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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Ok, what are some good topics to give a speech on that will reach the 'hearts minds and souls of your fellow students'. I'm really tryin to think of a topic that will appeal to ALL of the audience (in this case grades 9 to 12), but I cant seem to think of anything that isnt cliche and I dont want to do that. Does anyone know something? I wont talk about rape or child abuse or something because its not really something direct to reach people with. Or how the media influences kids. They'll all be like 'Uh no, whats that got to do with us?' Do you get what I'm saying? And no one is a rapist or has been raped, so, you know, I want something they'll actually listen to, something actually worth talking about. Please help me! (link)
How about rock lyrics...for years they have been accused of causing violence, suicides, crime and any other number of stupid things.

The band Judas Priest even went on trial accused in a kids suicide. To dated?


okay my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him .....i really want ot because i'm 16 sooo what do i do? (link)
Very first thing to do is get on a very reliable form of birth control.

Use condoms too because some STDs are very life altering.

Read this website, it has a LOT of very good info on it.

www.coolnurse.com


I got a g/f! Thanx 4 all ur support everyone! :D
But, 2 more questions, how do I keep her? How can I make her happy? (link)
Communicate. Don't let feeling bottle up until they cause a problem. Always talk to her about anything she does that bothers you and encourage her to do the same.

Do not listen to what friends say she said and things like that. Always trust her word.

Be considerate of her feelings always.

Don't rush her into doing anything she may be uncomfortable with.

Listen to what she has to say (she should do the same) bad things and good things.

Laugh with her. :)


I would just like to find out how my daughter and boyfriend can get help regarding there son (10months) getting injured at Nursery, burnt by boiling water on his hand and top part on arm(wrist).

This has caused a great deal of inconvienience to them taking time of work and travelling to the hospital to change dressing every 2nd day. This has also caused stress on my grandson and my daughter? (link)
I know there are a lot of frivolous lawsuits out there these days. I don't think this would be one of those.

I would hire a lawyer and sue the nursery for the hospital bills, plus lost wages, and the pain and suffering of the child.

Why on earth did they have boiling water where a child that young would get burnt by it? How irresponsible.

Good luck to them. :)


Ok I'm taking birth control for almost a year the first 6 months i took ortho tri cyclen then i wanted to try yasmine and that didn't work then, and then i tried orto cyclen and been on it for four months and i usually use condoms but one time last month i didn't. i'm pretty sure i'm not pregnant because i got my period when i'm supposed to and i did take a pregnancy test and it said negative but i'm scared because some people bleed every month and think there not pregnant when they are(because you can spot) so i want to make sure if there is any other way to test, or is hard to test because i'm on birth control (link)
Really...just stop worrying about it. If you take your pills you will be fine. No need to test all the time. You will make yourself sick worrying about it!

It is very, very rare that a girl will continue her period if she is pregnant.

Spotting is just that. A small spot of blood...very different from a period. You will know the difference.

The pill is 99.9% effective. Though they don't prevent STDs, so keep up with the condoms too. :)


Whats a career is in the medical area where you dont have to deal with a lot of blood and surgery? (link)
There are a few.

Xray Technician/ radiologist
Alcohol/ Drug abuse counselor
Medical secretary/ receptionist
Physical therapist
Respiratory therapist
Medical records / medical coder (fun)
Speech therapist
Dietitian
then there is always your insurance billers (kind of goes along with medical coding in some places)and your accounting type jobs.

Hope that helps you out. :)



Why do girls help a guy cheat on his current girlfriend, then date him after they break up? They've already proven that this guy is totally willing to cheat, so do they actually think he wont do the same to them? Are girls really that stupid? (link)
Unfortunately, I'm afraid so.

Guess they all think THEY will be the one to change him. Love of his life...what fools. ;)


my hair falls out in the shower alot when i brush it and even when i just put my fingers through it...it used to be pretty thick and it has thinned out ALOT! my mom says it from straightening my hair (i only straighten it 2-3 times a week) and my friends says its from stress from high skool! i really want to fix this problem which one or what is the problem? (link)
It is probably both.

Stress can cause hair loss. You actually loose some all the time anyway.

Any kind of products you put on your hair can cause it. Heat is very bad. Makes your hair brittle and that will cause it to break.

Try not straightening your hair for a while and see if it improves. If it does you will know that is the problem. :)


ok so here it goes.... me and my gf were hangin out in my room a couple weeks ago and we randomly decided to take a pic of her wit her top off and covering her nipples with her hands. i took it on my phone and had it for awhile. 2day when i got home from her house i had her call my aunt and left my phone in there. she comes in my room with the pic and yells at me for doing it and says thats y i dont trust u. she said she might tell her mom but that would ruin anything. i cant talk to my mom about it bc i never could and whenever i try she doesnt listen. wat should i do?? (link)
Wow, you're right. That wasn't the smartest thing to do.

She knew you were taking the picture didn't she? If so then she is as much at fault as you are. Saying she can't trust you because of that is a little wrong.

Maybe she thought you would delete it? Well, she should have realized that a guy is gonna want to keep it for awhile. You probably should have got rid of it but it is a natural thing that you would want to have it awhile.

I don't think she is going to mention it to her mom. She would probably be in hot water if she did. She was upset and mad about it but, she will probably get over it.

The only thing you can do is apologise. Tell her you love the way she looks and just couldn't make yourself delete it. Maybe buy her a rose or pick her some kind of flower. If you can't afford that, a nice love note would probably do the trick.

Good luck & be careful what you take pictures of. Anyone with any knowledge could see the photos you take with your phone. :)





I've got patches of itchy skin on various parts of my body. On my legs I can see largish insect bites but on my wrists/arms and my breasts the bites are less visible. It's itchy really badly and I'm starting to cause red marks and little blodd blisters.

I thought it was the work of some biting insects I've seen flying around my room. However, as the weather gets colder then I'd expect them to die out for winter but this has lasted for a week or two now.

I live in Halls so it is quite possible for me to catch something contagious.

How do I treat whatever-it-is? Should I go and see a nurse/doctor? (link)
A lot of things can cause the symptoms you describe. There are so many I wouldn't even want to venture a guess.

I would suggest a trip to the doctor. He/she will be able to give you something to help.

I doubt its anything serious, but itching is really annoying. Go see a doc. :)


ok so I have this back problem.. my muscles are waaaay too tight for my age (15/f..they are like rocks and suppose to be like silly putty), my bones at the base of my skull are too small and the hole that connects my spine to my skull is too small, and I have pinched nerves.. so my doctor perscribed me hydrocodone for the pain but the problem is it's not working.. at all.. so does anyone know any stronger medicine that I could ask my doctor about that might actually help my back? The pain keeps me awake at night so I need something strong. Sometimes it makes me cry because the pain is so overwhelming even after I've taken the hydrocodone... and I don't ever cry because I have extremely high pain tolerance.. so I need something really strong

Thanks in advance! (sorry so long!) (link)
You will have to tell your doctor it isn't working and let him take it from there.

Anything much stronger may be to addictive. I have seen a lot of people addicted to hydrocodone. So it is pretty powerful itself.

If he can't or won't give you anything else, maybe he could suggest a pain management class. If your problem isn't something that can be repaired then it is probably a good idea to take a pain management course anyway. :)


I just started a job two weeks ago in a large store where I am on the floor as a sales rep in the clothing department.
Before I was working at the store I had a lot of spare time and would work out every day at the gym for a half hour or more. Since I started working I havent had the time or energy to work out anymore, but suprisingly I've lost more weight at my job than at the gym!! My jeans are hanging off of me and a month ago they were tight. My job consists of a lot of walking and cleaning up. I have to walk around quickly to assist customers and put away all the clothes. Do you think this is the cause of my weight loss? (link)
It probably helps!

It will probably level off pretty soon and you may have to go back to working out. In the mean time...hey, whatever works.:)


So today I got this message from some random person. I called that number and I found out it was an adult. He started asking me for personal information and I told him fake stuff like my names this and that. Then he started saying I want to start a realationship with you and I just went crazy. I messaged him ssome really rude messages because I want them to leave me alone SO BADLY!!! It really pisses me off to know that I haave stalkers that might.. Who knows what???

Also, I think I know who those guys are. I have a guitar teacher and hes perverted and he loves me. (eew... hes 20 years older then me.)
So I think he gave my number to his friends.. UGh.. What jerks.. Any ideas on how to stop this?? I cant ignore them because they keep on messaging me. I told them that I will call the police if they don't shut up.

Oh and by the way I live in Indonesia where it's really dangerous to just walk outside. (link)
Tell your parents. I am not sure what the laws are in Indonesia. Here the police could be called too because it is against the law. :)



Okay i asked your guy's help once before about my girlfriend. But I have a serious situation, one of my ex-boyfriends called and asked me out. I haven't came out with this yet so nobody knows except my best friend and my gurlfriend and her aunt. I couldn't turn him down cause he's driving three hours just to see me. I wanna go but I don't think he would like the fact that i'm a 15 year old Bisexual and I have a girlfriend. And I don't think me girlfriend would like me going out with some guy!!!!!!!! Should I tell them???????? (link)
I think its probably a good idea to let them each know about it.

If you don't and they find out somehow the sparks are gonna fly. Better they hear it straight from you now so they can deal with it. :)


The guy that I'm seeing is a real pig. He has a beer guy because he'll go out drinking all the time with his friends and down 12 beers. He farts all the time and has bad breath and body odor. He has red veigns on his nose from all his drinking. Also he dresses like he's thin, he'll wear tight jeans and t shirts but it looks ridicuous because he's about 30 pounds overweight.
It's really hard for me to get turned on by him. It's not just the way he looks sometimes he can be a real jerk. The last straw was when I phoned him on his cell on he told me to only phone him if it was after 6.
I want to dump him but I don't know how to go about it. Should I tell him that his appearance turns me off or would that be too mean? (link)
oh wow. Its not just his appearance its his whole lifestyle isn't it?

Sounds to me like you're fed up with the whole thing and I can't say I blame you any. I think I would just tell him it isn't working out for you.
If that doesn't satisfy him then go ahead and start listing why. It might hurt his feelings but you need to be honest about it.


So. I know gross but i think it is safe to say this is mostly populated with girls so you all in some way sometime in your life come into a problem simular to this.
So my boyfriend and I have been sexual active for 6 months and a month ago we stopped using condoms because it was comfortable for either him and or i. Sex without a condom was much more comfortable for both him and i. But I do not recomend it to anyone, use protection...Anyways after the first time we did that I got a urinary track infection, which i didnt go to the doctors for because it wasnt life threatning or anything. Anyways after a couple days it got worse, i was getting white discharge all the time when i used the rest room or when i was just walking around i felt leaking...about two weeks later it got worse, i was ichty down there every once and awhile and the white discharge increased and it started to get an oder. Well I douched and started taking care of myself as much as I could and it went away. While having the UTI i was still having sex but it didnt seem to bother it. Well today after intercourse he noticed thick white discharge on him and I on me. I smelled it but it didnt really have an oder at all and I was very confused, so i went to the restroom and whipped and noticed spotting of blood im suppose to start my period tomorrow so i just wrote it off to that and put a tampon in but when i took it out, it was completly dry not one thing on it. Well later last night we had sex again, but the thing is I orgasmed more than the first but I didnt have the thick white discharge this time...I thought that was kind of weird.
See I was thinking could it be, because we are having sex without a comdom and my body is just getting use to it. Or is it what my boyfriend said...that we dont have lube so he was rubbing me too much and maybe tearing me a little and that could be the reason but I dont know how it could be...
Im very confused. Please dont tell me to go see a doctor i cant afford to no health insurance and Im just wondering if it should be something to be totally freaked out on?

if you have any advice let me know. i will rate you very high...thank you for your time have a great day...and sorry if this grossed you out. (link)
Since he too has had the white discharge I think it would be a good idea for you to see a doctor.It may be nothing but the peace of mind you will get from knowing for sure will be worth it.

UTIs very rarely get better on their own. You really do need to see a doctor about them, especially if they recur often.

I know you can't afford to go to the doctor. Look in your local phone book and find your countys health department. They will look at it for free or at a greatly reduced cost. If they can't then maybe they could at least tell you where in your area you can go for treatment.

I know going to the doctor is expensive. But a hospital stay is much more expensive. Not that I think this problem would turn into that, but you should not let some things go because they can get worse....costing you more in the long run.

So look in the phone book. Look for a health department, free clinic, ask a nurse hot-line...anything along those lines. See if you can't find somewhere to have a checkup. :)



i was absent one day at school for a lab, and i'm going to bring in a doctor's note for documentation. i was just wondering if school officials actually call up the doctor to verify that i came in? my doctor actually just left town two days ago. i heard there is a confidentiality rule with a job, but i don't know if it goes through with higher education...i just don't want my professor to think that i'm bs-ing it. (link)
I don't think they do unless it gets to be a habit. You'll be ok with the note. :)


Okay, I know that I'm probably not even suppose to ask this kind of question on here. But I really need some advice, so hopefully it'll be okay!! Well my boyfriend has tried fingering me like twice and it hasn't been successful yet because everytime when he gets his finger to a certain point, it hurts really badly, so I tell him to stop. I HATE PAIN! Now, I've never wore tampons and I've never fingered my own self. So we both talked about this & we figured out that it's probably my hymen and it hasn't been "stretched" or whatnot yet, so it's hurting and in order for him to finger me properly, he has to stretch my hymen and I have to deal with the pain, correct? Just so you know, he understand that it hurts and he hasn't tried FORCING his fingers in me or anything like that. Also, could me being sort of nervous make my muscles tense up and make it hurt worse? Anyway, is this really what the problem is.. my hymen? If so.. what can I or HE do to make this experience better and less painful? Thank you!! (link)
Try this site out and see if there is something useful here to help you out.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_intercourse


okay i have to do a home work asignment on stanza 30 by william shakespear ive been on googel all day and i cant find it does anyone know wherre it is.? (link)
A stanza is just one of the sections of whatever Shakespeare you are currently studying. It isn't the name of any one play.

So, if you are for example studying Romeo and Juliette, you would go to the 30th stanza (paragraph like thing) and there lies the part of the story she wants you to work on.

Hope that doesn't totally confuse you. :)

*edit*
Ah, I see by the next answer the mystery. Sorry.


do girls boobs hips or anthing in that matter grow when they have sex. (link)
No they don't. After you have babies they will sometimes get bigger, but not just from having sex. :)




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