tampon will be in place. The rest of the time you will wear a pad.
I didn't have any girls as children though I did act as surrogate dad to my nieces as my sister divorced her husband. I offered this same compromise to my sister when she had a problem with her girls over this. My sister didn't like my suggestion but she could live with it. My nieces weren't thrilled with it but after I explained it was better to have half a pie then no pie at all they came around and embraced the suggestion as well.
When you turn 18 you can do as you please as you will legally be am adult. Until then your mom and dad are responsible for your well being. Whatever they say is law as long as you live under their roof. It is an old saying and in 10 or 15 years you will hear yourself say this. "This is my house my rules." Sometime those rules will bend if you can come up with a proper reason to bend them and present them in a proper and adult manner.
Try my suggestion on mom. You just may find that mom may just bend a little. Just remember to present what I have suggested calmly and in an adult manner.
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In my opinion, i would tell my mom i wanted to try tampons as they might prove to be better for your cheerleading than pads. Tell her that you want to try, and it doesn't mean your 100% always using tampons. Perhaps make a deal with her like 'I only want to wear tampons when i'm cheering' if that works, you could perhaps go for more oftne etc..
If this doesn't work, then perhaps get some information for her;
Some helpful Tampon webstes:
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Hoipe i helped, and that you do get to use tampons :P:P
Liz
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Oh my gosh, I am sooo sorry! =
I'm a cheerleader, and cheering while you are on your period stinks. LITERALLY! Especially if you aren't wearing a tampon. When we stunt, i'm a base and I just about die when I have to lift someone whose on their period. YUCK!
Explain to your mom your worries about cheering. And the explain that you promise to wear them correctly. Tell her you won't wear scented tampons, because those aren't healthy. Talk to her calmly and rationally. Maybe she will understand.
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How about finding information to show that they can be safe if used properly and printing it out for your Mom?
Perhaps you can address the issue with your physician or school nurse too, to hear it from another adult might help.
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I would just sit down and expalin to her, you feel uncomfortable wearing pads when you have cheerleading. Tell her it's hard because you move a lot of different ways and you don't want any leaks. At first, just ask her if you can wear them at cheerleading only and if she gives in, and you are comfortable wearing them, ask her if you can permantly wear them. Hope this helps.
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